Now we all know about doing what you say to other people. This is part of keeping your word and that is important. If you break your word there is a lack of trust. That lack of trust has ramifications through more than what you want to think, and this is part of what is keeping you from going for the big prize in life. You don't even believe in yourself. People Don't Believe You It may be a given but I would still reiterate the point that if you can't keep your word others are not going to belie...
Jun 01, 2023•27 min•Ep. 180
People want to think that finding friends is difficult. and while it can be challenging to find quality friends the issue of finding friends isn't any harder than changing your thoughts. Your thoughts about meeting people will result in you either meeting good people or meeting bad people. or meeting no people. That Choice is yours. Be intentional As with anything in life if you aren't being intentional in what you do you will get results but those results aren't going to be to your liking. They...
May 25, 2023•37 min•Ep. 179
Something I hear over and over again is the man needs validation from his wife or the wife needs validation from her husband or friends or family or something to that effect. In this week's podcast episode, I am here to help you see that you are not a parking lot voucher and so you don't need to be validated. We also talk about the fact that I am out of the office and back in a truck and why that was a good thing. What is validation? Why do we seek it? How do we validate ourselves? Don't forget ...
May 18, 2023•23 min•Ep. 178
What happens when you try to fix other people's problems? The answer is a lot of unintended consequences. Many guys who are going through their divorce see that they are struggling to find their place in the current scenario and with men often having some aspect of a nice guy they try to rush to a person's aid. Why can't you fix a problem if you can? Trying to fix a problem isn't going to help anybody but yourself feel good about yourself. It doesn't help the other person with their problem it m...
May 11, 2023•30 min•Ep. 177
What is holding you back? The root cause is fear. Yet as I have talked before we run from fear. We avoid feeling fear in almost every aspect of life. This is where courage in the face of fear is most needed. Yet we hide from that fear by masking the fear. We often do many different activities to hide from the fact that we are feeling fear. When you are hiding from fear or any other emotion what you are really doing is not addressing the problem at hand. that problem is a thought that you are hav...
May 04, 2023•29 min•Ep. 176
Now You hear me talk about Grown men and grown boys . I have juxtaposed the two against each other a few times. Yet I want to do it on the podcast because sometimes people just don't like to read. Yet there is a huge reason that it is important to differentiate these two. That reason is that one is the source of weakness and victim mindset while the other isn't. Boys are Consumers In active A victim Pass the blame Men are action takers Producers Take responsibility Leaders...
Apr 27, 2023•19 min•Ep. 175
What does it look like when you are living your life in fear? When you have a constant state of anxiety and fear how does one man cope? In fact, how does anyone cope? That is a huge and very important question to ask I come across so many men who are living in one form of fear or another. The Gentleman who is talking in this post shows all the detail of why living in fear causes you so many different forms of suffering and anguish. Anyone else in here dealing with a soon to be ex that still want...
Apr 20, 2023•43 min•Ep. 174
To be busy is almost a badge of pride for most men. Yet is it really? Is it better to be busy or is there something else you want to focus on? If it is something else then why do we focus on being busy? Why is busy what we want to do and not the other thing? The fallacy of busy Being busy is not the goal we want. Whether we are running our own business or helping another person achieve their goals by being an employee. Being busy is wasting energy and time. I came across a thought about how busy...
Apr 13, 2023•32 min•Ep. 173
Note I talk about this being episode 171 and it is episode 172 Many times we claim that happiness is our goal. We want to be happy. We just want to be happy. Yet when it is time to take steps to be happy what is holding you back? Why do we avoid happiness? Because we are designed to look out for the bad. We know we have a better chance of staying alive if we worry about the tiger that might be in the rosebushes The Issue is that today there are not that many tigers roaming around our municipalit...
Mar 31, 2023•29 min•Ep. 172
So, how many times have you had someone yell at you about bout not judging them? What do they mean by the whole don't judge me? How do you not be judgmental? You cant What is actually happening people don't want to be told they are out of step. They don't want to be told they are wrong. It is a double standard It is a lot like how women want to dress nicely to attract the guys they find attractive but get mad when the normal guy finds them attractive....
Mar 23, 2023•34 min•Ep. 171
We as humans have emotional responses about many many things. Some people have more responses than others. Yet one of the big choices a person is able to make is not to the benefit of someone else but to themselves. Yet for some reason many people don't want to better themselves. I have started to understand that many people often seek out suffering and pain in their lives. This sounds so odd to me because so many people actually complain that they just want to be happy. Yet when happiness comes...
Mar 16, 2023•27 min•Ep. 170
Thoughts are what make your world yours. We love to have thoughts and share thoughts about what our thoughts are thought to mean. Our thoughts are fascinating when you step back and look at them. Especially when you can step back and see when a person is lost in their thought loops. A thought is nothing more than what we think. Was that the audience saying " Duh!"? YOu would think that it is a universal truth. Yet when you look at all the Karens in the world getting upset at everyone else for no...
Mar 09, 2023•34 min•Ep. 169
What happens when the pressure of life gets too much? How do so many men act like life doesn't bother them while you are sweating bullets? Frustration is a huge emotion when you are in a stressful situation. Examine why you are having all this pressure You are running to get the kids for your 4 hours of visitation. Yet you have a boss who is holding your job over your head. Stating that if you aren't at work when he says you will have plenty of time to play daddy. Then you have all the different...
Mar 02, 2023•33 min•Ep. 168
This week we have a long episode. Yet it is a great episode. I have a friend of mine who has gone through a divorce and we talk about how a divorce changes a man and how that can be for the better or the worse. This week we have Craig Ignatowitz from the podcast At Home with Craig, He has gone through 3 different divorces and so if anyone has some insight as to how divorce can affect a man it is this fine gentleman. Home Page - Athomewithcraig Podcast Twitter - Igster101...
Feb 23, 2023•1 hr 38 min•Ep. 167
One of the main traits that define a man is his ability to take action. Stop playing the ignorant game You do know you just don't want to have to say it out loud. I don't know is an indulgent action Make a decision One of the hardest parts boys have is when they are faced with a choice. How do they decide? How can you decide? Why are decisions so hard to make? What is a decision? It is the cutting away of a part of a choice. You are actually killing an option. If you are wanting to weigh out the...
Feb 09, 2023•20 min•Ep. 166
Let's go back to the first night your wife told you she wants a divorce. How did you act or what did you do? You had thoughts racing through your head like, She's going to take the house. I am going to have to live in an apartment again. She is going to take the kids away from me. Followed by tons of questions that get answered with scary thoughts. That first night and the rest of the week were pure hell. You were wondering where she was going each night while you stayed home with your mind cran...
Feb 02, 2023•33 min•Ep. 165
Relationships like many things in life aren't always permanent. There are some relationships that will last only for the time of your airline's flight. While some may last for decades. Now, this needs to be said, If you are in a place where you are in danger then yeah time to leave. Do not pass go and forget about the $200. If you are in an abusive relationship then get out and find safety first. Then you can work on your thoughts. Yes, men can be in abusive relationships too. Those types of rel...
Jan 26, 2023•28 min•Ep. 164
How many times have you found yourself off balance? Especially when you are going through something as unpredictable as a divorce. It is easy to be knocked off balance when you don't have your focus What happens when you are off balance? Small things set you off Your attention is easily drawn away from the important objective. You will not get anything accomplished easily You will find yourself in scarcity mindset more You will have more drama in your life Exercise To Try Close your eyes and sta...
Jan 19, 2023•28 min•Ep. 163
Now I have talked about this a bit in Episode 82 The 3 A's There are 3 reasons for divorce and those are the 3 A's. These A's are trust destroyers. You can overcome these but it takes time and a lot of it. When I say, "time" I don't mean days or months I mean a minimum of 3 years but it can take as long as the offended party needs to trust in the offender again. Now those three A's are... Abuse Addiction Adultery You may hear something like, we just fell out of love. Ok but that isn't a reason t...
Jan 12, 2023•37 min•Ep. 162
Tools Needed Notebook Pen/s Determination Plan Now I have been talking about Break the plan down into sizable chunks Use the Smart goal technique Specific - Measurable - Attainable - Relevant - Timely - This technique is just the start. It is nothing more than a starting place. This helps you get your thoughts in order and determine how you will proceed. Because when you take the SMART technique and add it to something like the 12-week year, you start making massive strides. this is because you ...
Jan 05, 2023•44 min•Ep. 161
This is the end of the year. Therefore it stands to reason that we are looking toward the future. Why you don't look to the future? I don't know how. What if I fail? I don't have the money I don't know what I want I have never done X. Are you looking to the future or are you just daydreaming? Many times we say we are looking at the future when in all reality we are daydreaming. The difference between planning and dreaming is the deadline. When are you going to achieve the goal ? What is keeping ...
Dec 29, 2022•30 min•Ep. 160
With it being the Christmas season it is easy to want to hide away from relatives who stick their noses in other people's business. It is easy to just not go anywhere and avoid people. It is easier to spend time in your own misery than to spread it around and let other people see. What Family Is Your first friends people you bond to Where you are loved Human What Family Is Not family isn't just blood relations perfect Out to hurt you Why is Family Needed? the traditions are stronger than you wan...
Dec 22, 2022•41 min•Ep. 159
Is it OK to be rich? These questions will bring up so many thoughts about money. I don't care about money/Money isn't important Money Is the Root of All Evil Money makes you greedy Money Tears families apart Money is nothing but a score Money is a circumstance Money is like alcohol Money is a tool...
Dec 15, 2022•24 min•Ep. 158
You are worthy Inferiority complexes Love Yourself Being the Bully to yourself Troubled by your past? Nobody really cares about your past. Building your Self-worth Kintsugi and Ikigai Find your purpose Feel like an imposter...
Dec 08, 2022•26 min•Ep. 157
Ok, Guys this week we are talking about what men need to stop doing to attract more women. The Thanksgiving Story The biggest reason I did this show is that on Thanksgiving my mom got an unsolicited Dick pick from one of the guys she is talking to. how do I know? because I was looking at a picture my mom's suiter had sent earlier when he sent her an image of his morning wood. This is something that seems to be running rampant. Women are complaining and men are winding why they aren't getting lai...
Dec 01, 2022•43 min•Ep. 156
This week I have a special guest who has taken the time to find out how to get the best out of an awful situation. Andy Heller had the rug ripped out from under him after being married for 8 years and being the father of 2 kids. What did Andy do? Did he delve into shame and Scarcity? He may have tried but he didn't in the end. He actually started studying what was going on and taking notes. He also started going to a therapist and taking the advice they gave. From here, Andy started talking to o...
Nov 24, 2022•55 min•Ep. 155
How closely have you followed your dreams? How often have you talked about something being nice or cool to have and leaving it at that? If you are like me then you probably do it fairly often. Then there are times that I will get very intentional about a specific idea and pursue it to fruition. The difference is striking. How do you follow your dreams? Have you ever made one of your dreams come true? If not why? If you ever wanted to see if there was magic, a higher being, or universal power, th...
Nov 17, 2022•36 min•Ep. 154
It doesn't matter how you look at it, you have had the feeling that you have been wronged at least a few times in your life. It may be just a minor faux pas or something major where you have had a major grievance. We all have the opportunity to forgive at one point or another. The problem most people have is that they have the opportunity to forgive someone and they don't. These people often struggle with the anger and resentment that builds up within themselves. All because there was some occur...
Nov 10, 2022•36 min•Ep. 153
We are talking about the Lonely man this week. We look at, why are there so many lonely men in society. Boosts! Main topic Today I wanted to talk about a post that has been making its rounds on social media and other sites. This is why there are so many lonely men in society today. Is the lonely guy lonely because he is toxic, or is it be of other factors? It is from Psychology Today and it came out back in August. This article is called The Rise of the Lonely Single Man: Men need to address the...
Oct 27, 2022•47 min•Ep. 152
Life is full of stress how you handle that stress can often determine what makes you or breaks you. Panic and stress Don’t use it as an excuse to not get your goal done Apply it as gas for your goal We panic and stress because we want to win Don’t hide/ resist it will tire you out
Oct 20, 2022•27 min•Ep. 151
