In this episode we discuss emotional agility and how you can cultivate it, discover that beneath your difficult emotions are the signposts to the things you value most, learn how to make space for emotions and embrace a willingness to experience difficult emotions, talk about why its vital to understand the distinction that emotions are meaningful but not always correct, how you can “piggyback” your habits to create very powerful strategies to live more aligned with your values and more with Dr. Susan David.
Dr. Susan David is an award winning Psychologist at Harvard Medical School, co-founder of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital, and CEO of Evidence Based Psychology. She is the author of the #1 Wall Street Journal bestseller Emotional Agility and has had her work featured in several publications including the New York Times, the Washington Post, and TIME magazine. Susan’s work and research have led to her consulting and working with several top organizations including the United Nations, and the World Economic Forum, and much more!
How Susan’s experience growing up in apartheid South Africa led her down the path of studying emotional resilience and agility
The tyranny of positivity and how it can actually harm us
How focusing too much on your happiness can make you less happy over time
How surpassing your emotions increases depression and anxiety and decreases your chance at achieving your goals
Beneath your difficult emotions are signposts to the things we value most
Research psychology reveals the power of the “amplification effect” when we push our thoughts and emotions aside
Emotional contagion and how the behavior of others - even people you’ve never met and who are far removed from your life, can have a huge impact on your behavior and your life
If someone in your social network - even if you don’t know them - puts on weight or gets divorced, you are more likely to do those things!
Between stimulus and response, there is a space, in that space is our opportunity for agency
What happens when you bottle and brood on your emotions
Who’s in charge, the thinker or the thought? Who’s in charge, the emotion or the person feeling them? This story, or you the person who can experience many stories?
What is emotional agility? How can we cultivate it?
How to make space for emotions and embrace a willingness to experience difficult emotions
Our emotions are not good are bad, they just “are”
Strategies for developing self compassion
Imagine yourself as a child approaching yourself as an adult - how would you treat that 3-4 year old who has failed, been rejected, struggled, etc?
Emotions are meaningful, but not RIGHT (emotions are DATA not direction)
Its critical to cultivate space between stimulus and response
Emotions are important but they aren’t necessarily correct - tap into the wisdom they offer us, but don’t necessarily go in the direction they want us to go in
The vital importance of cultivating an “observer” view of our emotions to help us step out from our emotional reactions and create space between stimulus and response
Why you should use language like “I am noticing that I am feeling X” and “I am noticing the emotion of fear”
Accurately labeling your emotions, digging in beyond just the surface, taps into and helps deal with negative emotions - the field of emotional diff
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Discover Your Hidden Emotional Insights & What’s Truly Valuable To You with Dr. Susan David | The Science of Success podcast - Listen or read transcript on Metacast
