It's the season finale of the R Spot, and Iyanla is talking with Kier Gaines, licensed therapist and speaker. They discuss how men can grow into good men and fathers without having that example in childhood. They talk about how men can permit themselves to be vulnerable and why holding their fellow men accountable is so important. Follow Kier on Instagram and TikTok @kiergaines Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: ...
Nov 06, 2024•57 min•Season 2Ep. 52
Welcome back to part two of Iyanla's conversation with Dr. Kris Marsh! This week, they're opening up the conversation and taking questions from the IG live audience. They get into everything from how to redefine family to the financial penalty of being single. Plus, we hear why living trusts and wills are a must-have. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/...
Oct 30, 2024•37 min•Season 2Ep. 51
In this week's episode, Iyanla is joined by professor and author Kris Marsh to get into the hot topics in her book The Love Jones Cohort . They talk about the importance of intersectionality, how class intersects with dating, and why you should stop asking people, "Why are they single?" Tune in next week for part 2 of the conversation! Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant S...
Oct 23, 2024•36 min•Season 2Ep. 50
In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla is back on IG Live! She listens to guests share the hardest relationship lessons they learned and she provides a little wisdom to help them move forward after their breakups! Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....
Oct 16, 2024•54 min•Season 2Ep. 49
In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla gives her listeners relationship advice live on Instagram. From being too honest to teaching others how to show up for their partner, Iynala has the ingredients for the perfect relationship soup. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....
Oct 09, 2024•29 min•Season 2Ep. 48
In part two of What Good Men Want, Iyanla and Coach Ken extend the conversation around masculinity, male needs, and male perspectives in relationships. Iyanla asks Coach Ken how women can spot when they have a good man, how to make men feel safe, and what are the reasonable and unreasonable expectations both partners should have when they are in a committed relationship. Coach Ken also unpacks his vast knowledge of the nature and reasoning behind cheating and answers the question, is cheating ev...
Oct 02, 2024•36 min•Season 2Ep. 47
In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla sits down with Coach Ken Canion, a relationship coach, author, TV personality, and creator of the Relationship Academy. Iyanla asks Coach Ken about what good men want from their partners and where men and women are missing each other. In this first part of a two-part series, Iyanla and Coach Ken dissect emasculation, transactional relationships, and what is really expected of men and women in romantic relationships. Follow Coach Ken at coachkencanion Do you ...
Sep 25, 2024•42 min•Season 2Ep. 46
We pick up where we left off in our last episode with our guest Tony Porter, author of Breaking Out of the Man Box . Iyanla and Tony continue their wide-ranging conversation and unpack how to keep men accountable, how to foster healthy communication, and how to encourage men to support women in leadership roles. Tony also leans in and helps listeners understand how to reframe the dynamics between men and women, how to prevent violence against women, and highlights the harm that the collective so...
Sep 18, 2024•35 min•Season 2Ep. 45
Iyanla shares the show today with her incredible guest Tony Porter. Tony Porter is an author, TED talk speaker, and activist working to deconstruct and reconfigure masculinity. This episode is all things men: how they relate to themselves, each other, women, and the larger community. In this episode, Tony highlights the sometimes dangerous and unhealthy aspects of the collective socialization of men. Tony is working to create a better world where men can voice their feelings, express vulnerabili...
Sep 11, 2024•45 min•Season 2Ep. 44
Grab a pencil because Ms. Iyanla is taking us to relationship school! Certified relationship coach Kittie Rose joins the show to explore the essential building blocks of strong and lasting relationships. Kittie shares her expertise by identifying harmful relationship behaviors and offering practical, actionable advice based on previous episode topics to help listeners improve their relationships. You can follow Coach Kittie at @kittiejrose Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on socia...
Sep 04, 2024•52 min•Season 2Ep. 43
In this episode, Iyanla asks callers what their loved ones do that drives them CRAZY? What are the deal breakers and what problems can make the relationship stronger? What must we do to communicate our issues and how do we express them with love? We have several guests who unpack what drives them crazy, from cleanliness to lack of intimacy and everything in between. Iyanla also points out, to all her guests, what could be driving their loved ones crazy about them because crazy-making behavior is...
Aug 28, 2024•43 min•Season 2Ep. 42
Like relationships, there are many different types of exit strategies, so Iyanla is giving the topic a second episode. On today's episode, Iyanla and her co-host chat through ways to manage an exit that you can't be completely gone from. Iyanla guides her guest through creating boundaries with an ex when children are involved without creating a false sense of hope with the "wasband." Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram &am...
Aug 21, 2024•49 min•Season 2Ep. 41
When is it time to leave? Many people have a hard time leaving a toxic situation and when they do, they may not have all the resources they need to stay gone. On this episode, Iyanla is joined by two co-host who know a thing or two about creating an exit plan. The group talks about how to recognize when it is time to go and how to leave an abusive partner. Then, Iyanla talks with a guest who is struggling to leave a toxic tenancy. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media f...
Aug 14, 2024•47 min•Season 2Ep. 40
In this episode, Iyanla is asking callers who checks the ex? How do you negotiate with your current partner about their involvement with their ex? Or maybe your ex is not respecting the boundaries you set for your new relationship. And what do we do when there are children involved? Our first guest advocates for clear boundaries. The second guest unpacks her current situation with her partner, who is allowing inappropriate boundaries to be crossed, and Iyanla advises on how to communicate her fe...
Aug 07, 2024•49 min•Season 2Ep. 39
In this episode, we are talking all about dealbreakers & boundaries in relationships. Iyanla and her callers talk about how to confront a dealbreaker and what to do when you are not feeling respected by your partner. From lying to sexual incompatibility and even illegal activity, Iyanla helps her callers navigate through it all. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See ...
Jul 31, 2024•48 min•Season 2Ep. 38
The stew is bubbling! In the second part of the good girls and bad girls series, Iyanla and her guests get right into it. Damon "Bware" Vanzant is immediately put on the hot seat: would he marry a former bad girl? While Coach Stormy Wellington talks about doing the work to reform and find her feminine energy so that she can show up as the best version of herself for her partner. Lastly, the group tackles submission and what that looks like in a relationship. Do you want to be on the podcast? Fol...
Jul 24, 2024•47 min•Season 2Ep. 37
In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of the "good girl" and "bad girl" personas. What happens when a good girl goes bad? Can a bad girl be reformed into a good girl? How do good girls and bad girls show up in relationships? Iyanla is joined by special guests Damon "Bware" Vanzant and Coach Stormy Wellington, a reformed bad girl, to unpack these questions. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaV...
Jul 17, 2024•33 min•Season 2Ep. 36
In this episode, Iyanla is asking callers to contemplate whether or not they let the good one get away...or maybe they are the one that got away. How did it happen? Was there self-sabotaging? Were you ready to receive? Our first guest knows she let the good one get away, and Iyanla helps her figure out what to call in for her next relationship. For our second guest, the one that got away was out of her control, but Iyanla advises on how to move forward when fate takes our lives in unforeseen dir...
Jul 10, 2024•37 min•Season 2Ep. 35
In part two of the cheating series, Iyanla and her panel of guests dive into how to move on with an unfaithful partner while asking the question, was the relationship damaged before cheating? Iyanla also provides her guests with the principles needed to confront a cheating partner and how to rebuild trust in the relationship. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystu...
Jul 03, 2024•34 min•Season 2Ep. 34
It's a question many of us have faced in our lives: what do I do if my partner is cheating? Iyanla and her panel of guests provide real-world advice on how to trust your intuition when your partner is cheating and how to move forward and reevaluate your trust if your partner is in fact faithful. One panelist also shares how she handled the conversation in the past and how she would change her approach now. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in inf...
Jun 26, 2024•38 min•Season 2Ep. 33
In this episode, Iyanla delves into the controversial yet juicy topic of hall passes. What does it mean to allow your significant other the freedom to explore outside the relationship? Our caller doesn't think she'd give her husband a hall pass but admits there is a third party already in their relationship. Then, Iyanla and friends discuss how to approach the conversation, the potential benefits and pitfalls, and the difference between hall passes and cheating. Do you want to be on the podcast?...
Jun 19, 2024•51 min•Season 2Ep. 32
Iyanla is asking callers to take another look at their relationship with dating and posing the question: How do we define dating? What are the conversations we should be having dating? Our first caller is a young woman who expects to meet a man who is making six figures, who is well traveled and mature, but is having a hard time finding someone living up to her standards. Iyanla then has on Zakiya Fatin the author of What's Real, What's Not, and Somewhere In-Between, and together they discuss th...
Jun 12, 2024•43 min•Season 2Ep. 31
Iyanla is asking callers to take another look at their relationship with themselves and posing the question: Would you date you? Our first caller believes she is the dream girl but is she ready to be loved back? Iyanla then helps her second caller navigate her new relationship with herself as a single woman. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener f...
Jun 05, 2024•45 min•Season 2Ep. 30
Our exes can only have as much power and access as we give them. Iyanla explains how the stories we tell ourselves contribute to that dynamic. In the second installment of our Relationship with Our Exes series, Iyanla guides a caller through reclaiming her power after a tumultuous relationship. Domestic Violence Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit their website at www.thehotline.org RAINN at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or visit their website at rainn.org Do you wan...
May 29, 2024•37 min•Season 2Ep. 29
Exes. We all have them but we can't always let go of them. Two callers share their struggles with letting go and creating boundaries with their exes: one feels guilty about ending her relationship with a man who's going through a tough time in his life, while the other can't seem to shake her teenage love 10 years later. Iyanla provides both with insight on how to end these relationships for good. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!...
May 22, 2024•55 min•Season 2Ep. 28
In the second episode of our relationship with money series, Iyanla helps two callers re-evaluate their money stories. The first caller feels her money comes and goes while the second caller is trying to establish a relationship with money. Iyanla teaches both callers to create new money stories. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & Twitter: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for pri...
May 15, 2024•39 min•Season 2Ep. 27
In this week’s episode, Iyanla dives into the power money can have over us. The first caller feels she does not have the funds to live within her means, while the second caller works two jobs to make sure her family never goes without. Iyanla helps these callers redefine their money relationships. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & Twitter: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for pr...
May 08, 2024•38 min•Season 2Ep. 26
In this episode, two callers struggle with the current state of the world and how it's impacting their lives. The first caller lives in such a state of fear it has shrunk her world, while the second caller worries she's not doing enough to contribute to society. Iyanla guides both through the process of reframing their place in an ever-changing world. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & Twitter: @IyanlaVanzant Facebo...
May 01, 2024•36 min•Season 2Ep. 25
With so much disaster and heartbreak going on in the world, Iyanla welcomes a woman to share the story of how recent events have taken a toll on her mental health. As Iyanla explores the idea that the world around you reflects people’s internal struggles, the caller learns to let go of things she cannot control. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/...
Apr 24, 2024•39 min•Season 2Ep. 24
Iyanla shares some deeply personal stories about learning to love herself and her now-infamous “quilting fabric” story to help two new callers who feel like they can’t be honest about who they are. The first is a woman who was abandoned by her parents and now exhausts herself by trying to be everything for her children. Then, the second caller met her perfect man, except for one thing: He controls all the money in the relationship. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media ...
Apr 17, 2024•45 min•Season 2Ep. 23
