It's November 2022, is not over yet. So ready to move. It doesn't mean we can't take a break. It doesn't mean we can't enjoy our holidays like what all is available are starting, ignite your visibility on Instagram, coming up on the 28th of November and that is going to help you streamline your Instagram experience, understand it fully know what type of content to be putting on there and understand all the ins and
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podcast. So thank you to all the listeners, I appreciate you more than you know, I know that this is going to keep growing and we can serve and support so many more people as they go through uncomfortable journey, scary journey seven figure journey, six figure journeys, five figure
journeys, whatever it is. And that's what I hope that I can continue to support with marketing and doing all the things and literally just hearing the real side of entrepreneurship, because let's be honest, is it's just hard. So, so many times in our business, we hear the words, work on yourself. We've probably all heard the quote, that owning a business is the biggest personal development journey you will ever go on. Well, if you've heard these things before, let me tell you, my friends, there
the truth. There is absolutely so much truth in this. And this is why when we are working on our business, any of the issues that we've never worked on, triggers us in our personal life, right? We will never outgrow our business meaning or our business will never outgrow us meaning if I am not working on myself if I am not growing, if I am not pushing if I am not getting uncomfortable, if I am not finding out who I really am, what I'm about and what triggers me in what trauma do I need to
heal from? And all of those things, if I am not working on that, then I am choosing. And yes, I say choosing and this is such tough love. And I'm saying this because I grow every day. But the amount of work I've done on myself in the last three weeks. I don't even know if I recognize the person I was three weeks ago, because I have done so much work on myself. And that's a choice, right? It is very uncomfortable to identify where we need work, right?
Because at the end of the day, we are the first people to say, oh, you know, I'm far from perfect, like I'm not perfect and see our flaws. But when we have to look internally and see where we can improve. Sometimes that's not fun. Sometimes it's easier to blame it on something else. But, you know, even growing up with awful parents, even with I'm not saying I grew up with awful parents, but I'm saying like no matter how you were raised, we sure there are things that that still bother me
from the way I was raised. But you know what? I get to choose? Do I let that affect me? Or do I believe deep down that my parents did the best that they absolutely could. And it's my choice to chart a different path, right. And so that's what I choose to believe that my parents did the best that they could with the knowledge that they had at the time. And all I can do is work on myself and work on being the best parent I
can for my children. What I've learned is I mean, some of my kids don't live with me anymore. So what I've learned, I'm like, Oh my gosh, like I wish I hadn't known this when they were smaller when but all we can do is what we can do with with the knowledge we have now. Right? You can't do better till you know better and then once you know better you can work on
being better. And back in 2020 I listen to the bookshelf renewer by Denise Duffield Thomas and really opened up and realized they had a major money mindset problem. Now have I worked on that money mindset problem? Yes, I have. Will I ever be done working on it? No, actually, I won't. Here's the reason why. Just like our personal development. It's kinda like what do they say? motivation doesn't last forever, it lasts
for a moment, right? So the same thing with personal development, I am always going to have new levels and things I get to work on. I am always going to have new money blocks, right beliefs. It was really hard before I hit six figures to believe I was going to hit that. I said I wanted it. And I felt like I wanted it more than anything. But did I believe it was gonna happen? I wasn't really sure. Right? And until I believe that was going to happen, let's be honest, it wasn't going to
happen. The same thing as going over six figures, right? Like multi six figures. If I didn't believe it was gonna happen. It wasn't gonna happen. And it was a block saying things are too expensive is a money block. Right? Saying, I would never pay that for that is a type of money block, right? So even though they're all statements, and we've all probably made them in some way, shape or form. We're putting a broke mindset on those types of those products or those
people, right. And it's a growth thing I have said for a really long time. And I don't know if I've said this on this podcast before, but I think that Luis, I would never pay for a Louis, I think they're ugly. I mean, that's just, I'm not offending anybody. I just don't think they're a pretty first I'm sorry, I think there's one that I have actually loved in my life. But for the most part, I do not think they're an
attractive purse. I'm a Kate Spade girl, right? But also, you know, I've said I'll never I go to this Kate Spade outlet, I don't pay full price, right? And it's not that it's necessarily because of the price. It's because I know I can I like a deal, right? But all these are different money mindset blocks that I get to work on, right? Raising my prices, money mindset block, nobody will pay for that. Right? Nobody will pay me for that. These are all blocks that
we get to work on. And so realizing that 2020, I had a money mindset problem, which was never brought to my attention before. And I never really knew that was even a thing. I don't even I don't even think I knew that was the thing. And then, and then I've been working on it. And then in the past three weeks, I've been working on it even more, right? I've really been intentional, taking a program to really work on it
deeper. Also, the reason I do these things is because I know my audience struggles with it, too. How do I help my audience when I'm still struggling with it? Well, I can go through my they can go through my journey with me. But I also want to be able to help myself so I can help others. It's all a personal development journey, right? Everything we do betters ourselves. And I always say if I'm point 00000 1%, better than I was yesterday, I have succeeded. I have been
successful today. Right? So I want you to think about that, like personal development is growth, personal development. Being able to grow ourselves personally, is how we grow our business. When I work on my many blocks, my business can grow. When I work on my comparison issues, jealousy issues, in the issues, there's not enough to go around issues, the whole lack mindset, right? That's why my word of the year has been abundance. Because I knew I had
a really lack mindset. And I get to continuously work on that because my first reaction to anything is lack. Right? Well, wow, that's not fair. What's in it for me, you know, like, that is how we've been conditioned. Right? And so I get to work on that, because I've sat with it for too long. And you know, just being able to acknowledge that is really hard saying, This podcast is really hard, but it is true. It is who it is part of who I have been. But it doesn't get to be part of who I become.
Right? It's part of my journey, but it doesn't have to be the whole part. I can choose to fix it. I can choose to work on it. I'll never forget somebody had a visibility Queen challenge. I think they were in another country. And a coach that I worked with sent a screenshot and sent it to me. I was like, Okay, this is odd. And I was triggered by it. Right? Who who's calling himself the visibility? Okay, first of all, I don't have a trademarked I own the domain. That's all I
can say. But it was like very triggering for me. Oh my gosh, who's using the visibility queen? Right. I have seen the queen of visibility, but I've never seen the visibility queen, right. And so it was a trigger for me. So I got to work through that. At the end of the day, did it really was it affecting me? No. At the end of the day, people saw it and screen and more people ended up, screenshot it and send it to me and said, and so they thought it was about me like teaching people how to
become like me. And so then we made it a compliment, right? So we turned that around whether this person knows me or not, I have no idea. But it's all in that perception and how we want to spin it, and how we want to say it to ourselves. So many businesses in my community are like mine. And I'm not saying I'll never be triggered again, I'm not going to say that because I'm a work in progress, just like you are all my
listeners are right. And the thing that I know is that when I get triggered by something, I don't immediately react, I do sit with it, I have a lot of feelings, I might not have feelings that I like, I might not have feelings that I enjoy seeing out of myself. I you know, I have that mean girl too, right? My goal was to keep making her smaller and smaller. So she stopped saying the ish to me, that I don't need to hear. But the things that have
happened in my business. The one thing I want is, I remember back in May of 2019, when things were really really bad, and it took me weeks to recover from it. Weeks, do you know weeks does to a business you don't weeks does to visibility Do you don't weeks does to your mindset. Like it pushed me down into the dark depths of where I don't want to be right. But now, when something happens and sets me off, I probably hold on to it
for about a day. And I can shake it off, it can come back, it fights its way back sometimes. And then I move on, I process it I move on. We're human. And I want you to always give yourself grace. We're human. And I always want you to feel the emotions that you feel. I've had so many emotions, when it comes to even my business SE and I've talked about this in the past, like when I have felt a certain way.
We also have this pact, that whenever we feel a certain way, we don't hold our feelings back. This has helped us stay friends. We don't hold our feelings back we say what we want to say, right? Because that's the only way we can work through it. And I believe that all feelings are valid. However. What is that saying? I used to have it
written down. It used to be at the time my favorite thing, it's not my favorite thing anymore, but it still sticks with me 10% of life is what actually happens to you and 90% is how you react to it. It's something like that. I think my percentages are right, though. Don't, don't quote me on that. I'm gonna go look it up after I've done. But 90% is how we react to things. I can sit with my emotions and be really angry and be really upset and be really hurt, right and
emotional. But until we've processed those emotions, it's really hard to see the clear. Now I'm really good at saying I feel this way I feel like this is you know, like somebody new showing up on the scene and my competition. But in my heart I know we're totally different people in my heart, I know that our network is like a thumbprint. And they're so different. I know that my personality. I know that. For the most part. I'm I believe you can be visible but I think I'm
pretty freaking visible. Right? There are people that can probably be visible, more visible than me. And kudos to them. But I know I do everything consistently to be as visible as possible. I am on video every single day if at all possible. And if it's not live, it's recorded. It's or you're getting a repurposed video right? So you will see me on video on some platform every single day. So I have to sit with and think is this person really going to stop me from doing my business? If I
let them? Yeah. If I let them absolutely If I sit there and can become so consumed with it that I can't even see straight. Yeah, every time and I've been there friends, I have been there. Oh, it was an ugly look on me, but I've been there it is my choice how I continue to move forward with that. It is always my choice, right? Have the feelings set with the feelings. If you need to have an a conversation with somebody, have a conversation with somebody.
But know that no one can stop you from reaching your dreams. No one can take business away from you. No one can destroy your business but you. No one can make your business successful. But you. And this has taken four years of major personal development for me to say this. But also, in the last three weeks, the amount of personal development I have done. And I have been able to pour into myself, I'm able to say it with such surety with
such confidence. And knowing that I'm trying not to cry, knowing that this feels way better than the lack mindset that I was in the lack the Krissy in you know, Chrissy and lack is not a good look. It's not a good feeling. Nobody wants to be in lack. Nobody wants to be what's in it. For me. Nobody wants to feel like they're losing a race, right? It is the worst feeling ever. But the people that put that on yourself as you you put that on yourself,
right. And I found out that when I am so focused on my business and moving the needle forward in my own business, nothing anybody else can do affects me. Nothing. And if I can give you anything to take away from this, it's that work on your mindset. Work on having more abundance in your life and seeing the abundance in every single thing that you do. Work on loving what you do work on your confidence, work on your personal development work on
yourself. Your business will only ever grow to the level that you do if you are not improving your business will not either. I've told this story before my mindset or my coach, and she knows this. I've told her this. She had a million dollar partner program. And I think I've said this on the podcast before she said she I think it was five people got to get in out of like 50 people and I applied and I just knew I was gonna get it. Just gonna be honest, I knew I in my mind, I worked the
hardest. In my mind. I deserved that more than anybody in my mind. It was mine. This was back in 2019 Two, which also probably had a lot to do with may 2019 Because that's after I found out about this. But anyhow I believed might have been I don't know may have been 2020 I don't remember but anyhow, um, I truly believed it was in the bag. I had it it was me I was a perfect person for for it. Okay, first of all, okay. But secondly, okay. And I didn't get selected. I was so mad. I was so salty. I
never told her about it. Until I FHL. I told her I said, I just want you to know, I was so mad and jealous and salty. And the reason I told her there's a reason and she goes I'm so sorry. Like I said, No, no, no, this is not you. This is me. I was not ready. I didn't know how what it felt like to make $100,000 I had been close a lot of times and I was right on the edge but I had no idea I would not have been prepared to make a million dollars then. I thought in my mind that I was
but I was not ready. I literally call myself baby Chrissy you've probably heard me say that before when I see old videos I myself. Baby Christie had no freaking clue. Baby Christie was not ready for any of that. Until I hit six figures. I did not know what it would feel like to want seven and you can't even imagine because there's just such a disconnect before six figures. And after six figures, there's just the leveling up.
And I don't even know, it's just I think it's all the mindset work and it's all the the hunger and the and the pain and all of the things that you go through to get to six figures. And I had no idea, I had no idea what it felt like. Because not only do you have to get stick figures and you have to keep it, right. Nothing is given to any of us, nothing is promised to any of
us. If I wanted six figures, or I wanted seven figures, I knew, I know now, maybe not then that I it was mine to get I had to go get it. No one was going to do it for me, no one was going to serve a million dollar program on a silver platter to me. And I literally just automatically became a millionaire. And I think maybe deep down inside, I thought it was going to be easier because I had that support. And then some ways the million dollar program and now
it has been easier. But regardless, it's like trying to learn how to make six figures all over again in a different capacity in a deeper capacity in a much more personal development capacity. And so the thing I'm going to leave you with I think I tried to end this a minute ago, and then I got into another subject, the thing I want to leave you with is that your business will never outgrow you
work on yourself. If you find yourself focusing on all the competition, if you find yourself focusing on all the lack and all the things you don't have work on your business. Nobody can do that for you. I wish I could go back even to the way I felt six months ago and shook myself. And even though I knew the feelings were wrong, and I knew the feelings weren't valid, and I I knew the truth and then I knew that meet with a mean girl was telling me sometimes it's just hard to see
it. Because your mindset is so full of lack, that you cannot see the abundance that is in front of you. And so my wish for you. And my goal for you is that more than marketing more than social media, more than showing up on video, more than building relationships, that you work on your mindset. Your body, or your mind will get out before your body does right. Don't let your mind stop you from having the business of your dreams. Don't let your mind stop you from having the relationships that
can set your soul on fire. Like just like light you up when you walk into the room and you see that person. Don't allow your mindset to stop you from having the life that you could have. Work on your mindset. Work on your money mindset. It all matters. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Feel free to share it on your favorite platform and tag me I love re sharing these and giving you a shout out as well. My goal is to always support you and help you see a transformation. Not only your
business, but in your life. We will never outgrow our business. Remember that so we get to work on ourselves and see that transformation come through on both personal and business side. I would love to work with you and 2023 I have loads of opportunities that will fit the pricing and the budget that you have. Let's chat. I'm truly interested in creating an unforgettable experience for you to grow, transform and see how big your business can grow in 2023