How to Have Patience with a Podcast

those are my favorite. I don't know, there's something about the warm, like cup, even in the middle of the summer, I still get a lot of comfort from having a warm beverage, whether it's in the morning, noon or night, like if you know me at all, then, you know, I love my caffeine at any time of the day, because it just doesn't really affect me. Maybe this like Spoken like a true caffeine addict, right? It doesn't affect me the way it affects normal people. But anyway, I am

bringing up comfort today. Because we need to get uncomfortable. And I'm actually while I'm recording this, I'm sitting in my chair, I got really comfortable right before we started recording, like I'm kind of sit in like cross legged style, I have a pillow in my lap, I feel like basically a minute therapy session, because we need to talk about patience. And that makes me very uncomfortable. Because it is something that I struggle with the most personally, professionally.

And I found myself writing in my journal today. All about patience, because it's the thing that I need the most of right now and the thing that I have the least of, and I thought you know what, I'm switching things up. I'm changing things in the content calendar. Because if I'm feeling this way, I know that there are other people in this audience going through this as well. And we need to talk about it. So let's get right to it.

Welcome to the Proffitt Podcast where we teach entrepreneurs how to start launch and market their podcast. I'm your host, Krystal, Proffitt, and I'm so excited that you're here. Thanks for hanging out with me today. Because if you've been trying to figure out the world of podcasting, think of this show as the time saving shortcut you've been looking for. So let's get right to it, shall we?

habitually. And it is something that even if I don't know what to write about, I will write the words, I don't know what to write about today, until something comes to mind. And so today, I have really been grappling with, what is the next move in my podcast? Like in my business, what is the next thing on the horizon? for Proffitt Media. And it's funny, because if I look back historically, this happens every single year,

around this same time of year. And the reason is like, as of me recording this, it's September 2021, we are about to wrap up quarter, three of the year. And then quarter four always feels like you blink. And it's New Years, right? That's really what happens every single year, it is of no surprise that as soon as September happens, we roll right into October, November, you wake up it's Christmas. And then it's like, oh my gosh, I haven't done my new year's resolutions for the

year. This happens every single year. And so I start getting this restlessness around September, as I begin to think of Okay, how am I going to hit my goals for this year, right? Because presumably, I haven't hit every single goal I set out for 2021. And so it's like that mad dash of how do I get to the end? How can I like hit the biggest goals that I can? How can I like cram a whole bunch of stuff into the last few months of the year to hit my goals that I set either in December

of last year or January of this year. So I know this about myself, and I'm very glad to have the self awareness that this is what happens Otherwise, I would be very frustrated and overwhelmed. And I think that I realized this probably about two years ago, when this whole process started of what I'm doing in my business today. And so I kind of just have more whitespace in my calendar to think about the end of the year

and to prepare and to plan for next year. And I just have to tell you all like, like I said, in the beginning, I know that I'm not the only one who is feeling this way.

like, the root of the issue. It's not just Oh, you're being impatient. There's either comparison going on, there's imposter syndrome going on. There's like I've lost sight of gratitude and being grateful for the process and everything that's happened up to this point. And so I wrote in my journal this morning, it's imagine this it's like 530 in the morning. I'm sitting down on my coffee and my dog Wally's is our Boston Terrier. He is literally connected to me like at the epi is

always right by my side in the morning. And so he'll snuggle up on the couch with me. I'm like, either in my robe or my pajamas. And I have this big fluffy blanket, y'all. I'm all about the comfort stuff. I already told you this, like I'm a sucker for a good fuzzy blanket. I'm kind of a hoarder of blankets. We have so many in this house. And the kids know, like which ones like, Oh, that's Mama's blanket like that fuzzy blanket,

that's mom's. So I love this routine of mine, where I get my hot cup of coffee, I go and I sit down. And I'm preparing to write for the day. And sometimes I'll wake up. And I have a thought, and you'll know this, if you've been around here for a while you've been on my email list. You know, I handwrite my emails. This is something that I have done since the very beginning since 2017. I have handwritten my emails. And this blows people's

minds. Now not every single email I've ever written is, you know, a handwritten email for you know, a letter first because I always call my love letters to my audience. But most of them are, I would say about 90% of emails that I send to my email list are handwritten first, and then I will transfer it to a digital format, whether it's straight to, you know, convert kid or a Google Doc. So if I know I have to write an email that day, then that's what I'll do. I'll think of Okay,

what's the topic? What's the subject, and then I'll just get after it and start writing. But this morning, as like, I'm literally talking about this happened. Today, when I'm recording this. I kept thinking, I want to have a million dollar business. It's the thought that I've had on my mind for a while ever since I started and it was, it's been an aspirational thing. I was like, man, I would just be so incredible to have a million

dollar business. There's a lot of other, you know, people in the online space, they have million dollar businesses, some of my mentors, some people that I've looked up to, and some are people that I consider my peers, and they started around the same time that I did, and they have a million dollar business. And so I just kept thinking, this is something that you wanted, right? It's an aspirational thing from when I first started. But now the mindset the thought in my brain switch to

why don't you have a million dollar business? I told y'all we're getting we're getting out of our comfort zone today.

with shame. And I remember in one of her books it was talking about maybe it was Daring Greatly, or the gifts of imperfection. Like I said, Yeah, I've read all of these are so good. braving the wilderness is another fantastic book, like just go get all her books on Audible, because they're fantastic. But she talks about, one of the key components to shame is not speaking it out loud. It's almost like you're feeding the monster when you keep all these thoughts and ideas to yourself,

and you don't share them with other people. And so, in me talking about this today about being impatient about the goals, the dreams aspirations that I've had, and then kind of some of the mindset things, I feel like I'm giving light to it, right? So it's not just this thing that I'm like trapped, thinking about by myself, but it's also something that I'm sharing with you and hopes that if you have the same thoughts and feelings, all the things that you won't feel alone in that thing.

know, a billionaire. And she's just motivational and inspirational in so many different levels. But she posted a video, oh my gosh, all like I said, never felt more seen and more relatable in my life. But she posted a video, she has her laptop on her desk, it's like, all stacked up on some books much like you would see any of us, right just making it work. And she's doing this presentation and she starts using her hands. And she knocks over what look like at least a half

glass of water. There wasn't a full blown glass of water, but it was like a pretty decent sized glass of water in her lap. And she does not miss a beat. She keeps going. Like she is just like, okay, you know, like blah, blah, blah, and she's talking and she knocks over this whole cup of water into her lap. It's like literally running off the desk like

you can see there is water. And she keeps going like talk about next level pro level, she's probably on a call with hundreds, if not 1000s of people that she's giving an inspirational motivational speech to, and she knocks over a freaking glass of water in her lap. And she doesn't miss a beat. She just keeps going. She keeps going. Because the reason why I want to share that story today is because going back to the shame, and the ridiculous things that we think

of in our mind, but she hadn't shared that. Like she's not trying to show everybody she's perfect. She's like, y'all, I spilled a whole glass of water while I'm giving this big presentation. But, you know, pardon my language, but shit happens, right? It happens. And sometimes you just have to keep going. And you have to say, Okay, I like this happened, this happened to me. And I'm living through it. We're going through this together, I'm just going to keep going. And I'm just going to

brush the water in the floor. Don't worry about it because, you know, stuff happens.

All of these things like this imposter syndrome, like these things that you aren't supposed to say to yourself, right? Like everybody in the personal development space is like, Oh, you know, you don't need to say these things. comparison is is a illness and it's like it's something that runs rampant in our, you know, industry blah, blah, blah. And I kept telling myself, that doesn't happen to me. I don't tell myself those things. But I was lying to myself. Of course I do. I will

look at some who's been in this space? Like I said, the same amount of time that I have, and they have 50,000 subscribers on YouTube. And I say, you're not good enough, because you don't

have as many as they do. Or you're not hitting these list of, you know, entrepreneurs and intrapreneurs let's gonna say influencers, but it just kind of did a weird word smash their, you're not hitting these lists, because they got started one month, sooner than you did, you're not doing enough, you need to put out more content, you need to work harder, you need to hustle you need to do all these things like all this just, it's crap,

y'all. It is total crap. Because at the end of the day, what matters is, are you doing work that matters. That's really all that this boils down to. So whenever I look at being impatient, and the things that I need to do, and I need to hustle and do all these other things that my brain my mindset is telling me, the truth is, I can look at where I am today, and go back to the person that I was

when I started this business. And if I were to tell her right, if I were to sit down to little old me back in 2019, and tell her all of the things that I've accomplished this year alone, I'd blow her mind, blow her mind, like seriously, above and beyond anything we could have imagined back in 2019, I would have blown her mind. And the reason why I say 2019 is because that's when I made the hard pivot to teaching podcasting to really going full out in this online space. And I

got to be really honest with y'all. I know I've talked a few times about like, life changes and transitions here on the podcast. But I've only been doing this full time since August 17 2021. I know that sounds crazy. But let me back up. My youngest son just started kindergarten this August, I have been doing this part time. For two years. He's been home with me, Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and therefore I can only really do my business full time on Tuesdays and Thursdays,

which I don't know why I said full time. That's obviously that's only part time. But I've only been all in, in working on my business five days a week for about a month and a half, as of me recording this. And so for me to say you're being impatient, you should be further along right now you should be all these other things. Right? You should You're shitting all over yourself. I love I love that quote, I don't know who came up with that. But I think that it's so good. Because it's

true. I'm telling myself, you should be doing all these things.

and there. I don't have any full time employees. I don't have any part time employees as of right now. Because I'm a firm believer in, I'm not going to hire out or pay for a good service. If I can do it myself and keep the business out of debt. I edit my own videos, I edit my own podcast, I

create all my captions. I do all my website stuff like and this really surprises people, people will say, well, in order for you to grow, you need to outsource you need to focus on the things that you know are in your business that only you can do. Yes, I totally agree. I think that that's really smart. But at the same time, I'm not willing to go into debt to do those things. I would rather grow at the speed of cash at the speed of what I can

handle what I can take on. So all of those ideas of well, you don't have enough followers, you don't have enough sub subscribers. You don't have a big enough email list. I think I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. And usually that's the hardest thing to hear. And that kind of feeds into the impatience right is when someone tells you, you're right where you're supposed to be you're doing the right things you're making progress. You're doing all the all the things like you're ticking all the

boxes. It kind of just pisses you off, doesn't it? It's just like, oh, that's not what I want to hear, I want to hear like, success is right around the corner or just keep at it like you're only a week away from making this big breakout or, you know, whatever the case may be. But the truth is, patience really is a virtue. Patience is a value. Patience is a principle and a self awareness that you have to have, in order to keep going. It truly, truly is none of this comparison stuff.

None of this imposter syndrome are telling yourself, you're not good enough, you're not doing this quickly enough. Or you should have you know, shitting all over yourself again, don't do it. Stop it. Stop being so impatient. So I really just wanted to come on today and give you the tough love talk that I feel like I needed this. I needed

this probably more than anybody here today. But I have learned over time that if I have a certain feeling, or if someone in our audience asked one question, there's probably 20 other people that are feeling this as well. So I wanted to share with you just so my thought processes around being impatient and what that looks like and how I work through it by getting a clear picture of what like, knock all of the fluffy stuff aside, like take all the subscribers, all the followers, all

the downloads, like Forget all that stuff. are you creating content that is valuable to your audience? And are you having fun doing it? Those are the questions to ask. Those are the things that we should be focusing on.

grab it, all of them all of the above. They are all incredible. And you need to go check them out ASAP. So I'm gonna link to those in the show notes. But that's all I have for you today. Like I said, Go to KrystalProffitt.com/episode292. And, as always remember, keep it up. We all have to start somewhere.