But once you have that level of trust , that deep trust within your soul , that you'll figure it out , you can do this . That blank canvas , that blank sheet of paper , that blank screen becomes your playground . It becomes a thing of beauty .
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Hey , hey , welcome to episode 68 of the Triple C Project This week . We're just going to dive straight in , because I'm tired and I just want to get straight to it And I want to ask you one question do you trust yourself ? Now , you can go a lot of ways with trust , but where I'm going with this is do you trust yourself to figure things out ?
Do you trust yourself to get the job done , no matter what ? Do you trust that you have it within you to figure out what you need to do , when you need to do it , and do you trust that everything will come together ? A lot of questions there , but they all lead to the same thing .
They lead to that innate thing within you , that deep trust you have within your soul , trust in your intuition , in your gut , and it's something that is quite easily dismissed in favor of clear strategy , a logical plan .
But I found that often , when I just trust myself , now don't just mean leave it all to the universe although I believe in that , because you can't just leave it all to the universe , you've actually got to do shit yourself I mean actually trusting that you'll figure it out , that you will get what you need from any given situation , no matter how it turns out .
And this wasn't really what I was going to talk about today , but this came to me when my it's not just you . Community kicks off this week .
So we kicked off on Monday this is the first week of the community And , as I said in the earlier episode , i wanted to create a community where I could bring people together who I thought would not only get on , but who had shared interests , who had issues or struggles or things that they were dealing with which they thought were unique to them .
But I knew that they weren't . I knew there were other people who were dealing with the same thing And I wanted to bring people like that together so that they could realize that they weren't alone and they could create this sense of community , of collaboration , of support .
And this idea and again I said this before just came to me when I was on my COVID at Sickbed a couple of months ago , when I couldn't really do anything else and I couldn't take action . I just had to just be , and it's in the being where sometimes the deepest ideas come from .
But even when I had the idea and decided I'm going to run with it , and I decided today and I decided to start talking about it and promoting it and sharing posts about it and inviting current and former clients to be a part of it .
Beyond knowing that I wanted to bring people together in a space where they could collaborate and where they could get coaching and where they could get this transformation over the course of 21 days , i had no idea what the substance of that was going to be , but I trusted .
I trusted that my intuition would lead me to deliver what needed to be delivered in the moment . I didn't want it to be too prescriptive because I didn't know who was going to be in the community .
I didn't know what everybody was going to want , but I had an idea of the sorts of things that I would like to do and I knew I wanted to use this as an opportunity to really express myself creatively in a way that would serve the members of that community . But I didn't know what that was going to be .
I had no scripts , i had no worksheets , i had no pre-recorded videos , i had no agenda , no curriculum , and so Monday came around and the group opened . People clicked the link , joined the Slack group And I had this space with nothing in it And there would be nothing in it until I put something in it .
And going back a few years when I was in big law and maybe even a few years beyond that . That would have absolutely terrified me , in fact , even maybe as recently as a couple of years ago . That would have terrified me Because when you don't have a plan , what do you hold on to ? Where do you go ? What do you do ?
But what was really interesting for me is that this week , when this happened , it was liberating . It was amazing because I looked at this blank canvas of a community space and I was like I can do anything . And that feeling , that belief , could only come because I built this deep trust within myself .
And this also happened with something I was asked to do at the back end of last year , so I can't remember . I may have mentioned before that for the first three months of this year I've been teaching at a university here in the UK , in London , and it was something that I was invited to do and initially I was a bit like meh .
But the way that it's presented to me is like this could be interesting . It could be a good challenge .
It could allow me to develop some skills that I really wanted to work on , like standing up and talking in public , like putting together a course , like disseminating information in a particular way that engaged people , and so I thought I take it on , but there was no course . There was the topic .
I knew the topic that I was teaching , the module that I would be teaching , but there was no material , like nothing at all . All I knew was that within the module , there were already six areas that I would cover , two weeks per area , but that was it , just headings .
I basically committed myself to not only delivering a course to students on an undergrad law degree , but building this course effectively as I went along And , trust me , this is no mean feat , as I realised . I trusted that I could do it , but even I didn't anticipate this , the work that it would involve .
I was literally going down to London one day a week teaching back-to-back , two hours a piece seminars , and then I'd get to the end of the last seminar , just give a breath of relief , and then we're like now I need to plan what I'm going to teach and record for the lecture on Monday and then the following Wednesday's seminars , and so it was literally like
being on this hamster wheel . There wasn't really much time to stop and breathe And , bearing in mind I'm still doing everything else around that I mean trying to run my business , the family , my legal contracts here and there . So it was very , very full on .
And this year , where I was going to take a bit more space and time for myself , turned into one where I just felt like I was always doing something , but like I guess now talk about that a little bit more another time . But I share that again to show that a few years ago I would never have done that .
But even though it was a lot of work and even though there were times where I'd be sitting on the train going down just thinking I still don't have a lesson plan . I know what I want to teach , but I don't have a plan .
I just trusted that I could put it together , that I would figure it out , and that proved to be the case from the feedback that I have , from my own evaluation of what I've done . I did it , i taught the course , i got the people through it . So I'm sharing each of these examples not to tell you how great I am , because that's not the case at all .
This trust only came about because I worked on it , because , instead of looking for things that could go wrong , looking at ways that I could fail , looking at ways that I had failed or I had made mistakes . Before I looked at the evidence , i looked at my track record of what I had already achieved .
And I looked at my track record , i looked at the evidence of having started things , and I knew myself well enough that when I start something , if I'm committed to it , i'm going to see it through And it doesn't really matter what happens along the way . I know I can figure it out And I had evidence for that .
I had more evidence for that than I had evidence for failing , for making huge mistakes . It doesn't mean that when I'd done things with this evidence , that everything had turned out perfectly not at all , but I'd always got what I needed from it . I'd learnt lessons that had served me well .
I'd figured out what I liked , what I didn't like , I'd figured out what was in alignment and what wasn't in alignment , and so it's taken time to build this level of trust , to really not give a cursory nod to my intuition , but to really listen to it , to really notice when I get that feeling in my gut that this is where you should be doing , this is where
you should be going . You should grab that opportunity And don't worry , you'll figure it out . You've done it before , you can do this And to also notice where I don't get that feeling and to trust that my intuition is therefore telling me maybe this isn't the way to go , this isn't going to work out for you , this isn't really what you need right now .
This isn't in alignment . And the more that I've come to notice this level , this intuition , the more that I've come to develop this sense of trust , the more expensive things feel for me , the more creative I feel that I can be , the more lit up I am .
Because if you've ever tried to sit down and write a book , draw up a legal contract , draw a picture , and you've got this blank sheet of paper in front of you , that blank sheet of paper can be absolutely terrifying and it can be so difficult because , although you can put anything down on this blank sheet of paper , the fact that it's blank can make you just
feel that whatever you put down has to be perfect as soon as you put it down , and it can be quite daunting I know I've been there many , many times before But once you have that level of trust , that deep trust within your soul , that you'll figure it out , you can do this .
That blank canvas , that blank sheet of paper , that blank screen becomes your playground .
It becomes a thing of beauty , it becomes a thing of joy , because you see in your mind all of the things that you could create here , the places that you could go , the lines that you can make , the colors that you could use , and that's a beautiful thing , such a beautiful thing . So that's what I want to leave you with this week .
I would invite you to think about that question . Do you trust yourself and think about decisions that you've made , decisions that you may have to make , that might be coming up , and notice how you feel , notice how you're making those decisions . Are you strictly thinking about it from a logical standpoint ? Are you strictly thinking it from a strategic standpoint ?
Do you feel that you need to have a very clear plan as to where this is heading ? And if you do , that's cool . That's how we conditioned , there's nothing wrong with that . But if that is you , i want to invite you to step back a little bit And notice when you make these decisions or when these opportunities come up , or when you have these ideas .
Don't just think logically about how it fits in to where you want to go , or fits into your life . Notice how it feels deep within your gut . Notice how it feels in your body . Does it feel aligned ? Does it light you up ? And if it does , can you trust that feeling , can you trust yourself ? That's it for me this week .
Thank you , as always , for being here . And if you like the sound of it's not just you community and you want to be part of the next community playground , whatever that looks like , head to the website . I am Ryan Spencecom and get yourself on my mailing list . You can download the free confidence journal .
That would also get you onto my email list And you'll be the first to know about the next opening , for that it's not just you community or whatever community . It will be , knowing me , it'll be something completely different , but again , i have that trust in myself to know that it'll be creative , it will be amazing and it will serve you well .
Look forward to hearing from you , look forward to seeing you on the email list And , until next week , stop living a life of lethargy . Start living life lit . Thanks for tuning in to the Triple C project . If you love the show , if this resonates with you , you've got some valuable insights , let me know .
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