Time Will Pass Anyway, So Who Do You Want To Be When It Does?

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I'm back , back to deliver to you episode 79 of the Triple C Project , after my two week holiday which was pretty good , if I'm honest with you went down to the Isle of Wight with a family , and if your parent listened to this , you'll know what I'm talking about . Holidays with kids are a little bit different . They're never quite what you imagine .

I mean , effectively , you are still taking care of your kids in a location where you don't have any of your stuff , any of the things that they need , and a whole foreign environment which brings its own challenges . So we had a good time .

We had fights and tantrums and tears , but we also had some good fun as well and rambling on the beach and some decent weather for a large part of the time .

So yeah , and weirdly I don't know why this holiday I've come back with not so much rested and recuperated I mean , you kind of expect that from a holiday , but particularly a holiday when you're not in big law and don't have to work over it but just with I did a lot of blue sky thinking , got a lot of new ideas and just this real sense of invigoration and

yeah . So seeing what ideas that came up , what they turn into , is going to be interesting over the next few weeks and months . So but one thing that I did while I was away is I started running . So the out of why is probably not the best place to start running , because it's very at least where we are , it's very hilly , so they kill me a bit .

But the reason why I started running is because it's something that I actually should have done a while back . But here's the deal . So back in I can't remember now April , march , maybe I started to sign up for a 10K race .

Now back in Singapore , so going back sort of three , four years ago , I was running regularly and there had been for a few years , so 10k was kind of my distance . I'm definitely not a marathon runner , but 10k is kind of my thing . I haven't run a 10k in like yeah , since I left .

So about four years , three , four years and Although I mean I stood a little yoga , a lot of Pilates , my my cardio Fitness is has been lacking . I've known that for a while . So signing up for this race was my way of Getting myself back to , you know , a decent level of cardio , not getting out of breath climbing the stairs or getting a jog down the road .

But the thing is that I signed up for it , intended to start running and then did nothing about it , and then a few weeks ago I got the email saying eight weeks to go . And it's like damn , eight weeks until this race and I had it .

Even started running , I hadn't done any training and that's about the minimum amount of time you need to train , particularly when you haven't run Probably over a year by that point . But I kept putting it off and they kept putting it off because thing is , running isn't really something that I love , it's something that I was kind of forced to do .

So I'll give you the short story , which is that back in in 2012 , when I was at the firm that I was at in London I was I was a comment to a client and if you don't know what that means , effectively , that just means that I went to work for a client for a period of time .

It's law firms do this is that they see it as a way for you to kind of gain addition experience . It's also a way for them to carry favor with the with the clients as well . They like having somebody from a firm on the box for a period of time , and so I At my firm had a gym I went to and I used to love that gym , used to go go regularly .

You know these big firms have for these Immunities to kind of keep you staying at the office later , working later , but I like the gym , but obviously going to the client on another part of London meant that I couldn't use that gym .

So I made the knot , I thought when reasonable request to ask the firm to Pay for my gym near the client's office , to which they said no . I Was pissed and so I had to figure out what I was going to do for the time I was there to to kind of maintain my , my fitness , and I Thought about paying for gym myself .

But one Principle I didn't want to do that . And two , I wasn't going to sign up for a year because I was only going to be there for like three to six months . So High love the Olympics . It was 2012 Olympics in London , great weather , all the rest of it . I decided to okay , I'm going to start running Now .

Running was a thing that I used to do for the sports that I was into for football , for basketball , for badminton , for training . That's when I used to run . The idea of running for the sake of running just never really appealed to me . But anyway , this is what I was left with .

So they say that you never forget your first kiss and never forget my first run . It was painful , if I'm honest with you . It was painful , I was miserable and , yeah , I just didn't enjoy it one bit at all .

So I was out for about 15 minutes or so and going around the streets of Clapham , where I live , which is in Southwest London , and I remember the first few steps and I was like , okay , let's do this . And then , in what seemed like no time at all , I literally felt that I was going to die .

I felt like my heart was going to jump out of my chest and hit the ground , creating this big red blob . There were times when I felt that I was going to puke . I walked probably more than I ran . It was . Yeah , it was a shit show . If you'd seen me , you would've been like what a state you are .

So , yeah , it was miserable , but afterwards , strangely , I actually felt pretty good . It's that thing they call the runners high , there's endorphins . So even though the process itself had been really miserable and uncomfortable for me , I did feel better afterwards and I decided that this is what I was going to do .

So I did it again , and I did it again , and I did it again and it got a little bit easier each time until it got to the stage where I was running quite freely .

I started to enter 5K races and 7K races and then 10K races , and then I moved to Singapore with all the humility and still kept running and started doing obstacle course races of 10 , 12 , 15k . So I was at the point where I could actually call myself a runner . So I'm telling you that story because that sets the scene for right now .

Because , knowing what I could do before in terms of running , knowing how long I hadn't run for , and with my first run still firmly ensconced in my mind , I was theorizing and sort of worrying and strategizing about getting out and running , because I knew that it was going to be uncomfortable , and not only that , it's going to be uncomfortable , but I knew what

I could do before that I wouldn't be able to do that now , at least for a good while , because I hadn't run for so long . And it's fit into that thing that I talked about before , which is not wanting to do something that we feel we're not good at , wanting to be good at something straight away . Yeah , so basically it was my ego . But what changed

? Obviously , seeing that eight week email , it was kind of like , if I'm going to do this race , I kind of need to start running . And I'm not going to lie . I confess there was a moment where I was like I could just not do it . It doesn't really matter , who cares .

But then there was the other part of me that was like no , there's a reason , you signed up for this and you're going to do it . And so I had to get my head around the fact that it's going to be uncomfortable .

I'm probably not going to enjoy it for the first few runs , but I'm going to feel great after each run and I'm going to feel even better when I get to the race and do that race and when I just feel fitter and stronger for running . And the other thing that I said to myself is the time is going to pass anyway .

So who do I want to be when that time has elapsed , when it gets to the 24th of September , the day of the race ? Who do I want to be ? Do I want to be the guy who kept thinking about how tough and uncomfortable it would be to start running again , so didn't do the race ?

Or do I want to be the guy who got up and went out anyway , knowing it would be tough , knowing it would be hard , and just kept putting one foot in front of the other , training run after training , run to get to and beyond race day . And that was an easy answer to that question . I wanted to be that guy .

I wanted to be the guy that got up and showed up , even when it was hard to do so , even when I knew it would be difficult to do so .

And so , strangely , holiday was where that all began and , as I say , starting in a place with some really serious hills and yeah , it was it was tough , but I think there's something about being in a new environment , having decent weather the most days , although some days I ran in the rain , which I actually do love . Running in the rain .

There was something about that whole new scene that invigorated me , that got me fired up and got me from not running to running . Three to five times a week now is kind of what I'm doing for my training plan , and there are some runs where I feel fantastic , I'm really in flow , I feel like this is going great .

And there are other runs , like the one I had today , the day that I'm recording this episode , which was an intense interval run and was just really real , real , real struggle , to be fair . But even though it was a real struggle , I celebrated at the end because I actually got up and went out and did it . The alarm went off in the morning .

I didn't have a great night's sleep , I was dehydrated because the weather's really hot here and I didn't want to go out and run . But I got out . That's the first win . I got out the door , I got up and put my running shoes on .

I got out the door , I started running and I kept running and if I didn't run , I walked , even when I was hitting the interval , ha . And I said like this this is over , I just want to quit this and go back home . I didn't .

I slowed the run down , maybe I walked for a bit , but I kept it moving and I got to the end of the run and that was the win . It was the small win . So , even though it wasn't a great run by in my mind , by my standards I mean , I wasn't hitting any great times , I wasn't feeling in any great flow Just getting out and doing it was enough .

That was the win today , and Doing that is another step in getting to the person that I want to be by the time the race comes around and beyond that . So I've told you all of that , because there's gonna be situations , there's gonna be things that you want to do . You think about doing goals . You want to get .

After that Feel good to you , but the thought of going through the process of getting there Just feels quite overwhelming . You know it's gonna be hard , it's gonna be uncomfortable for whatever reason , whether that's physically , mentally , emotionally , spiritually .

And Rather than just getting started , you're spending this time playing it all out through your head , saying tomorrow I'll do it , or next week I'll do it , or when this is happened , I'll do it , when I finish that deal , or when I come back of my holiday , or when I had a good night's sleep , and there are all of these excuses and reasons that you give

yourself for not Starring the thing , for not showing up that day , and the next day and the next , and the thing is , as I said to myself , that time is going to pass anyway . So , the sake of argument , you could maybe achieve your goal in six months If you just got up , got down and did it , did something each day to do it .

But if you spend three months Thinking about it , stressing over it , getting overwhelmed , trying to make yet another plan instead of taking some action , then you're gonna be three months behind because that time is gonna go ahead anyway .

And so think about when you're sat there in this overwhelm playing it around in your head , ask yourself this question if the time is going to pass anyway , who do I want to be when that time has passed ? Do I want to be who I am now , beating myself up for not having got up and got after it , at least tried ?

Or do I want to be that person who got up and gave it a go ? Because it's not about the goal . I've said this before . It isn't really about the goal . It's about the person you become in the process of trying to achieve that goal .

It's about showing up , even when it doesn't feel great to do so , because there's something bigger than yourself that you're getting after , that you're striving for , which is why I always talk about this why ? Why are you doing the thing ? What's that intrinsic meaning to you of doing that thing , of going after that goal ?

Because if you don't have that , it's easy to just hit snooze , turn over , go back to bed and not get up and go out for that run . It's easy to say , oh , this is just too hard , there's just no point , I can't be bothered to do this and sit around and do something else , and that's all fine . But you wanted to do that thing for a reason .

So find out why that reason is . Connect to that reason and think about who you want to be when that time passes , because it will pass anyway and future you is going to thank you . It's going to thank you so , so much when you get to that place and you look back and think I did that , I got through that process .

And a final point to make as well is don't compare yourself to what you did before . What you did before gives you evidence that you can do the thing .

But particularly if you've been out of practice , if you've been through a particularly difficult time or if you're just stepping up to another level , you can use all of what's happened before as evidence , as a foundation , as inspiration .

But , like me with my run , don't expect to be able to run at the same pace and the same distance that you did before straight away . If you've had a big gap , if you had time away , if you've had a pause in your practice , give yourself some grace and start from where you are . That's all I have to share with you this week . It's great to be back .

I really missed recording the episodes , which I didn't expect . When it got to Friday , I was a bit like , oh , there's no episode going out . So I'm glad that I'm back here with you for episode 79 . And tell me , what is it that you have been sat struggling about ? What have you been thinking about and not doing ?

Where has that overwhelm been coming in for you ? Drop me a line , let me know . Email , hay at imrinespencecom , or hit me up Instagram at imrinespencecom , or just rinespence over on LinkedIn and tell me . I'd love to hear what's going on and just get this conversation going .

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Link is in the description of this show . And the great thing about sub-stack is we can start a conversation , because that's what I want this to be to be a conversation , to be something that not only helps but that we engage .

And we have that back and forth , because I know for myself that's the way that I work things out is by talking them through , and so I hope that I can provide that space for you to do the same . Thanks for listening as always , and until next week , stop living a life of lethargy . Start living life in it . Thanks for tuning in to the Triple C project .

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