That evidence that body of work will fuel us going forward. And the more that we go through this process, the more that the winds, the more that the things that we've done well, where we've excelled, where we've really exceeded our own expectations that will then start to become the prevailing narrative and will overtake the negative stories that we're You're listening to, The Triple C Project.
telling ourselves. Welcome to The Triple C Project, the podcast that helps you gain clarity, boost confidence, and build courage, so you can live life lit! I'm your host, Ryan Spence, the BigLAw dropout, life coach, author, speaker, lover of hoodies, hip hop, and big hairy, audacious goals. If you're tired of living the life you think should want and ready to start living the life you do want, this podcast will help you get from where you are to where you really wannabe. So now we're
friends. I invite you to grab a drink, take a seat, and allow me to guide you towards living, a life that's lit! Hey, hey, how you doing? Welcome to Episode 45 of The Triple C Project with me Ryan Spence, life coach and author of The Triple C Method, gain clarity, boost confidence and build courage, so you can live life lit. And here we are the last episode of 2022. Wow. End of the year already. And I wanted to take this time as you know, we do this at the end of the year
to reflect. Last week I talked about five mistakes that I felt that I made this year. So this year, I wanted to talk a little bit more about some of the things that have gone well, but more in the context that can help you because we need to celebrate our wins more. And here's why. As I was scribbling down my notes on a piece of paper for today's episode, a quote came to mind. And it was a quote from that famous
philosopher, Ferris Bueller. If you've seen the film Ferris Bueller's Day Off, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. And you probably know the quote I'm going to pull out here. But the quote that immediately sprang to mind and I wanted to share with you whether you are aware of it or not, is this Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. And I thought it was very apt for what I wanted to talk about
today. Which is the concept, as I said, of celebrating your wins, because celebrating your wins isn't something that I always did. And I know from conversations that I've had, it's something that people struggle with other people struggle with too. But if we can celebrate our wins, it can really help us in moving forward. So, for example, when I was in big law, I did a lot of good work if I do say so myself.
But even if I got good feedback from a client, I got Thanks from a client, I got an email from a client, I always found it very hard to sit and celebrate that. Because I was always looking to the next thing. I was either worried about what was going to come next, or I was feverishly working on the next milestone, the next goal. You know, I mean, as an associate, I was looking ahead to what was I going to earn the following year? What work was I going to do? What would be the grade on my
performance review? When would I make Senior Associate? When would I make Counsel, I was kind of looking forward to all of these milestones, all of these things. Because that's the trajectory that I was on. And that's what I felt that I should be doing. But in doing that I wasn't taking the time to enjoy the moment to be present to celebrate the things that had gone well. And what I've realised is that by looking back, that can help you to move
forward. Because looking back gives you data to support the fact that you can do hard things. It shows you what you can accomplish when you're intentional about achieving a particular goal or doing a particular thing. And let's be frank here, it can show you what a pass you actually are. Because we spend so much time focusing on the things that we think that we can't do, focusing on the things that have gone wrong or where we failed or where we've made mistakes, that that becomes
a prevailing narrative. And it hinders us in our progress of moving forward. Because we don't actually want to take that next step because we're scared that we might fail. We don't want to push forward towards that goal, because in our mind, we're never going to make that happen because we just don't have what it takes. But if we take time periodically to pause and take a breath and look back, and reflect on what we've achieved, and celebrate our wins, that evidence that body of work will
fuel us going forward. And the more that we go through this process, the more that the wins, the more that the things that we've done well, where we've excelled, where we've really exceeded our own expectations, that will then start to become the prevailing narrative, and will overtake the negative stories that we're telling ourselves. So, for me this year, I want to reflect on on a few
wins. Just to show you that, I'm going through the same process as you, I carry that process of always running on to the next thing from the big from big law into my current life, and the things that I do now. And but the thing is, I'm aware of it now. And it's something that I've been consciously working on, particularly over the last year, to take a bit more time to look at how far I've come and not finished one thing instantly jumped to the next thing without taking the time to reflect.
So some of my wins for this year have been this writing and releasing my book, The Triple C Method. Writing a book is something that a lot of people say they would like to do, but don't get around to it. I was one of those people. You know, it sounds great to think, yeah, I have a book in my hand, I have a book on the shelf, be a best seller, but But you actually got to sit down and do it, it can seem like such a long, arduous
process. And you can also feel like you have nothing to say like, no one's going to read it. And all of this negativity can stop you from actually doing the thing you want to do. So a win for me is actually breaking through that and not going to get in the book finish, but actually putting it out into the world. Because I'm not gonna lie, there was a lot of fear
involved in that. Because writing it is one thing, but once you start to put your story out there for everyone to see, particularly in something that's pretty permanent, like a book, it's not like a social media post that can disappear, you can delete, it's out there. You know, there's there's, you're kind of baring your soul. So one wind for me is that I did it, I put it out. And I'm really pleased with how the book is
being received. But just from a personal aspect, the wind was doing it doing the work and getting the book out there. Second win for me was speaking more, I wanted to speak. This year, I wanted to kind of be out there and speaking more publicly and sharing the message that I share with you here on this podcast. And I got the chance to do that I got the chance to speak at two conferences this year. And I was really pleased because I learned a lot about
myself in doing it. And actually preparing the speech actually think about what I was going to say and actually getting up there and sharing the message. And it's the whole thing of doing things to challenge yourself. But doing them from a place of not your own ego. But from a place of you have something to share that you feel is going to help other people and this is the way it needs to
get out there. And that was how I looked at speaking, I was signing hated public speaking, I think if you read my book, you'll you'll you'll hear me talk a lot about it in the book. I just hated putting myself out there in that way. But because I knew that what I had to say was resonating with people, people like you that listen to this podcast. And because I knew that the message was important. I felt that it was imperative upon me to get that message out in any way that I can say more
people could hear it. So that's helped. That's what helped me to push past the fear of putting myself out there of getting up and speaking to a load of people who I didn't know, and to just fucking do it. So that's a win for me. And I'm looking forward to doing more of that in 2023. Third win of the year, on a more personal note was buying a house. It's the first house that we my wife and I we've owned, we've always you know, we lived in London where no one no one owns a house in London unless
you're ridiculously wealthy. And then we moved to Singapore, where we rented out there and so this is the first I guess, family home. And it's a bit of an achievement. I mean, it's a money pit. Anyone who's owned a house like if you own a house in the UK and I own an older house. Well, no, that shit just goes wrong. And before where you could just call a landlord and fix it now you're the one that's going to do it or pay someone to do it. So it's been a, it's been great, but it's been a
challenge. And it's been a been a learning curve. But it was great to kind of have our first Christmas in, in our own house, and good for the kids. And yeah, it is it is an achievement. So again, that's a win. And I think that sometimes when we think about wins and goals, we can focus so much on career or in business. But every day, we have a whole life to live and our life encompasses so many different components. And so we can look at our wins in all of
those areas. That's what creates the rounded person who we are. That's what makes us unique. So looking at that whole package, that whole picture, is, I think, really important when we go through these reflections. And when we look at the wins that we've had, we don't dismiss the ones that, for example, aren't making us money, because that's not what it's all about. Although don't get me wrong, I do love making money. I'm sure you do, too.
Hey, I'm interrupting myself, to give you this short message. Now, if you're listening to this pod, you're likely looking to change your life. Here's the thing. Transformation doesn't happen by doing what you've always done. It happens when you change your thoughts about what's possible for you. My book, The Triple C Method helps you do that, by giving you the tools and strategies to stop living a life of lethargy, and start living life lit. Described as a transformational toolkit.
And the book I wish I'd had when I decided to leave corporate, The Triple C Method will change how you see yourself and how you live your life. Available now as paperback, ebook and audio book, read by yours truly, head to iamryanspence.com/book, or over to your favourite bookseller to grab your copy today. So you can stop living a life of lethargy and start living life lit! Another win for me this year is just getting to do the work that
I do. I've been fortunate to serve eight clients one on one this year, many more through the content that I share and conversations that I've had and podcasts that I've been on. But to be able to sort of set each week for an hour, one on one with awesome humans who have just got so much to offer the world and have so much potential beyond what they initially imagined when we first started working together. Is is amazing. And it's reinforced for me why I do the work that I do as a
coach. And again, I think that before I would have been very much like what is one client than the next be thinking where's the next client coming from and just be focused on the, I guess the admin on the sort of the run of the mill stuff of running a business and of being
a coach. But by reflecting, I can really take in the, I don't know, take in the the things that clients are saying about how the work that we've done together has impacted their life and has changed them as changed the trajectory has changed how they feel has changed how they think has changed how they do things and react to things. And for me, there's a lot of power in that. And I'm also humbled by just the trust that people have put in me to allow me to guide them along that journey and to
do this work. And so that's a huge, huge win. And it's really only validated as the right word. But it's kind of really shown to me that this is the this is the calling, this is what I'm supposed to be doing. I really feel like what I'm doing is aligned with my values is aligned with my purpose. So that's that's been a great win and something which I will definitely be carrying on into the new year and hopefully expanding the number of humans that I get to serve.
And another one, and this would be the last one here, is releasing this podcast. I'm getting to share this message with you each and every week. As you know, if you listen to the first episode, this is a guess a rebirth from The Yoga Den Podcast which went on a pretty long hiatus, kind of unintentionally. But it just felt right to bring it back with the combination of the book coming out and the the clarity of message and what I wanted to
share. And I just felt that this was going to be a good way to get this message out to more people, whether you've read the book or not. And I've really enjoyed doing it. But I've also enjoyed the response that I've had for doing it. Sometimes it can very much feel like you're speaking into the void. I'm here in my amazing office, talking to a microphone with no one around me. But I am envisaging you right now listening to this, whether on your commute, on your
walk, on your run. And this really helped me to just keep cutting this out, not missing a week. And I'm really looking forward to expanding on this in 2023, on doing more with the pod on getting more into the groove of of what I'm doing, and sharing more of the content that you want to hear helping you do more of the things that you want to do through sharing the experiences that I have. And also the experiences of some amazing guests that will be joining me for some shows in the
new year, too. So those are just some of the wins that I've been reflecting on for 2022. And thinking about how I can expand upon those in 2023. But I think the biggest win for me is not really a thing. It's more just a lesson and more of a being of a knowing. And the thing that I've learned is that and I've said this before, but I think it's really cemented itself for me over 2022 Is that in doing the things that I've just spoken about, and many, many other
things. It hasn't really been about achieving the thing. That's been great. And the end product has been amazing. And they've all contributed towards the mission, because the life that I'm creating for myself and
my family. But what's really been the biggest win what's really been the biggest takeaway for me, the biggest insight is what I've learned, in the process of going after these things of doing this things and making these things happens, what I've learned about the process itself, the individual processes, and mechanicals of getting a book out or putting a
podcast together, whatever. But more importantly, what I've learned about my self, what I've learned about my capabilities, just what I've learned about what I can do, if I'm intentional about doing it, because here's the thing, living life and let living the life that you want living your dream life. It doesn't happen by accident. It happens by intention, it happens because you're intentional, on what it is that you're trying to achieve. And you do the things that you need to do to get
there. And that's really what I've been doing. And what I'll continue to do is just doing something every day to get me to where it is I want to get to keeping keeping that eye on the prize for want of a better term. Because it's very easy to fall back into our old habits. I see this all the time, when challenges and obstacles come up, that fall back into our old way of doing things. We allow the fake negativity, the things that haven't gone wrong to become the pervading narrative.
And that's why this these reflections, these, this celebration of wins shouldn't be and just something you do at the end of each year, it's got to be something that you do regularly, that's daily, weekly, monthly, you've got to keep filling yourself up with that warm glow of success of winning. So will allow you to fuel you when those obstacles and those challenges arrive so that you don't fall back into old habits so that you don't revert to the prevailing
negative narrative. So this is my invitation to you if that never occurred. This is my this is my challenge to you. As we approach the end of one year and move into another celebrate your wins. Get yourself into a habit of regular reflection. For me, I like to keep a win journal and sit down at the end of each week, it used to be each month but I think in 2023 I'm going to do each week. And just think just ask myself, what went well this week? What will my wins this week, however small, just
get them down. Because you can then keep going back and looking at that when you need that additional inspiration when you kind of need that push when you need to feel that you can do hard things you can figure things out, looking at what you've already done is going to be the foundation upon which upon which you can build that. So that's all I had for you this week as we end 2022 to take this with you into the new year, celebrate your wins, reflect on what you've done, and use that
to help you to move forward. And as always, I would love to help you along with that. If you need some additional support. Find me at iamryanspence.com/coaching. Find out what coaching with me looks like how it can help you get from where you are to where it is that you want to be. And how in that process we'll get you to develop the habits and the tools and the strategies that get you to be the person you want to become that get you to live the
life that is that you want. That get you to stop settling for what you think you should start getting after what it is that you want. Signing off right here, Happy New Year. If you're listening to this in 2022, if you're listening to this in the middle of 2023, that's gonna sound a little bit weird. But
hey, it's there. It's done. And that's the mood that I'm feeling in, go forth, have a great New Year, have a great day, have a great week, whatever you're doing as you're listening to this podcast, and as always stop living a life of lethargy, start living life. Thanks for tuning in. But before you go, the weight of limiting beliefs is heavy. It literally weighs you down and keeps you stuck in the life of lethargy. I know. It's why I stayed in big
law for so long. And it's why so many of my clients don't believe they can do the things that they want to do. But what causes those limiting beliefs. It's a lack of confidence, lack of confidence in the belief that you can do the things that you want to do. And I've got something for that. It's my
confidence journal. It's six journal prompts that I created, that I've used to help me get from where I am to where I want to be, to help to give me the belief to do the things that seem outside of my control outside of what I can do. If this sounds like you, you need to get your hands on the journal. Best thing about it, it's free. All you have to do is head to iamryanspence.com, hit the button for confidence journal, and get your copy
today. It's gonna help you start to reframe your thoughts and get you thinking about what you can do instead of focusing on what you can't do, and shed that load of limiting beliefs that you don't need to be carried. See you again next week. And until that time, stop living a life of lethargy and start living life lit!