Do you feel lonely as a single person? Or do you avoid being single because you dread the loneliness that will follow? In this week's podcast episode, in support of the Mental Health Foundation's Tackling Loneliness campaign for Mental Health Awareness week , I share how to stop feeling lonely when you're single, giving you knowledge and understanding of where some of your loneliness might stem from and how I, and other singles, have experienced loneliness and how they have managed and expressed...
May 12, 2022•28 min
Many of us struggle to love and accept ourselves, especially when we're single and are met with a stream of rejections through dating, or just not feeling "good enough" because we aren't coupled up. It's easy to feel like we don't deserve love when we don't unconditionally love or accept ourselves, and this week, self-love and happiness coach, Rosie Leach, is here to share her story of relationships and single-hood, and her best advice for you on your self-love journey. Rosie talks about going f...
May 05, 2022•50 min
You’re happy to accept that dating is a numbers game. You’ll put the effort into swiping, starting conversations and making small talk - as much as you hate it - to whittle it down to a few successful people. You go on a few first dates, but yet again, those first dates aren’t turning into second dates all that often… It took me six more months to get another second date. And I’m my 2.5-year entirety of dating, I’ve only ever had 5 second dates. So why are 2nd dates so hard to get? Listen in to ...
Apr 29, 2022•25 min
"But don't you want to get married and have kids?" It's the assumed goal that all women should apparently be striving for, but for the women that don't have those strong motherly urges, who aren't sure that they want children and feel they have to keep it a secret, this episode is for you. From Chantelle's own perspective of being unsure of children and leaning towards a "no", she looks to open up the conversation around choosing to be child-free, and how you can still have an influence and impa...
Apr 21, 2022•28 min
Solo travel HAS to become a part of your single life. It's nice to go away with friends and groups, but sometimes it can be more hassle than it's worth to organise. And that's if you can get people to commit to going in the first place. It might seem big and scary to be taking a trip on your own. But if you've managed to get past the idea of going on a trip with a group and are finally read to brave a solo trip, here are three questions to ask yourself before planning your first trip! Like the s...
Apr 14, 2022•24 min
Three months have already gone by in the year 2022! You've probably been busy with work, friends and family, but right now is a great time to reflect on how much fun you're enjoying as a single person. Are you having a good time enjoying your single life? It's time to stop daydreaming and make it happen. By checking in with your 2022 goals, you can see how far you've come or what still needs to be done. It's never too late to change the things that need changing or add the things that will make ...
Apr 07, 2022•24 min
Have you ever been in a situation where someone is just "flirting" with you, but never actually meeting up? You may have been breadcrumbed. In this podcast, I explore what breadcrumbing is, why people may engage in it, and what you can do if you've been breadcrumbed. In this episode, Chantelle discusses the popular dating trend called "breadcrumbing" - how it can be used in dating and how it can be hurtful to your dating life. What the hell is "breadcrumbing" and how do I avoid it? Like the show...
Mar 31, 2022•24 min
It's no secret that single life can suck. Between the endless dating apps, the slew of first dates, and the never-ending quest for "the one," it sometimes feels like singledom is a lonely wasteland. But why is it that so many of us hate being single? Chantelle discusses some of those frustrations around being single, and what you can do about the challenges of single life. Expect to shift your mindset to seeing life for the freedom and time of doing whatever you want, and going wherever you want...
Mar 24, 2022•33 min
If you're feeling frustrated with love, don't worry - you're not alone. From the moment we watched Disney movies as a child, our expectations of love became set. The adoration of love in the look of another's eyes, the big romantic gestures, and the love conquers all narrative. But love isn't like the movies. Relationships are complex. People argue, get mad at each other, and go through tough times together. Instead of ending at Happily Ever After, Chantelle discusses our expectations around lov...
Mar 17, 2022•24 min
Every millennial has felt the pressure to keep going, to stick it through to the end. In this success-focussed, "must get be seen to be doing well" world, quitting can be seen as a negative. As a millennial, you might feel you have to follow suit, get your head down and follow the path we committed ourselves to at 18. Whether it's a relationship, a job, a project that you're invested in, there are times when quitting the right thing to do. If you're unhappy in your situation, or don't see your f...
Mar 11, 2022•29 min
Being single has its perks. You can do what you want, when you want, without having to answer to anyone. But while this sense of freedom is enticing at first, it can quickly become lonely and daunting if you try to do everything on your own. This is especially true when it comes to certain tasks or activities that are easier (and more fun) when done in pairs or groups. This week, Chantelle talks through three reasons why you should make time for others in your single life, even if you still want...
Mar 04, 2022•24 min
Do you ever feel the optimism of dating in the early weeks to find that you're freaking out about the fact they might leave? Or maybe it seems like a good idea to start dating in the beginning, but the more serious it gets, the more worried you become about commitment? Attachment Theory, the psychological theory developed by John Bowlby in the 1940s, could be the reason behind it. And as single ladies navigating the dating world, it's worth knowing our own attachment styles as well as the attach...
Feb 25, 2022•25 min
Single people are often made to feel like they're broken or missing out on life. The reality is that being single can be a healthy and fulfilling state. Single doesn't have to mean lonely and being in a relationship doesn't mean you don't have to look out for your mental health. Making sure you look after your mental health as a single is about creating the support around you so that you can get through the challenging times. When you are feeling sad or low and need to look after yourself, with ...
Feb 17, 2022•26 min
Divorce. A word that no one wants to utter and certainly not as early as their 20s. But I have and did, and I'm here to talk about the experience of dealing with divorce at that time and how it has been now the separation has been for 2.5 years. We don't need to be ashamed of being divorced, we can lean into it and see it as part of our journey. Like the show? I'd love to hear your review here! - Just a few words can make all the difference! ------------- If this show is helpful to you, consider...
Feb 10, 2022•33 min
Being single on Valentine's Day can be hard, but it doesn't have to be. Whe you're surrounded by couples and love and it's the last thing you're thinking about whilst you're navigating your single life, you're just hoping it'll be over and done with! In this video, I talk about how to tackle Valentine's Day and the approach you can take to make it through as a single. Like the show? I'd love to hear your review here! - Just a few words can make all the difference! ------------- If this show is h...
Feb 03, 2022•24 min
If you're still in your 20s, you might be feeling as though you MUST get into a relationship. But being single in your 20s can be the most exciting time of your life! It's a chance to find yourself, have ultimate freedom. Time isn't running out! Time is there for you to have a good time,to do whatever you want, whenever you want. Chantelle's talks about the extended reasons as to why you shouldn't rush to be in a relationship and why single life is the best state for your 20s! Like the show? I'd...
Jan 27, 2022•28 min
Following the recent media coverage of Molly-Mae Hague's comments of "we all have the same 24 hours in a day", the topic of privilege has been brought to the forefront again. Taking many forms, privilege occurs in race, class, ability, wealth and one of the most obvious to single women, gender. As a single woman, it's important to be mindful of the privileges you have and how they affect your relationships with others. While single women still face many social stigmas and stereotypes about being...
Jan 20, 2022•29 min
You are a single, independent woman. You live on your own terms and you do what feels right for you - because that’s who you are. You're a go-getter and you're ready to absolutely smash 2022. But a coulple of weeks into January, you may be finding that you're starting to cut corners here and there as you lose the #thatgirl energy you were originally channelling. Chantelle has three practical tips to save you from slipping in your single life so that you can make 2022 the year of you and go after...
Jan 13, 2022•28 min
You want to be a single, independent woman. You want to live on your own terms and do what feels right for you - because that’s who you are. But how do you settle on that identity? How do you approach becoming that single, independent woman? And how do you get past the doubt and questioning of others? Listen to this episode as Chantelle shares insight into how knowing your values can help you stay confident, happy, and independent throughout your life. Discovering your values is part of the 1:1 ...
Jan 06, 2022•27 min
In this week's episode, Chantelle shares the framework to making the most of single life in 2022. It's easy to get fixated on where we aren't yet, when we have so much opportunity to make the most of single life now. Celebrating the wins of 2021, and focussing ahead at the celebrations to come in 2022, allows you to focus on your best bits without letting the challenges bring you down. You can try this 3 C framework as a way of celebrating your single life and making the most of 2022, the year o...
Dec 30, 2021•25 min
For the single girls of 2021, it’s been a challenge and a half to get through the year. Starting with a UK lockdown, dating for singles has been limited and for the women living alone, there’s been another element to contend with. But 2021 isn’t all bad. For every down, there is an up, and whilst COVID has been ongoing, Chantelle hasn’t let that pull down the single women of the world. With the start of The Single Girl’s Club, 2021 brought connection and friendship to the forefront and a communi...
Dec 23, 2021•28 min
What do you tell yourself each and every day about your single life? Do you tell yourself you’re unloveable and that it’s never going to happen for you? Do you wonder if you’ll be lonely forever? Do you worry shout what will or won’t happen These are all valid thoughts and feelings, particularly when we want something that we can’t control the outcome of. But it’s also a burden to us emotionally to wake up every day with a pessimism that can affect the rest of our lives. In today’s episode, Chan...
Dec 16, 2021•22 min
New Year’s Resolutions are no joke. Sure, you can commit to a diet or an exercise routine. But what about creating a new habit? What habits should you make a priority in the New Year? The most successful people on the planet all have one thing in common: they create habits that will help them achieve their goals. It's not about eating right and exercising for a couple of weeks – it's about developing lasting changes that will stick with you forever. If you're ready to take your life to the next ...
Dec 16, 2021•30 min
Are you #TeamSummer or #TeamTom? Back in 2009, you might’ve found yourself hating Summer for what she did to Tom in the classic “this is not a love story” of 500 Days of Summer. Tom desperately wants to be with Summer but whilst she’s happy to spend time with him, she’s not all too keen on a relationship. And this makes the film a perfect discussion point for lessons to be learned when being single and navigating the dating world. From attachment styles, to clear communication, Chantelle discuss...
Dec 09, 2021•31 min
It’s easy to think negatively of single life. To compare yourself to others in relationships, feel like it’s never going to happen for you and feel sad and deflated by it. But there’s a truth to changing your thoughts changing your reality. Our minds are powerful things and our brains can’t tell the difference between the truth and what we make up. If you continue to tell yourself you’re sad about being single, you’ll believe it. The same goes for if you repeat thoughts on how unloveable you are...
Nov 25, 2021•31 min
There's only six weeks left of 2021, so it's time to start thinking about how you can make 2022 the year of YOU. The New Year is a time to reflect on the past and plan for the future. This year, why not focus your energy on yourself? As we enter into a new year it can be easy to set goals but more often than not they don't last long. In this episode, I set you off with starting to think about 2022. What it is you want, and how these past few years have been. It's time to move past the pandemic o...
Nov 18, 2021•22 min
Break ups are never easy, but it's how you get over your ex that really determines what type of person you are. It can be hard to deal with feelings of doubt and insecurity that come after a romantic relationship has ended, when your hopes and dreams are shattered into a million pieces. Your mind is in a state of confusion, unable to understand why the person who was so dear to your heart left without telling you anything. You feel like dying because you don't know how to go on living without th...
Nov 11, 2021•27 min
Being single at Christmas can SUCK. If you're worried about being alone at Christmas or having to deal with the same old questions from distant family members about "how your love life is going?", then you'll want to listen to this episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life. Christmas day is just as much your day to enjoy as anyone else's. If you want to spend Christmas differently now that you're single and free, then do it your way and make the most of it! You might not be single forever and t...
Nov 04, 2021•32 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Why is it so difficult to tell somebody "no"? Whether you squirm at the thought of it or just think you say it too bluntly, saying "no" is a necessary part of our lives, and particualrly so when you have to stand up for yourself when you're single. In this week’s episode of The Single Girl’s Guide to Life, Chantelle discusses why you HAVE to learn to say no and some strategies for building your confidence doing so. Whether it’s saying no to taking on more work, or no to a social invite, it’s tim...
Oct 28, 2021•26 min•Season 1Ep. 17
You've heard of a mid-life crisis, but have you heard of a quarter-life crisis? Well it is truly a THING! After going through my own life change through divorce, moving back home to live with my parents, it was clear I was experiencing a Quarter Life crisis. But I didn't know it at the time. Whether you're going through a quarter-life crisis now or reflecting on the time in your life that you might've been, this episode of The Single Girl's Guide to life discusses some of the defining features o...
Oct 21, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 16
