Is it worth it to join a mastermind or inner circle container? I will say from my experience when I first joined my first mastermind, I realized really quickly, I needed to show up for the calls. At the time it was the most it was the $1,000 month it was the most I'd ever invested in my business. And my first month, I think I had to pay 2500 down or something like that. And I just remember freaking out and thinking, Oh, my god, how am I going to do this? Like, how am I going to
continue to do this? Like, how am I going to pay my bills next month, like all these things went through my head. And I remember that I'm like, Okay, I am paying for this. So I need to go all in like, this is serious, I need to do this thing. Because I believe in mentorship in learning programs, in in teaching, everything that we do, going all in looks different to each of us. But here's what it looked like to me. And here's how I took the most away from
that container. And every container I've been in since then, no matter what the amount of money is that I've paid it, which only increased after that. Okay, so going all into me mint blocking my calendar for the entire four years, I was a member of that first mastermind and rarely missing a call, like rarely, I can probably tell you, out of four years, a weekly call every single week, there were a long, full day events that we
did. And I will honestly say that I might have missed maybe eight calls over the four years maybe. And that's the truth. going all in also meant that when there were in person events, I was doing everything I could to get there. Number one, it is a business expense, right? It is a business expense to get travel arrangements, a hotel, which you don't normally have to stay by yourself, or you can normally find someone else who will room with you, which has gave me the opportunity to meet
new people. So there were a lot of things. So if I could at all possible make it happen, I was going to be there at that in person event because those relationships are deeper, those relationships are just different. And it's just so nice to meet people in person. When we most of us have online relationships, we've never met people in person. And going all in also meant not only learning right from the mentor, but implementing, obviously not everything at once. But what was
aligned in that moment. And tabling things that I wanted to implement in the future. I believe one of the keys to my success is that I am an implementer I execute, I do not fart around, I do the thing. And to me, that's really important. I think the other thing is that going all in meant that it was allowing my mentor to challenge me to call me out giving her permission to do that. And I think again, most people are afraid to do those types of things. Or they say it but they
don't really mean it. Like if you see me do something call me out. Like if you don't agree like with how I'm showing up or you think I can do more, call me out, like call me up. Let's let's talk about this and a little deeper scenario, right? going all in to me meant even that when I was triggered in a certain situation, I worked through it and realized it was not my mentor, or members and the container. It was me. Here's the thing. You will get
triggered in containers. You also get activated and containers. But triggering can make you want to leave. And I'm raising my hand right here. My mentor selected I think five people out of a group of about 50 for a millionaire program and I was selected. I was pissed off. I was mad, I was angry. Now looking back, I laugh because I'm like, so not ready. I was so not ready for that. But at the time, I was pissed. I was mad. I felt betrayed. And I wanted to
leave the program. It made me so mad that again, part of my growth is acknowledging that not right away. But sitting in silence and sitting with myself and continuing to show up even when I was mad and anger and envious of the people who got to say yes. Or they said yes to like I'm telling you but the thing is is that didn't stop my success. And had I had that extra support and done for you.
Opportunities. I don't know if I would be where I'm at right now because everything I've done I've I've done right or I've hired out and so it was a blessing in disguise that I didn't get selected. Now looking back at The time No, I didn't think that. But now looking back, and and I said this in a previous episode, but I may, about 18 months later, I was face to face with my mentor. And I told her exactly how I felt like I said, I was mad at you, I was so mad at you. And she was
like, No. And I was like, No, I'm not mad at you now. You do me a favor, like, I wasn't ready. I was crazy to think I was ready. There was no way I was ready for that. And I just had to acknowledge that myself. And that was a lot of growth sitting with myself. And understanding that I didn't get picked. It's like, you know, I think it's also that, that ego, right? Being the last one to be picked on the playground, or being the last one to be picked
in gym. Like it's that ego, like, oh my god, everybody is looking at me, everybody's staring at me. Everybody knows that I'm not as good as I think I am. Right? So we build those stories in our head. And we allow those to control us. But the question is, how long have you allow things like that to control your How long do you allow to be triggered? Are you going to realize that you. So along with mentorship, getting triggered and also getting
activated? Right? I was able to grow and, and it's helped me in containers, it's helped me to be a better leader, it's helped me to be a better friend, it's helped me to be a better competitor. Even though I don't look at it like that, but it's
helped me right. First of all, I'm also going to say, it doesn't mean I never get triggered, it doesn't mean I never get activated, it doesn't mean I'm over that we're all human, we all have different aspects of our of our lives in our business and things that are going to activate or trigger us and it still happens. And it probably will never not stop happening. It's how I handle it. It's how I grow from it. It's how I choose to change that
perspective in my mind. And there's a lot of that can it can happen and can in group containers. Especially when you see people, like I'll never forget this round of people joined. I feel like everything online got so much easier after 2020. And I saw these people coming. I was like, how are they doing that this is way faster than I ever did. Like, how how are they doing this so much faster. Like and it triggered me even though I was still there.
It was like man, I was like blood, sweat and tears to get here like it felt like yours have never have been successful. And they just like walk in. And I feel like it's handed them on a silver platter. And I remember thinking this and I was like, You know what? I don't know, their whole backstory. And I don't really know when they started, I just see them show up and all of a sudden have
success. But at the end of the day, what I take away the heartache that I had what I take away the hard times that I had what I take away the growth that I had, and those moments Absolutely not. What to take away the times that I figured out what worked and what didn't. And sometimes what didn't what didn't what didn't what didn't what didn't before I found what worked, yes, I would not take those away. That is gross. I have been in business since
2016. In this business, I started my first business in 2012. I failed a lot. And I cherish that failure. Because it brought me to where I am. It is helped me to be able to hold myself in a different manner. And you know, maybe people who had it, I'm doing air quotes, because I don't know that they had it easier. But that's what I told myself, right. But maybe they have no idea how to go through the hard times yet. And they're going to struggle when that happens. I don't wish that
on them. But we all go through something. None of it is boom, instant overnight success, right? There's all those things that we don't see behind the scenes. And we get to remember that when we think somebody did it way faster than we did just because it showed up on our radar. And all of a sudden had success doesn't mean that they just showed up. Like I just created a social media account. Now I'm successful. That's not
what that means. But in our eyes, sometimes we think that going all in in mentorship containers also meant that I was getting to create close relationships with those that I felt a connection with. And, again, whether I'm in those containers or not, we're still close friends. And I think that was a big fear of mine. Like it when I leave. I mean it
continued for four years. And when I leave, I'm losing these friendships and it's funny because I've not lost those friendships actually, I think those friendships have gotten deeper. And I love that going all in meant supporting others and not just being there for myself. So I'll never forget when I didn't even know this was a thing. When I there was a in 2020 there was a virtual car My friends from my mentor and the
mastermind. And number one, I'm also going to just say I wasn't selected to be a speaker, which I was also triggered about, but it's okay. Because, again, I've moved on. But I just want to go back and say that there was another moment that I was triggered that it wasn't selected, but, but they did an award, and it was the member of the Year award. And I had won the award twice that year. So it was a member of the month award. And so all of the people inside
the program voted, right. So it's peer voted, and I had won it twice. And so they did an overall. And I will never forget that I was recording it because I knew it was going to be one of my friends. And I wanted them to have that moment. And I wanted to shout them out and share it. And when they announced the winner, it was my name. And I literally like, like, held my breath. And I was like What? What, like, that's not what I was thinking. I was thinking it was my friends. And here I was
going to shout them out. And that didn't come because I was in it for just me. That came because I was in it to serve and support other people. The first year I was in the mastermind, it took me like nine months to even talk, because I felt like everybody was above me. I want to talk about that, too. I felt like everyone was above me. And I wasn't even worthy to be there like I was this peon compared to
everybody else. And as soon as I it took me nine months to get my voice, and as soon as I had my voice, I was like, You know what? I don't I don't know if I know more than these people, but I'm gonna give them all the support I can I'm going to serve and support them all that I can every chance I get. Even if it's not the right answer, even if it's not the best answer, I'm just gonna give an answer. And I did. And I'll never forget my first video challenge happened in it's either the end of 2018
or early 2020. And all these people joined that were in the program I was in and I was like, what, through joining my video channels, they want to get on video, like what, and I'll never forget them saying, this is like the best community like you've created the best community here. It was a free three day video challenge. All these people joined. And it felt so good, it felt so good, just to be able to help people in the place that I used to be get on video. And so again, you get so much out of
supporting other people. And also, how are you supposed to be a mentor yourself one day, if you don't serve the people and support the people inside that don't pay you, right. And that's where I really learned a lot of my skills and how to mentor and watching other people be mentored by other people in the container and watching the mentor mentor the people in the container and watching how people interacted and watching how people talk to each other. And like, you can go to school
for that all day long. But it doesn't teach you how to do it. Like you get to see it in action, and then actually do the action, right. And the next thing I want to say is going all in also meant even in the hard times when I could barely make the payment. I made it because I was my word and my commitment to myself. That meant maybe I didn't pay myself as much that month maybe it it may meant I didn't pay myself at all. Maybe it meant that I made hard decisions. And to me being my
word is vital. I'll never forget that I was going to leave the program before I did it for that four years. And the mentor said well, if you think I'm done growing, you're wrong. And I'm only going to keep growing and I'll and keep teaching you. I was like okay, that was fire, okay. And she said, Do you want me to push you? And I was like, Yes, I want you to push me push me harder. And so I decided not to leave. And it was just a very interesting turn of that
communication. Number one, because I felt like not that it was hard but that I wasn't getting anything out of it any longer. And so I asked for the special push plan and I got it right. But I didn't really ask I got offered but I was just being honest that I felt like there was so much more I could learn. And so I think when it's hard when it feels like you're ready to give up or leave when it's hard because the payment just seems like it's astronomical compared to what's coming in.
Those are the times I'll So I grew because I was my commitment to myself. And you know, I do believe my mentor did a program called karma not long ago. And I do believe that I stayed in a program for four years. I have people that have been in for over two years on my programs. Why is that? It's because as a leader, we go first. As the leader, we do the thing first. The containers, I join in the containers, I say yes to our
100% worth it. It's never always sunshine and rainbows, but the growth, the mentorship, the emotional intelligence, the leadership skills that I got through the process is worth its weight in gold. I couldn't go to college and get a degree and have that experience. It's just not the same. I was in it, learning and implementing and executing all at the same time and dealing with all the issues that gets thrown at you. You really just get to experience it
to actually experience it. And so I believe these types of containers are 100% worth it. Because what I paid, didn't touch the growth that I had personally and financially.