“We all have the same 24 hours in a day.” The WORST, right? Nobody likes being told this when it comes to the discussion around time management. Here’s the thing: while this (admittedly annoying) statement is absolutely true, the conversation around time management isn’t actually about time…it’s about attention. We all have the same amount of time, but we DON’T have the same amount of attention, and that’s where this “Same 24 Hours” theory breaks down. I firmly believe that not being able to get...
Oct 27, 2022•18 min•Season 1Ep. 173
Does it feel like you’ve become a magnet to every emotionally unavailable, commitment-phobic person in the dating pool? Have you been blaming it on this generation’s idea of dating, the fickleness of dating apps, or just about any other excuse you can come up with? Bad news: it’s none of those things. It’s you. Ultimately, it’s not that we’re attracting emotionally unavailable partners…it’s that we’re making ourselves available to them. We’re looking for the first thing that crosses our path, wh...
Oct 20, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 172
Shadow work: it’s a term you’ve probably heard before. But what is it, and why does everyone seem to be talking about it? Take out your flashlight, friends, because today I’m taking you on a journey into all the shadowy, invisible parts of your personality. Shadow work is all about turning the unconscious conscious, which means taking a look at some things you might’ve shoved so far down that you’ve forgotten they even existed…or maybe you’re hoping they’ll disappear if you don’t look too closel...
Oct 13, 2022•16 min•Season 1Ep. 171
I could talk about money all day long, and let me tell you—you’re getting a masterclass about money manifestation all packed into one episode today. Manifesting abundance in your life isn’t complicated…in fact, half of it is about recognizing the abundance already present in your life. We experience abundance in a hundred beautiful ways every single day, but without a shift in perspective, we might miss it altogether. Today, I have four powerful tips for how you can manifest more abundance in yo...
Oct 06, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 170
Last week, I talked about managing your energy and your other resources. This week, I want to talk about the management of one of those resources, and what can happen when you don't manage it: money. There are four signs that you might have a yo-yo relationship with money: Lack of control around money Speaking poorly about money Only speaking positively about money when you have it in excess Making more, but not keeping more A yo-yo relationship means there's no real consistency and balance in y...
Sep 29, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 169
Last week, I talked about how mismanagement of your energy and resources can lead to severe burnout. This week, I want to talk about four signs you can watch out for to identify whether you're struggling with energy mismanagement: Struggles with self-control around money Struggles with energy management Struggles with time management Struggles with self-control around food When you're operating in extremes with your energy, burnout isn't only possible—if you're not careful, it could become inevi...
Sep 22, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 168
Quick trigger warning, friends: this episode involves discussions about suicidal thoughts, depression, and anxiety. If these topics are triggering to you, I suggest skipping this episode. This isn't an easy topic for me to talk about. It's still very fresh in my mind, and I get really emotional trying to talk about it, but I'm doing it anyway. I'm doing it because I know someone needs to hear it—someone needs to know that they're not alone and they don't have to be ashamed. Or someone needs to r...
Sep 15, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 167
These days, it's easier to follow, isn't it? Follow your coach's example. Follow your partner's lead. Follow the way you've always done things. Why is this? Because if you follow someone else's instructions or example, you get to blame them when things go wrong. If you never change anything about how you're pursuing whatever it is you want—a relationship, a job, a friendship—then you never have to acknowledge the ways that you've been responsible for your "failures." It's time to learn what it t...
Sep 08, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 166
We've been talking a lot about vulnerability lately...but what happens if you avoid that kind of intimacy with your partner? For those who lean avoidant in their dating life, it's usually because you're trying to protect yourself. But when you hide behind walls to try and make yourself look better, you cut off the beating heart of connection and love: emotional vulnerability. When you refuse to let someone see the softer parts of you, the messier parts, the "What if they can't handle this?" part...
Sep 01, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 165
Let's talk entitlement and scarcity...and how the two actually go together. Entitlement says, "I deserve a relationship, because I am a wonderful person. I am a catch. I'm amazing." Scarcity says, "I can't have what I want (or deserve) because there isn't enough to go around, so I'm going to turn whatever I have into the thing that I feel I deserve." When both of these mindsets show up to a party together, only trouble can come out of it, right? No matter what you might think, these attitudes ar...
Aug 25, 2022•50 min•Season 1Ep. 164
So it's happened again. You've been seeing someone for a while now, but you're eternally caught in the "talking" stage, with no official label in sight. The person you're seeing seems perfectly content to continue on in your "situationship," enjoying the lack of pressure (and lack of commitment) and you're once again getting fed up. You don't understand why everyone you come across is happy to go with the flow while you want a relationship... ...Or do you? Today, I'm going to help you figure out...
Aug 18, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 163
Hey hey! It has been a MINUTE since I have been on the podcast. Tune in to hear: -Where I've been -A convo on the New Moon in Leo tonight 7/28/2022 + Fears of Being Seen - How to work with me (join the waitlist for high level coaching on how to go from single + frustrated---> Attracting the relationship of your desire) Beatricekamau.com/Womanofdesire -DM to inquire about 1:1 coaching Please block and report the IG account @thesSelflovefix with TWO S's My ONLY instagram account is @theselflove...
Jul 28, 2022•12 min
Anxious attachment is tricky, and it can definitely get you into some relationship trouble if you don’t know how to deal with it. It can leave you scared of true intimacy even though it’s also what you want above all else. Talk about a hell of your own anxious making. That’s why in this episode of the Self Love Fix Podcast we’ll talk more about: The pitfalls of anxious attachment How to navigate dating in a healthier way When you feel complete and whole and loved by yourself, you know that a par...
Jun 23, 2022•18 min•Season 1Ep. 161
There you are, hoping, wishing, praying for real and lasting love- an honest-to-goodness relationship…so why the heck are you continually settling for a situationship? You know what I’m talking about, right? The situationship- the kind of dating when the guy says stuff like “seeing where it’s going, keeping it casual, just hanging out” and you pretend to be cool with it as your soul dies a little more and your doubt climbs, because can you actually change his mind? No, probably not. So on this e...
Jun 16, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 160
For most of us love is (or at least was) an elusive mystery we could only dream of. That’s why today I’m so excited to welcome my guest Crystal Irom, a Love Coach specifically for successful women. As if women didn’t have it hard enough these days, amiright? Why is it that especially women who are successful in every other aspect of their lives struggle to find someone to love? Is it because men are intimidated? Are these women (possibly you) doomed to roam the world biding your time in between ...
Jun 09, 2022•42 min•Season 1Ep. 159
I’m beyond thrilled to welcome Elisa Liu onto the podcast today to talk about body image, diet culture, and ways to begin to trust our own hunger again. For most of us, indulging in what our bodies may be asking for often comes with a hefty dose of guilt. Really intense restriction can mean that your overall control is absolutely shot. Diet culture is everywhere and it tells us that no matter what we do, it’s never enough. It’s no wonder that we feel the need to deny ourselves at every opportuni...
Jun 02, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 158
Today we’re going to talk about something that most people would deny- the fact that we all get jealous. But what if instead of shoving it down in a well of shame, we instead took a moment to process it? Chances are when you feel jealousy rear its ugly head, it’s not even really about whatever you’re envious of. You probably grew up in a household where you were constantly compared to others: a sibling, a classmate, whoever it might have been. This taught you never to truly see yourself or focus...
May 26, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 157
Oh, comparison. It’s the thief of joy or something like that, right? Well, I’d argue that social media has definitely proven that concept correct. Now more than ever it’s important for us to redefine our personal journey and goals along the way, or we risk being swept up in unattainable expectations from relative strangers on the internet. On this episode of The Self Love Fix Podcast we’ll chat more on: Defining luxury and what you want for yourself Not basing life on what you think you should w...
May 19, 2022•18 min•Season 1Ep. 156
Chances are you’ve likely heard about the new trend in parenting- gentle parenting. While it may sound permissive or ineffective, if you really look into it, it’s the natural response to the inherent violence that has been culturally accepted in previous generations. In the latest episode of The Self-Love Fix Podcast I have a chance to talk with Leslie of LatinX parenting and go over: Why violence is culturally accepted in parenting The tenants of gentle parenting Respect > fear Blind obedien...
May 12, 2022•43 min•Season 1Ep. 155
Today we’re going to talk about burnout; you probably know the feeling. There you are, trucking along in your business when suddenly, seemingly out of the blue, you go from boundless enthusiasm to fatigue and cynicism. How? Why? And what the heck do you do? I’m glad you asked. Burnout is essentially stress, but it’s the stress we feel after we have consistently taken on too much responsibility at work. In the latest episode of the podcast I talk more about: Warning signs of burnout What to look ...
May 05, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 154
I am so excited for this empowering episode! Today, three incredible women joined the podcast, each of them having gone through my Self Love Over Codependency program. They were kind and brave enough to share their journeys to self-discovery, what they learned from the program, and how it’s changed them for good. I’m so inspired by each of their stories because it really shows the connections and differences between each person’s experience with SLOC. I’m so glad that their lives have been enhan...
Apr 25, 2022•55 min•Season 1Ep. 153
Do you have an easy time trusting yourself when it comes to putting your trust in others? What about deciphering what resonates with you and what doesn’t? If these areas feel a little shaky for you, then you’ll find a lot of value in this episode! I’m talking all things self-trust, and it’s definitely a juicy topic that is not to be missed. When it comes to self-trust, it can be easy to fall back into old patterns associated with trauma or codependency. I know because I’ve been there myself! But...
Apr 14, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 152
Do you ever feel like people don’t value what you have to offer or like things are SO easy for other people but so difficult for you, particularly in regards to your career? Then this is the episode for you. Today, I’m talking about how you can navigate feeling undervalued, unappreciated, and unseen - at work or in your love life. We frequently take setbacks and assume they mean something about ourselves, but what if a little shift in energy could really change the way that you feel AND how you ...
Apr 07, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 151
Today, I want to talk about something that plagues many people, especially in the context of their careers. Anxiousness, self-doubt, and a fear of being seen may come up a lot, and these feelings prevent people from showing up authentically as themselves. I don’t want you to experience this, so I dive fully into the topic on this episode. There are so many different facets that come into play when you experience self-doubt within your career specifically. You may question your skills and start f...
Mar 31, 2022•17 min•Season 1Ep. 150
Stemming from the episode last week about codependency, this week I wanted to talk about a related topic. Especially for those concerned with codependency, it can be really easy to go to the other side of the spectrum and become hyper-independent. So, that’s what I’m discussing in this episode. It’s really important to me that I communicate that it’s okay to lean on your loved ones for support and help. Doing so doesn’t equate to codependency, and I know that sometimes it can be confusing to nav...
Mar 24, 2022•15 min•Season 1Ep. 149
Codependency is a big topic, but I want to clue you in on something about the topic that people tend not to talk about. That’s what this episode centers around, and once you gain this understanding, there’s no going back! There’s a lot to unpack when it comes to codependency, and it completely takes away your ability to make decisions for yourself. The reason I’m ready to uncover this topic and break down the codependency barriers is because I’ve been there! So please know that I feel your pain ...
Mar 17, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 148
Boundaries are one of those concepts that get a lot of air time, but do you actually know how to effectively set them for yourself? That’s the topic of this informative episode! Boundaries can really help you align your relationships to what you want to get out of them. Furthermore, setting healthy boundaries allows you to create better energy in your life rather than being plagued by bad energy. The truth is that you have the power to take ownership over the energy in your life. That’s an excit...
Mar 10, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 147
The idea of being fully healed is something I’ve heard referenced time and time again, and it’s what I want to talk about on today’s episode. It’s about time the mere notion of being “fully healed” is debunked, and I’m not only doing that today, but I’m also sharing three mini myths around the topic that I want to help you shy away from. There’s a common misconception that people need to resolve things within themselves and be “perfect enough” to be worthy of love. This is a subconscious thing t...
Mar 03, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 146
Another week, another podcast guest! I’m so excited that Gina DeVee joined this episode to talk about her book, The Audacity to be Queen , as well as several other topics relating to zeroing in on the queen energy that lives inside all of us as strong women. Gina’s perspective is so interesting, as she has lived an interesting life that has brought her where she is now. Gina went from being a broke psychologist to a multi-million dollar women’s empowerment and lifestyle brand with Divine Living....
Feb 24, 2022•56 min•Season 1Ep. 145
I’m so excited to be joined by a repeat guest in this episode! Michelle Panning, also known as the Intimacy Alchemist, joins me for an intriguing conversation about breaking up, heartbreak, intense feelings, healthy relationships, and finding love. Michelle has so much amazing insight into these topics and really prompts me to look at things from a different perspective in the love department. I believe this conversation will do the same for you, and I’m excited for you to hear it! Here are the ...
Feb 17, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 144
