Are you the go-to person in your family, always fixing, supporting, and listening — but feeling drained? In this episode, we’ll explore how to create boundaries without losing connection, and why boundaries are key to protecting your peace. I’ll share my own story of stepping out of the “family fixer” role, the pushback I faced, and the identity shift that came with it. You’ll learn practical ways to set emotional boundaries that honor both you and your relationships. It’s time to stop over-func...
Aug 19, 2025•23 min
I first met Candy when she interviewed me on her show, and now I have the pleasure of inviting her on to the Terri Cole Show! She’s an author, public speaker, and business expert who founded her first business before 21. She shares her very own story of creating the life she wanted from humble beginnings and offers some tips to build your financial literacy and help you create the life you want. Plus, she shares some common pitfalls entrepreneurs face and how you can avoid them! Read the show no...
Aug 16, 2025•41 min
Today I’m sharing a chat with Stephanie Chinn, an expert on female solidarity and therapeutic arts practice. If you’re always guilty when you spend time on something “unproductive” like art, especially bad art, Stephanie has an important PSA: It’s okay to make bad art. In fact, making bad art is productive. If you want to hear all about that, plus Stefanie’s own journey with addiction and body positivity, today’s episode is for you! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/747...
Aug 14, 2025•35 min
When you are upset, do you feel like you have to manage your emotions on your own? Maybe you don’t need to! These days, emotional self-regulation and co-regulation are hot topics. In today's episode, I'm gonna be breaking down what these terms really mean and taking a stand for the fact that we were really never meant to regulate alone. It's such a powerful process to be with other people and have the ability to co-regulate. Listen to today’s episode for examples of what that looks like and how ...
Aug 12, 2025•26 min
On today’s episode, I’m lucky to be sharing a chat with renowned feminist theologian Meggan Watterson. She shares the narrative of Thecla, a saint whose story was nearly erased from history, and describes how her story can inspire us to take back our own inherent spiritual authority. Tune in to uncover the transformative power you can claim when you know your own worth and reclaim your spiritual authority. Plus, how piety might look different for women than for men. Read the show notes for today...
Aug 09, 2025•37 min
On today’s episode, we’re diving deep into Amber Rae’s transformative journey. She’s a best-selling author and speaker who broke free from a marriage that was really a friendship and chose to face real vulnerability instead. We chat about the challenges and triumphs of choosing authenticity over being a good girl. Plus, we chat about her memoir, Loveable: A Memoir, One Woman's Path from Good to Free. I hope you enjoy listening to today’s discussion of self-discovery, intuition, and the power of ...
Aug 07, 2025•41 min
Are you only as good as your last huge accomplishment? I want you to pause for a moment and think about how you measure your worth. Do you find yourself in that relentless cycle of head-down, go-go-go energy, telling yourself you'll celebrate when you get the big thing done? When you land the promotion, finish the project, and reach the milestone that feels worthy enough of your attention? If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. And you're also missing out on something profound. On today’s ep...
Aug 05, 2025•25 min
On today’s episode, I’m so excited to share a chat with Orion Talmay! She shares her personal story: how an abusive relationship shaped her life trajectory and propelled her to her current calling. Plus, she gives some tips for mirror work, inner child work, and manifesting that you can use yourself. We finished the show with some thoughts on the path to self-acceptance and self-love that I really think everybody needs to hear. I hope you enjoy today’s episode with Orion as much as I enjoyed int...
Aug 02, 2025•39 min
On today’s episode, I’m sharing an insightful conversation with Vanessa Bennett, a licensed depth psychologist and co-author of It's Not Me, It's You. Together, we delve into the complexities of codependency and relationship dynamics, exploring how societal norms shape our understanding of love and attachment. Vanessa shares her journey from advertising to therapy and how she learned to value authenticity over attachment in relationships. Plus, how triggers can be opportunities for growth and wh...
Jul 31, 2025•37 min
"I'll start dating as soon as I lose those 10 pounds." "I can't go to that event until I find the perfect outfit." "I'll put myself out there when I feel more confident, more ready." Do any of these sound familiar? That little whisper in the back of your head that seems so reasonable, almost protective? I want you to sit with this for a moment: underneath that whisper is a belief that where you are right now, exactly as you are, is not good enough. That unless you present some flawless version o...
Jul 29, 2025•26 min
I felt so lucky to record this episode! On today’s show, I had my first chance to host world-renowned fitness and nutrition expert JJ Virgin. She’s been at the top of the wellness space longer than practically anyone else, and today she’s using her expertise to teach us how to age powerfully. I always say that we don’t get to choose whether we age, but we do get to choose how we age. If you choose to age without losing your strength and ability, then this episode is for you! Read the show notes ...
Jul 24, 2025•45 min
Have you been going through life confused about why the people you trust always seem to let you down? Or do you avoid trusting anyone because you aren’t sure who deserves it? You might have learned disordered trust patterns from your family of origin. On today’s episode, I’m sharing some strategies for identifying patterns that don’t serve you and getting clarity on who deserves a space in the front row of your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/738...
Jul 22, 2025•24 min
I'm so excited to have Tim Chantarangsu on the show to talk about life as a comedian, being one of the OG content creators (he started *before* YouTube was a thing), family, food, and being a father. I met Tim on the set of Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon and was immediately drawn to how insightful and humorous he was. I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/737
Jul 17, 2025•32 min
Do you catch yourself saying… I don’t want them to think… I don’t want them to feel… I don’t want to seem difficult… I don’t want to hurt their feelings… If so, this episode is for you because it’s about becoming a boundary boss without guilt. When we say, “I don’t want them to think,” or “I just wanted to be nice,” we’re self-abandoning and not setting boundaries we need to set. It’s time to change that! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/736...
Jul 15, 2025•22 min
I'm thrilled to welcome my close pal, Jennifer Pastiloff, back to the show to celebrate the release of her new book, Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life. It's a call to arms to stop self-abandoning and no longer wait for permission, which I think is perfect for this community. ❤️ Jen has such a unique voice and wonderful sense of humor, and in this girlfriend jam, we talk about shame loss, Jen's inspiration for the subtitle, and how she is really li...
Jul 10, 2025•36 min
Do you find yourself saying "I don't want to hurt their feelings" while completely abandoning your own needs? You think you're being nice, but you're actually training people to ignore what matters to you—because you're ignoring it first. In this episode, I break down the hidden cost of people-pleasing and why "being nice" is often just self-abandonment dressed up as politeness. I go over the 5 core types of boundaries (physical, emotional, mental, material, and energetic) and shares exactly wha...
Jul 08, 2025•23 min
I am so excited to have dating coach and podcast host Sabrina Zohar on the show to talk about dating, relational issues, and what a secure, emotionally safe relationship looks like. Sabrina shares the work that she did to get out of unhealthy relational patterns, how she navigates her relationship with her narcissistic father, what her and her partner do to make each other feel safe and secure, how she sets boundaries with difficult people, and so much more. 🔥 I hope you enjoy this conversation...
Jul 03, 2025•37 min
Do you say yes when you want to say no? Do you do more emotional labor in nearly all of your relationships? Are you the one everyone counts on, while no one is there for you? (Maybe you don’t even allow people to be there for you?) If any of this sounds familiar, this episode is for you. I had many requests to do another episode on people-pleasing, so let’s cover how people-pleasing and self-abandonment are survival mechanisms, the cost of these behaviors to us and our relationships, and how we ...
Jul 01, 2025•22 min
I'm so excited to have a new pal, Alana Carvalho, a licensed mental health counselor, on the show to talk about two topics we're both passionate about: codependency and perfectionism! We talk about why these two things go together, our experiences of being in recovery from both, what inspired Alana to create The Codependent Perfectionist brand, how to ease up on perfectionism and codependent behaviors, and so much more. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did! Read the show notes for ...
Jun 26, 2025•35 min
Do you notice micro changes in people’s facial expressions and ask yourself, “What did I do wrong?” Are you able to sit with someone in pain without trying to fix them? Are you so emotionally attuned to everything and everyone that you feel exhausted? If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not broken; you just lack the skills (boundaries!) needed to embrace your superpower (being an empath). You can care, love, and feel deeply without losing yourself in someone’s pain, which is what I’m talking ...
Jun 24, 2025•24 min
I am thrilled to have Shannon Watts, author and founder of Moms Demand Action, on the show to talk about her new book, Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark Into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age. I was definitely fired up and inspired by what Shannon had to share, and I think you will be, too. If you've been going through life on autopilot (as many high-functioning codependents do), feel like something is missing, or like you've been playing it small and it's time to stop and do something different,...
Jun 19, 2025•41 min
Every close relationship hits turbulence at some point. Conflict is inevitable. That’s why the real magic of secure, emotionally mature relationships isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about having the tools to come back together and repair. Repair requires us to be proactive because the work needs to begin long before it is actually needed. You can’t build a bridge in the middle of a storm (aka, a conflict). Having the ability to repair after disconnection or disagreements is everything. In th...
Jun 17, 2025•22 min
Sometimes, it helps to laugh at life’s problems– Even the real ones. If you could use some help in finding humor in today’s current events, Angie is your gal! Today I’m sharing a relaxed chat with Angie “Pumps” Sullivan, co-author of Life is a Lazy Susan of Shit Sandwiches and co-host of the podcast I’ve Had It. Somehow, the conversation feels light even as we delve into the reality of mourning dreams and expectations, being a role model for your children, and speaking up to yourself without bei...
Jun 14, 2025•35 min
I am so excited to have Dr. Sara Reardon, aka The Vag Whisperer, on the show today to give us the basics when it comes to pelvic floor health. Why? Because the condition of our pelvic floor impacts so many different systems of our body and it changes throughout our life, especially in perimenopause and menopause. During our conversation, Sara breaks everything down in an accessible way and shares easy tips you can use to begin working on your pelvic floor. If you want more info, be sure to grab ...
Jun 12, 2025•38 min
Did you know that 1 in 4 children in the US grows up without a father? Or that 80% of single-parent homes are led by mothers? These statistics may not come as a surprise, but what we don’t talk about are the millions of other kids who may have dads who are physically present but emotionally absent. Dads who are abusive, addicted, sporadic, neglectful, or narcissistic. As Father’s Day approaches, I wanted to explore how father wounds can impact our relationships, self-worth, and overall success. ...
Jun 10, 2025•23 min
Today I’m so excited to welcome Rha Goddess to The Terri Cole Show! She shares what she’s learned on her journey, from her origin story rooted in civil rights and hip hop to the personal awakening that led her to redefine ambition and success for herself. Plus, why now was the time to write her book Intentional Ambition and her own personal boundary struggles. Listen for everything you need to do life with more joy, freedom, fulfillment, and courage. Read the show notes for today's episode at te...
Jun 07, 2025•42 min
I am so thrilled to have my friends and hosts of the popular Almost 30 podcast, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, on the show to talk about their new book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond. If you're going through any sort of transition, I think you'll love it, because the big theme of our conversation is how to weather the storm of transitions. Lindsey and Krista offer the perfect blend of wisdom and curiosity in sharing their stories about quest...
Jun 05, 2025•38 min
Does everyone come to you when there’s a problem because you’re known for giving the best advice or being good in a crisis? Do you intervene in family members’ situations before they even ask for help? Do you feel anxious or guilty when others struggle? Do you rush to smooth things over? Or do you subconsciously look for people to save? The broken-winged birds? These are all signs you might have a savior complex. If you’re exhausted from playing this role, you’re in the right place. I’ll walk yo...
Jun 03, 2025•22 min
Are you a highly capable and successful woman who feels lost when it comes to love and attracting an equal partner? Does it feel like love is the only area of your life you're *not* an expert in? Then tune into this episode with my pal Sami Wunder because Sami's expertise is in helping high-achieving women find lasting love. We talked about what Sami learned about love from her parents, her dating struggles, the ultimate boundary she set when dating, masculine and feminine energy, not trying to ...
May 29, 2025•40 min
Are you expressing anger in unexpected ways? Maybe you’ve been way more aggressive toward undeserving folks, inanimate objects, or fellow drivers because it feels safer or is the only way to express the anger you’re feeling with all the unrest in the world. Or maybe you’re guilty of spending hours thinking of the perfect comeback to a snide comment left on a social media post. With all of the global divisiveness we’re experiencing, and it being the end of Mental Health Awareness Month, I wanted ...
May 27, 2025•23 min
