We all know that sexual intimacy plays a vital role in a happy, healthy marriage. It’s a way to connect on a deeper level, to build trust, and to keep the spark alive in your relationship. But let’s be real—life can get in the way. Stress, misunderstandings, and even distractions can creep in and slowly chip away at the desire for intimacy. In this episode, we’re tackling a topic that every couple faces at some point: What’s really killing your spouse’s sex drive? While some causes are obvious, ...
Nov 29, 2024•47 min
In this episode, we’re talking all about foreplay—both the physical and emotional kinds—and why it’s such a game-changer in your marriage. Whether you’ve been married for a few months or a few decades, this conversation is one you don’t want to miss. We dive deep into the physical side of foreplay, exploring what husbands and wives really want and need when it comes to getting in the mood. We’ll talk about how understanding each other’s desires and preferences can transform intimacy in the bedro...
Nov 26, 2024•44 min
In Outwitting the Devil , Napoleon Hill describes "drifters" as those who go through life (or marriage) without purpose, direction, or decisive action, often becoming controlled by external forces. They just go wherever the wind blows them so to speak. We see a lot of people like this not only in life, but in their relationships. They assume that their relationship or marriage will just be a product of whatever life throws at them. In contrast, "non-drifters" or drivers are intentional, discipli...
Nov 22, 2024•38 min
It seems like we all get so busy with life that we forget to do the little things daily that greatly improve emotional intimacy... which also improves sexual intimacy. These include being physically present when you're together, expressing gratitude for the small things, showing daily acts of love—such as sending a simple text to tell your spouse how much they mean to you—or ending the day with meaningful connection. In this episode, we discuss ways to incorporate emotional intimacy into your da...
Nov 19, 2024•33 min
In the past few episodes, we have talked about what men need and what women need in marriage, and we also discussed how men and women are so different when it comes to sex. When you can understand how men and women are so different and what each spouses needs are, then you can implement things to help your relationship. In this episode we discuss the difference between "needs" and "wants" in marriage, and how couples can find balance when their needs are so different. This episode sponsored by v...
Nov 15, 2024•39 min
It is amazing how many of us don't do the things that could drastically improve our relationships, that are pretty easy to do. Whether we get lazy, fall into bad habits or whatever it may be, we stop doing the simple things that would make our marriages so much better. In this episode, Nick and Amy talk about the things that couples should do at least once a year to have their marriage flourish! Let us know what you think after listening to the episode! This episode sponsored by vitalhealthprodu...
Nov 12, 2024•31 min
Sexual intimacy for most women is not a need but a want, and let's be honest, for many women, it's not even a want. Their bodies are typically wired completely differently than a man's body. They react to sexual intimacy completely differently than most men do. For most women, they are only going to want sex or be willing to have sex if their emotional needs are being met and when they feel trust and respect in the marriage. Join us for this great episode where Nick and Amy (mostly Amy) will sha...
Nov 08, 2024•36 min
It drives us crazy when we hear wive's say "my husband just wants sex!" and they treat it as if it is something strictly physical for him. Nothing could be further from the truth. If sex for a husband (man) was just a physical want, and not a need, he would just "take care of himself" and never bother his wife for sex ever again, and would he be content and happy in the marriage. But no man is happy with that! They want to feel connected, desired, safe and loved in the relationship. Sex is the w...
Nov 05, 2024•56 min
As you know, we cover just about EVERYTHING a married couple deals with in marriage in our podcast episodes. There are a lot of things to remember, and sometimes it can get very overwhelming. In this episode, we decided to keep it simple and share, based on all the feedback we receive from husbands and wives, what men need and what women need in marriage to be happy. We recognize that this isn’t universal and that different marriages need different things. But for most men and most women, these ...
Nov 01, 2024•46 min
Think about how powerful our five senses are. What we see, feel, hear, smell, and taste makes life so gratifying and amazing! Take away any one of those, and life becomes a completely different experience. So how many of us shut down our senses when it comes to foreplay and lovemaking? Many of us turn the lights off, removing our sense of sight. We try to be quiet instead of verbally expressing how much we’re enjoying each other through words and sounds, limiting our hearing. Some of us don't to...
Oct 29, 2024•21 min
We had someone message us stating that we sounded like we were fighting in one of our previous podcast episodes, and they asked if we were okay in our marriage :) Amy and I laughed when we got the message and decided that we needed to do this episode on why it is healthy to have disagreements or to see things differently in marriage, and the difference between fighting and having disagreements. Because... it is totally normal AND healthy to have disagreements. So, in this episode, we discuss why...
Oct 25, 2024•40 min
In this episode, we dive into playful and creative ways to initiate sexual intimacy with your spouse! Whether you're looking for fun ways to break the routine, build anticipation, or make the moment fun or special, we've got you covered. From lighthearted flirting to exciting surprises, we share practical ideas that will help you reconnect emotionally and sexually. Join us in this episode as Nick shares the fun things he has done (or attempted to do) as well as other ideas and gets Amy's reactio...
Oct 22, 2024•46 min
We spend a lot of time talking about how, when a couple has a good emotional connection, they are much more likely to have a good sexual connection! Emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy really do go hand in hand. Unfortunately, what often happens is that when a couple's emotional connection starts going downhill, the sexual connection almost always follows, and vice versa. We hear from so many people in our audience sharing that their sex life is a wreck or that their spouse never wants to con...
Oct 18, 2024•40 min
There are so many crazy things going on in the world. We are facing wars, an invasion of our country, inflation, potential port strikes, division like we have never seen before, natural disasters, and so much more! These are things that we spend so much time worrying about, but have very little control over. What we should be doing is focusing on improving the things that we can control such as our relationships, and marriages. That doesn't mean the other things aren't important because they cer...
Oct 15, 2024•33 min
Ever felt like you're doing all the heavy lifting in your marriage? You're not alone. This episode discusses the signs you are in a "one sided" marriage, and what you can do about it. Sometimes a spouse may stop putting forth any effort because they have resentment, have been hurt or something has happened and they do this intentionally, but other times it is done unintentionally. They could be so stressed due to their job, health issues or many other things life throws our way. The good news is...
Oct 11, 2024•38 min
This is part 2 of the ways men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex. In this episode we continue our discussion and offer insight as to why men and women are so different and why instead of looking at it in a negative way, you should look at the differences in a way that can bring you closer together. If you haven't listened to episode 302 (part one) first, we recommend you do so. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimatei...
Oct 08, 2024•30 min
When you look at how men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex, it is easy to understand why it is a source of contention in so many marriages. Couples don't understand, nor do they talk about the ways they are wired differently. If couples better understood how each spouse is wired when it comes to sex, and talked about it together, marriages would be so much different... and better for so many couples. Instead of a spouse just saying, "they just want sex," they would understa...
Oct 04, 2024•36 min
When we go on date night, it is astonishing to look around and see how many people are on their phones instead of talking to their spouse. Is it because they don't want to talk to their spouse? Or is it because they don't know what to talk about with their spouse? We don't know the answer, but we hope it is the latter. In this episode, we give you 20 things you should be talking to your spouse about on date nights. These topics will not only make for great conversations that are fun but also hel...
Oct 01, 2024•33 min
Establishing boundaries with extended families and friends is vital to a happy marriage. Most couples state that extended family and friends cause issues in their marriage. In this episode, we'll dive into practical strategies for setting boundaries that honor your relationship while still nurturing connections with extended family and friends. Whether you're dealing with overbearing in-laws or navigating friendships that blur the lines, or even toxic business relationships, this discussion will...
Sep 27, 2024•31 min
It is amazing how certain words can be so triggering for some spouses and the word "help" is one of these words that can have good intentions, but can also be very triggering. For example, when one spouse says, "How can I help?" it may unintentionally create a hierarchy where one spouse is the "manager" and the other the "assistant." When a spouse offers to "help" with something like dishes, laundry, or managing the kids, it seems like a thoughtful, kind gesture on the surface. However, for many...
Sep 24, 2024•29 min
What does it mean to "pursue" your spouse emotionally and sexually? There are so many things in life that we pursue. We pursue better jobs, pursue our hobbies and interests, pursue better things in life. What happens if we stopped just stopped pursuing those things? How would our lives change? If we stopped pursing things we would probably loose excitement, ambition or even purpose in our lives. So why would things be any different if we stop pursuing our spouse? When we stop pursing our spouse,...
Sep 20, 2024•35 min
It is amazing how many people reach out to us, saying things like, "I want to do _________ in the bedroom, but my spouse isn't open to it or doesn't want to try new things. What can I do?" It is important to recognize that we all come from different backgrounds and have different experiences growing up (or even as adults) that shape our thoughts, beliefs, and comfort levels when it comes to sexual intimacy. This means it's fairly common for couples to have different comfort levels regarding thin...
Sep 17, 2024•37 min
In today’s fast-paced world, many couples face the challenge of balancing career demands and family life, often leading to a shift in traditional gender roles. As a wife who has experienced this firsthand, I’ve come to realize that toxic masculinity and toxic femininity are not just abstract concepts but real issues impacting our marriages. When I started working full time and juggling the responsibilities of raising kids, I felt a shift in my role and identity. I found myself adopting more trad...
Sep 13, 2024•59 min
In this podcast episode, we talk with Nate Whitson, the founder and owner of Get In The Fight, an organization that helps men become better husbands and fathers, and also overcome addictions and struggles. Nate shares his journey and experience, and what inspired him to build this company focused on helping men realize their true purpose and become better in every way. Whether you are a husband or wife, this is an episode you don't want to miss. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate ...
Sep 10, 2024•37 min
You hear us talk about sex ALL the time on the podcast and the things couples can do to have an amazing sex life. So many couples look at sex completely differently and have a hard time understanding the things they can do to have a better sex life. Nick recently heard a lady give a 6-minute talk on YouTube about how treating sex like a hobby can completely change your sex life with your spouse. So naturally, he sent it to Amy to get her thoughts, and her reaction wasn't what he expected... So w...
Sep 06, 2024•44 min
We do podcasts on all sorts of subjects and issues that most couples face... and there are a ton of them. For many of us, it may seem overwhelming thinking of all the things we as couples need to do to have a great marriage! We hear a lot of couples say they feel like it is just too much and they don't think they can do everything, or ever get to having the marriage they want. While all good marriages do take work, there are a few foundational and fundamental things that are proven to help coupl...
Sep 03, 2024•28 min
We got some emails back from our audience on our newsletter and podcast episode 282 where we answered many of your tough questions. Some of you didn't like the way we answered some of the questions, and we also got a bunch more questions that you wanted us to answer... so in this episode, we respond to your emails, and answer more questions. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. I...
Aug 30, 2024•33 min
Ever wondered how political differences can coexist within a loving relationship without causing constant conflict? Our latest episode promises to equip you with the tools and insights needed to navigate these challenging waters. Join us as we uncover the secret to maintaining respect and open communication when political views clash. You'll learn how focusing on common values, such as mutual respect and effective communication, can help couples stay harmonious despite their differing opinions. ...
Aug 27, 2024•24 min
We talk quite often about the negative consequences of a wife having no sexual desire, but what about the negative impacts on a wife when the husband has no sexual desire? We hear from many women that their husband doesn't have any sexual desire, and therefore they aren't romantic, don't fulfill emotional needs, don't pay compliments, etc. For many men, their sexual desire drives them to be more romantic, fulfill their spouse's emotional needs, have better communication, etc. A husband's desire ...
Aug 23, 2024•28 min
We got this idea and topic from someone who emailed us about something they are struggling with. This is absolutely a topic we can discuss because we are both very career-driven, love to work hard, and we work together EVERYDAY. It is often very tough to balance things when life gets extremely busy and when you are both career driven. For a while in our relationship, we didn't have things balanced, as we put our dreams and ambitions above our marriage, and it really hurt us as a couple. But ther...
Aug 20, 2024•35 min
