I am so excited to have my new pal, couples therapist and author Dené Logan, on the show to talk about her new book, Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within. There's a lot of misunderstanding when it comes to the masculine and feminine, and Dené does an amazing job of breaking this concept down. We also shared our experiences with codependency in relationships and the importance of taking responsibility for our part in things (which includ...
May 22, 2025•32 min
Do you ever wonder when it’s appropriate to set a boundary? Or do you wish you knew what boundaries to set? Maybe unhealthy behavior was normalized in your family of origin, making it difficult to know when a request is “reasonable.” If so, this episode is for you. It’s the second in a two-part series about boundaries and high-functioning codependency (HFC). In this one, we’re covering the five types of boundaries, three boundary styles, and tips for when to set a boundary and how to do it. You ...
May 20, 2025•22 min
I am so excited to have Selena Soo, my pal and publicity & marketing strategist, on the show to talk about her new book, Rich Relationships: Create a Million Dollar Network For Your Small Business . These tips apply to ALL our relationships, too! Selena was the person I turned to in the very beginning stages of my online business, and her advice changed the way I looked at building professional relationships. I can't wait for you to hear her wisdom and start applying it! She shared the 5 typ...
May 15, 2025•36 min
Do you struggle with setting boundaries because it feels selfish or wrong to put your preferences or needs first? Do you inadvertently trample on other people’s boundaries? (Hyper-helping, auto-advice giving, etc.) Or are you a newly identified high-functioning codependent (HFC) wondering why it’s especially tough to set boundaries? Then you’re in the right place. In this episode, I am breaking down why it’s challenging to set, stick to, and respect other people’s boundaries, particularly as HFC...
May 13, 2025•22 min
I'm so happy to have my pal Michelle Chalfant on the show to celebrate her new book, The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life! Michelle has been a therapist and life coach for the last 25 years and this book is the culmination of her work and experience with both her clients and herself. The Adult Chair model is an amazing way to cultivate self-knowledge throughout all phases of development and become more authentically you and who you want to be. We talked about w...
May 08, 2025•36 min
Are you a nice person? Do you think it’s possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict? In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it’s not great for your relationships. In this episode, we’ll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and how to shift your behavior to authentic niceness. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricol...
May 06, 2025•22 min
I'm so psyched to welcome lawyer, author, and communication expert Jefferson Fisher to the show to talk about his book, The Next Conversation. Many of you likely know Jefferson from social media, and for good reason- he teaches effective communication in an extremely accessible way. It's why I love his work and invited him to the show. During our conversation, Jefferson shared the many ways his parents influenced his communication skills and style, the lessons he learned from them, as well as wh...
May 01, 2025•38 min
Recently I held an interactive workshop that went too well not to share with you guys. So for today’s episode, I’m uploading a special treat: The full 90-minute workshop recording! In it, I give a rundown on over-functioning archetypes, the costs of high-functioning codependency, and the pillars of boundary mastery– Plus, I answer all your boundary-setting questions. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed being there with all of you! Read the show notes for today's episode at terrico...
Apr 29, 2025•1 hr 29 min
I'm so excited to have Dr. Jessica Zucker, author of I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement , on the show to talk about her new book, NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives . We talked about "the cult of shame" that women are indoctrinated into, from getting your period, to having a miscarriage, to going into perimenopause or menopause: all the things we're not 'supposed' to talk about as women! I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did and ar...
Apr 26, 2025•39 min
I'm so happy to have Amber Salisbury on the show for an inspiring conversation that you might want to listen to with a cup of coffee in hand! Amber and her husband Andrew founded Purity Coffee in 2016 with the goal of creating healthy coffee you can feel good about drinking, and Amber has also founded Sacred Cups to honor rituals around coffee. She shares a ritual with us later in the conversation and also how her many varied life experiences brought her here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I di...
Apr 24, 2025•44 min
How manipulatable are you? When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not? If not, or you’ve never heard of FOG, you’re in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I’m breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from my therapy practice to help you become less susceptible. Note: the purpose of this episode is to educ...
Apr 22, 2025•23 min
I am so excited to have podcaster, actor, and author Amy Wilson on the show to talk about her newest book, Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser. I felt seen by Amy's essays and reflections, and I think you will, too. We talked about so much– Amy's early introduction to putting others first by caring for her younger siblings, why modern productivity advice often just makes us feel bad, Amy's views on perfectionism, saying no and feeling scared, the freedom in saying "it's not for me," an...
Apr 17, 2025•35 min
Have you ever wondered whether you feel drained because of what you’re tolerating in life? Whether it’s a cluttered office space, messy car, side table overflowing with paperwork, or something bigger like a one-sided relationship or ineffective communication with your partner, what you’re putting up with could be exhausting you more than you think. So…what are you consistently putting up with that gets on your nerves or depletes you? In this episode, we’re looking at what we’re tolerating in lif...
Apr 15, 2025•20 min
Today I’m so excited to have my friend, money expert Kate Northrup, on the show again. We chat about the relatively new relationship that women have with money, common blocks women have around money, and how you can improve your relationship with your finances. Plus: How creating a feeling of safety in your body can help you make smarter money choices! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/706
Apr 10, 2025•35 min
How curious are you? Are you as curious as you used to be in your 20s when you were having new experiences more often? Or have you become complacent with curiosity or too busy to cultivate it? It recently struck me how important curiosity is to me. My husband, Vic, is the most curious person I know, and my friends are often original thinkers who enjoy questioning conventional wisdom, which I love. Stoking curiosity also makes life more juicy and satisfying, which is why this episode is all about...
Apr 08, 2025•23 min
I am SO excited to welcome bestselling author and counseling psychologist, Gay Hendricks, to the show to talk about themes from two of his books, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving. Gay has been a huge inspiration for me personally and professionally, and he makes psychological concepts easy to understand. We talk about upper limit problems (self-sabotage) first, and then move into how to create epic relationships. Throughout the conversation, Gay shares invaluable wisdom from his own life. I hop...
Apr 03, 2025•52 min
Do you get offended if a date doesn’t immediately get back to you? How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don’t? When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their annoyance is directed at you? Or do you cut others slack in these situations, rather than take it personally? In this episode, I’m sharing what the research says are the four dimensions of the tendency for interpersonal victimhood, breaking down the difference betwee...
Apr 01, 2025•24 min
I am so excited to have my pal, award-winning journalist and menopause advocate, Tamsen Fadal, back on the show to celebrate her new book How To Menopause, which I had the honor of contributing to! It has been amazing to watch Tamsen step into being a midlife mentor. She is truly leading the menopause movement we desperately need and I am here for it. I don't know about you, but it wasn't fun going through perimenopause and menopause with next to zero knowledge and no one publicly talking about ...
Mar 29, 2025•37 min
I am so excited to have Breeshia Wade, author of Grieving While Black: An Antiracist Take on Oppression and Sorrow, on the show to talk about fear of future loss and Elemental Grief™. She explains some ideas from the book: The way that fear of future loss has shaped society, and the responsibility that majority groups have to attend to their own feelings of fear so that they do not project those feelings onto members of oppressed minorities. Breeshia also shares her experience attending Stanford...
Mar 27, 2025•38 min
Does it often feel like life is a grind of checking off endless to-do lists, where you barely have a moment for yourself? The emphasis on hustle culture in society has conditioned many of us to believe that rest and reward must be earned through hard work. It’s no wonder "little treat culture," a trend on social media that encourages us to use small rewards to stay motivated, is exploding in popularity. As a little treat gal for many years, I want to talk about the power of motivating yourself b...
Mar 25, 2025•23 min
I am so excited to have one of my best friends on the show, Sabrina Soto. You may know her from HGTV, and she's here to celebrate some amazing news: the debut of The Sabrina Soto Show! (I'm a guest on one of the episodes 🙌) This is an inspiring and feel-good episode you don't want to miss. You’re a fly on the wall for this girlfriend jam– We share our experiences with empowering ourselves with boundaries to end high-functioning codependency, why how we talk to ourselves matters, and how Sabrina...
Mar 20, 2025•38 min
Have you ever lost someone close to you? Or do you worry about the people you love dying? Death and dying have been on my mind a lot because I recently lost a close friend of mine. Knowing that she was going to die brought up a desire to explore and talk about death and dying. Whether you’re actively dealing with this or anticipating it, I hope sharing my experience and what I’ve learned will help you feel more prepared. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/698...
Mar 18, 2025•24 min
On today’s episode, I’ve invited Diego Perez (pen name Yung Pueblo) on to celebrate his newest book, How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion. We talk all about how to form better connections with everyone you love: How to meet conflict with teamwork, how mindfulness can help you respond rather than reacting, and making space to listen to others when they are overwhelmed with emotion rather than matching their energy. Plus, Diego shares his origi...
Mar 13, 2025•33 min
Have you heard the term erotic intelligence before? If you haven’t, does it sound like it’s all about sex? Before attending a transformative retreat with Esther Perel and Paul Browde, that’s kind of what I thought. Talk about confronting! I had agreed to attend with a friend after her husband dropped out, without knowing the details, because it was in Costa Rica and who would say no to that? I was surprised to learn erotic intelligence is actually about feeling alive and energized in your life, ...
Mar 11, 2025•25 min
Becoming a mother at 18 turned Heather from a self-described under-achiever into a high-functioning codependent. Receiving a stage 4 cancer diagnosis at 28 was the wake-up call that reminded her to live for herself. Heather shares her story, tells how she learned the role of internal resistance in positive change, and gives you tips that will help you take back control when you feel like you just don’t have enough time. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/695...
Mar 06, 2025•41 min
How are you actually doing in this turbulent world we're living in right now? If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or ungrounded, you're not alone. The constant barrage of negative news, social media alerts, and global uncertainty can take a serious toll on our mental and emotional well-being. The good news? You are more resilient than you think. But being proactive about protecting your peace isn't just nice to have – it's essential for navigating these challenging times. In this week's epis...
Mar 04, 2025•25 min
Today I’m sharing a chat with Karena Dawn, a second-time guest on the show! Since we spoke last, she’s been hard at work writing as well as continuing to develop a platform around wellness and mental health awareness. We chat about her new memoir The Big Silence, in which she shares the story of how she and her family coped with her mother’s schizophrenia during a time when people struggled to discuss mental health openly. Plus, she tells us the secret to building a successful community which ca...
Feb 27, 2025•30 min
Are you in a relationship with a high-functioning codependent (HFC)? Are both you and your partner HFCs? In my experience, HFCs tend to flock together. Many of my friends identify as HFCs, and my husband is also an HFC. Some of you have asked how to navigate relationships with fellow HFCs, especially as you get into recovery and become more aware of (and perhaps annoyed by) their behavior. If you can relate, this episode is for you because I’m talking about the dynamics of high-functioning codep...
Feb 25, 2025•24 min
Today’s guest has brought optimism and mindfulness to the interior design and DIY space like nobody else I know! I chat with Meaghan about how she got into decorating, writing, and editing– and how she maintains the pragmatic, positive mindset that helps her navigate her success. Plus: How parenting can offer special challenges and lessons for high-functioning codependents like Meaghan and I. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/691...
Feb 20, 2025•35 min
Is flaking - canceling at the last second - the new self-care? It seems to be on the rise and according to an article in The Guardian , the answer for some people is yes. I disagree. Flaking is avoidable with healthy boundaries and self-knowledge, and there are many self-care practices we can do that don’t involve regularly canceling on others. In this episode, I share my thoughts on flaking, explore the nuances of having the right to change our minds (which I stand by), and detail steps to take...
Feb 18, 2025•26 min
