----- RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com - Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach - Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark. ----- Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here! ------ life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely,...
Apr 03, 2025•23 min
Feeling lonely? Ironically, you’re not alone (ironically). But here’s the thing... loneliness can make you a magnet for the wrong people! The ones who don’t have your best interests at heart. The ones who seem too good to be true at first… ... because they are! In this episode, I'll be talking about how certain types of people sniff out loneliness and use it to their advantage. If you’ve ever found yourself swept up in something that felt amazing at first but later left you drained, confused, or...
Mar 27, 2025•26 min
We’re always told that success = happiness. More money, more freedom, more security… right? But what if that’s not actually true? In this episode, we dive into a shocking revelation from YouTube giant MrBeast, who admitted on Diary of a CEO that he feels more unhappy than happy - despite having a billion-dollar empire, insane levels of success, and even a recent engagement. If someone who seemingly has it all still struggles with happiness, what does that mean for the rest of us? So today, I'm e...
Mar 20, 2025•27 min
One of the biggest fears I had about getting into a relationship was losing my independence. I’ve spent years building a life I love - my own space, my own routine, my own decisions. And yet, society makes it seem like true commitment means merging your entire life with someone else. Moving in together, sharing everything, and eventually ticking off the next milestones like marriage and kids. But what if you don’t want to rush that? What if you love your independence but still want a strong, com...
Mar 13, 2025•22 min
If you're anything like me, you pride yourself on being a strong, independent millennial. One that can take care of themselves, works hard, and has set their life up to work for them. And when it comes to dating, of course you take that with you. But during my time, articles I read and commentary online started to suggest that being this strong, independent character could put people off, and might be reducing my chances of finding a gentlemen. So on today's episode, I'm bringing what I think ab...
Mar 06, 2025•21 min
If there's one thing that comes into question in the current state of the world, it's how to remain a truly strong, independent woman in a cost of living crisis. If you live on your own, you entirely rely on yourself - which is great... until a crisis makes everything cost that little bit more. There isn't the security of leaning on another half like couples do. And you still have to take the bins out yourself every week! So whilst I can't help with the latter, I've put together my best approach...
Feb 27, 2025•30 min
Solo adventures are one of my favourites - and going to the theatre alone is just one version of that. And just last week, Kate Maltby's article " Adopting a 'no seat should be left lonely' policy stigmatises solo theatregoing " in The Stage caught my eye - and I wanted to wade in on the conversation. Whether it's theatre and cinema going, or the solo person council tax discount, I wanted to reflect on the frustrations of solo adventures, the challenges posed by policies and how we can keep lovi...
Feb 20, 2025•23 min
Have you ever felt the pressure to DO something on Valentine's Day (even as a single?) Whether it's treating yourself to a bath, going on a solo dinner date, or writing yet another self-love list, as I make my return to The Single Spark, I promise to unpack the problem with carrying out these token gestures on what can be a really difficult day if ou're single! Rather than doing something that might be "a bit nice", something that doesn't actually help with the fomo of not being with someone on ...
Feb 13, 2025•27 min
----- RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com - Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach - Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark. ----- Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here! ------ life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely,...
Oct 03, 2024•21 min
For some if us, the idea of a relationship would be the gamechanger. If I just had a partner, I'd have someone to go as my plus one with me. If I was in a relationship, I'd be able to go on holiday with someone. If I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't be lonely. If I was married, I'd just be happier. And sure, relationships can bring so much joy, laughter, fun and happiness to the table, as well as the depth and intimacy of a connection that's harder to achieve with friends. But with the ever-problemat...
Sep 26, 2024•27 min
Today, we delve into the age-old question of... Am I ready to date again? Some of you totally wanna date again - but are jumping the gun, ready to repeat all the same stuff that happened in your last relationship! And others of you are tentative - and rightly so - but you don't want that to stop you forever. Has it been long enough to date again? Is it too soon to date again? Am I ready to date again? Beacuse there's a tonne of advice out there that could have you confused over this: Is it 6 mon...
Sep 19, 2024•26 min
You’ve been told to “play it cool”, “match their energy” and leave the same amount of time they take to reply to reply back to them. But despite all those things, you feel stressed, increasingly annoyed and spend the entire time clock-watching - whether that’s for when the last replied, eagerly awaiting their next reply, only to be disappointed when you check and there’s still no response… or you’re ticking down the time that you’ve limited yourself by to reply. Surely if this worked, we wouldn’...
Sep 08, 2024•26 min
September is here, and it's the start of Autumn creeping in. Having worked with singles over the past three years, September always has a single shift. Gone are the highs of all those sunny days, and in come the lows of the short, dark days. With Christmas items already appearing in stores, I'll be sharing the importance of preparing for the colder months ahead with practical advice on maintaining positivity and making the most of this period for self-improvement and future readiness. Let's get ...
Sep 05, 2024•29 min
In today’s epsiode, you’re getting my approval to be out and proud about being single… AND want to be in a relationship at the same time. I’ve noticed a narrative in the single space that being single means you have to embrace singlehood only. And sure, there’s a time and a place to take a break from dating. For some, that break never ends! But for other singles, getting happy and accepting being single is one thing. To stay that way forever? That wasn’t on their lifetime bingo card! So move ove...
Aug 29, 2024•21 min
You're over your ex, you're ready to take a step into dating... but you don't want to get hurt again. And I get it. The last time you were dating, it ended up causing you upset. You felt hurt, had to work through a bunch of emotions and you ended up exhausted from the whole experience. So this episode is designed to remind you that doesn't have to be your reality. Getting hurt is a risk - but one you can minimise the possibility of doing through a number of key approaches that I share with you o...
Aug 22, 2024•24 min
Looking back at Episode #9, there's a bunch of ways you can find new friends... but depsite the strategies shared in that episode, it can feel hard to find friends when you don't have that bestie like other people do. You yearn for someone that you can be as close as... But some friendships aren't meant to be forever. We certainly can't force that kind of friendship to occur. But our focus on those relationships means we overlook some of the best friendships that can fill up our lives, and that'...
Aug 19, 2024•16 min
It's hard to believe that it's been 5 years since my separation... in 2018 I was getting married, but by the following summer in 2019, I was back home living with my parents. At the time, it felt like my whole life was up in the air. Everything I'd worked for in my late teens was gone in a flash. It was what needed to happen... but that didn't make it any easier. So 5 years on, I'm sharing my biggest life lessons now that time has passed, the divorce is well and truly in the past, and my life lo...
Aug 15, 2024•30 min
In today's moment, I'm jumping back to Episode #57 with a question that you need to be asking yourself every 90 days to check in with yourself, to work out if single life it really for you, and to make sure you're truly happy with the path that you're on. (And this even applies when you aren't single! But matters MASSIVELY if you are single - to make sure you don't just accept being single, if it isn't really what you want!) ----- RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide - Visi...
Aug 12, 2024•10 min
If you've been dating for any length of time, then you've probably been ghosted in that time too. It's an all-too-common experience in today's dating world, and it can leave you feeling confused, hurt, and unsure of what to do next. When someone you've been dating suddenly disappears without a word, it can be tempting to reach out, send a text, and get closure or answers. But is that really the best move? In today's podcast, we dive deep into this dilemma and explore how to evaluate the the best...
Aug 08, 2024•24 min
I know it's easy to think that your life needs to be on hold whilst you wait for the right relationship to come along. We tell ourselves we'll start living fully once we have a partner to share it with, won't go on that solo trip, won't see that show, can't go on holiday. But what if the key to finding happiness is embracing and enjoying your single life RIGHT NOW?! In today's podcast, I tackle this issue head-on and explore how you can thrive and find joy as a single person. What You'll Learn I...
Aug 05, 2024•14 min
"When you find someone that you genuinely care for and want to be with but have hesitation simply because you're concerned about giving up freedom and individuality." This was a comment made in our Facebook group when I asked the question "What have you been finding a challenge with in your single/dating life recently?" and in today's podcast I go into this dilemma of giving up some elements of your freedom and individuality as you start to date. What You'll Learn In This Episode - The advantage...
Aug 01, 2024•28 min
I know I talk *a lot* about loneliness. If you’re single, we know it’s a risk factor, and that makes sense - you don’t have that person to go home to, you can be left out of invites from your coupled up friends who “didn’t think you’d want to be invited” and you can feel that sense of not being a priority to anyone… But I always want to emphasise that getting into a relationship doesn’t take that sense of loneliness away at times, of not feeling involved, not belonging… and here’s a very persona...
Jul 29, 2024•12 min
----- RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com - Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach - Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark. ----- Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here! ------ life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely,...
Jul 25, 2024•21 min
Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re lonely… but we know being single makes you more likely to experience loneliness, which can lead to all kinds of knock on effects to your mental health. It can make you feel like you don’t matter as much as other people, like no one would notice if you were gone, and like everyone else has other stuff going on all the time and there’s you, at home, wasting your evenings away on apps and box sets. But I’m here to share with you the real reason you’re ...
Jul 22, 2024•14 min
It's easy to that that going on more dates will equal a higher chance of you finding that ultimate relationship. But there's a reason why going on more dates might actually be preventing you from having success in dating and why "dating is a numbers game" is a nuanced myth! And take it from someone that only went on 16 first dates scross the three years of dating, with one of those sixteen leading to the relationship I'm in now. If you're a serial dater, who's finding yourself on dates week-in, ...
Jul 18, 2024•28 min
Taken from the inspiration of Episode 4, I share a moment I experienced in my personal development journey, when I started to question everything around me. And one of the things I had to look back at in my past, to work out where I got this skewed understanding of it from, and actually find out what it really meant was “what is love?”. So today, I’ll share with you the theory from Sternberg that changed my understanding and allowed me to apply it to my friendships and relationships, so I could ...
Jul 15, 2024•12 min
Welcome to the BRAND NEW episode of the new era of this podcast, The Single Spark. We say goodbye to The Single Girl's Guide to Life to welcome in a fresh era the The Single Spark. Don't worry - it doesn't mean we're entirely changing. This is still the podcast for singles, but this time we're in our 30s - Chantelle turned 31 this very week and life in your 30s is very different to being in your 20s, and even more so when you're single. And to kickstart this new series, we're looking at helping ...
Jul 11, 2024•29 min
Being in your thirties, you might not think the menopause is on your radar just yet... But imagine approaching your forties, noticing changes in your body, and having no clue what's happening. That's what happened to Marie Frost, our special guest from Nutricore Health, who started experiencing perimenopausal symptoms after having a baby. Join us as Marie bravely shares her deeply personal journey through perimenopause, shattering misconceptions about menopause, and emphasising the importance of...
Nov 09, 2023•29 min
Buckle up, because today's episode of Single Girls Guide to Life lays out the complex jounrey of getting divorced in your 20s, with a deep dive into the emotional, legal, and personal growth aspects of navigating through a divorce at this age. I tackle the unique challenges it presents, and the need for the divorcing couple's cooperation for their well-being, whilst sharing the brighter side of divorce that exists. I dissect the intricate process of leaving a marriage, the emotional turmoil that...
Oct 26, 2023•27 min
What if one day you woke up, and instead of feeling like a lonely singleton, you were absolutely in love with your single life? Today, we take you through my personal journey from navigating the trials and tribulations of the dating scene to stepping into a relationship and eventually becoming a step-mum. Join us as we crack open my story of evolving from an independent single gal to a step-mum. We talk about the pressures of societal norms, the quarter-life crisis it spurred, and how I learned ...
Oct 12, 2023•32 min
