Iyanla noticed a pattern – whether it’s socks or a pair of pants, what she puts inside the wash is exactly what she gets back out. So when two struggling callers share their experiences with Iyanla, she decides it’s time to look at what they’re putting into their relationships from the start. The first woman feels like she’s putting her all into every romantic relationship she’s had, but when she finally lets her guard down, the love isn’t returned. And the second caller feels as though she’s se...
Feb 01, 2023•45 min•Season 1Ep. 27
In an episode all about shifting your perspective, Iyanla’s caller this week feels as though she’s the black sheep of the family, and can’t have a good relationship with her brother. After years of being mistreated and told she is always wrong, the caller is still afraid that if she lets go of the relationship, it may never heal. But to help guide the guest on the journey of acceptance, Iyanla shares a very personal story about her own relationship with her brother. Do you want to be on the podc...
Jan 25, 2023•37 min•Season 1Ep. 26
When two callers join Iyanla for conversations about their problems with family, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue: Both women are dealing with learned behaviors where they put everyone else’s happiness above their own. The first caller has given up her career, friends and her life across the country to move home and take care of her grandfather, when her mother and aunt live nearby themselves. The second caller believes she has no self-confidence, thinking that her abusive childhood led her...
Jan 18, 2023•40 min•Season 1Ep. 25
When two women share their on-the-rocks marriage problems, Iyanla tells them it’s time to admit what they already know. The first caller’s husband is blaming ADHD as a reason for a lack of intimacy, while the second woman’s husband sometimes ignores her for days at a time in their own home. Both women learn to pull up their big girl panties and confront the situations head on. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twit...
Jan 11, 2023•38 min•Season 1Ep. 24
This week, two callers are unsure if they should put up with behavior they’ve been unhappy with from their partners. The first guest feels like her partner has lied to her about being divorced, and that’s a huge no-no for her. Then, another caller believes her partner’s kids and ex-wife are the problem in her relationship, but Iyanla thinks the issue is with her judgement of the situation. Iyanla guides both callers to learning how to express their boundaries with their partners. Do you want to ...
Jan 04, 2023•30 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Iyanla says that sometimes one of the hardest things to do is to accept that people can come from toxic roots, and that it’s their job to uproot the toxicity. This week, two sisters join Iyanla for an extended episode where they share their own family traumas, ranging from emotional to physical abuse. Now, as adults, both sisters want to figure out how to have a relationship with their toxic parents, who they consider narcissists and broken people. Iyanla guides the conversation to steering away...
Dec 28, 2022•45 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Iyanla shares the story of her estranged relationship with her sister, which changed her view of every woman who enters her life. So when two women call in with breakdowns in relationship with their own sisters, Iyanla is ready to listen. The first caller recently learned that her and her sister had different biological fathers, but she doesn’t know how to bring it up to her sister for fear of her sister feeling disconnected from their relationship. Iyanla’s second caller is a woman with a famil...
Dec 21, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 21
In a powerful and hopefully-enlightening episode, Iyanla speaks with a father who was former military, and is now struggling with a divorce. He’s worried that his two adult children weren’t given a good life and may end up resenting him for his choice to leave their mother, even though it was best for him. Iyanla finds the real core of the issue and helps the caller, and maybe more listeners out there, learn to understand that men can experience heartbreak too… And sometimes they need to let it ...
Dec 14, 2022•33 min•Season 1Ep. 20
This week, two callers have set themselves up for experiencing exactly what they don’t want in their relationships. One caller is dating a man who has a son, while she doesn’t ever want children – yet she believes the issue is with her partner. The second caller is considering returning to a toxic relationship because of the pressure from her children and her ex. Iyanla recognizes the issue in both situations – each caller believes they cannot have what they want, which created their predicament...
Dec 07, 2022•42 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Two callers this week believe their problems are in their current situations – one who is a self-proclaimed people pleaser, and the other, a returning caller who can’t seem to make progress in fixing her life. However, Iyanla notices that they’re both dealing with scattered thoughts. Both callers have been traumatized and must ask for the help they need to heal. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVan...
Nov 30, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Iyanla believes that a betrayal of trust by a family member can be one of the most difficult relationships to heal from, but also one of the most beneficial. And two callers this week have detailed stories of betrayal to share on their paths toward healing. One caller had the police called on her after she exposed her sister’s cheating husband. And a second caller has always had contention with her three sisters, whom she now hasn’t talked to for years after a very minor disagreement. Do you wan...
Nov 23, 2022•35 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Iyanla takes a look at the other side of the parent/child relationship, with two callers whose mothers still treat them like children. The first caller feels like he had to become the emotional support for his mother after his father died, which created an unhealthy relationship. Then, a second caller wants to have some relationship with their mother, but can’t seem to set boundaries like an adult. Iyanla guides both callers toward standing up and presenting themselves as children no longer. Do ...
Nov 16, 2022•36 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Iyanla classifies a relationship as lasting for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. In this week’s episode, callers share stories of returning to a relationship for a second (or third, or fourth) time – something Iyanla calls “Double Dipping.” One caller continuously returns to a man who disappears from her life for long periods of time, while another caller believes second chances never work in romantic relationships as it’s only left her with a broken heart. Iyanla guides both callers to unders...
Nov 09, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 15
This week’s callers think there are no more good, single men out there. One woman is only attracting men who take and never give in the relationship, and now she measures her relationships as a transaction. Then, the second caller believes she’ll never find what she wants in a partner, and because of that ends up finding men who leave her. Iyanla takes it all the way back to the root, diving into each callers’ belief systems (B.S.) developed at a young age. Do you want to be on the podcast? Foll...
Nov 02, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 14
What people experience as a child can have resonating ramifications for how they develop into adulthood. Two callers this week are working through their childhood traumas. One woman keeps having flashbacks to degrading and mean comments her mother made when she was young, and she feels like she can’t move on from it. Then, a second caller wants to be close to his parents, but feels like they never allowed him to express himself. Iyanla guides both callers toward forgiveness and acceptance of the...
Oct 26, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 13
After 12 years of marriage, one woman is on the verge of divorce because her husband continues to spend time with an ex and many female “friends”, which he refuses to let her meet. Another caller’s boyfriend left him when he didn’t lose the weight gained as a result of the stress of significant loss. Iyanla dives right in, reminding both callers that the most important things for them, in this moment, is to set their boundaries, learn from their mistakes and choose themselves. Do you want to be ...
Oct 19, 2022•33 min•Season 1Ep. 12
With the intention of bringing a family back together, one woman is trying to bridge the estranged relationship between her boyfriend and his daughter. The problem is: her boyfriend never asked for help. Then, Iyanla’s second caller is frustrated when her husband shuts down after trying to over-communicate her issues with him. Iyanla’s guidance on both issues is straightforward: Communication in a way that works for you and your partner is the only solution. Do you want to be on the podcast? Fol...
Oct 12, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 11
In a mental-health-conscious episode, one caller recently moved in with their now-adult son after a crisis, and is struggling to live together without treating him like a child. Another caller suddenly became a guardian to her grandchildren after a heartbreaking loss and needs some support moving forward Iyanla asks that both women seek the strength inside themselves and to, most importantly, ask for the help that they need without feeling like they’re doing something wrong. Do you want to be on...
Oct 05, 2022•38 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Blindsided by a sudden breakup shortly after closing the gap on a long distance relationship, one caller is left heartbroken and confused by the continued mixed messages. Another caller is certain her masculine energy is preventing her from attracting the ideal man. Iyanla has some guidance for the both of them: Choose yourself, and grow some lady balls! It just might help them both find a relationship that works. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest cal...
Sep 28, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Iyanla often says that if you are emotionally untrusting, you will attract emotionally untrust-worthy people, and that couldn’t be more true for both of her callers today. The first caller is dating a married man and is unsure if she should end the relationship, but Iyanla doesn’t buy the lie. Then, after constantly being friend-zoned, another woman realizes that she is constantly pushing to find “the one,” all while being emotionally guarded. When love is difficult, Iyanla reminds both callers ...
Sep 21, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Two callers believe they know what’s wrong in their relationships, but Iyanla thinks otherwise. One woman feels betrayed by her husband when he chooses his mother and other women over her, even right after she gave birth to their child. The second caller’s girlfriend called her selfish and entitled, but she doesn’t think it’s true. Iyanla gets to the heart of the issues, allowing her callers to finally be honest with themselves about what’s really wrong in their relationships. Do you want to be ...
Sep 14, 2022•27 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Just because there isn’t money or children involved doesn’t mean that a friendship is any easier of a relationship. In an episode devoted to friend relationships, two callers are under constant fear that they’ll suddenly lose their friends. The first caller wants to reconnect with a friend who already cut her out of their life once before, which Iyanla fears will only happen again. The next caller develops personal attachments to the clients she works with, and then feels like she loses a friend...
Sep 07, 2022•35 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Callers this week are feeling unfulfilled in their romantic relationships, but can’t get up the courage to make a change despite clear issues. Iyanla shares a story of a hound dog that has a deeper message that may help these callers make a decision with their husbands. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman...
Aug 31, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Ending a relationship can be a difficult process at its best, or a painful experience at its worse. This week’s callers discuss the difficulties in their relationships, from cheating to violating boundaries and the challenges in breaking up. Iyanla guides her callers to “know what they know” and do what’s right for them. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive ...
Aug 24, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Two callers seek Iyanla’s guidance on navigating their relationships with their husbands, each for very different reasons: Diane’s husband had a stroke and now she is the primary caregiver, and Maggie’s lost trust in her husband after a financial loss. Iyanla’s expertise may help return these two women to love within themselves or their relationships. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebo...
Aug 17, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 3
After sharing news about her relationship with her daughter, Iyanla invites two callers to examine their desire to cut their mothers out of their lives. What may seem like an easy way to move on turns into an exercise in forgiveness and the recognition of their own dark sides. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren...
Aug 10, 2022•35 min•Season 1Ep. 2
In this empowering first episode of The R Spot Iyanla talks to Ms. E., a breast cancer survivor struggling with body image post mastectomy. Worried about how a new suitor may react to her altered body, Ms. E.’s love life has been non-existent since her life saving surgery. Iyanla gives Ms. E. her voice back and invites her to get under the story she’s telling herself about her experience. Ms. E.’s courage inspires Iyanla to share her own personal journey and how she fell in love with herself. Do...
Aug 03, 2022•38 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Shondaland Audio and iHeartRadio present: The R Spot with Iyanla. Each week, New York Times best-selling author and famed spiritual life coach, Iyanla Vanzant, invites callers to share their personal relationship issues during live sessions to help inspire, grow and guide them and other listeners to “do the work” toward healing. Get new episodes of The R Spot every Wednesday. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitt...
Jul 19, 2022•3 min
