The Gifts I Continuously Give Myself [475]

So the first thing that I'm going to say is courage , and because I would not be where I am in this moment without courage . You know , I think there's this thing like oh , be fearless , do all these things . No , it's hard to get rid of the fear , right , but I can push through the fear and do it anyhow .

I can believe in myself and I can honestly just know that I've never , that I know I can bet on myself . Maybe that's a better way to say it Knowing that I can bet on myself . And courage is huge , because to start a business takes a lot of courage . For some people to quit their nine to five takes a lot of courage .

For some people to invest money takes a lot of courage .

There's a lot of different scenarios that happen when it comes into being courage , but I think being courageous is one of the most important things that I have done , because without that courage , I don't know if I'd be where I am today , and so that gift that I've given myself and I continuously give myself has been huge and been so helpful and so supportive in

everything that I've done . The next thing that I would say that I have gifted myself and this is going to be a two-part the first thing I'm going to say is consistent actions , because it is hard to be consistent without instant gratification .

It is also courageous to be consistent without instant gratification when you literally don't know something's working or not , like I'm going to keep doing this . But what if right ? And so the what ifs are . The what ifs can be negative , right , like I fail or I fall on my face , or it never works , or what if it just takes a little longer than I thought ?

What if the right person is watching me ? What if right ? And so we get to decide . What does that look like ?

The second part of consistent actions that I'm gonna throw in there is uncomfortable actions , because I think uncomfortable actions can also be consistent actions , because some people struggle with being consistent because of not having that instant gratification , and a lot of times what happens is we see that well , if I miss a day , it's not a big deal , if I miss

two days . It's not a big deal and before we know it , we've missed a lot , right ? Because if one day doing it , doesn't matter what is missing one day . And so we rationalize with ourselves , and so it's easy to quit those consistent things that we're doing . The uncomfortable actions , however , have come after the consistent actions .

So you're consistent with something . Maybe it's almost like I don't know , let's say it's subconscious , because you're so consistent , and this is how I've been with visibility , and so I will get very , very visible and it just becomes , I don't wanna say like Groundhog Day , but it does become very redundant , right , it becomes very easy , second nature .

It's like brushing my teeth , it's not hard . So it's like how can I up level this ? Okay , the first thing always for me , it's time to up level my content strategy . It's time to get more vulnerable . It's time to review what I've been doing and see where I can improve . It's time to be a little tougher on myself .

It's time to critique the content I've been putting out , like it's really time to audit myself , right ? And so we're going to put a little pressure on myself and it's gonna get a little uncomfortable and know that I want to show up in a different way and still sing true to myself , but also pushing those edges as much as possible .

So I also I believe that they go hand in hand . I believe you start with consistent actions and I believe once you get consistent , it's time to turn them into uncomfortable actions , because you're so used to doing them . It's time to turn it up a notch .

The next thing that I've gifted myself is belief and confidence , and I will say this I do believe you build a lot of belief and confidence from doing uncomfortable things and from being consistent and from being your word to yourself , and also from doing scary and comfortable things multiple times , and so I believe that you can absolutely just be confident and you

can absolutely have this belief , but I also believe you can really build it and I believe you can really prove it to yourself that I can do this . I can do hard things . I sometimes think back why did I do 100 live videos and month ? Why did I okay , that made sense , more sense than the 200 live videos . But I'm like why did I do this to myself ?

And so it's really even this certification like why did I do this to myself ? I was sent my inner circle a message yesterday and I told them I said , besides Saturdays because I didn't do any calls on Saturdays but besides Saturdays , like yesterday was the first day that I have had on my calendar with no call scheduled the entire day .

Now I had plenty of stuff to do , I had plenty of stuff to fill in that gap and fill in that time . And then my daughter , like , found stuff for me to do , but it was like the first time and it was beautiful . It was beautiful , it felt so good .

Right , like normally I don't do calls on my CEO days , but in order to finish the certification , I knew I had to make some sacrifices , right , if I wanted to finish in the time I wanted to finish . So I had a call scheduled on both CEO days , on Mondays and Fridays . I had call scheduled on Tuesday .

I had call scheduled on Sundays , so Saturday was the only day because I have inner circle days , I have a podcasting , calls and other things and trainings on Thursdays . So it was like every day had something except Saturday . And so some Saturdays I literally just vaged on my couch because I just I needed the break , right , but again I pushed myself .

I know I can do it If I need to do something to get to the finish line . I know it's gonna happen and I believe that builds belief and confidence . The next thing that I've gifted myself is the gift of investments , and I look at this as two ways .

First of all , I believe in the investment of money , meaning that I know I am not a risk , I know I'm not a gamble , I know I'm an investment , and so I invest in myself , and this is a two-parter . Again , this is also a two-parter . So investing in myself with money is great , right .

And I've invested five figures in myself and I've invested one figure like a $7 product , right . And here's something that I actually also taught myself that I do believe the amount of the investment is important . The first time I joined a $1,000 mastermind is $1,000 a month and I was like , oh my God , this is like two car payments .

I don't know if it'll be two car payments today , but back then it felt like two car payments . But anyhow , I was like this is insane , like . And I literally just got like this try to think of the feeling , this nervous , anxious feeling , every time the payment came out .

Money was there , there was a lot of money and a lot of guilt I had to work through investing that money and I had to make a year commitment in a time that I didn't know what my business is gonna look like in a year . How my sister's committed to this for a year this is crazy . It was the best thing I could ever done Like .

The commitment was almost even better for me than the money . But the commitment was huge because it is again courage , belief , confidence , all of those things . The year is not that long . That's what helped me see . But also I could leave after a year and the year came up and I stayed for four years total . I didn't leave .

I paid $1,000 a month for four years . Do the math . That's not a light investment . That's not something you believe in . And that mastermind brought me some of my favorite people in the world , some of my best friends , or some people that I admire like more than I can even describe . And it was not easy to say yes . For six months I freaked out .

They're not the application . I was scared , petrified . I had my best month ever . Finally did it . My first whole month in there was really good . Second month , I had my worst month in a really long time . The easy thing would have been to bow out .

The easy thing would have been to say say yeah , but that was also a gift I gave myself and I pushed through tenacity . And so there is this investment part right of the money . There is the money and I gift those investments to myself .

However , the second part of that investment is the time I can pay all the money in the world and I can be in close proximity with anybody I want . But if I'm not willing to do the work on myself , on my business , on whatever it is that I want to be better at , it doesn't matter . No , it doesn't matter . I can listen to all the trainings in the world .

It might motivate me , but until I'm willing to do it , I'm not gonna see the changes that I desire . So investments is huge . Again , it's kind of like those consistent actions . It's a two-part .

It's like paying the money and doing the work and understanding that there is this threshold , that if you do not pay over this amount , you may not see the value of the investment . Meaning , if I have all a seven dollar offer right now from someone , I'm probably never gonna do it Because my threshold right , my minimum is much higher than that .

I was part of a mastermind for four years $1,000 a month . I was a part of another mastermind for three months , paying $3,333 a month . I was part of an eight week mastermind . That was seven grand a month , again , like my threshold is just different , right ?

And so in order for me to value it enough to do it , I gotta make sure it's right for me , it's pushing me , it's stretching me , in order for me to say yes to something , or that I value that mentor so much that I know everything she puts out is gold , even if it's $7 , which I've also done .

So I think it is very , very beautiful to be able to understand that about yourself and know that about yourself . And the last thing I've gifted myself a lot of things . This is what I think of right now when I'm recording this podcast episode .

There might be a part two , but maybe that'll be Mondays , but the last thing that I'm gonna say on this episode is the gift that I've given myself is to not quit , to keep going .

There's a video circulating out around there about the day I almost killed my business , and it was talking about September 2020 , three years ago and I almost walked away because I didn't see that there was anything possible . And when I did the day I killed my business . I don't know when I recorded that video , it was at least a year .

It might have been two years afterwards , but anyhow , I did all the math a year from that day . Right , if I would quit that day , I would have walked away from I think it was about $250,000 to $270,000 in revenue .

I would have said , see ya , if I would not have pushed through we hear so many stories about she was just there or they were just reaching the gold . He sold it and he was like , so millimeters from the gold . Right Of people giving up all the time you never know how close you are . I surely didn't think I was that close , never in a million years .

But when you have the choice to give up and you have the choice to keep going , you decide to go all in because you have nothing to lose . At that point the game changes . And so I have played this game with myself and every time I decide I am going to quit or give up , it happens a lot . If you are a CEO , entrepreneur , you fill me .

There is a lot of days we want to quit . It would be easier to quit , don't get me wrong . Sometimes this would be way easier . But whenever I play this game with myself , but whenever I do feel like I am going to quit Okay , quit or go all in your choice what are you doing ? You don't straddle the line .

You don't have one foot on one boat and one on the other you do the decision either quit or go all it . What are you choosing ? It's never served me wrong . So what gifts are you continuously giving yourself ? What gifts are you never going to stop ? It's a beautiful thing to know you can gift yourself . Most of them are free , almost .

I think one thing was investments and talking about money , but everything else was free . It's all me . It's the work we do on ourselves . It's the decisions and the choices we decide to make . I'm wearing that in my business at the end of 2023 because of the daily choices I've made every single day since 2016 .

I could also be further ahead and because some of those choices were probably not the right choices , I could have gotten on video sooner . I could have got more consistent sooner . I could have created an inner circle sooner .

There's so many things Could have will to shut it right , but the point is I'm where I'm at because of the choices and the decisions I've made . You are where you're at because of the choices and decisions you're made . I am where I'm at because of the gifts I continuously give myself . You are where you're at because the gifts you continuously give yourself .

But what can you add to that ? Maybe that's Monday's episode the gifts I'm going to give myself in 2024 . Stay tuned . If you enjoyed this episode , make sure you share it and reach out to me and let me know your favorite part , and I would love to hear your takeaways .