For a couple of months now, we have been posting a lot of videos on social media sharing our thoughts on various topics, and things that we have implemented in our marriage that we feel have helped us tremendously. These include videos and thoughts on sexual intimacy, emotional intimacy, date nights, setting boundaries in marriage and many other topics. It is AMAZING to see how miserable many people are and their vicious comments towards marriage, and doing good things in marriage. Some of the c...
Nov 29, 2022•32 min
Throughout our lives, we have many boundaries. These boundaries are in place to establish what is acceptable and not acceptable. In our jobs we have boundaries. We establish boundaries with our kids, our inlaws and other family members. We know what we can and can't do. And there are consequences for crossing those boundaries. The boundaries are there to protect everyone. So why would we not have boundaries in place in our marriage? Our marriages are the most important thing (or they should be) ...
Nov 22, 2022•36 min
We love polling our audience and hearing what you have to say so we did an instagram poll and asked the following questions: Have you asked your spouse what they want for Christmas? What was the best gift you have ever given your spouse for Christmas? Would your spouse rather have a gift or quality time? What is one thing you would love to get surprised with from your spouse? The answers were surprising but helped us share the best gifts you can give your spouse this holiday season and how to us...
Nov 18, 2022•30 min
Maintenance Sex.. What is it and why is it important. Well look at it this way. We have to do maintenance on our cars. We check the tire pressure, fluids and get regular oil changes, filters and many other things to keep the car running properly. These are not fun things to do, and they are even expensive some times, but they are necessary to keep it functioning and running correctly. The same is with maintenance sex in marriage. Sometimes the time is not the most convenient for sex, or maybe we...
Nov 15, 2022•32 min
We heard a great quote that we thought was very profound and caused us to think about why this is. QUOTE: "The adversary tries to get you in the marriage bed before you're married, and tries to keep you out of it after you are married." This hit us hard... and it is sooo true. He tempts us to have it before we are married, and then tries to keep us from having sexual intimacy after we are married! What things does he do in your marriage to keep you out of the marriage bed? If you haven't already...
Nov 11, 2022•34 min
Just about every relationship and marriage has a high drive spouse and a low drive spouse. If you are one of those couples you are completely normal, and neither spouse is right or wrong, it is just different. As sexual intimacy is such an important aspect of marriage and long term happiness, it is important for both couples to communicate with each other and find a balance that works for both of them. If couples don't find a balance, it can lead to a lot of problems in the relationship. In this...
Nov 08, 2022•31 min
For many people the concept of scheduling sex goes completely against what we are led to believe from watching the movies. In the movies, both people are ready to go at a moments notice and ALWAYS seem to be in the mood whether morning, afternoon or evening. It's as if they have nothing better to do. Well... the movies are a fantasy and that is not what reality is for all of us people off the big screen. In real life, couples seldom are both in the mood at the same time and sex often doesn't hap...
Nov 01, 2022•30 min
In part 2 of the podcast "Ways To Handle The Stressful Holiday" we share our social media poll results from YOU about all the stresses you experience during the holidays, and ways to handle them. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! The holidays are fast approaching and what better than a product you both with love! Check out Ultimate Intima...
Oct 28, 2022•31 min
If you are like most people, the holidays are a time that causes a lot of stress and division in their marriage. Even those couples that don't drink wish they could so they could get through the craziness. You have the financial stress of presents, your time, and of course being around the extended family which is probably the most feared or problematic for most couples! There is a reason that National Lampoons Christmas Vacation is so funny... because most people can relate to it. Crazy uncle E...
Oct 25, 2022•48 min
It is so easy to react swiftly to conflict and we often say things in the heat of the moment we regret or wish we could take back after. Often this quick reaction can magnify the situation even more. How many arguments have you had that have blown up to where you haven't spoken to each other in days... and you can't even remember what the argument was about?Sometimes it is just best to take a pause and think before engaging with your spouse. In this episode Nick and Amy talk with Nadine and Duan...
Oct 21, 2022•40 min
Our 100th episode! It has been an amazing ride and we are so excited to share this episode with you. We recently listened to a comedian talking about sex and titled this episode after his comedy routine as it rang so true "If you want to make love to me in the bedroom, you have to first make love to me in the kitchen". What does that mean to men and women? For men, they would love to make love in the kitchen. For women, making love starts much earlier than getting to the bedroom (or making love ...
Oct 18, 2022•36 min
It is common to think there are certain roles in marriage for males and females. For many years, traditional roles were common where the woman was responsible for raising the kids and keeping the house in order. The men would typically provide financially for the family. While this may still be the case for a lot of families, roles have shifted into modern marriage roles and couples are often both working now and providing income, taking care of the chores more equally, and raising kids together...
Oct 14, 2022•29 min
We are bombarded from every conceivable angle portraying that if we don't have a certain lifestyle, car, money, marriage, house, or body, then we cannot be happy. The constant lies can build a lot of envy and jealousy if we allow it to do so. We see on social media that our friends are going on vacation, or they just bought a new house or car. Maybe their husband got promoted to a great job. Whatever is presented to us, we can begin to think "why don't I have that house, or why don't we travel t...
Oct 11, 2022•36 min
We talk often about how communication is probably the most important aspect in marriage and how couples can resolve almost any issue with open and honest communication. But so many couples have a hard time communicating. Not necessarily because they don't want to communicate, but because each spouse might have a different "communication style" which is "how" they communicate (or don't communicate). It is vital to know each others communication style so you can better learn how to effectively com...
Oct 07, 2022•42 min
Marriages are being attacked from every angle in this day and age and people give up so easily when things aren't going right. We see this with the divorce rate around 50%, which tells us statistically only about half of all marriages will make it. This is very sad! But there is some good news... the divorce rate among couples who were recently polled in a Gallup poll THAT DID THIS ONE THING TOGETHER EVERY DAY had a divorce rate of 1%. That means a 99% success rate! What is this one thing couple...
Oct 04, 2022•44 min
As a culture, many Christians are often very uncomfortable talking about sex in their marriages (and families). In many households, sex is not talked about, and if it is, it is often in a negative light. For many Christians, this causes problems when they grow up and get married. Spouses might feel shame, fear or other negative feelings about sexual intimacy, or don't communicate about sex together because of their upbringing. For many couples, they are taught sex is bad, and to refrain from it....
Sep 30, 2022•35 min
We often think that to transform our marriage into something great requires a lot of effort, or big changes to be implemented, but the truth is, it is the small and simple things that have such a great impact and make a difference in marriages. In this episode, Nick and Amy have O.L. and Sway Buckley with Marriedpreneurlife.com on the podcast to discuss they ways you can find more fun in your marriage. Finding the "fun" again in your marriage is a key to a long and happy relationship... and more...
Sep 27, 2022•44 min
Most of us probably have people in our lives that are toxic to us and bring us down. Not only do they have a negative impact on us individually, but often that travels home with us and can impact our marriage in a bad way. Toxic people could be in-laws, brothers, sisters, relatives, friends, co workers and other people we associate with. In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss how to identify someone who is toxic, the difference between a healthy person and a toxic person, and why it is some impor...
Sep 23, 2022•41 min
You've heard the saying "laughter is the best medicine" and for many reasons, that is true. There are a lot of physical, emotional and mental benefits of laughing together as a couple. Laughing in marriage also helps keep those exciting feelings of being in love alive and it helps you feel happier (of course). Couples who laugh have a better perception of life and also have better romantic and sexual marriages. This isn't just our opinion, the stats show it! In this episode, we discuss all the w...
Sep 20, 2022•24 min
We have discussed in previous episodes the impact social media and our addictions to our screens is having on our marriages and relationships. In this episode, Nick and Amy interview Nate Klemp who is in the process of writing a new book titled "OPEN: Finding Freedom in a Screen Addicted and Divided World" which is scheduled to be released in January 2024. We discuss many of the damaging effects our screens are causing to our marriages and to society. Some of the things we discuss: What was the ...
Sep 16, 2022•46 min
In each of our marriages, we ALL experience hard times. We fall short and make mistakes. And sometimes those mistakes seem too big to overcome, or too climb back from. But nothing is too big to conquer as you will hear in this inspiring true story (and interview) with Brad and Lisa Valencia as they share their compelling experience of betrayal and despair in their relationship, and the path to finding faith, hope and forgiveness by turning to God. They also open up about what caused the mistakes...
Sep 13, 2022•52 min
It is amazing the excuses people give for not having sex in their marriage! We did a instagram poll and asked the question "Do You Find It Hard To Find Time For Sexual Intimacy In Your Marriage" and "What Causes Sexual Intimacy To Be Less Of A Priority In Your Marriage?" We weren't planning on doing this podcast episode but after hearing all the responses of "I am too tired" or "we don't have the time to have sex" we couldn't hold back. In this episode we are giving it to you and giving it to yo...
Sep 09, 2022•44 min
What is financial infidelity? Financial infidelity is engaging in financial decisions such as spending, saving or acquiring debt and doing it without your spouses knowledge. Just like infidelity, it can destroy your marriage and the trust in your relationship. In this episode, Nick and Amy open up and get real about their experience with financial infidelity, and the things Nick did that almost destroyed their marriage. If you and your spouse have experienced some form or level of financial mist...
Sep 06, 2022•38 min
In this episode Nick and Amy announce their new Sexual Intimacy Marriage Course (that will change your life). This course focuses specifically on sexual intimacy and covers so many aspects and topics about sex. The course was put together with the help of marriage experts, and also from our own personal experiences in each of these areas. So many couples have such a hard time talking about sexual intimacy in their relationship, and it is a topic that MUST be discussed in marriage. Let's get real...
Sep 02, 2022•27 min
Research shows around 50% of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce. That is a staggering statistic! Why is this happening and what is causing this trend? While there are probably many answers to this question, but couples are obviously falling out of love. When couples are first dating, they do the things in the relationship that builds love and that continues to grow. They get married and think their whole life will be like it was when they were dating and the feelings will jus...
Aug 30, 2022•40 min
Many of us often wonder "what are the key things couples that have good marriages do differently?" In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss the key elements of a healthy marriage. If you have these things in your marriage, you most likely have a wonderful marriage. In this podcast will will learn what these key elements are and how to implement them into your marriage to help you find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your relationship. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app...
Aug 26, 2022•44 min
Every parent want's their children to be happy in life, to do well and be successful. So what parent wouldn't do everything they can to make their kid's life better and easier? The problem is many parents take this to another level to the point they do everything for their child and destroy their marriage at the same time. This behavior is often referred to as "smothering parenting" (or helicopter parenting). Not only can this behavior cause significant issues for your kids longterm, but can als...
Aug 23, 2022•1 hr 1 min
We all go into marriage with expectations, and then we quickly find out it is much more difficult and different than expected with many disappointments along the way... and that's ok! Marriage isn't just about the final destination - it's about the journey together to get there. Of course there are going to be bumps, roadblocks, detours and many other unexpected obstacles... That is just part of life. We all have to make the journey, so no one is exempt. It's how you handle the journey the matte...
Aug 19, 2022•37 min
According to MANY Divorce Attorneys, lack of intimacy is rated the #2 reason for divorce. #1 is most often infidelity.. which can often be the result of #2 (lack of intimacy). Bottom line, lack of intimacy/sex is one of THE main causes of divorce. There are so many couples that have deep love for each other and get along great, have fun times together and have everything a good and healthy relationship has…but because of the lack of sex (or importance of sex) in their marriage, it eventually end...
Aug 16, 2022•37 min
Sex is an AMAZING thing that can bring couples closer together, strengthen their marriage and be incredible for both of spouses if they are implementing good things into their relationship that brings them closer together. On the flip side, we all know there are also things (that if implemented in your sexual intimacy) can quickly tear couples apart and DESTROY their marriage. This may be one of the reasons we get a TON of people messaging us asking our thoughts and opinions regarding what is ok...
Aug 12, 2022•43 min
