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The Relaxed Male

Bryan Goodwinwww.relaxedmale.com
The Relaxed Male is a podcast dedicated to empowering men to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. Whether it's romantic partnerships, family bonds, friendships, or professional connections, this show provides insights and actionable advice for building and maintaining positive relationships grounded in mutual understanding, respect, and care. Each episode delves into the unique challenges and opportunities men face when it comes to fostering meaningful connections. The host Bryan assists men in understanding how the elements of how one approaches a problem can hinder relationship growth. Through thought-provoking discussions, real-life examples, and practical exercises, listeners gain valuable tools to improve their listening skills, empathy, vulnerability and thoughts needed for building trust and intimacy with those around them. The show also covers the importance of self-awareness, personal growth, and taking responsibility for one's actions and their impact on others. Ultimately, The Relaxed Male aims to empower men to have strong relationships without sacrificing who they are in the process. Helping men to live a fulfilling life with strong meaning ful relationships and stay out of the victim trap So if you're ready to level up your relationship game and cultivate deeper, more authentic connections, tune in and join us on this journey of self-discovery and growth.

Episodes

Why You Are Poor

You look around you see many people of different degrees of wealth. Some are rich, some are very rich and others are filthy, stinking rich. The same goes for the other direction. You have those that don't make as much as you. Some are poor. There are those who are dirt poor and there are those who are so poor they can't even pay attention. You fall somewhere in the middle of the two extremes. You aren't filthy stinking rich nor are you destitute. You often see people talking about the poor and h...

Oct 13, 202238 minEp. 150

Your Motivational Triad

Boosts! Chad 8599 sats - I heard your Boostagram on PC 2.0 so I’m checking out your podcast. Main Show Why do you do what you do? Sounds like a weird question to ask yet we always ask that and there is a reason why we keep doing the same things over and over. Why do certain people keep falling into the same traps time and again? Why do men pick the same type of woman over and over again? Why do we struggle on improving ourselves? Why do we struggle on losing weight? Why do we struggle on improvi...

Oct 06, 202238 minEp. 149

You're Wrong, and That's OK

We often come across people who claim we are wrong, or that we have someone who is completely wrong and has no clue about the topic at hand. An instance where so many people who didn't know what they were talking about are often seen as blowhards or complete fools. Today it seems like everybody has to be right. Insistent on being right and even when you prove that they’re wrong. they find a reason to be right. I’m not pointing out one particular set of folks with this either. I find myself being...

Sep 29, 202227 minEp. 148

Are You Buffering?

There is a myriad of emotions that we men go through. in fact, we have all the same emotions that women have. Whaaaaa? Yeah, Men have the same emotional depth as women, Now we express those emotions differently and we may not use the same language for what we feel as our feminine counterparts but they are there. Many times we use emotions for the very same reason. This includes our avoidance of emotions through buffering. What is Buffering? Buffering is the act of doing other activities in order...

Sep 22, 202232 minEp. 147

An Argument For Discomfort

Many people hear discomfort and they shy away from it because the word brings up images of their skin being flayed off, or they have to lay on a bed of nails. You know, horrible things being done to them. Yeah, they are right none of that is very comfortable. In fact, all that sounds downright painful. Yet pain and discomfort actually are good things to have in your life? They help you gain the skill you need for the task at hand. Discomfort is needed in your life to teach you about resistance a...

Sep 15, 202224 minEp. 146

Don’t Make Decisions While Going Uphill

going up a hill is hard You lose momentum when making a decision you are under more emotional influence The hill is the toughest of the path You don't have enough data We are faced with decisions all the time. But when do you want to make those decisions? Many people often make their decisions at the wrong moment. What is going up the hill? Going up a hill is at a time of heightened emotional state. This is when you let your emotions make decisions, not your thinking brain. The uphill battle is ...

Sep 08, 202226 minEp. 145

The Drawbacks of Self-Improvement

You draw attention to other's lack of action You lose friends who just want to hang Your mother will worry about you People will judge you People will actively hope for you to fail Other people will feel bad about themselves They will resent you Self-improvement is lonely All that sounds like a good reason not to better yourself, right? Wrong that is the very reason to better yourself. You have to look at their lack of action as a motivator to actually propel yourself to better heights. The othe...

Sep 01, 202234 minEp. 144

The Power of, What If?

Main Topic The magic question What if you could be successful? what if You could take that dream vacation? What if you did have that house on the hill? What if that girl did agree to go on a date? What if your wife did decide to stay What if you showed your wife the needed attention she wanted? Limiting What if Questions what if you got fired? What if your wife did leave? What if you failed in your task What if it doesn't work? Yeah it is visualization which has been discussed on a few episodes...

Aug 28, 202228 minEp. 143

Do You Really Not Care?

Many times I hear the words I don’t care. This is in response to what others think to how they act in a group. Many guys will sluff off the phrase I really don't care or that's just how I am. Is this productive or is it a mean's for you to not have to try? What happens when you don't care? There are many effects of a man not caring about something. Isolated Aggravated Feel alone - because restless Why do you not care? There are many reasons that men say they don't care. From appearing to sound s...

Aug 18, 202228 minEp. 142

Live From Mission Critical

This week I am talking to both Rich Chelson and Matt Glesspie of Operation: Tears of the 22 and how they got started. How they did it without knowing what they were getting into. How they did it scared. Now the sound quality isn't the same level that I am used to cranking out but that is part of the fun of trying new things out. So Listen as we talk about how they overcame some of the obstacles they faced as they built a 501(c)(3) from the ground up. If you want help finding your why on doing so...

Aug 11, 202253 minEp. 141

There is a Need For Leadership

August 4-7 Tears of the 22 Retrea t Thanks Those who gave Sats. Main Topic Uvalde 400 officers standing around waiting for someone to give orders Sniper couldn’t get clearance Possible result of defunding the Police Police don't want to be put in jail Don't want the responsibility laid on their heads Reminds me of Atlas Shrugged Men need to take responsibility and action when needed Can't have men afraid of the consequences of their noble actions. Yes there are actions that are not noble but tak...

Aug 04, 202239 minEp. 140

Is religion important?

Thanks to Hastirongod29 6 sats Angeltovar22 1 sat eddieem Boost! 2 sats robertgomez 60 Sats Event! Operation Tears of the 22: Mission Critical Main Topic man has had religion their whole lives there are many different types of religion The key point is that all of them have a god. Abrahamic Religions all have god. And they break apart from there Judaism, Islam, Christianity Each of those breaks down into subgroups, And those subgroups into smaller subgroups There are modern religions that turn M...

Jul 28, 202235 minEp. 139

I am a Failure

Thanks to boosts stream pay's @user50456778804705802114 @mariost2104380 @user1418343976470596460 @user6465513779413332560 @robertgomez640 @user6895229526496442710@ user8725507786725826810 @moncadad96 @oscar1990diaz106 @user1996186395908832112 @eddiem I have screwed up. I have don't it over and over again. I wasn't the perfect brother. I wasn't the perfect Son. I have let down my family many times over. I found out why lying does you no good. I have broken hearts, and I have failed as a father on...

Jul 21, 202228 minEp. 138

Altruism's Dangers

The Operation Tears of the 22 Mission Critical Retreat. Storytime - home town alma mater is giving away free school supplies and I raised the question of why this seems like it will end badly? I got a lot of parents from that area chimed in saying it was a good thing. I really don't think it is, for many different reasons. I have several thoughts as to why not having the parents provide the supplies Well this is when you really need to have that debate. Just leave it alone? why? Because it’s eas...

Jul 14, 202229 minEp. 137

Live an Intentional Life

What is intention? So many times we are living our life because we see someone else doing something or we are told how we should live our lives and we blindly just do it. We don't think about does that fit what we want in life? You often see teenagers struggle with this. These Young people run from one fad to the next. This is why the current fad of gender studies is so damaging. Because they don't know if the permanent changes to their lives are what they really want. They think they do but the...

Jul 07, 202220 minEp. 136

Why is Divorce So Difficult?

Now, this may sound like an obvious bit of knowledge but I see many men ask why is divorce so hard? There are many reasons as to why it hurts so much, why you are having to suffer, and more thoughts like that. Yet we keep with the dirty pain and keep resisting the facts that are at hand. We want to control the circumstances in our life. Yet doing so only increases the suffering we experience. What is dirty pain? This is the pain we resist. It is pain that we believe is happening to us and is kee...

Jun 30, 202239 minEp. 135

Why Men Need Men in Their Lives

NEWS Operation Tears of the 22 is having its retreat for Veterans again this year. But instead of Byrds Adventure Center, They are having it at Adam Sandoval 's Kriver Campgrounds . You can get your tickets for 4 days of fun and jeeping around. There are going to be bands in the evening and I will be there coaching everyone who wants it and some people who don't. So Sign up here ! Main topic One of the biggest parts of having a fulfilling life is having that important network of masculine friend...

Jun 23, 202232 minEp. 134

Viewing Your World Through a New Lens

How many times have you kept hitting the same wall over and over? How do you view events in your life? As we talked a couple of weeks ago about viewing your circumstances How do you act during a circumstance? Do you get riled up over some random dude cutting you off in traffic or do you just wave and carry on? Do you wonder why you are always finding the same women when you date? Maybe they are drama magnets or always having some type of emergency for you to come to the rescue? How about your ki...

Jun 16, 202232 minEp. 133

Are You Man Enough For These 3 Tests Women Run on Men?

Believe it or not, your woman wants to know if you are man enough. They need to be assured that you aren’t going to flake on them. That is what the 4 pillars of a relaxed male does, it helps men be there for those time their wives and girlfriends need them. He keeps himself up for these tests that will eventually happen. Now when I say tests I’m not saying these are tests that women even knowingly do. It’s not having your girlfriend's best friend try to seduce you just to see how loyal you are. ...

Jun 09, 202231 minEp. 132

Getting Prepared

One of a man's responsibilities is to make sure his family is taken care of. It is something that we men often will take immense pride in. With that said there is one part of this responsibility that many of us men sadly drop the ball on. That is us being a good boy scout and being prepared for the unknown. Why prepare? Grocery stores only have about a 3 day's supply of food . We have seen supply chains disrupted many times in the last 2.5 years. There are still items that are disrupting the sup...

Jun 02, 202224 minEp. 131

For The Benefit Of The Kids

This episode is for both dads and moms because it is about our kids. Maybe not as much phone Let them struggle Failure is good for them Maybe get them out of the school system let loose of the reigns some Ask them questions without judgment Seek to understand before being understood https://apnews.com/article/entertainment-health-jill-biden-mental-1ebf72305a84aa70e14a8903ec90cad4?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=news_tab...

May 26, 202233 minEp. 130

VIewing Your Circumstance

Now through life, we all face circumstances in our life. Circumstances are not only the events we face, they are the fact of the events that we face. You see, when a circumstance happens around us, we have thoughts about that circumstance. Those thoughts could be good or they could be bad. It is all about how we think of that circumstance. In Episode 117 I talked about Circumstances and the fact that these events in our lives are not good nor are they bad until we apply thought to them. This is ...

May 19, 202219 minEp. 129

Dreamers of the Day

Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds awake to find that it was vanity; But the dreamers of day are dangerous men. That they may act on their dreams with open eyes to make it possible T. E. Lawrence Do you dream during the day? Many of us men don't allow ourselves to dream. We feel that our world is what Our circumstances dictate. We as men often feel trapped, and we resign ourselves to this life. yet that we don't have to we can change everything about our world all we h...

May 12, 202225 minEp. 128

Why All The Superhero Movies?

Pop culture has a way of telling people what they are missing. What the vibe of society is from decade to decade. And that is evident in today’s popularity of superhero movies. Television shows on popular streaming services have superhero television series. Superheroes are everywhere. Why well I think it shows The mindset and thoughts of society as a whole. In the past, You saw way back in the 20s there were songs like we’re in the money, and then in the 30s you saw songs like brother can you sp...

May 05, 202235 minEp. 127

The Sinkable Female-Led Relationships

Now there are many different types of relationships around. Many work and more don't. Wanted to examine one relationship "Style" that is being talked about and the Nice guy thinks he will like it, yet the woman will become miserable. That style is the Female Led Relationship Thanks, to the Woke wave of Feminism you are seeing women we are wanting to change the family dynamic. Why? well, they are entering into relationships with the mindset that men are the scourge of society and that the traditi...

Apr 28, 202257 minEp. 126

The River of Misery

What is the River Of Misery? This is a gap where on one side you are mentally and on the other side of the river is where you want to be. The River of Misery is the effort you make to get to the other side and have a new and better thought. What represents water in the middle is the struggle to get to the other side. There is all the cognitive dissonance, the effort to power over to a new thought, The tripping and failings that happen when you fall back into old ways of thinking. Bridge Thoughts...

Apr 21, 202233 minEp. 125

How to Remove Fear From Your Life

Fear is one of those emotions that cripple us from all sorts of opportunities. Fear keeps us playing small. We don't live up to our possibilities. We don't shine as bright as we could. all because we are afraid. Of what? That depends on the person. They may be afraid of what others will think. That people may see them as a fraud that they are. A person may be afraid to fail or afraid that they may succeed and then what happens? The opposite of fear is love Curiosity is the replacement of Fear Cu...

Apr 14, 202222 minEp. 124

The Slap Heard Around the World

Now with this being released each Thursday I am just now getting around to talking about the slap that everyone's talking about. There is a lot to break down in this major event. Will Smith slaps Chris Rock Now most people have seen this video but if not here is what I was able to find on Youtube https://youtu.be/myjEoDypUD8 The Slap Video Now First thing I noticed was WIll laughing after the GI Jane joke. but if you look at Jada's reaction she wasn't impressed. Second who slaps like that? Is it...

Apr 07, 202223 minEp. 123

Your Rucking Life

As you may know, I did a thing back on the 22 of Feb and It helped me out in ways I didn't know. First I have sympathy for those with bad knees. Wow, my knees were not happy after walking 22 km with 22 lbs on my back. Yet as I was doing my three laps I was able to correlate some of life's events to a ruck march. We go unprepared Are we ever prepared for the first attempt? You can control the weight of your pack What you believe and the other thoughts you have can really start weighing you down. ...

Mar 31, 202240 minEp. 122

The Model: Your Results

The Model Series The Model Circumstance Thought Feeling Action Results Your results This is the last line of your model. When done correctly you will have the results reflect back to your thought line . If you don't get it you have more than likely mixed up your models. Why is the results important? It shows you whats actually happening in your life It is proof that you are on the right tract when you are trying to take massive action With the right results you will be able to atain your goals. ...

Mar 24, 202214 minEp. 121
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