Decide, decide this is the day this shit changes. Inscribe, write that down. This is the day that this shit changes. And describe, tell somebody tell some people, people who you trust people who will support you people who will hold you accountable. This is the day that this shit changes. And trust me if you do that, and you start to take those incremental steps each day, no matter how small, your physical situation may not change immediately, but your mental and physical state, they will.
You're listening to, The Triple C Project. Welcome to The Triple C Project, the podcast that helps you gain clarity, boost confidence, and build courage, so you can live life lit! I'm your host, Ryan Spence, the biglaw dropout, life coach, author, speaker, lover of hoodies, hip hop, and big, hairy
audacious goals. If you're tired of living the life you think you should want, and ready to start living the life you do want, this podcast will help you get from where you are to where you really wannabe, So now we're friends, I invite you to grab a drink, take a seat, and allow me to guide you towards living, a life that's lit! Yo yo, welcome to episode 48 of The Triple C Project. If you've ever had those days that really sets you off, you know, you're just really done with the day.
Maybe it's something like you're at work and as a shitshow of a deal that just lands smack on your desk, and you've got to figure it out. And it's the last fucking thing that you want to do. Or maybe a colleague pops into your room and says I really need urgent assistance with this, this this really needs to be done needs to be done now. And that just fucks up your evening or your weekend. That's
happened to me before. I remember once getting a green deal on a Wednesday night at around six 6:30 which required me to basically work until 1am On the first day go into the office on Thursday all day what three to one again, and then do an all nighter on Friday because it had to close on the early hours of Saturday, Singapore
time. Yeah, it was brutal. Maybe your leave gets cancelled, maybe you're planning to go off to a friend's wedding or you made your own sort of birthday weekend and your leave gets cancelled because there's a deal that has to close. And you have to be there and sport over that. The deal doesn't fucking close. But the damage is already done. All of these events that happened either to me or people that I know, maybe they've
happened to you. And maybe you can relate these to other things that have happened as well that just made use of say fuck it enough is enough. I'm done. And what happens in those situations, you probably scream, you might cry, you might punch something. Hopefully you don't punch someone. Because that's a whole other world of problems. And you say, I'm done with a ship. Enough is enough. I can't do this anymore. I'm out. But
what happens? You get up, you dust yourself down, and you get back on the hamster wheel. Because that's what you know, right? It's just what is done. And it becomes this dance every so often. You know mean, something happens. You say you're done. You storm off the dance floor. And then due to fear or uncertainty or the lack of clarity, confidence, courage. You sheepishly find yourself tracking back getting back on the dance floor and dancing again. Even though you don't
fucking want to. And it's not because when you said I'm done this is it. I've had enough it's not because you didn't mean it because you did at the time. You know, and you know, you meant it. You really felt within your soul that you just couldn't do this one more second, one more day. But the reason why you sheepishly walked back is because you believe that it's just the way things are. You believe that you just have to
suck it up. This is all part and parcel of the job or part and parcel of life, all part and parcel of success. And you believe that therefore nothing's nothing's going to change. It's always going to be this way. And you know what? You're right. Absolutely right. Because nothing will change Nothing will change unless you decide it will. And you take action to
change it. To change your situation, the situation that you don't like the situation that you keep telling yourself, you're done with the situation, where you keep saying enough is enough, I just can't take it anymore. Until you decide that that's actually going to happen. They're just meaningless words. You can keep saying enough's enough. But as the saying goes, actions speak far, far louder than words. So this is a little bit of tough love, it's time to
put up or shut up. If enough is rarely enough, if you really can't take it anymore, whatever it is, you need to decide right now, what you're going to do about it, you just got to decide, no more waiting, no more hoping things will get better down the line. Because you know that that won't happen. Because you've been saying this to yourself for months, probably even years for anything like me. So you've got to do something about it, you've got to decide.
And I take you back to earlier episodes and the DID framework, the three steps you need to implement, right now, if you're not going to find yourself continuously coming back to the same position where you get off, go away, come back again, to do exactly the same thing, be in exactly the same place where you don't want to be. And the reminder of that framework is
this. As I said, You need to decide that's the D, decide you're going to do something, decide you're going to make a change, not maybe I will not think that you could, but decide it's going to happen. And then you got to inscribe, you got to write that down. And you don't have to have a whole elaborate plan about what you're going to do and where you're going to go. You just have to start brainstorming. And you have to also just write down that today is the day when this shit
changes. Today is the day when this shit changes. And those changes may only be small changes in the beginning, it may be something as simple as you actually reach out to that recruiter who's been calling and send you emails, but you've been knowing because she was scared to talk to them. It may be that you go and research your idea of becoming a writer and just see where you can start to publish your stuff to get that experience to see if you like
it. Maybe you do quit your job and golf and travel around the world. There's a whole host of things that you can do, from the miniscule to the major, big life decisions where you burn the whole thing down. But we've got to do is decide some is going to change and then write it down. Today's the day that this shit changes, and minute, and maybe make a note of how the sheet is going to change the things that you could start to do to give
yourself some ideas. And then the final D is describe tell somebody tell somebody because it gives you that accountability. It makes you accountable to somebody because if you tell somebody, I'm done, this is it. Today's the day the shits going to change, I'm gonna go off and I'm going to do something else. Then, when they come and say to you a few days, a few weeks, a few months down the line. Hey, how's it going? How's that change going for you? You're gonna want to have
something to tell them. You know, I mean, you're not gonna want to look stupid. You're not gonna want to look like somebody else who says one thing and then does another. You're not gonna look like when I look like somebody who just is just whining and complaining but doesn't have them or isn't willing to actually do something about it. So it keeps you keeps you honest. So next time you say enough is enough, I'm done with this shit. You think it or you really feel it inside your body.
Then I want you to think back to this episode and think back to that framework. decide, decide this is the day this shit changes in ascribe, write that down. This is the day that this shit changes. And describe tell somebody tell some people people who you trust people who will support you people who will hold you accountable. This is the day
This shit changes. And trust me, if you do that, and you start to take those incremental steps each day, no matter how small, your physical situation may not change immediately, but your mental and physical state, they will you show up differently, you'll act differently, you feel differently, you think differently. And it's a funny thing, that once those things start to happen, opportunities start to present themselves, you start to see things differently, you start to see things clearer.
And you start to step out your zone a little bit, your comfort zone, starts to take a little bit more of a risk, start to get a little more confidence. But that only comes if you actually do something, it doesn't come if you sit still, and keep going through the same old cycle over and over and over again. So I'm gonna leave you with this. The next time you say to yourself, enough is enough. Ask yourself
play devil's advocate. Imagine that was a friend standing there listening to you, and they're gonna say back to you. Is it though, is it really, and if it really is, go ahead, implement that framework. And let's fucking go, let's get started on changing things, changing things, so that you can live life the way that you want to live. So you can ditch your life of lethargy, and start living life. Thanks for tuning in. But before you go, the weight of limiting
beliefs is heavy. It literally weighs you down and keeps you stuck in that life of lethargy. I know. It's why I stayed in big law for so long. And it's why so many of my clients don't believe they can do the things that they want to do. Or causes those limiting beliefs. It's a lack of confidence, lack of confidence in the belief that you can do the things that you want to do. And I've got something for that.
It's my confidence journal. It's six journal prompts that I created, that I've used to help me get from where I am to where I want to be, to help to give me the belief to do the things that seem outside of my control outside of what I can do. If this sounds like you, you need to get your hands on the journal. Best thing about it, it's free. All you have to do is head to iamryanspence.com. Hit the button for confidence journal, and get your copy
today. It's gonna help you start to reframe your thoughts and get you thinking about what you can do instead of focusing on what you can't do, and shed that load of limiting beliefs that you don't need to be carried. See you again next week. And until that time, stop living a life of lethargy and start living life lit!