Let's talk a little bit about standing in your power. And when I say that I really mean your personal power. What I see so many people doing, and I am totally guilty of this. So I'm gonna really call myself out as well, is that we need the validation to keep moving forward, we need the validation to believe that I'm good enough to do this, we believe that we need the sales to back up are Am I doing the right thing.
And I believe this is kind of like a is the chicken come before the egg kind of situation right? In marketing, in business, we say if it's not working, it's obviously not a valid offer. That is not always the case. A lot of times is we don't even believe it. And we're waiting on somebody else to validate it for
us. So when our belief meaning we're standing in our personal power, not standing in circumstantial power, when our belief is not there, and we're waiting on the proof, we're waiting on all of the external things, right? To tell us, you're good enough. You've got this, this is a, this is a good offer, right? We're waiting on those types of things, and we don't believe it deep down in ourself. It's going to be the chicken before the egg tidy, because we're not going to see the
results that we want. Because we're not standing in our personal power. When we're standing in our personal power, we are confident, we have a confident vibe, the energy that we show off we come out with is very confident, right? And I get not everybody walks out the door and is confident but confident not necessarily in in the thing, but confidence in that you, personally, you who is creating the thing, doing the thing, whatever it is, you know that your English is amazing.
You know that your English doesn't stink, you know what you bring to the table when it's that tick tock and I say this all the time, and I always screw it up. But it's like, what do you bring the table, I don't bring you the table and the table, right? Like it's having that type of vibe and that type of confidence. And that takes a lot of emotional intelligence, a lot of inner work for us to be able to do that. Because we want the validation of oh my god, people were commenting on my
content. Oh, my God, people are doing this. And I learned a long time ago. It's still super cool. When people comment on my content, don't get me wrong. But I learned a long time ago, the people I attract don't comment, because they're introverts. And when you comment on something, it brings attention to you. The last thing an introvert wants to do is bring all this attention to her face to people looking at her paying attention to her right. And so I don't expect it,
I do not care anymore. Again, it's super nice when it happens. But it's not like the thing that drives me to keep showing up. I'm gonna keep showing up and putting out content. Because number one, I know it's gonna get better every time we do it. Like literally every single day. I'm consistent enough that I know, I continuously improve, I continuously knock it out of the park, I continuously get better. And I can always improve on that. That piece of content builds my business one piece of
content at a time, right. But again, whether I get the results and the gratification, instant gratification that I want from that I'm going to continue showing up. So with that belief, I had to tell myself, hey, you've never had an issue being consistent with content in the beginning. Yes. But once I got that, like consistency going, I don't stop. And I understand. Not everybody is going to comment not everybody's gonna give you the instant gratification. Then I had to do the same thing with
cells, right? Not everybody has been in your wall for a really long time. Christine, not everybody's ready to buy. Some people take more to warm up. Some people don't understand they need that some people aren't problem aware. Some people think they're good. How many people have you heard saying, I don't need personal development? I'm good with that. I don't need mindset work. I'm good with that. No, no, if anybody says that they didn't want anybody else. We need it
more every single day. I will never be in a place where I don't need to be working on myself. Right? And how can I expect to help other people grow if I'm not growing? That's a whole nother situation and subject we're talking about another day. But when I make things mean something, then I also make things that don't happen mean something. For example, I don't get a cell nobody's buying then I make it mean I suck. But then when somebody does buy it means I'm amazing.
No, we can't look at it like that. We get to look at it as, I'm freaking amazing no matter what. I am visible AF. Like I show up. I know how to attract my audience. I know exactly what they're going through right now. I know exactly what I'm going through right now. And I know how I could take them through this journey. I was looking back
at my memories. And I was like, three years ago, I was talking about creating offers, I was like, oh my god, I'm doing this like for a while, like, I am a queen at creating offers, like, I don't give myself enough credit. And we're all guilty of this, right? And so we have to stand in our power, our personal power, knowing what we bring to the frickin table. Not Oh, well, if you come into my content, that means I know
what I'm talking about. Oh, if you like my content, that means I know what I'm talking about, oh, if I get a certain number of views, or this goes viral, it means I know what I'm talking about. No fat virality is sometimes it has to do with a lot of luck. I've never been viral. Many viral yes. No viral. Viral is 10 million plus case you're wondering. Mini viral is just five times it's five times what your average user normally are. But again, I'm not sitting around trying to create viral
content. I'm not, I could care less. Because if 100 people see that piece of content, but all my friends got 550 100,000 views. Do I make that mean something? No. Because if 100 people were in a room with me right now? What that'd be pretty freakin magical. Heck, yes. That would be magical. If I only got five views? Yeah. If I got no views, let's be honest, if you get no views, it probably is an algorithm glitch.
Because somebody has seen that piece of content, even if they don't watch it all the way through. But here's what I'm saying. It does not matter. We cannot let this literally be this like guide and this string that pulls us along and says, Okay, keep going. You're good. You're no good. You're amazing. You're amazing. You're good. You're good. Yes, I am a words of affirmation, girl, so I totally get it. However, we get to own our bigness. We get to own what word expert and we get to own
all of these things. And stop allowing things that don't matter. Yes, we have to build a business or we get to build a business we we got to make money, I totally get all those things. But when you can see it in your personal power and when you can own who you are. And when you can show up as the expert you are when you can show up with the confidence, the passion and everything that you have inside of you, my friend, that is the magic right there.
And you will attract people, because people cannot be repelled by that. They want more of it. Your people will want more of it. They want to be around that. So there is no chicken before the egg, show up with your personal power show up like you know what you're doing show up like you know you are the best at XYZ. Because you do it this way. Whether you have
validation right now or not. The question is, can you stop waiting on validation and show up in your bigness with your magic and everything that you know you can do important to your audience because there is a transformation coming in my friend and first it's going to be with you and then it is going to be with them.