Do The Same Get The Same

to where you really wannabe. So now we're friends, I invite you to grab a drink, take a seat, and allow me to guide you towards living, a life that's lit! Hey, hey, welcome to episode 38 of The Triple C Project with me your host, Ryan Spence, life coach, author, yoga teacher, doing all the things creating all the drama, helping all the people impacting everyone's vibe. I feel good this week. I'm feeling great, for many reasons.

One of the reasons is I had two new clients sign on this week to new one to one clients, which is always great. It's always exciting. And it's not great and exciting, necessarily for the reasons that you think I mean, yes, I'm a life coach. It's my business. And it's a business you need clients. I mean, that

goes without saying. But what I love when this happens is seeing people choose themselves seeing people choose to do something different to change their situation, understanding that in order to get something different, they need to do something different. And that's the topic of today's podcast. There's a simple phrase, which I always like to remind myself of because it's a phrase, which I wish that I had understood properly and implemented. Way back when when I was struggling.

And the phrase is do the same. Get the same. According to Einstein, you've probably heard this before the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results. And that's effectively what do the same get the same means. If you always do the same thing, you will always get the same result. It's simple, right? I mean, you say it and you just think, Duh!. But it's not something that we

always follow. Because if this is so simple, if this is such an easy concept to get, why do we keep banging our heads against brick walls, when we know we can't create a breakthrough like that. And if you ever tried banging your head against a brick wall, but you're not going to make a hole in the wall, no matter how many times you do it, and how often you do it. And I often look back on my younger big law self, I was gonna say young self them, but I wasn't that young. But I was younger,

younger than I am now. As the Beatles say when I was younger, so much younger than today. And looking back on my younger biglaw self, I I look back sometimes with despair that I just didn't realise and understand this, you know, and will speak about myself in the third person, which is always a bit weird and pretentious. But in this context, I think it's relevant because my that person that younger big law self, he knew he wasn't happy. And he knew he wasn't where he wanted

to be. But he kept doing the same things to deal with that, to deal with those emotions with those feelings with that

situation. He complained, he complained about what was going on and complained about the bullshit rules that he had to abide by in that big law world in I mean, the way you had to dress the way you had to show up the sacrifices you had to make the lack of understanding that constant striving for more at the expense of health well being relationships, you know, he got angry about that he got angry about having to cancel having to sacrifice so much having to do all of these things that he

really didn't want to do and really didn't feel fulfilled by he I just got really annoyed with everything. And he drank, to fit in and to escape the bullshit, not in a excessive alcoholic way. But you know, when you feel that you need to have a drink just to take the edge off the day. And that's a regular occurrence. Or when you feel that you have to go to this networking event. And the only way you can do that is to have a few drinks first to allow you to get through that evening. That's

probably not serving you. And it certainly wasn't serving him. He also told himself stories, stories about how he was stuck, stories about how all he could ever be, was a big law lawyer, and stories about the fact that it was his fault that he was unhappy, no one else was in his mind. And so he just had to embrace the suck, keep going. Because that's just what you did. That's the way the world

works. It's not realistic to leave something because you don't like it, you just do it, you just keep pushing forward. And he wasted time, so much time, heading down YouTube rabbit holes, I mean, looking at ways to do things differently, wading through a sea of Google search results, reading or, well, half reading of many times, books that didn't really speak to his situation, because they weren't written by people

who knew his situation. And he did all of this in a half assed attempt to, to find answers to find answers to the situation he was in to how to get out to how to deal with those emotions to how to make a change. And he waited. He waited for something, or someone to pull him out, to pull him out of that mental quicksand, to pull him out of that life of lethargy he felt stuck in. And so that's why the attempts were half assed because on the one hand, he felt he

should kind of do something. But there was no real conviction, no real strategy, no real vision or mission. Because deep down, he just felt that something will just appear and will save me this new way to live. And he did all of this five years, five years, almost, of just going through these motions, thinking that one day, something would happen. And that would save him. And you think that after the first year, or even the second year, he tried something new, right? done something a little

bit differently. But here's the thing. As humans, we're creatures of habit. And we're designed to seek comfort. And so Hey, I'm interrupting myself, to give you the short message. Now, even when we're in pain, when we were in a situation we don't if you're listening to this pod, you're likely looking to change like we don't want to be in we seek the quote unquote, easy, your life. Here's the thing. Transformation doesn't happen by comfortable, well trodden way

out. And we keep at it, even if doing what you've always done. It happens when you change your it's not working. We want to do the things that we've maybe seen thoughts about what's possible for you. My book, The Triple C others do, or the things that we feel comfortable doing, that Method helps you do that by giving you the tools and strategies to stop living a life of lethargy, and start living make us feel like we're taking action feel like we're doing life lit. Described as a

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But it's only by trying to your favourite bookseller to grab your copy today. So you can something new, that change happens. Because change doesn't stop living a life of lethargy, start living life lit! happen in the comfort zone. Okay, that's enough of talking about myself in the in the third person are trying Do that again. But do the same, get the same. Do what everyone else does get what everyone else gets, nothing

changes. If nothing changes, all of these phrases actually lead to the same point mean the same thing that if you're serious about change about transforming your life, the chances are, you're going to need to shake things up, you're going to need to shock yourself, you're going to need to take on a new challenge, a new way a new path, and accept that discomfort, you're gonna need to do something bold, that serves you, maybe something that's untested, maybe something that's unknown.

But if you know that where you are isn't serving you isn't where you want to be. What have you got to lose by taking that bold step by doing something new by embracing the unknown, because that's where you'll find the change you're looking for. So going back to the biglaw me how he eventually did this third person again, how we eventually did this was, there was a few ways. Some examples I'll share with you were one he took on a big challenge.

So the boxing match training to be a fighter training for the fight. It was an attempt really, it was a reaching out to try something that would shock the system that would suddenly make you do something a bit different. It's like when they say about running, if you run on the sand or you go trail running, it's different to running on the road on a flat surface. Because different muscles in your body need to engage your core needs to engage to keep you stable to keep you

balance. This was a similar thing, taking on that big challenge shut, the brain shut the body into doing things that hadn't done before. And by doing that, it opens you up to different ideas, opportunities, experiences. The second thing he did was changed the environment changed his environment. So I went on a yoga retreat at the end of October 2019. And although it was only three days, it was a

monumental shift. Because being in that space, doing yoga each day being around other people doing yoga each day, people from different backgrounds with different ideas, being in a beautiful space, being by the beach, by the sea, by the ocean. All of these different things and different experiences helped me to start to see things differently and help to create different thoughts in my mind about what could be possible. Number three, changed my

lifestyle. becoming vegan was a big thing for me, in the sense that it became apparent very quickly that actually, I wasn't just changing what I ate, I was changing how I thought I was changing how I approach things.

Because becoming vegan meant that I had to question everything that I'd been told about eating meat and eating animals from when I was a child, or the things I've been told by my parents, by schools, by social media, by government advice, whatever it was, I suddenly was looking at through fresh eyes and questioning and asking myself new questions, and realising that much of what I've

been told wasn't true. And that then encouraged me to then become curious about everything, to question, everything. And the fourth point, I want to share with you the fourth thing that bat big law me did to start to make that big shift is got help. hiring a coach was not something that I ever expected that I would do. But actually it was a game changer. Because suddenly I was sat in a room well, virtually, with somebody week after week, he was only

there for me. He was actively listening to what I said, not waiting to jump in with their answer, not waiting to tell me what to do. But listening, looking for the little things that I was saying that maybe didn't add up that were maybe incongruent, listening for not only what was said, but what was unsaid and forcing me to look within myself to tie those

things together. And to see that what I was saying didn't always match what I was doing and what I was doing didn't always match what I was thinking or what I wanted. So getting that help is huge. ciency even, I wouldn't need to think Honestly, with yourself about what have you been doing to change your situation, if you're listening to this podcast, I'm sure there were things that you want to change in your life. Maybe it is something big, like quitting your job in big law or in a

corporate position. Or maybe it's something smaller, maybe it's something to do with your health and your well being or maybe something around your relationship, something around where you live, whatever it is, I want you to think about that situation. And honestly, ask yourself and write down all the things that you've been doing to change your situation. And then once you've got that list of things that you've already been doing, I then want you to look at each one and ask yourself,

has it been working? What is it actually done for you? Has it made any progress for you moving forward? And for those that haven't, I then want you to look at them, and brainstorm and ask yourself the question, watch something different than I could try. Write down everything go crazy, go wild, doesn't mean you have to do them all. But it's amazing how the brain can just generate ideas, when we allow it that space to breathe, you just be to just focus on one particular problem in front of

us. And address that. So, again, challenge you questions or look at the situation you're trying to change. Think about and then write down all the answer to this question, what have I been doing to change this situation? Then look at each of them and ask yourself Have has this been working? If it has been working? How has it worked? What has it done for me? And if it hasn't worked, ask yourself? What's something different that I could try. And in terms of what's something different that you

could try? Again, you could start with mine, if you like, you mean, you could set yourself when you challenge, you could change your environment, you could change something about your lifestyle, you could get some help, and some support. All of these things are available to you. And I'm sure that as you sit down and go through this process, you'll come up with a whole lot more to and if you do, I'd love to hear hear about

them. drop me an email at hey@iamryanspence.com or hit me up on the DMs on LinkedIn or on Instagram @iam_ryanspence, and let me know what are the different things that you could try that you're going to try and how and when are you going to try them. I love to hear what

comes up for you. I'm here about helping people change their lives for the better not for the better in terms of what society thinks is better, but in the better for them personally for you personally, so that you can live the life that you want, not the life that you think you should want. And if like me, you want to explore how coaching can help support you with this, how coaching can give you that space to just be heard, to just share your deepest fears, your biggest

wins. And to give you that accountability in that support on the path towards living the life that's lit! Again head to iamryanspence.com/coaching. And find out about working with me. And from there, you can also book a call, we'll have a consultation call. And we'll see if we're a good fit. See if we get on see what's going on with you and see how I can help you make the changes that you want to make in your own life. Whatever they may be. That's it for me this week. As always, I

just love being here. I love doing this podcast, like I was saying in my mastermind group with fellow coaches of the day. The fact that I can get up, get on the mic and share information, share experiences, share all of this valuable stuff with you. I mean, that's beautiful. It's not something which I ever thought that that I'd be able to do. So thank you for listening and allow me to do this for you each and every

week. Until next week, as always stop living a life of lethargy, go ahead, go forth, make those changes, make that transformation, do something different so that you can start living life lit! Thanks for tuning in. But before you go, the weight of limiting beliefs is heavy. It literally weighs you down and keeps you stuck in that life of lethargy. I know. It's why I stayed in

biglaw for so long. And it's why so many of my clients don't believe they can do the things that they want to do or causes those limiting beliefs. It's a lack of confidence, lack of confidence in the belief that you can do the things that you want to do. And I've got something for that. It's my

confidence journal. It's six journal prompts that I created that I've used to help me get from where I am to where I want to be, to help to give me the belief to do the things that seem outside of my control outside of what I can do. If this sounds like you, you need to get your hands on the journal. Best thing about it, it's free. All you have to do is head to iamryanspence.com. Hit the button for confidence journal, and get your copy

today. It's gonna help you start to reframe your thoughts and get you thinking about what you can do instead of focusing on what you can't do, and shed that load of limiting beliefs that you don't need to be carry. See you again next week. And until that time, stop living a life of lethargy and start living life lit!