Today I did UPW, one day one of UPW. And I had a lot of takeaways, I would love to share with you some of the things that just really hit home that I think could possibly help you. So listen to it and see if there's any that you want to take away and how you feel. Number one is that I feel like sometimes when we are in a problem situation, or we're struggling, or something like that, we feel like it's forever. And the great thing is, is that
no problem is permanent. Only your soul is and it was just like, so many times we fear so many things, right? Like we fear that, you know, I'm gonna fail, okay, you might fail, right? Let's be honest, you probably will fail multiple times, but you're not going to fail forever. Right? At some point, you're going to stop failing. So I think when we say it that way, when we think about it in that context, that failure isn't
permanent, right? Just like a problem isn't permanent, we're going to learn from it, we're going to grow, we're going to try again, and we're going to do it differently, I think is huge. It's so huge. And we get to focus on the positive versus the problem or the negative. The other thing that really hit home with me is that expectations
make us suffer. Meaning when we put expectations on other things, or people, right, we're literally looking to that person, or even expectations of ourselves, to bring us happiness, meaning I'm not going to be happy until I get this or I reach this goal, or I'm not going to be happy until he stops doing that. Or until my kid starts doing this. I mean, there's so many expectations that we put on ourselves, and we
get to stop suffering. Because a lot of times expectations on ourselves or others are very ego driven, right? They're very ego driven, because they're more about us than they are the other person. And I think we get to acknowledge that and own that, right and own that and understand that. Stop having expectations. Our happiness doesn't need to be tied to how and what other people do, because then we're just going to
be disappointed, right. And, you know, another thing that Tony said was life is just too short to suffer. Right? You can absolutely, and all, especially in business, we can count on, everything is going to change. But also that change is an opportunity and chance for brand new beginnings. And I just loved that I thought that was so so
good. I think the other thing is, is that what you get will never make you happy, meaning physical circumstances, circumstantial things right are never going to make you happy. But let's say we who we become in the process, that growth can make us tremendously happy. Right? That growth is such a fulfillment, right. And the other thing that I love that he said was success, without fulfillment is the ultimate failure. Like how many people have all this achievement in their life, but they're not
fulfilled. And we see this all the time they people committing suicide, people, celebrities, people we think that are very funny are very, like successful. But they do something to end their life. And is because the fulfillment is not there. Right? The fulfillment is not there, they have achieved all these things, right of being an actress or comedian or whatever. But this is filament. They're just not fulfilled with their life. And it's like so success without fulfillment is the
ultimate failure. How can we be more fulfilled with our life right now in the moment, because if we're struggling to be fulfilled right now, in this moment, and we haven't reached our goals, what's going to happen when we do reach the goal, we're just looking for what's next, we're still not going to be fulfilled. So can we
be happy and grateful? And so focused on the fulfillment that we have right now in this moment, versus waiting until we hit a revenue goal or until we get a new house or a new car or something like that, like, can we be happy and fulfilled in this moment, no matter what your circumstances right now, in this
moment. I think the other thing is that we're always waiting for some day for something but instead of this moment, which is what really matters, right, being in the presence, bring in the being in the present and completely living full out in the present moment that we have, and a lot about a lot of us just don't do that. And I've been there and I felt that we also think about, if I do this, I'll be enough. Like, it'll be enough. If I do this, it'll be enough. And then it's, again, if
I do this, it'll be enough. And he said, something very profound. And it's like, all suffering is about the self, right? When it's me, me, me, we're gonna suffer. Because life is about we not me. And again, I think we get to focus on that more, and talk about that more, because it does not serve us to be in ego, it does not serve us to suffer, right, it doesn't serve us to do those things. And the other thing is, is that we all have beliefs and reactions, about how we grew up, right. And
we all have these beliefs. And we all get to understand that we come from certain places, because of those beliefs, and reactions that we had growing up. Some of us model the way that we grew up, and some of us reject the way that we were raised, and we grew up and we get to choose that every single day in everything that we do. But also, can we be perfect, like Amanda Francis says, Can we be the silent observer of our
thoughts and our feelings? And can we, like, analyze them and say, okay, like, should should I feel this way? Do I still feel this way? Am I feeling this way? Because I was raised this way, or because I'm rejecting the way I was raised? And how can I do this differently? How can I think differently about this? I think one of my Honestly, I feel like one of my really big superpowers, and not necessarily in business, but in life is that I've been able to see a lot of
different sides, right? I'll never forget only interviewed Dan Henry, for our other podcasts or a joint podcast with my business bestie. He said, the one thing that I do is if you want to do like really, really, really think logically, and you really want to think deep, think about the things that you're against, and people are for, and put yourself in their shoes an argue for like, try to argue for what they do. It will change your mindset, it will change, like your empathy, it will
change all of those things. And I just thought that was really, really interesting. And it's stuck with me, I think we interviewed him two or three years ago. And it stuck with me since that time, because I do I'm very empathetic and very understanding of what other people are going through. But sometimes, sometimes I don't think I'm empathetic, and trying to understand what I'm going
through. And so we get to give ourselves grace, and everything that we do, and reminder that we're human too, and that our thoughts and feelings and the way we feel about things and the way we react about things are coming from somewhere and how can we dissect those and figure it out, work on our emotional intelligence and actually grow through the process. So these are some of my takeaways. There is so much I have I can't even tell you like 40 Some pages of
notes. It's been a 12 hour day but I just kind of wanted to share my biggest takeaways and I hope that some of these help you and support you in your daily life and your business and more