Today we're going to talk about doing it scared. And the thing that I've learned is that if something is uncomfortable, we get to find a way to do it. Many of you have heard this story, but back in June, I think it was June 17. Of 2021. Yeah, 2021 I was listening to a podcast, and nothing that had been said on the podcast was new, I'd heard absolutely everything that everything that was said, not in this way, not by this person, not in this context, not in this
combination. Not while I was walking, not multitasking and ready to receive it. And he challenged everybody on the that listen to the podcast to go on this uncomfortable journey for 365 days. And I did. And then I did another 100 days after that, because I didn't track the 365 days. And I wanted to be able to say this is what I did, and 100 days. So when we do think scared, we're obviously very uncomfortable. When we do think scared, we could get hives.
Especially when I first got on video, when I get on stages, I get hives. I just told myself I'm excited and not scared. Like I'm going to pee or poop my pants, right? So we get to do things. Well, before we're ready. I'll never forget my mom telling me when I was younger, like before I had kids, that you're really never ready to have kids. Like you're never ready. You're never financially ready to have children. You're never time ready to have you just don't know, right? It's
it's so unknown. So even those that have had either bad experiences or have had children or a pet go through something horrible. Like you the unknown is the scariest part of it, right? It's the most uncomfortable because we don't know. And in scary situations, we don't we've that we've never been through, we have no proof of concept. We have no proof that we're going to survive this
right. But what I'm asking you when I say do it scared is not necessarily go through pregnancy, go through something super traumatic like that. It's just getting over yourself, and pushing through your fear and doing it anyhow. Doing it with the fear. I've had so many situations in my life that I wasn't ready. And I moved. There's so many situations in my life that wasn't ready to pay the amount the mentor was wanting me to pay. But I moved.
I did it very scared. I did it very cautiously, but I moved. Right. And you know, I say a lot of times making big moves before you're ready. But really the big moves the scary moves to doing it scared the things that we should we get to do. We won't always be ready for that. And that's a good thing. Because that means that massive growth.
When I listened to that podcast, I'll never forget when it's Rob dial, and he said you know if you go to the gym every single day and you lift a 10 pound weight if you've not lifted 10 pounds right at first it's going to do something and then it's just going to be like Yeah, nothing my muscles not growing. Like it's I'm not in pain anymore. Like it's just easy, right? I just go the gym, I go through the motions, and I pick up the weight and I do the arm movement or whatever it is. That
is how we go through life. A lot of times most entrepreneurs no because to even say you're an entrepreneur to try to sell something to create something to quit a nine to five all of those are big freakin scary moves. Don't get me wrong, those are scary moves. And if you've done any of that, congratulations.
But sometimes we think that the big scary moves have to be something that is noteworthy that is author like book worthy that it's go on a Facebook Live worthy, and really, it's the unsexy things every single day day in day out that we may never talk about or don't even seem cool enough to talk about. That are the big scary moves that we should be making. For example, asking someone for the sales, reaching out to be on somebody's podcasts that you don't know.
doing the hard work, you know, sitting with yourself sitting in silence. Being alone with your thoughts. I know that scares a lot of people All right. A lot of people keep busy and they keep doing all this busy work because the busy work distracts them from what they don't want to think about. Being consistent, is scary. Now, if you have proof that being consistent works, no, not scary.
But if you don't have proof, and doing this new thing, consistently for 90 180, whatever how many ever days that's going to produce results from if you don't have proof of that, not getting instant gratification, doesn't prove to you that it's working. So it's scary to keep moving. And that's why so many people stop because of the fear. Well, I'm not seeing traction, I'm not seeing the movement, I'm not getting the instant gratification. So I'm just going to pause and I'm
going to stop here. Doing it scared could literally be adding boundaries. Like turning off your notifications on your phone. It could be as simple as literally go like unplugging for two hours. I'll never forget when my kids were in school. Granted, I felt like social media and electronics were not so much. I mean, they were but not like they are now. And we
had an unplugged night. And the first time we did it, they were like no, nobody wants to unplug, okay, whoever was a teenager at the time, probably never liked it. But the younger kids loved it. They loved having unplugged nights because everyone they knew that they were getting our attention. They knew we were playing board games, they knew we were doing something right. Put yourself in that childlike state and think about that for your brain. Like being
unplugged. I've always said I can't meditate, I can't sit still. But that's just one of those. It's a fear thing. It's a fear of not sitting with my own boss or a fear of lack, right? Because at least if I'm working, I have proof that I'm doing something. And so this morning, for the first time in my life, on my own. Other people have like, let's do this, I've done it, but on my own, and my own will meditated. And I literally went to YouTube. And I was like, meditations for beginners,
right? And I'm like, I'm going for the shortest one. Listen, I'm five minutes sitting still is hard, right? It's uncomfortable. It's scary. What can I get done in that five minutes? Like, literally, that's what we think. Right? And so it's a fear, right to sit still, it's a fear to not be doing something else that you know, can make movement. So I did it. And it felt good. And tomorrow, I'll either try five minutes again, or I'll go to six. Right.
And we get to keep incrementally, just like the weight, we don't just lift a 10 pound weight, we go up in weight, we get to do the same thing in our business. So I don't know what the fear thing is that is holding you back. I don't know what you need to just do it scared. But I can tell you this. We're all different. We all have different comfort levels. We all have different comfort zones. But subcon subconsciously, you know what it is? subconsciously I knew I needed to get on video in 2016.
I just wasn't listening. And I was refusing right I, I was scared and had so many fears. And the same thing when it came to getting consistent on social media, I was scared. The same thing when it came to being consistent on my email list. I was scared of unsubscribes. If I don't email them, they'll forget they're on my list. So therefore they're not going to unsubscribe. But if I email them, then they're going to be like, Oh, this is annoying. Oh,
I don't like this chick. Oh, and that used to bother me, right? And so I started with not looking at the unsubscribes. Now I look at them, because my goal was to absolutely trigger or activate the hell out of my audience. And so if they're making if they're unsubscribing, they're doing something in my mind, they're making a move, right? And so I want you to think, do you have a cause consistency problem, which was a big thing that I hear? Is there something you're afraid to be
consistent with? Because you're afraid of failure? Or maybe you're afraid of success? Both can happen. I've seen both happen in my containers or are you afraid to put yourself out there? Are you afraid to show up? Is that something that's holding you back? Are you afraid of being too salesy? I hear that one a lot too. Are you afraid to trust yourself enough to put out amazing content If that's just you, are you afraid you're not exciting enough to put out content?
That's just you? Are you worried about what people think? Are you worried about people unsubscribing unfollowing? Do you need circumstantial power circumstantial outside events to give you that validation in order to keep moving forward, this can be a very scary thing to and so I want you to think about this. And this is something you get to work through and I got to work through that I was very driven by circumstantial power, meaning the sales, the Chrissy are amazing. The oh my gosh, this
changed my life. Oh my gosh, like this helped me so much. Likes, Comments, followers, email lists, numbers, money in my bank account, very, very circumstantial power rate. And so I had to learn that. I tell people, when you don't make cells, it doesn't mean anything. Like we'd like to try to make it mean something that we suck or prices are too high or something, we always try to find a meaning to it right. So I'm like, Okay, well, that doesn't mean anything, then do the cells
mean anything? No, not really. They pay your bills. Yes. But can you stand and the power and this is scary. This is very scary to write? Can you stand in your own personal power? Do it scared? And believe that you're good enough? Believe that you're the shit? Believe that you are the expert that people are going to come to and search for and want to work with? Do you
believe that? Without results without sales without instant gratification without followers without likes without email list subscribers without proof and validation, do deep down inside believe that? And that was a very hard thing for me to do. I'm still not perfect at it. Don't get me wrong. I still I still have a work in progress every single day. But when I noticed that I'm reacting to a circumstantial thing. I call myself out on it. Okay, let's break this down. What does this
mean? This making a cell mean, you're a good mom? No. Does making a sale mean you're a great human being? No. Does making a sell? Help you wake up every day? And take your first breath? No, it doesn't. The work that I provide the things that I do the lives that I changed in my content. Sure. That feels good to get the gratification. But what if I know I do that without the gratification? I'm a words of affirmation, girl. And I think it was their five love languages. I'm a words of
affirmation, girl. So I love words of affirmation. But can I still stand on my personal power? Do it scared? Can I still stand there and my personal power with all out all that external affirmations that I want other people to say to me? So dig deep. And think about where are you playing it safe? Where are you playing small because typically if we're not doing anything we're afraid to do we're going to play small because we feel safe and it
feels comfortable. And we feel all warm and fuzzy in that bubble that we're in as we're trying to pretend that there's not all this other stuff that we could be doing to grow our business. Are you playing small on your content? Are you going through the motions every single day or in anything? Are you showing up because you're just checking off a box every single day that is not doing it scared? That is not getting
uncomfortable? That is not playing bigger that is playing small self sabotaging yourself is playing small. So as I don't know your greatest fears and the fears that are holding you back to grow your business. Can you dig deep down inside and think about them? Can you dig deep down inside and be honest with yourself which is also can be very scary. So you can check off the box where I did that because
then it was really scary. But I dug deep down inside and I really got I'm honest with myself, and I really didn't let myself get away with crap. And I really talked to myself, and this is what I found. And maybe it's a journaling thing. Or maybe it's a voice memo and thing, like literally pick up your phone, go to your voice recorder, and just start talking to yourself. If you're into human design, if you are a generator, we are very good at
talking to ourselves. And we can work problems out ourselves, we can literally coach ourselves and figure things out when we are voicing a voice memo ourself or talking out loud or videoing ourselves, right? Nobody has to see it, you can delete it when it's done. And maybe journaling is better for you. Maybe doodling is better for you. Maybe going to your favorite quiet spot is better for you.
Whatever it is, we get to get real with ourselves, we need to figure out where we're playing small, where we can do it scared. Yes, outside of this month, right? The scary month, we can do it outside of the scary month. It doesn't have to be just this month. So how can you carry this on? How can you move forward? Do the scary thing, Blow Your Own freaking mind? Stand in your personal power, and know that it's one
foot in front of the other. And sometimes it's one foot in front of the other shaking, and that's a pee and poop your pants. But you're just going to do it because you know that you're not going to die. Newsflash, you've survived 100% of your worst days right now. 100% of the scariest things that you've done, you've survived, right? Whether you wanted to do them, or you were forced to do them. I don't follow Dave Ramsey. I mean, I don't do his I know who he is.
But I know that a lot of people that work with him say live a life like nobody else now. So you can live a life like nobody else later, basically, like basically do all the savings now. So you could live this life of abundance later. That is the way I want you to think about doing it scared. Live a life like most people will not do right. Most people will not do these things. They will not get uncomfortable. They will not go the extra mile. They will not do it scared. I think I read. I
just listened to a podcast. And it's like 85% of people. I think it's 85% of the people are just happy. They're average, they're going to do things the way that they do them. 10% of people want to do things. They want to go the extra mile they want to they're just not at the highest level, but they're working towards it. And they want it and they and they yearn for it. They may not be making the actions, but they know there's more. And
then 5% actually do it. Can you be the 5% and my percentages may be off just a little bit, but it's just about right. The majority of people will not do these things. Are you willing to get a little uncomfortable? Are you willing to do it scared? Are you willing to do it scared outside of October outside of the Halloween theme? You got to ask yourself that question. Dig deep inside yourself. Sit with
yourself. Think about this. And if you want to share in the comments, some of the things and ways that you're going to do it scared, we would love to hear from you. And also you never know when you may spark somebody else's an idea for them and help them get over themselves and do it scared as well.