I remember having this fear of use of showing up because I was so worried about what other people would say about me specifically, my friends who had no idea what I did, who weren't my ideal people. I had this fear of, what would they say about me? What would they think about me? Who do I think I am showing up on video like this, I just had all these stories that went in my head. And I want to say that, for the most part, I'm pretty sure my friends never said anything about me. However,
that's the story. I was telling myself. Right. And it was holding me back. Now, I do believe there probably are people who have talked about me. But at the end of the day, I have to make this decision. Am I going to allow myself to be held back? Am I going to allow myself
to be stopped? Right, from serving and supporting those people that need me, because of one person who is not my ideal person's comment, right, or what they could be saying about me that actually don't have any proof of we cripple ourselves so much, because we allow ourselves we allow ourselves to continuously tell the stories, right? The stories are allowed to go on in our brain over and over and over. It's kind of like the mindset that when somebody pays you a compliment, it's very
hard to accept it. Right? It's very hard, like, somebody says, Oh, my gosh, I love that top question like, oh, my gosh, this thing, I got this design professional warehouse, it was only like, $10. Like, we want to downplay it, right. Where as you know, first of all, you should say thank you and own it. But if somebody says something negative about you, we're so quick to believe that. And sometimes they don't even say it, we just think it in our head, and then we allow it to play in our head,
right? When it comes to showing up for your business, whether that's on video, or just in a piece of content, I want you to stop holding back, because of the fear of what other people are going to say, because I want you to ask yourself this, and I used to tell my son this all the time to when he would go party in college, I'm like, when you flunk out, are these people going to pay your bills. Because if they are, by all means knock
yourself out. But if your audience, the people that are potentially going to make fun of you, the people that you don't even know that are again, potentially going to say something about you ask yourself this, are they your ideal person? And if they are not? Are they going to pay your bills? The answer is always no. Right?
But we put so much stock into those things that people might say, or those people who might think we are a certain way, or we're afraid to talk about money because I don't want to make anybody feel bad. Or I don't want to charge this much. Because who am I to do that? Right? Again, these all these stories of showing up payments, how we show up for our business, how we market our business, all these things are the stories we tell ourselves. That there has to come a point where we're
like, this isn't about me. It's not about my friends. It's about who I'm serving and supporting. It's about lives that I could potentially change. Making somebody's day better. is worth it to me. I used to ask when I would try to help people get on video. And the question I always ask is, if you knew you could change somebody's moment, their day, their week, or their life? Would you show up and get a video? Nobody's told me no. Don't rewind my track record,
okay. Nobody's ever told me no. So the question is, why are we allowing your message, your support, the transformation, whatever that looks like that you can help people with because of a fear of other people. A fear of what other people may say about you a fear of people who probably aren't your ideal person anyhow. I'll never forget I hear this a lot, actually. And people say I can't get outside of my friends and family only my friends and family by that's not a business. Those are pity
sells. We don't want all pity sells right. And in order to get outside of our family and outside of our friends, we've got to show up and we've got to be bold and here's the thing, I'm pretty sure if I get on my friend's nerves, they just like unfollow me, which means they don't see my content unless they actually go to my page and want to and that's okay too. I do talk about business a lot. I do talk about building your business a lot. I do talk about marketing and I do talk about
visibility a lot. If you're not, if you're not a business owner, that's not interesting to you, right? It doesn't align. And that's okay. They have permission to do that. And so does anybody that gets on that I get on their nerves, right? When we show up, consistently, we do something called Attracting and repelling. And that people repel, that's great, because we're making them feel
something. And when people we attract, that's great, because we're making them feel something, because I'd rather be, I'd rather make people like help them be attracted and repelling than just be so so and not memorable. Years job is to continuously show up, because it's not your customer's job to remember who you are, it's your job to show up so much that they don't have a chance to forget
you. It's your job to show up so much that you have an opportunity to position yourself as the expert as the authority in what you do, as the go to expert in what you do. But are we going to let the things that probably aren't even being said that we're making up in our head, or if they even if they are being said, Are you going to allow that to stop you from building this dream life from building this time freedom that you probably have when you went into owning your own business.
Businesses fail, like I don't know the percentage right off, but it's a huge percentage between two and five years. But I guarantee you, if you're not showing up, it's gonna be faster than that. You don't have to show up. You don't have to get on video, you don't have to put yourself out there. You actually get to, you get to, you have
that privilege. You get to show up through your fears, you get to get on video, through your fears, you get to put yourself out there and be vulnerable, so that you can attract more ideal people to see what you're doing and potentially be customers or clients in the future. But if we don't go in with that attitude, if we don't go in with that idea that I'm not for everyone. But the people who I am for are
going to be attracted to me. And the people we're going to say stuff are going to say stuff and there's nothing I can do to control that. If we go in and we walk around in fear all the time, we wouldn't get very far. I lived in fear on my first business, I refused to do so many things because of fear. And I loved my comfort zone. And I love that comfy safe space where no one could judge me or at least I thought, or no one could say I did something wrong least I thought and it got me nowhere.
It got me a business that no longer that no longer exists today. Everything happens for a reason I'm in this business. I love this business. But I had to show up for this business. It wasn't gonna build itself. And I am willing to do the uncomfortable things to build the life and the business that I design. I am willing to do the uncomfortable things to show up for people like you who are struggling and afraid and have these fears and are letting
these things stop you. I show up and get uncomfortable every single day as an introvert or somebody who gets hives all the time. As someone who says I'm too much of someone who sometimes forgets what she say. I choose to show up for you. Because I want you to have the business of your dreams too. I want you to have the life of your dreams as well. It's not just for me, it's for you too.
And I want you to have that. And I want you to do whatever it takes, including getting uncomfortable, most likely to get where you need to go. I hope this helped you. I hope this served you I hope this gave you some some insight on how we all go through this and we all have these fears, but getting over them getting uncomfortable. That's what that's where the growth is. That's where we grow the big business. And that's where the magical things happen.