126. Understanding Overeating: Emotional and Mental Challenges in Weight Management

And it's crazy and I love summer so much that entering the fall season kind of depresses me a little bit . I know that's kind of pretty opposite of , I think , the rest of the world , pretty much everyone I meet anyways , like I'm so excited for fall and for the leaves to change and for sweatshirt weather and I hate that . I like fall .

I just I love summer . Anyway , I'm kind of starting to get a little sad . So I need to stay positive in my mind anyway and just like focus on summer . Anyway , I always struggle with like do I just jump right into the episode here or can I talk a little bit about like myself and my life ?

So maybe drop me a DM whether you follow me at Christy Castillo Fit or whether you're following the podcast at Unfuck , your Fitness Podcast on Instagram .

Drop me a message in either place and let me know if you kind of like hearing about my life or things like that , because I like to listen to podcasts where they're talking a little bit about themselves and their lives and what they have going on , and I always do that . I just usually weave it into fitness segments . But anyways , we'll see .

We'll see where I decide to go with this . You guys are very , you're very good about letting me know on Instagram and messages and just like hey , I love the podcast , love this , this and this . You answer my questions , so thank you for that .

But I'm going to just let you know that last week my husband and myself took my two children and three of their friends along with us just a couple hours north to this beautiful area , and I just want to let you know that , vacationing with five kids teenagers three of them were 16 , 117 and 118 , I believe .

I mean , I know the ages of mine , but the other ones I'm kind of second guessing , but anyways , it was really crazy , like they're so busy and they're just teenagers and four of them were boys . My daughter was the only girl .

It was so fun , but I was really tired afterwards and like I'm kind of entering this stage of life where you know vacations are different and they happen for a while Don't get me wrong , but like vacationing with my teenage children and their friends and it was so fun .

It's just the things they like to do are different and they like to do things without us and everything is just like so different . So it was great . I actually took a lot of the time off of work . I did the first day we got there it was raining or no . The first day we got there it was really evening . The second day it was raining .

So I did do some work that day and then I took the rest of that week and the weekend off of work and which always leaves me a mess when I'm coming back to checking with clients and getting back to work and getting back into the groove . I also didn't work out the entire week . We left on a Monday , we got back on Friday .

So I did work out actually Friday , saturday , sunday , but while we were gone Monday through Thursday , I did not work out . I did not go for a walk , I did not track a single macro .

I did drink a protein shake every day and I did take my supplements with me , but I ate so many Oreos I'm not even kidding , I ate so many Oreos and it was so good , but I was starting to feel sick from them . But anyway , and I survived .

So you can go on vacation and you don't have to track your macros and you can live it up a little bit and you can kind of skip some workouts . And I planned on taking my 12 pound dumbbells forgot them . The gym was about 30 minutes away and that was just like not going to happen . And I was going to go for a walk every day .

I took my walking shoes and I plan on going for a walk , but we were staying at a lake and so it was just walking around the lake . I just didn't want to be walking and looking for cars and fearing for my life , to be honest , so I decided to just take the time off .

I did get 10,000 steps in every day just because teenagers , but it was really , really fun . Anyway , I just kind of wanted to say that's what happened last week , that's where I was , that's what was going on . If you're on my social media , on Christy Castillo fit page , that's where I shared a couple photos .

But yeah , it was a very good vacation , kind of a good way to say goodbye to summer , even though I technically will never say that I'll never say goodbye to summer because I love it , but it was really fun .

And now kind of getting back to all the things , jumping back into work and jumping back into coaching and yeah , it's nice to get back to work and I miss talking to my ladies and I miss coaching and I miss having a routine a lot . So it's been nice to jump back into my workouts and jump back into all that stuff and get the kids ready for school .

So , anyway , that's what I've been up to . So let's jump in to the topic . I have actually been getting some messages from you ladies asking if I only work with women who under eat . Because that's pretty much when I talk about clients who come to me , I'm usually saying clients who come to me .

I'm usually saying clients who come to me are not eating enough , they're not fueling their body properly . You know they're not eating enough protein , they're not eating enough calories in general , really a lot of under eating and that is very true . A lot .

Most , by far most , of the women who come to me for one-on-one coaching or even just Fit Club and any of the programs that I'm ever offered , really most of the women who come to work with me are severely under eating at the moment .

That doesn't mean that they've always severely under eaten , obviously , because a lot of them are coming to me to lose weight and to change their body composition . So at one point in time , obviously they were overweight or they still are overweight and they're just under eating , you know .

So that's not always been the case for them , obviously , that they've always under eaten .

But I've been getting some messages lately asking if that's if that's kind of all I work with is ladies who under eat , because that's what I talk about most and it's interesting because I seriously , like one week I got like five messages like I'm really overweight and could you maybe talk about that in your podcast . Or I do not fear food .

I actually love food . I eat too much food and I have these other habits and tendencies and mindsets around food right where I eat too much rather than too little . So I've just been kind of getting some messages asking if I could talk about that a little bit . So that is what I am going to be talking about in this episode .

I kind of struggled with like where am I going to go with this ? You know , like , what exactly do you want to know ? What do you want to talk about what you know ? I guess in these messages from these ladies I'm like , yeah , absolutely I'll talk about that . I've been getting that message a lot .

And then when I sat down to actually kind of write some notes and kind of get my head in the right space , like what do I want to convey in this episode , I struggled a little bit with like what do you guys want to hear ? Right , like what do you want my thoughts on as far as overeating or women who are overweight , or that kind of thing .

So I had to dig a little deep and I did , of course . So I'm excited to talk about it and I hope that you really get a lot out of it . So I want to go back and talk for a second about what I was , what I was mentioning .

So most of the women that I work with well , every single woman that I work with wants to change their body in some way , shape or form form , whether that is like I'm happy with the weight that I am , but I don't like my body .

I want to gain muscle , I want to lose fat , or I'm severely overweight and I do want to lose a lot of fat and I also want to build muscle and I also want to understand my body and I want to learn macros and I want to get a better lifestyle and I want to .

You know , there's a lot of things that women that come to me want to get out of the , but a lot of them , when they come to me , are under eating and that's why I talk about that .

But that's not to say , like I already previously briefly mentioned , that at one point in time we've all overeaten , we've all went crazy with food , right , we've all had , we all have had a toxic relationship with food in one way or another , and that's just , that's just as what it is .

So , in my opinion , there are three types of women who come to me , and those three types are one , women who are under eating and they know it . They'll come to me and say I know I'm not eating enough calories , I'm really really starving myself .

My family , my friends , they notice I'm really really small , I'm really underweight and it's not good and I know it . Number two would be a woman , and currently I only have women clients .

So that's why I'm saying this If you are a man listening to this , love that and this absolutely applies to you , but I can only say this because I literally am only training women right now , and this absolutely applies to you . But I can only say this because I literally am only training women right now , and this is how it goes .

Have I trained men in the past ? Yes , absolutely , and that is the same thing , but I'm just saying women , so forgive me . Number two would be women that think they're under eating . So I have a lot of women that come to me and they're like I'm not eating enough . I know I'm not eating enough . I need help with that .

Once we start to track their calories , it appears that they are eating enough , and usually they're overeating . But what they're doing is they're either just tracking during the weekdays or they're really , really under eating on the weekdays , like they're doing intermittent fasting or they're doing carb cycling , and so they're obsessed with the amount that they're eating .

They're not eating many carbs , they're not eating processed food , they're not drinking pop . They're not right , they've cut out all these things and so they think I'm not eating enough . I'm hardly eating anything .

But what they're not being honest about is the weekends , where you know you cannot be eating very much , but if you are drinking glasses of wine and you're drinking tons of White Claw and you're drinking , right , like a lot that you can absolutely drink your way over your calorie limit .

And also if you're just kind of going out and not tracking your weekends or you're going to barbecues and you're not tracking your food or not tracking your snacks , you don't track your evening foods or you know things like that right . So that's .

Number two is women who come to me and they're like I think you know I'm under eating , I know I'm not eating enough , and when I have them track what they're eating , they're actually eating a lot more . They're just not tracking it and kind of taking that into accountability .

Number three the third type of lady that comes to me is the ladies who overeat , and they know it . They're just like I eat too much , I'm out of control , I eat a lot of fast food , I eat all day . I don't know how to stop it's habits .

It's a lot of different reasons that we're going to dive into , and so those are the three types of women that I get . Usually it's number one or number two . A lot of my clients will not come to me and just say I am a severely overeater . A lot of them are like I'm probably right about where I'm supposed to be calorie-wise . I try to be careful .

I try to eat healthy . That's what most of my ladies will say . I eat healthy and I work out . I just don't know how . Eating healthy and eating the right amount is not the same .

So , anyways , those are the three types of women that I get , and usually the women that come to me like I've said a million times in this podcast are under eaters and we have to reverse , diet them up to where they're supposed to be .

What we're going to be talking about in this episode , a little bit more so , is for my ladies who overeat and or are overweight , because that's a completely different topic . But honestly , it's a lot the same and the mindset is the same .

The tendencies are the same , the reasonings are kind of the same , and so I want to get into that too , and this is why I can coach either one . I can speak on either one , because a lot of it is so mental , it's so habitual , that for me it's the same things to get you out of .

You know , under eating would get you out of overeating , but typically for my clients who are overeating , this comes down to being unaware , and this can go into that second category that I just spoke about . You think you're under eating and you think I'm not eating enough and I probably need to reverse diet and I'm , you know .

But if you're not tracking your weekends , you're just literally unaware of how many calories you're eating . If you don don't track your food , you think , well , I'm eating really healthy , all I eat is fruits and vegetables and whole foods and salads and all the things . But yeah , if you're eating high calorie whole foods all day , you're still overeating .

You're just unaware of it . So that's one thing is that they just are unaware of how much they're eating because they're not tracking and they don't know the difference between healthy and you know . Healthy , yes , but how many calories are in it , how many carbs are in it ? Right ?

Or a lot of the ladies that come to me in that situation where they're overweight or they're overeating and have this more relationship with food , this opposite kind of end of the spectrum , unhealthy relationship with food , is this mentality of I can exercise more so I can eat more , like the outwork , a bad diet mentality , and that's kind of where that comes in .

They're like I know , I eat too much . I'm , you know , I know I eat too much , but I do go for a run every day and I do go for a walk every day and I do . Maybe I work out twice a day , or I go for a run and I work out every day , or I'll go to the gym for three hours a day , but it's so . It's that outwork , a bad diet .

It's that I had , you know , extra Oreos tonight with dinner , but I'll work it off , I'll go sweat it off . That is the kind of mentality that will usually come with that . Or it's the mentality of I don't know how to fix it .

I'm an overeater , I'm overweight , I am the bigger person in my friend group , I'm the bigger person at the party , I'm always the bigger person and you've just kind of settled into that . You don't know how to fix it . So it just is what it is .

It's not that you don't give a shit , you are aware of it , but you don't necessarily even have that exercise more to eat more mentality . You're just like . This is how I've always been right I'm big boned , my family is overweight . Maybe you grew up in a household that just said we're big boned , we're bigger people .

This is how we are , this is how we look . You've kind of settled into that , or maybe you grew up hearing that , so you just kind of know that . But there's so many different reasons why and I hate to kind of bring this so heavy , but that's kind of the way that my mind went to .

This is kind of like what I felt like you guys needed to hear was some of this , and a lot of it is just like being seen Like I want you to know that there are reasons why this is happening and I wanted to get into that in a moment .

And there's reasons why people under eat and there are reasons why this is happening and I wanted to get into that in a moment . And there's reasons why people under eat and there's reasons why people overeat . So I'm not calling anyone out . This is literally like , just it is what it is . This is just the facts .

Ok , overeating would technically be described as eating past the point of fullness or eating more than what we technically need for functionality .

Right , if you're overeating , you're just like can't get enough food , or you're bored , or you're eating your emotions , or you're literally just unaware , like you're just grabbing food and then you're like , oh my God , I eat the whole container without even thinking about it or you know . The definition would be just like you're eating past the point of fullness .

You're eating more than what your body needs . Obviously , when you eat more than what your body needs , your body stores its fat . That's why we become overweight , right , when we eat even though we're not hungry .

If it becomes a habit , obviously , if that happens , quite a bit right , like I overate on vacation , I ate too many Oreos , I ate the things and , yeah , I did gain probably about four pounds when we were gone . Between the week leading up and the week that we were gone , I overate , I didn't have the right groceries in the house , my appetite was shit .

If it becomes a habit , overeating can lead to weight gain and it can lead to disordered eating because it changes your relationship with food . So , overeating every once in a while , like going over your macros every once in a while , whatever , like that's not really what I'm talking about .

If it's a habit , if it's habitually happening , day after day , week after week , month after month , year after year , right , that does change your body and it does become a disordered way of eating because it changes your relationship with food .

Your relationship with food becomes distorted because you now look at it as a crutch for maybe , like I said , eating your emotions , eating when you're stressed , things like that , instead of just looking at it as fuel . So , in association with that , overeating is very common , and it actually is biological .

When you are stressed , your body makes more cortisol , a hormone called cortisol . Increased cortisol is a fight or flight response that , among lots of other things , it does tell you that it's time to find food . It can make you crave foods that are higher in sugar , right , sweet foods and fatty foods and salty foods .

When you're stressed , when you don't sleep well , when things are going wrong at work , when you're depressed , when you're anxious , right when anything in your body is off , that is a biological response for your body to create more of that hormone and that hormone causing you to want to eat .

If you don't know that , though , you're just constantly just like I'm so hungry , I'm so hungry , I'm so stressed . On the other side of stress , though , there are those stressful moments where you don't want to eat anything .

Okay , and that can also be a cause of under eating and being malnourished , but on the other side , we're kind of talking about this as well . So there are times when , yeah , we're just grabbing things to eat , we're like I'm bored and I'm watching TV and I want to eat .

But I do have a lot of clients who are overweight and who overeat , who are just like it's habitual and it's like this feeling where they can't stop doing it and a lot of times that's why is because their body is in that fight or flight response mode and it's telling them and making them crave and want food .

So there are other factors here too that can cause overeating how fast you eat . If you eat super , super fast , your body doesn't recognize that it's full and so you will eat more . What you are eating . If you're eating empty calories , you will eat more when you eat . And what you're doing while you're eating .

Right , if you're not focused and you're just watching TV and you're just grabbing in the bag , and grabbing in the bag and grabbing in the bag rather than am I even hungry , do I even need this ? Maybe sit down , chew your food , relax , think about it , right ? So all of those things can also contribute to overeating .

So there's physical factors , there's mental and emotional factors , for sure , okay , but a lot of it is mental or situational , especially in times when . Okay . So this can go two ways . There is a matter of just stopping .

There are times where I've had clients and there are times for myself when I've been overeating these goddamn Oreos that I'm like stop , stop eating . I mean , there was a day over the weekend we got home from vacation . I'm still . My body wants these Oreos now because that's what I've been getting it , and so it just wants more and wants more and wants more .

Right ? I'm like you need to stop . I mean , I literally will say this to myself Christy , stop eating the Oreos . Like , what else can you have ? Can you have a rice cake with peanut butter on it ? Can you have a rice cake with honey on it ? Can you have ?

Actually , the other night I made a Kodiak waffle the thick and fluffy ones and I made two of them . My husband was laughing at me and I put cherry pie filling on it and I sprinkled some powdered sugar on it and it was so good and that was like it was a lot of .

Instead of just emptying the Oreo container , I'm like , okay , this will at least have 24 grams of protein , because each one of those I think maybe it's 10 grams of protein each . I thought it was 12 .

But anyways , 20 grams of protein is what I had in those waffles and it was filling , it was carbs , it was a little bit of protein , it was more than just eating a bottomless pit of Oreos , right . So I was like what else ? I had to stop the behavior . I had to say Christy , stop eating the Oreos .

And then I had to figure out something else I could eat to fill me up and satisfy that craving . So that's a tip for that . But sometimes it can be that easy of just like bitch , stop eating so much . I literally have to have that conversation with myself you don't need this , you just want it . You're eating , you're not hungry , you don't need it .

Go for a walk , stop . There are some clients where I'm just like you have got to stop buying this stuff . You have got to stop having it in your house . You don't need it , it's just simple . Or after a vacation , or after letting yourself go a little bit , then your body wants it and without that awareness , to just be like just stop .

Okay , that's very surface level , that's lacking a little bit of balance , that's lacking restrictions . Maybe that's lacking honestly , grocery shopping and having the right foods in your house , whatever . That's simple . But there are other times when people who overeat and people who are very overweight it's very much mental .

And to tell someone who's very overweight or even a little bit overweight right , like whatever category we want to put this in . To tell someone to just stop eating , to just stop and change your habits and just cut out all these foods that you love , like that's not okay .

And to take it a step further for people who are very overweight every single time I've had myself working with a client who's very overweight , or even friends that I've had that are overweight , it never happened on purpose . It never happened because their life was in a good place and they had a lot of self-love and things were going really well .

Like , let's just be real , if someone has gotten themselves completely out of shape and completely overweight , it's usually because someone was in a very dark place and this can be either way . This can be severely overweight or severely underweight , because usually stress , life-altering events , low self-esteem , are something had to have happened .

And yeah , I mean sometimes it is just like I got out of control and I didn't notice and I , you know , put on 20 pounds and whatever .

But I mean for more severe cases , even that 20 pounds , though it's like what happened , like you fell off your routine , life got busy , right , you were stressed , you were whatever , like something happened to kind of throw you off to where you didn't go to the gym , you didn't count your macros , you didn't give a shit about yourself enough to do anything about

it and you put that weight on like it is what it is . Is it always like a terrible thing ? No , it's fine . You can get out of it .

But a lot of times for my clients who message me and even work with me , that are very overweight or are very underweight , it's because it's a stressful situation , it's because of life-altering events , it's because of some abuse mental , physical it's because of a death in the family , it's because they lost someone , it's because of a divorce , it's because of right

Like , it's something bad . It's something that usually caused them to have very low self-esteem , to think very lowly , lowly , to think very low about themselves , less of themselves , to be depressed , to not want to get out of bed , to not care what they eat , to not care what they look like right , to not feel loved , to whatever .

I can't get into , like all the reasons , of course .

Reasons , of course , but I've worked with enough women to know and I've had enough friends to know and conversations with people in the DMs in real life that I know that it's not a matter of just knowing what to do and getting out of it , and I think that's the struggle is for people who are overweight , who do overeat , or for people who are underweight and

who do severely undereat and have , you know , this really disordered way of eating where you're just eating your emotions , you're stressed out and you're eating . You have these habits .

Whatever it is , even if you know what to do , you won't always do it , and I think that's frustrating because a lot of you know in this situation we're talking about overeating and being overweight A lot of those clients that come to me , or a lot of those ladies that I've known , are like I know I under eat , I know I eat too much , I know I binge eat

in the evenings , I know that I'm not full after dinner , but I always eat an entire container of ice cream after dinner , whether I want it or not . I always do it . I know I shouldn't , but I can't get myself to stop , and I think that is the situation that we really need to talk about .

It's not just a matter of me saying , hey , that's not good for you , stop doing that . Well , no shit , I know that , christy right , it's a matter of emotions , habits , lifestyle , having no support , procrastination , self-sabotage , fear , lack of patience , lack of confidence . Those are the reasons that you can't stop doing those things .

Okay , and it's deep , those things are deep and that's honestly the reason . Like , yes , I talk a lot about macros and I talk a lot about tracking and I talk a lot about the tactical and the technical things .

I guess you know walking and workouts and water and macros , and those are , yes , the absolute basics , right Of what will work to change your body , absolute basics , right of what will work to change your body .

But , when it comes down to it , if you are struggling with your emotions , like I talked about healing out loud a couple weeks ago if your habits , if your entire life for 43 years I've been on this earth and if those entire 43 years I've had this lifestyle where I didn't work out , and if I don't have any support , if I am scared to death to do anything

good for myself , if I don't think I'm worth it , if I don't want to put in the time , you know , if I have all this stuff kind of working against me , then what is my purpose , like ? What would get me out of bed , what would make me change my habits ? Right , you have to look at it differently , and this isn't just a matter of doing it yourself .

Sometimes isn't enough , and that's kind of what I want to talk about .

Lastly , is that I want to acknowledge that I don't want you to feel seen and heard if this is you , because , well , I want you to feel heard even though you haven't said anything , but I've , I know enough to know that , if you are an overeaterater and if you are overweight , people have probably said rude things to you and said , well , just stop , don't eat

as much , figure it out , go to the gym , blah , blah .

And it's not that easy , okay , I want you to know that it's hard and , honestly , even if you're underweight , and , honestly , even if you're me and you're just at a good , healthy weight , still my emotions , my habits , my lifestyle , the support that I have , my own procrastination , my own self-sabotage , my own fucking fear , my own lack of patience gets in the

way so much . So , even I struggle with this . And if I struggle with this , I'm not saying that I'm freaking perfect , but if I struggle with this at a healthy weight and I have these habits and I , you know , shit is not optional for me If you don't have really any of those habits and mindsets in place , I know it's 100 times fucking harder for you .

So I know that and I want you to know that . That's why it's not your fault . It's just that you don't have the right tools , and maybe no one's even seen you in this kind of light . You're just like maybe no one gets it right , maybe you have the wrong support , you have no support .

So I want to wrap that up , and then I want to move on to talking about how to get yourself into a better place , and this is , honestly , just my five thoughts on how you will be able to get out of the situation , and this is if you're an overeater . Most importantly , I want to talk to you .

And if you're an under eater , though and I mean severely underweight , not just an under eater like oh , I kind of under eat , and watch what I mean severely like if you have some situations that really make you stressed and if you , you know , eat food and you want to throw it up because you don't like the way that you look and you've , you know , any kind

of bloating in your stomach makes you feel less than and you're scared to put on muscle and become bigger . If you know , if someone said like you have to be small , you have to have a thigh gap , you have to see bones , kind of a thing . I'm talking about very small , okay , and yes , you can be somewhere in the middle as well .

But I really want to reach to these people who are on these extremes . Okay , number one talking to someone about your situation . What is the truth about your situation ? And be honest about it . Why do you overeat ? And this is going to cause you to dig deep . Okay , who told you you need to be too skinny ? Who told you that ?

You know you're not worth it ? Who told you something bad about yourself ? What emotions you know . Habits , lifestyle , procrastination got you to where you are . Be honest about your situation and talk to someone , whether that be a therapist , whether that be a coach , whatever . Be honest about what is the truth of the situation . Be honest with that .

Number two is being honest with yourself about whether or not you want to change , because you have to be ready to change . No one can do it for you . You can't just buy a program and be like , oh , I'm just going to start tomorrow and cut out everything and change my whole life .

You're not , because you have to be honest with yourself about whether or not you actually want to change , okay . Number three is gaining the knowledge about your background , the why , why do you overeat , why do you undereat , why do you think you need to be so skinny ? Why do you think you're not worthy of being healthy ?

On the other end , right , gaining the knowledge about that , because if you don't understand what got you to where you are , you can't fix it . Number four putting a plan in place that you feel good about following . Like I just said , you can't just start a program and cut everything out one day .

You have to work with someone who understands what would make you feel good . Right ? I start with a lot of clients who are overeating .

We start by doing very , very simple things tracking your food and trying to get closer to the macros that I've set for you , and then increasing your water intake , and then , maybe a week later , trying to hit a certain amount of steps .

And then we do that for a couple weeks and we get some motivation , we get some confidence under our belt , we're getting some understanding , we're getting some knowledge right . That's a plan in place that you feel good about . If we start to go too fast , my clients are always like I don't feel like I can keep up with this , I feel like this is too hard .

We'll go back to the drawing board and figure out something that they feel good about . It's not a plan that I feel good about only . It's a plan that I feel good about for them and that they feel good about doing .

And we go at a pace that's really good for them , because I can give you so many things to do , but you're not going to do them if it doesn't fit into your life and if you're not okay with it . Right , so just go slow . There's no rush to any of this . And then number five would be to work with someone that you trust .

A lot of times , in these situations severely under eating and severely overeating , severely underweight and severely overweight situations it's not something that you can always do on your own , and it's honestly not something that you can always do with your spouse or with your parents or someone you know holding you accountable , because they don't always say what you

need to hear A lot of times people aren't there with your best interests at heart , so you have to work with someone that you trust . It's less about the procedure , the macros and the workouts , honestly , and it's more about the communication and the trust when it comes into these situations .

And I've gotten a lot of messages , like I said lately , that are people asking like do you work with , you know overweight women who overeat ? And they will go on to say like that was me and now I'm working with a coach and I'm doing a lot better .

And I love that for them because it really is a lot of work and why not speed up the process and do it in a way that's really , really healthy ?

And you're going to learn a lot about yourself , you're going to learn a lot about the situation , you're going to learn a lot about how to maneuver out of it and you're going to learn a lot about the macros and the workouts and stuff too . So it's a win-win either way .

But those are my five tips on how to kind of maneuver through it if you do fall on one of the extreme ends of these situations and , as always , if you're just in the middle and you want to body recomp and you're like I just need to lose like five , 10 pounds . These same things apply to you Talking to someone about it . What is your actual goal ?

Be honest with yourself . Are you ready to maybe stop doing so much cardio ? Are you ready to start lifting weights and building muscle so you can see muscle on your body ? You have to gain the knowledge about why are you obsessed with cardio . Why , in the past , have you not been willing to do the things necessary to change your body ?

Put a plan in place that you feel good about following , and work with someone you trust . These five things do work in pretty much any scenario . Obviously , in this episode , I wanted to talk about the extremes the one overeating and overweight extreme , the one overeating and overweight extreme to mostly .

I want to talk about that , but I do want to honor the fact that overweight and underweight they do have a lot of the same reasons , right , stress can cause some people to overeat . Stress can cause some people to undereat .

Anxiety , depression , can cause some people to eat themselves you know sick and it can cause some people to ignore themselves sick and work harder . So a lot of these things , though , are mental , they are emotional . They do have to do with that low self-esteem . They do have to do with the stress or a really life-altering event happening .

No one chooses to be severely overweight and unhealthy . No one chooses to be severely underweight and unhealthy . These aren't things that people want for themselves . So let's also keep that in mind when we're going out into the world and we're being judgy . Let's just take a step back and think that's not my body . I don't need to fucking say anything .

I don't need to think anything For me . Personally . If you come to me for help , I'm all in . I am all in , but I am not really going to judge someone . I don't know them and I know that shit is hard and life does really take its toll on us physically . So I hope you really enjoyed this episode . I hope I did you all justice .

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