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from Marlana. Go doobie and I'm a motivational trainer and plus size competence coach, I help inspire plus size confidence through adventure. Yes, you heard me through venture. And what that means is that we take the tiniest little things, and we build up your confidence so that you can do the big things getting uncomfortable. Chris here there's something about that, right? Yes, yes, I do. Okay, so what does adventure mean to you? I think we got to back up a second. So obviously, I want to
talk about the coaching. But what what does adventure mean to you. So essential means something different to everybody. And that's something that I help you figure out. Most people think, oh my gosh, an adventurer is climbing Everest or going on a hike or a big bike trip or trekking across the country. But if you look at Go ahead, look it up in the dictionary, it also means something new and exciting. Think of like look around the world and your world. And think about how many things
can be new and exciting. Every day can be an adventure, and every day can make you more confident in yourself and your skills. That's adventure, getting once again, uncomfortable. Doing something new and exciting. I love this. So how did you get to this place? How did you become a confidence coach, a motivational trainer like what is is your story that led you to this place right now? Life, I have 25 years of my gosh, I just really tell you how old I am. I'm 25 years in the
massage and wellness field. And as I got through that, I got to know my clients and I was going through my own drama, you know, we make our mess our mission. And that brought me to go do B which is my coaching. Where do you want to go? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be? Because it took me asking that every day to get out of the bad situation that I was in. And I wanted to help everybody else find their go to be? Well, all
the while I was losing weight. I like to joke that I've been obese four to five times in my life. But when you have hormone problems, sometimes there's nothing else you can do. And it's really took me the last six to seven years to be able to accept that. Another joke I make is that I'm a super fit in person and a fat girl's body. Well, that narrative doesn't go either. I am just a super fit. Fun. That girl. And I just needed to embrace that. Right?
So again, about six years ago, I got this big dream of helping women get into their big girl adventure life. And now we're making it happen. I love it. I love it. So do you do one on one coaching? Is it more group coaching, tell me a little bit about the experience when people work with you. So I do one on one coaching. I do online coaching, I have some great courses coming out. They will be launched hopefully by
August. And it will be a curvy confident series that you can get the mini course and go through it by yourself or be a part of the live version. And the best way that you can do that is by getting on the big girl adventure life challenge now. Oh, I love that. I love that. Yes. So you talked a lot about confidence. What is competence mean to you? Because I think it means something different to every person. So what does it mean to you when you say competence coach?
So a lot of people will ask me how can you sell competence you confidence isn't something you can sell? Well, yes, you can whenever you can make somebody glow, and my job is to give you that glow. and help you to find what confidence means to you. Once again, it's so vague, but my job is vague. Because your confidence is different than mine. I glow whenever I talk about coaching, or whenever I talk about helping somebody, that's where my competence lies.
Some people, whenever they're talking about crafts, or their hobbies, or their job, their profession is what gives them their glow. And so confidence is a spirit that everybody needs to find. And that's why I have a confidence coach, because I helped you find that I love that you want us to, do you want us to tap into you want to do a little exercise where we tap in? I know you need this, right? Like where we tap into another level of your confidence. Yeah, let's do it. Okay. I'm all about
visualization. Because that's fun. Okay. So I want you to close your eyes. And I want you to think about the most confident person that you can figure out whether it's a unprofessional scale, or whether it's a parent, whether it's just a friend, somebody that you think just exudes competence. That picture. Yep. What is What does she look like? What? What how does she hold herself? Do you want to tell us or do you want to just keep it to yourself? I can tell you a lot of my eyes
now. Okay. Yeah, you can. I just like you to close your eyes. So you just folk Got it? Got it? Got it? Can you give us a little bit of a description of what you see? You're saying I want to say is confidence, right? Because that's what I see. But somebody who definitely goes her own way, and does not care what other people think like truly goes her
own way. charges, the prices that she wants, does not is not like apologizing for anything that she puts out or does or says and I love that about her. Okay, you said some keywords there. unapologetic, that is huge, authentic. So she is all in her her own space. So now, what I want you to do is I want you to close your eyes again. Okay. And I want you to I want you to try her competence on okay, like out of body experience. I want you to try her competence on you know,
like, is she standing tall? I want you to stand tall. If she's smiling, I want you to have that big smile. What fits and what doesn't? Does this hurt her speech? And how she act? Is that does that work for you? Can you can you see her like that in your shoes? Or does it love it? The funny thing is, is that this person, she's an author, and I just started following her. And the funny thing is, is that when I first started following her she had annoyed me. I thought so funny.
And then I like listen to her book. And I was like, Oh my God, she's amazing. Like I really, it was like that first impression. And I had a horrible first impression about her. Not horrible, but just wasn't a fan. But yes, like totally. Now I can before it was just like, Oh, she's annoying, right? But now I'm like, Heck yeah, I can. I can see I can put that. It's I feel like I'm almost putting like armor on. Does that make sense? Do you know why it was annoying? You? What? Oh, cuz you hadn't?
Oh, yeah, you hadn't tapped into that yet. You haven't tapped into that bit of confidence. You wanted that you're like, she holds herself. And I want I want that some part of that just hit a nerve. So that's where confidence comes into play. Yeah, some of them. Some are her confidence armor fit, but other ones didn't because they just don't fit into you. So we have to find those pieces of other people that fit that look good. And probably what you would have saw in your vision might have
been different than mine. I'm the same, but definitely some different posture is a huge thing. The smile, the eye contact, eye contact. That's a huge one. And a lot of us have lost that over COVID We've lost that that confidence and looking people in the eye because their face has been covered in mask and we we've lost ourselves. I know so many people that behind that mask, they just they don't know where they've gone. They're just so they need to pivot or just go on a self discovery
journey. And that's what I love that I love that so do you have like your top two tips of like building confidence if you've got to go out and like do something big that A day or show up on video Do you have like tips that you give people to support them with like building their confidence to do something scary. Some of the girls laugh at me because I call it peacocking. But it's like, it's like the beat the boosting you up. So I don't know, if you've ever seen like Popeye, the sailorman old
school cartoons? Well, he would eat a spinach, and then all of a sudden, he would build up, right? So I tell people that you need to like, you need to suck up all of that, like the good things in your brain. So start, in essence, it's an affirmation, but you know, like, I'm beautiful. I'm strong. I'm this, I'm that I'm courageous, whatever it is that you want to attack that day. And you just
keep building yourself up. And sometimes I'll even like the muscle man, blow it up, like I love it and you feel powerful. And you're getting your affirmations in while you're in the mirror, which is the hard part for people, because if you can't look at the mirror and say these things to yourself, yeah, then you're not being truthful, or you're still hiding. So, and the best way to do that is to write it on a post it, write these down on a post it, stick
it on your mirror, Mm hmm. when I'm, when I'm training for affirmations, I make sure that I tell people that you need to, you need to say it, you need to say it, you need to write it down. You need to record it, and then play it back to yourself. So you're hitting those three senses, you're hearing it, you're saying it, and you're seeing it. And it's really just an overwhelm for your brain like, wait a minute, I'm seeing hearing it has to be true.
You know, it's funny that you say that because I when I was in high school, I really struggled like learning like, I would study so hard. Cram, honestly, was just the way we're taught. And I have read probably in an encyclopedia somewhere because there was no Google. I'm really dating myself right now. So I read that you can, you should like record yourself, like reading and then go to sleep with it. And so I do like affirmations. Like, while I'm
sleeping like, but I love. I never thought about recording myself. And I think like that's very interesting to hear myself. As I'm going to sleep saying these things to myself. Like I love that idea. And I never ever thought about it until you just said that. There's plenty of apps on your phone, and just the the photo video, you could just record it on there. So you can play it back during the day when you need to hear it. Why not be your own best cheerleader.
I love that. I love that. It also reminds me, me and my business bestie we have Queen con every year. And so last year was our first actually in person event because of COVID. Because we started in 2020. And actually earlier this year, and so we were about to go on stage. And she was like we do something with me. And I was like yes. And it was the craziest thing because I was like I'm not doing
this, this seems weird. And so we literally jumped to held each other's hands and jumped up and down said I'm the best, I'm the best. And the very, very best time, the best time the best of the best thing because we just kept saying it. And we just like kept getting faster every time. But it like totally brought confidence. And again, it's just that constant affirmation we didn't have a mirror to look in.
But we were looking at each other and like, like mirroring each other, which I thought was really really powerful and helped with confidence building too, because you never know what your audience is going to. You know, it's different going on video than in person, right? You never know what your audience is going to is going to seem like when you show up. So so many like good ideas there. Yes. And confidence is contagious. Yeah, I really hate to say fake it till you make it.
Because it irks me, but at the same time, just putting a smile on your face is going to just make it make it work because somebody else is gonna smile at you and you're gonna be like, Oh, hey, like my soft smile, or oh, this is changing my day. Yeah. Yeah. So be contagious. I love that. I love that this is so good. This is so good. So what's happening in the future for you and your business? Like what kinds of things are you looking forward to that you have coming up soon?
So I I've been a little bit out of the game because I have a three year old and a one year old, which I know where where do I get my time, but we have officially launched the bigger adventure life challenge. This challenge is a free challenge for you to jump in. To get some help, figure out your adventures and go take them. Through that we are going to find your confidence and we are going to find what gets you your
confidence. Further down the road, we will be having VIP sessions in that same group winning prizes, and maybe some meetups, all kinds of things. So go to big girl adventure life.com and sign up. All you have to do is go to that website, of course, then download the guide, free guide. Pledge. Hugo card. I wish I had one with me right now to show you. But you have to officially pledge I'm going to do this many adventures per week. Once again, an adventure is not climbing a
mountain. Oh, of course it is. But we're going to climb little mountains. So we get to our big mountains. And if big mountains are your goal, I can help you with that too. Since you can see this big body here. I have dove the case in Belize, I have climbed 14,000 mile or 14,000 feet. Now, I snowboard I hike. And if it can be done, I'm going to do it in this body or not. So if you have big goals, we will break it down into digestible pieces so that you can do that. And you do that by those small
adventures. So bigger adventure life.com. Join, pledge. Come Introduce yourself. You'll see me there. I love that. I love that. Because we always say that the journey is is the most important part. Like everybody thinks it's the destination. But I love that you're making the journey. Like the point, right, the little small adventures like because they all add up to the big thing. So my other tip, because I know that was such a mouthful, that
was only one tip. My other tip is to keep your joy and channel it by being yourself. There's going to be the naysayers that are going to knock you down. There are so many struggles and things to get over already. Don't be the person that tells yourself No. If you if you would see how many people have ripped apart big girl adventure life, because for one, they can't address the fact that they're big, fat, chunky, obese, instead of fat. Any of those words can help you with that, too. We can
get you over those words. The other thing was the big couldn't deal with the fact that adventure is anything other than a big thing. Well, that's what it is. And we can do it. I love that. Get it Get over the nose and get through it. Yeah, do it scared, right? Do it scared? I love that. So so much. Is there anything else I know you just left another tip is there anything else you would love to say to my audience? Before we go, You know what?
yourself and finding things new new to do is is the way to get out of your comfort zone. If you're falling Crissy, you know this, I'm part of a group I ended up chat launching bigger adventure life a month early because I wanted to get uncomfortable. So I want to get comfortable with all of you. And if you're jumping in there, make sure that you're donating to hundreds of lies, and the jump over with me if you're a plus
size gal. And if any of those words hit you, once again, I'm gonna say them if I say fat, obese, chunky, chubby, and those words are like, Oh, she really calling herself that or, Oh, that's not me. You need to join me. Because we can do big things and still be healthy and still go through things. It's not always about weight loss. It's just about living in the life you're living. Let's do it together.
I love that. I love that. Thank you so much for coming on the show all of the links that marijuana said will be in the show notes so you guys will have access to those. So make sure you reach out with her connect with her we'll add all of her social media handles as well. And thank you so much. We are so excited to share the big girl adventure on Well, thank you for having me. I I enjoy following you and doing other things with everybody that
is being a part of it. And of course I love being able to help people go I love it. I love it. Thank you so much. Have a great day. Thank you, you too. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Feel free to share it on your favorite platform and tag me I love re sharing these and giving you a shout out as well. My goal is to always support you and help you see a transformation not only your business but in your life. We will never outgrow
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