In this episode, Lisa and Kari explore why compassion and kindness matter now more than ever , especially in a world that often feels overwhelming. Drawing from research by Dr. Ian Weisberg and Florence Scialom , they break down the difference between empathy and compassion , how small acts of kindness create a ripple effect, and why showing up for others is also an act of self-care. They also dive into the science behind compassion and well-being , sharing practical ways to bring more kindness ...
Apr 01, 2025•47 min•Season 3Ep. 13
In this episode, Lisa and Kari sit down with Monaye Marcia, a Certified Trauma Coach, author, and international speaker, to explore the power of reinvention and the importance of embracing joy and pleasure at any age. They discuss why so many women struggle to let go of old identities, how societal conditioning makes pleasure feel like a luxury rather than a necessity, and the ways self-betrayal keeps women from fully stepping into their desires. Monaye shares practical steps for releasing guilt...
Mar 25, 2025•40 min•Season 3Ep. 12
In this episode, Lisa and Kari sit down with Carin Luna-Ostaseski, founder of Hot or Just Me? , to have a candid and much-needed conversation about menopause and perimenopause —a phase of life that every woman experiences but is still surrounded by confusion and misinformation. From the physical, emotional, and relational shifts to advocating for yourself, talking to your doctor, maintaining intimacy, and finding real solutions , Carin shares expert insights and real talk to help women navigate ...
Mar 18, 2025•46 min•Season 3Ep. 11
This week, we’re bringing you Part Two of our fascinating conversation with Monica Lynne, AASECT-certified Sex and Relationship Therapist , on sensuality and sexual vibrancy through different life stages. Picking up where we left off, Monica dives into the 30s, 40s, and beyond , exploring how career demands, motherhood, shifting priorities, and changing bodies impact libido, intimacy, and connection. Whether you’re navigating midlife relationships, rediscovering yourself after years in long-term...
Mar 11, 2025•44 min
In this episode, Lisa and Kari sit down with Monica Lynne, AASECT-certified Sex and Relationship Therapist , for an open and insightful conversation about sensuality and sexual vibrancy through different life stages. Spoiler alert—it’s not about checking off milestones or fitting into stereotypes; it’s about knowing yourself, what you love, need, and want first, and embracing vulnerability and open communication, at any age . Monica breaks down how our desires and relationships evolve in our 20s...
Mar 04, 2025•45 min•Season 3Ep. 9
In this episode, Lisa and Kari dive into what it takes to raise boys who grow into confident, kind, and socially conscious men. They explore how what society sold as “traditional masculinity” discourages vulnerability, why avoiding conversations about race reinforces privilege, and how to help boys build deep, meaningful friendships that ultimately inspires empathy. Drawing from books like Better Boys, Better Men by Andrew Reiner, Raising White Kids by Jennifer Harvey, and Decoding Boys by Cara ...
Feb 25, 2025•56 min•Season 3Ep. 8
In this episode, Kari and Lisa explore the subtle difference between being self-critical—a constructive approach that fosters growth—and self-deprecating, which can erode confidence and self-worth. Drawing on insights from Esther Apoussidis, Vaishali Patel, Heather Jones, and Trudy Horsting, they examine how discomfort with praise, fear of appearing arrogant, and ingrained social norms can lead to habitual self-dismissal. Kari and Lisa discuss reframing negative self-talk, acknowledging complime...
Feb 18, 2025•45 min•Season 3Ep. 6
In this thought-provoking episode, Kari and Lisa delve into the contentious world of inclusion, exploring why initiatives aimed at fostering diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) have sparked significant backlash. Starting with the question, "Why is inclusion bad?" they examine divisive buzzwords, unpacking their origins and the reasons behind their polarizing nature. As the conversation unfolds, Kari and Lisa transition to discuss the profound importance of inclusion for all individuals, inclu...
Feb 11, 2025•1 hr 8 min•Season 3Ep. 6
In this episode, Kari and Lisa delve into the art of building friendships and creating meaningful community as adults—a challenge many face in a world that prioritizes productivity over genuine connection. Touching on the limits of our social circles and referencing work from experts, they explore why organic friendship opportunities dwindle with age, how busy schedules and fear of rejection can hinder new bonds, and why loneliness can be as harmful to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, acco...
Feb 04, 2025•45 min•Season 3Ep. 5
In this time of uncertainty people are clinging to what they feel certain about. Make sure what you are clinging to is actual facts not just what makes you feel good or what aligns with what you WANT to be true.
Feb 02, 2025•6 min
Join us for a deep dive into why “facts” feel more elusive than ever in our politically divided era. We’ll explore how memes, viral hashtags, and 24/7 partisan news have contributed to a world where echo chambers and filter bubbles are the norm. Using real examples—from “alternative facts” to late-night comedy bits—we’ll unpack how social media algorithms, mistrust in institutions, and identity-driven politics make it harder to find a shared reality. Along the way, we’ll look at ways to break th...
Jan 28, 2025•54 min•Season 3Ep. 4
Join us for this illuminating conversation with social entrepreneur and founder of The Agenda, Alyx Coble-Frakes. We dive into the often-overlooked power of cycle syncing—what it is, why it matters, and how it can help women at every life stage regain balance and vitality. Alyx breaks down practical steps for getting started, shares poignant breakthrough moments from her own journey, and explains how your rhythms can impact everything from productivity to well-being. We also explore some of the ...
Jan 21, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 3Ep. 1
Are we in the midst of a “Misogyny Renaissance”? This episode takes a closer look at old tropes—unbelievability, suspicion, backlash—roaring back. We dig into Blake Lively’s “We can bury her” allegations, Kate Beckinsale’s disturbing echoes of retaliation, and the House of Representatives now having no women chairing any committees for the first time in two decades. It’s a look at how quickly the backlash machine revs up—and what happens when women choose to speak up anyway. When women come toge...
Jan 14, 2025•45 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Join us for the launch of Season 3 as we raise a glass to the new year, explain why we’re calling this episode “Buckle Up,” and reveal why neither of us believe New Year’s resolutions actually work—but what we do find more effective. We’ll talk about practical ways to protect your mindset, cultivate genuine joy, and brace yourself for life’s unexpected turns. Plus, get a sneak peek at the fun things we have on the horizon to offset the existential dread many of us are feeling. If you’re ready to...
Jan 07, 2025•38 min•Season 3Ep. 1
Join us as we celebrate our 100th episode, raising a glass to the end of 2024, wrapping up Season Two, and looking ahead to new horizons. We take you back to how The Things We Know began—born from a spark of connection, a shared vision, and a desire to help women step into their next chapter with clarity and confidence. Listen in as we share wisdom gained through unexpected twists, the delight of audience feedback, and all that we’ve discovered along the way. We’ll also reveal plans for more way...
Dec 31, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 53
In this episode of The Things We Know , Lisa and Kari explore the concept of living life to the fullest. Inspired by Kari’s beloved nephew Stephen, who embraced a bold and curious approach to life, they discuss the concept of living life to the fullest, the barriers that hold us back—like fear, anger, and stress—AND how letting go can create space for joy, connection, and deeper meaning. They share personal reflections and practical ways to embrace the everyday moments that make life more enrich...
Dec 24, 2024•54 min•Season 2Ep. 52
Parenting adult children comes with its own joys and challenges: trusting them to navigate tough times, stepping back, letting them make their own mistakes.
Dec 19, 2024•36 sec•Season 2Ep. 51
In this episode, Kari and Lisa discuss loneliness, a feeling that often creeps in during the holiday season and winter months. They discuss how the feeling of loneliness often stems from disconnection—from ourselves, others, or what lights us up—and share practical ways to reframe it as an opportunity for growth and self-awareness. Flipping the script, they invite listeners to see loneliness as a chance to go deeper with themselves and find comfort or even amusement in unexpected places. Are you...
Dec 17, 2024•46 min•Season 2Ep. 50
In this episode, Kari and Lisa discuss loneliness, a feeling that often creeps in during the holiday season and winter months. They discuss how the feeling of loneliness often stems from disconnection—from ourselves, others, or what lights us up—and share practical ways to reframe it as an opportunity for growth and self-awareness. Flipping the script, they invite listeners to see loneliness as a chance to go deeper with themselves and find comfort or even amusement in unexpected places. Are you...
Dec 10, 2024•28 min
In this episode of The Things We Know , Lisa and Kari discuss the challenge of living more in our bodies instead of staying stuck in our heads. They explore how modern life—filled with distractions like phones and constant news—disconnects us from what we truly need. Drawing on personal experiences and insights from mindfulness practices, they share practical tips for cultivating awareness, grounding, and embodied living. This conversation invites listeners to reflect on where they “live” and to...
Dec 03, 2024•50 min
In this episode, Kari and Lisa explore the essential yet often tricky art of asking for what we want—and the equally challenging act of receiving it when it comes. They share personal insights and examples, including a client story that reveals how hesitation and self-doubt can lead us to downplay our own potential. Kari and Lisa discuss why we tend to soften our requests with apologies or qualifiers and offer practical tips for making confident, direct asks. They also dive into the mindset shif...
Nov 26, 2024•49 min
In this episode, Kari and Lisa dive into a deeply personal and universally relevant topic: the birthright "to need." They explore how this fundamental right to have our needs met is essential for building trust, safety, and connection, yet is often ignored or discouraged as we grow up. Together, they examine how many of us, particularly Gen Xers, received the message that needing something or asking for help was a sign of weakness. This sparked a lively discussion, as both Lisa and Kari reflect ...
Nov 19, 2024•44 min
Join Lisa and Kari as they reflect on the unforgettable moments from their recent "Best Chapter Yet" retreat in Chicago. They share highlights from the opening gathering’s candle-lit meditation to the powerful ritual of letting go, where participants embraced their authentic selves. From shared stories and spontaneous laughter to heartfelt realizations, Lisa and Kari discuss how the weekend created deep connections and renewed clarity among the women who attended. They also announce their next e...
Nov 12, 2024•42 min
In this raw, impromptu episode recorded just two days after the election, we’re not holding back. From sadness and fear to anger and utter bewilderment, we’re sharing our honest reactions to the results and what they mean to each of us personally. You’ll hear us wrestle with our disappointment and frustration – emotions we know many of you are feeling, too. But even in the intensity of this conversation, we find ourselves coming back to a place of openness. We may not have all the answers, but w...
Nov 08, 2024•42 min
Kari and Lisa are joined by the inspiring Rachel Madorsky—bestselling author, psychotherapist, and executive coach—whose work in helping women experience more love, ease, and wealth has touched countless lives. Rachel shares her journey and the power of self-love as a practice that can transform both inner and outer experiences. The conversation delves into her acclaimed book How to Love Yourself: In Less Than a Week and Also for the Rest of Your Life , exploring why love should be easy, the con...
Nov 05, 2024•47 min
In this episode of The Things We Know , Lisa and Kari dive into the crucial role of voting and why it’s feeling more important than ever. They discuss the power of individual votes in shaping policies and the impact of this upcoming election, including its historic potential and the pressing issues at stake, from reproductive rights to the climate crisis. Reflecting on personal motivations, they emphasize the importance of participation and the need for young voters to get involved. Addressing b...
Oct 29, 2024•56 min
In this episode of The Things We Know , Lisa and Kari reflect on the concept of choices and the metaphorical "road not taken," inspired by Robert Frost's famous poem. They discuss how their own lives—career shifts, raising grown kids, and personal growth—shape their understanding of life's crossroads. Emphasizing acceptance and finding peace with the present, they highlight that it’s never too late to explore new passions. With a touch of humor, they remind listeners that every choice leads us t...
Oct 22, 2024•36 min
In this episode, Kari and Lisa tackle the complexities of being part of the Sandwich Generation—those who find themselves caring for both their children and aging parents simultaneously. They dive deep into the emotional, physical, and financial strains that come with this dual caregiving role, offering insights on how to manage the stress, maintain balance, and seek support. With personal reflections, expert insights, and practical strategies, they explore how to navigate these challenges while...
Oct 15, 2024•56 min
In this episode of The Things We Know, Kari and Lisa explore the profound impact of rituals in their daily lives and coaching practices. They discuss how rituals, whether ancient or modern, provide structure, meaning, and emotional support during life’s transitions. The hosts delve into the historical and cultural significance of rituals, highlighting their role in spiritual practices and community building. They also examine the psychological benefits, sharing research that shows how daily ritu...
Oct 08, 2024•45 min
In this episode of The Things We Know, Kari and Lisa delve into the joys and challenges of learning something new. They explore how the process of acquiring new skills, whether it’s playing the guitar, learning a language, or cooking a new cuisine, can be both rewarding and humbling. The hosts discuss the science behind learning, emphasizing the role of neuroplasticity and the importance of lifelong learning for personal growth and mental sharpness. With practical tips, personal stories, and ins...
Oct 01, 2024•47 min
