Guilt is the unwanted companion of grief and is something that shows up for so many of us in our grieving journeys. We feel guilty for what we did or didn’t do. what we said or didn’t say. For not being enough. For surviving. For life We feel guilty for feeling guilty…. It’s endless. In this episode we explore guilt and why we find it easier to feel guilt than we do to feel powerless. I want to help you understand that it is common, and a natural part of the grieving process, to explore all the ...
Jan 28, 2022•38 min
Jan 21, 2022•29 min
We are back 💥 The first episode of The Widow Podcast of 2022 is here and i'm so excited🎙️ 💛 In this week’s episode I talk about feeling stuck in grief . I speak to so many people that say they feel stuck and can’t move forward, I felt it myself in my own grief, and its horrible. However, on my journey, I have learnt a lot of the time, we feel this way because of the expectations we place on ourselves. The idea that we should be doing it better, or differently, or that we are not where we are ...
Jan 14, 2022•26 min
This week I am talking to the wonderful Julie New. Julie is an experienced personal recovery coach specialising in helping people after difficult and sometimes traumatic life change. Prior to starting her coaching Julie spent 20 years in the NHS as a senior nurse and midwife, she also worked on various pioneering NHS community projects. Since becoming a professional coach in 2006 she has developed a unique New Chapter recovery program which has helped many people to reach new fulfilling phases i...
Dec 10, 2021•1 hr 4 min
Writing New Chapters with Stacey Macdonald In this week's episode I speak to an incredibly honest and inspiring lady, Stacey Macdonald. Stacey’s husband Chris died suddenly in December 2013 from a heart attack when their daughter was only 12 years old. Stacey shares her journey of loss and how she navigated her way through her grief in her own unique way, a way in which we could all learn a lot from. We discuss; How Stacey and her daughter dealt with that first Christmas The coping strategies St...
Dec 03, 2021•1 hr
In this episode I talk to Emma about the death of her husband Simon in July 2016 and how this impacted herself and their two young girls. We also discuss the learnings Emma has gained from Simon's death, the importance of being as prepared as we can for our own deaths and the deaths of those around us, and how we can find the support that’s right for us . Emma is a former end-of-life solicitor and Simon was in the military. Emma believed they had been very open about his death and prepared well ...
Nov 26, 2021•1 hr 14 min
Nov 19, 2021•1 hr 1 min
In this week’s episode I discuss TRE - Tension and trauma releasing exercises, with Sylvia Tillman, an alternative practitioner. Sylvia specialises in Jikiden Reiki, Laughter yoga, and of course, TRE. TRE is a somatic self help tool to release deep muscular patterns of stress. The exercises assist the body in releasing deep muscular patterns of stress, tension and trauma, created and held in the body during a traumatic experience or through chronic stress. When grieving, we are very focused on o...
Nov 12, 2021•46 min
In this week’s podcast I talk about grief coaching. What it is, and what it isn’t. I get asked lots of questions, things like, am I a therapist, am I a counseller? I am neither of those things. I coach you, help you, and guide you on your grief journey, no matter where in your grieving journey you are. I want to hold your hand, be a voice of reason, and help you ask yourself more positive questions. I create a safe space for you and for your grief with no expectation, no judgment, no criticism, ...
Oct 29, 2021•31 min
In this episode I have a very raw, honest and relatable conversation with friend and fellow widow Lisa. Lisa's husband Simon died in November 2019 leaving her and her children to navigate their way through life without Simon. Lisa is so inspirational and incredibly wise so I wanted her to share her story with you so you can draw from her strength and wisdom. There will be so much in this episode that will resonate on a deep and profound level, I know you will not leave without feeling truly insp...
Oct 22, 2021•1 hr 9 min
In this episode of The Widow Podcast I discuss how we cannot always control what happens to us in life, but we can control how we respond. If we just take a minute to stop, breathe, and think about what we want our next step to be, we can choose a response that is more aligned with who we are and the person we want to be. We can’t change the past, and we have little control over the future, all we have is now. So, take the time to think about what choices you want to make in this season of your ...
Oct 15, 2021•30 min
With the seasons comes change, and it is the same for our grief. Throughout the seasons we feel different emotions and desires, and the season has an impact on our mood and how we feel. As the new month came, Autumn seemed to appear in the blink of an eye, and with the leaves falling, we are forced to face the harsh reality of the death of our loved one. And then Winter comes and we are see this as a time to rest, restore, and reconnect. This is the heaviest season as it feels so long, we just w...
Oct 08, 2021•26 min
In this episode of The Widow Podcast I discuss three important factors to guide you on your grief journey. These factors haven’t been scientifically proven, they’re just from my own experience and from the experience of the people I help in one to one sessions, and in groups. In my experience, the three most important factors are: Rely on your support system, don’t say no to help. It’s important to remember that accepting help isn’t weakness, it doesn’t make you a burden or a bad person. People ...
Oct 01, 2021•21 min
Grief and Nutrition with Sabine Horner In this episode, I invite Sabine Horner to discuss some of the ways that grief and nutrition are linked. We explore the different types of food we can eat and how we can use our breath to help us on our grieving journey. I have spoken with Sabine before, but for those of you who don’t know, Sabine is a registered nutritionist and an Ayurvedic Health Coach. Ayurveda derives from one of the classical languages of India, Sanskrit, with Ayur meaning life, and V...
Sep 24, 2021•1 hr 6 min
In this episode I discuss some of the feelings that may show up in your grief and how these feelings are normal and necessary, and why it's important to learn how to invite these feelings in and explore them. There's a lot of unexpected and uncomfortable feelings that show up in our grief, they can be overwhelming, confusing and scary. As a result of this we can box things up, push them away and ignore them, because we don't know if they're normal or natural and we are not taught how to deal wit...
Sep 17, 2021•33 min
Grief has taught me a lot and to name just six has been difficult, but in this episode I talk about the things I have learnt though my grieving journey. I discuss how we discover things about us we never knew existed, where I have discovered true comfort and Joy, and how there is opportunity for wonderful things even in our darkest days. There may be things I say that you just can't see yet, and that's ok, some of these learnings have taken years to see. If you're not there yet, that's ok, you'r...
Sep 10, 2021•27 min
Anniversaries, birthdays and holidays are often huge triggers for us in our grief leaving us unsure of what we should do to mark the occasion and how we can best support ourselves through them. In this episode I talk about things you can do to honour your loved one, ways you can nurture your own needs and how our grief evolves over time. It is a journey and we will all travel it at different paces and it different ways, there is no right or wrong, it's just finding the way that works best for yo...
Sep 03, 2021•29 min
We are so hard on ourselves in grief, forever putting ourselves down, telling ourselves we can't do it or we're not good enough. You can do it and you are good enough, in fact you are utterly incredible and I want you to start seeing that. I am here to cheer you on but also help you see the importance of being your own cheerleader. You are amazing, never forget that.
Aug 13, 2021•23 min
In this episode I wanted to offer some support and guidance on how to support somebody grieving the loss of a loved one. Grief is scary and it is a world we don't know or understand which can lead us to pull back from those we love when they need us the most. Here I share with you a few ideas that i've learnt through my own journey with grief and from clients navigating their way through loss too. Please share this with family and friends to help them to support you in the best way that they can...
Aug 06, 2021•26 min
This is the first of many episodes which will inform, inspire and entertain you, but first I wanted to say hello and introduce myself telling you a little about my story and what bought me here to this point.
Jul 26, 2021•20 min
Widowhood has taught me so much about grief, loss and life, things I didn't know when I first came into this chaotic world and things I wish I had known. I'm sharing these learnings with you so hopefully you can feel less like you're going mad and more like what you are feeling is normal in the world of grief.
Jul 26, 2021•27 min
In this episode I share with you some of the learnings I have gained along the way about how best to support grieving children. It is incredibly hard to navigate your own way through grief, let alone find ways of supporting your children, so I wanted to offer some of the tips and tools that have helped me to support my own two girls through their grieving journey.
Jul 26, 2021•28 min
