Let Go Of The Old So The New Can Grow

But I think we also have to be prepared to be flexible , to be adaptable and to throw the blueprint out if it's not working for us in the stage of life that we're at now . You're listening to the Triple C Project . Hey , hey , welcome to episode 86 of the Triple C Project .

Before I start , an apology , kind of so , if you are one of the people that subscribes or downloads an episode of the show as soon as it's available , because I see it in the stats . First of all , thank you , and second of all , I want to apologize for the fuck up on last week's episode , which kicked in around the 18 minute mark .

No idea how it happened , but suddenly I was listening back to the episode once it was live . I just like to jump through , but it's just to kind of see how it sounds to you , the listener , and I was looking at the transcript at the same time and I noticed there was this clash of words like that doesn't look right .

And then I listened to that particular section and I realized that there was a track I won't bore you with the technical details but there was a little bit of music on a particular track that I don't use that was still there and had it be muted and was therefore clashing with what was there . So , yeah , I've caught it now .

So if you haven't already listened to that episode and you listen to it now , that fuck up won't be there . But if you're a known bird , thank you for being a known bird . Yeah , you saw me modelling the fact that it doesn't always have to be perfect and you can always go back and rectify things at a lately date . Anyway , a little bit of humour there .

There was a slight panic when I thought that it was a bigger issue than it actually was and I was going to have to re-record the entire episode , even though it was already live and I'd moved on to other things . There we go , just got to roll with the punches , and when you're doing anything new , you're going to make mistakes , even when it's not new .

I mean , I've been doing this . For what ? What ? 86 episodes now . You know , I still learn . You're still evolving , things can still happen and you know , you just got to roll with it . And sometimes you've got to throw your hands up and say , yeah , that happened , nobody died , let's move on . Ok , no more dwelling on my mistakes . Next thing book news .

Second book news . So you , as I mentioned a couple of times , I'm writing book number two . First draft went off to my developmental editor , slash book coach , a couple of weeks ago and I got her first round of feedback and editorial analysis back last weekend , which was encouraging .

But I also know I have got a shit ton of work still to do on the draft and I've set myself a pretty , pretty tight , tight deadline , and that has unfortunately coincided with just tons of other things happening all across the place as well , as well as probably the most intense time of my house renovation .

Yeah , there's a lot going on right now , and one of the things I want to share with you , in case it helps you , is that when I started this book , I was looking at the process I followed to write the first book , the triple C method , because that process worked , I did it , I got the book out and there's lessons that I learned .

I was going to tweak it a little bit but try the same thing . But I've had to let go . I've had to let go of a couple of things . I've had to let go of following the same process , because I'm in a different space now , different things are happening and that process isn't always possible .

So I've had to basically do what I encourage my clients to do is kind of snatch time , where I can make time to write every day , but be okay with if it isn't the same time , but just commit to getting words down on a page or on a screen and building the book up that way .

And I also had to let go of what the book is going to look and read like I mean the first book is . It's relatively traditional in that it's quite a linear book . I mean there are three distinct sections but the stories flow and they link to kind of make the whole book .

And I was kind of almost forcing myself into a box by trying to follow the same process and eventually I had to kind of take a step back which I did for a good couple of weeks and kind of speak to myself and sort of meditate on it and what I came to was that I just need to let the book evolve .

However , it's going to evolve , it doesn't have to look a certain way or read a certain way . All it has to do is convey the messages that I believe are going to be useful to the readers that I would like to read this book , the readers that I believe will benefit from what I'm sharing in this book .

And when I let go , it was like this weight came up off me and I wanted to share that , because I think often we can hold on to the way that we have done things before , the way that things have happened before , and sometimes that can be helpful . If a process worked , you want to follow the same process and almost like a blueprint .

But I think we also have to be prepared to be flexible , to be adaptable and to throw the blueprint out if it's not working for us . In the stage of life that we're at now , in the stage of experience that we are now , because as we grow , as we evolve , things will hit differently .

We're different people , we want to do things differently and for me , part of growth is allowing ourselves , yourself , to recognize that and to just let things go when they no longer serve you . That could kind of be a podcast in itself , couldn't it ? But I wanted to think about where is it that you are holding on to things ?

Where is it that you are gripping to an old way of doing things ? Where you are gripping to your old self , the person that you were , the person that did things in a particular way , and how is that serving you or not ? And what if you were too ?

As scary as it might be to walk away from something that you know has worked in the past and feels quite comfortable for you , but how would it be if you just let it go , just recognize that it's no longer serving you ?

If you thanked the past , you , if you thanked the old process , that old blueprint for helping you get through a particular situation and get you to where you are now , recognize the fact that now is the time to let that go , because we do that all through life .

We do that as a child , right ? You know , my kids started off watching certain things on TV , you know . I mean my eldest was really into fine and Sam for a while was into poor patrol and some other things as well , and no longer watches those .

He's moved on to other things and there's been a whole process of moving through and letting older things go , and sometimes that process happens really quickly . Like what he liked to watch last month , he no longer likes to watch this month . What he liked to eat last week , he no longer likes to eat this week , which is quite frustrating as a parent .

But it's this process of evolution as he grows , has he experiences more , has he figures out more about himself and about the world around him and about what he likes , what he doesn't like , what makes him happy now as opposed to what made him happy then . He lets the old things go and doesn't even give it a second thought .

But as we get older , we seem to believe that we have to do things the way they've always been done , either the way that we personally have always done them or the way that we are told by the world , by society , by the conditioning that things are supposed to be done .

It's kind of like I think about big law when I talk about this , the actual model , the culture of big law . There's a lot of talk about innovation in law and there are a lot of law firms and lawyers that are innovative , that are trying new things , that are looking at new ways of billing , of new ways of organising , of drafting , of creating .

So within big law , just like within any large corporation , things move slowly and there can be a reticence towards change , because there are people who are invested in maintaining the status quo , in keeping things the way that they always were , because it benefits them , and often that can be people at the top .

If they've made money in a particular way , they've billed in a particular way . They used to billable hours , for example . They used to making employers , making lawyers come into the office and show their face this whole culture of presenteeism .

They used to billing for every second of every day , rather than negotiating fees or thinking about creative ways of billing clients .

They used to working with the same people doing the same thing , as opposed to broadening the net and trying to work with clients who maybe aren't some of the big FTSE 100 names that they used to working with but who , by any accounts , are still doing interesting things .

But there is this desire , this need to keep things the same way , and this is one of the things that I found frustrating , because for me , a lot of the things that were the way , the way that things were done , just didn't work for me just didn't make sense . In a billable hour .

It was a big one , it's one that's talked about a lot , and the idea that you have to bill a certain number of hours and that kind of demonstrates your value in its entirety , your worth to the firm , is ludicrous , because as you get more experience you do work quicker and by doing work quicker you bill fewer hours .

But instead of being rewarded for your efficiency and your experience , you're penalized for billing fewer hours or you're just given more work , which just takes you out , which is beyond the capacity of any that any human can do without it being detrimental to their well-being .

But that's the model , and in order for them to maintain these fancy officers and all of the other trappings of being in a large international firm , they kind of have to maintain that model .

But it doesn't have to be that way , and you only have to go on LinkedIn and see a ton of lawyers and law firms that are doing things differently , that are doing things in a way that is dynamic , that is exciting and in a way that's attracting lawyers who want to enjoy their legal career and want to do interesting work , but without the demands and the

culture of the big law environment . And now , when I talk about this and talk about big law , this can relate to any industry . I just talk from the experience that I have and I know from clients that I've worked with that any big corporation can suffer from the same issues and that can lead you to feel stuck , to feel trapped .

So if that is you and you are feeling that , then this is where you have to question Do I want to still do things the way that I've been doing them ? He's got me to this point , but at this point I'm miserable . It's not fulfilling .

This just isn't working for me , and when I look ahead to the next two years , five years , 10 years , the career that's ahead doesn't appeal to me in the slightest .

So is it now time to flip the script , to try something different , to discard the blueprint that I followed , to get off the train that I was on , as I talk about in my book , and get on a different train , create a different blueprint , try something new , go in a different direction .

I just get curious about that and be honest about how you feel , and by no means do I encourage you to just burn things down or discard your plan for the sake of it . This isn't what this is about . Sometimes it can seem exciting just to do that and see what happens , but this is more about when you just know that it isn't working .

It just feels like you're walking through mud , because things can be difficult and still be exciting , but when things are difficult and feel like they're really dragging you down , then it's the time to have that honest conversation with yourself about whether you need to change course and let the old ways die and let go of a little piece of the old you so you

can create space for the you that you are becoming , to allow that growth and the evolution to really seep into your pause , without fighting against it , without that resistance of the person that you were before you encountered this growth . So that's what I wanted to talk about today . That's what I wanted to share with you today , and it's actually .

I actually have three things to think about today , and that was the one . As soon as I sat down , I was like no , that's the thing that I need to share , Because it's something that I see so often , particularly in the clients that I work with want to reach back and recreate what they once had .

No-transcript , they're not the same person that they once were . They've , sometimes they've grown and they've evolved within themselves . Sometimes they've completely moved countries , relocated . They're in a completely different environment . Sometimes they may be they're in a new relationship . Maybe their kids are now in a different phase of life .

There were so many things that make them not the person they were . But they still want to hold on to the person they were and to the way that they did things before .

When you kind of give that permission not that you need it but when they have that permission to let that go , to allow themselves to walk out of that mental cell of self-limitation and look around and see what else might be out there for them , other opportunities or other possibilities , once the initial fear and trepidation subsides a little , there's this sense of

joy , there's this likeness in the step , there's this excitement at this new process of self-discovery and this new development of self-awareness . It's a beautiful thing to see and it's one of the many reasons why I love the work that I do .

Okay , that's it for me for this week , or from me for this week , should I say and look , this work , this process of working through the old you , the old way of doing things and letting that go , letting that die . It's work that I do with my clients . It's work that I do on myself .

I actually have a tattoo based on a quote from Rumi , which is be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop , and that's kind of what I'm talking about here .

It's letting the things that no longer serve you , the things that are no longer moving you forward and no longer lighting you up and no longer taking you to where it is that you want to be , allowing them to go , thanking them for being there , for getting you this far , and then allowing them to go so that new leaves can grow , so that you can grow , new

branches can grow . So this is something which you're intrigued about , you feel could be helpful to you . If you're feeling that , no matter what happens , you still are just feeling stuck in this rut and you can't get out of it , then let's have a chat .

You can drop me a line , hay , at imrinespencecom , or head to imrinespencecom , slash coaching , and book yourself a consultation .

Call , let's sit down , let's have a chat , let's see where you are and let's see how we can work together , how I can help you to get out of that rut , to step out of that mental cell of self-limitation so you can gain that clarity , that confidence and that courage to move from a life of lethargy towards a life that's lit .

And if you're cool , if you feel that everything's great for you right now , that's amazing . But tell a friend , think about a friend of yours that is always complaining to you about their job sucks , their life sucks . They're really unhappy . They don't want to be doing what they're doing anymore .

Share this episode with them and maybe they can take away some of the insights that I share here , based on my experience and experience of some of my clients , of letting those dead leaves drop so new leaves can grow . That's , as always , for listening in .

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