Hey everyone, it's Cully here and welcome to this week's Mojo Monday. So this morning, something very trivial happened, but it's a really common thing happened to me and it got me thinking and inspired me to do this podcast. So I was turning right onto a double lane highway and it's one of those highways where you can stop in the middle before you actually turn right. And so I had stopped in the middle and this big forward
truck pulled up right beside me. So he clearly didn't want to wait for me to go before he came up, but by doing this, he blocked my view so I couldn't see the traffic coming towards me to turn right. This was totally unnecessary for him to do this, and I've felt it. I this wave of irritation just rose up in my body, and I was really annoyed, and for a moment my mind went where it went, exactly where you would expect it to go. So I was saying things like, why would you do that? You know,
that's so rude. I can't see. But then something else kicked in for me. And what happened was I noticed the annoyance and I thought, ah, here it is. I'm experiencing what we call she no mujhon. So let me explain that term, because it's a really, really powerful one, and I would guarantee that the majority of you, if not all of you, have experienced this. So she saw no mujon and I apologize for my pronunciation to all the Japanese speaking people out there, but you don't need
to be Japanese to really understand this concept. It comes from Japanese psychiatry Showmamrita, and it refers to this internal conflict that we all experience when reality doesn't match what we want things to be. So it's that tension between what is which is reality, and what we wish was happening instead, which is just an ideal. So this relates not only to outside events like trucks blocking your way and the blocking your view in the traffic, but it
also relates to our internal states. So we don't want to feel anxious because it's really uncomfortable, so we struggle with trying to fight it off, which often makes things worse. So he describes this as the opposing tension between one's desire that life and a sense of self be a certain way and the facts of how life is. And this morning, that was exactly what was going on with me. So I didn't want the truck to be there. So frustration showed up and then all of a sudden, my
mood and my state is changed. But he was there, and frustration was also there, and that was the reality. Now, because my awareness of the emotions came up, I had a choice. So I could stew in the irritation and let it dictate how I behaved, like you know, beeping him or giving him a dirty look. Or I could simply acknowledge that the situation wasn't what I wanted, it was a minor inconvenience, and still choose to respond. So
I just went with it. I inched forward slowly, I got a clear view, saw my lane was open, and off I went. So there was no drama, There was no horns, no did he looks, no big story. I just moved on. Now I'm not telling this because I always handle things in this way, because I definitely don't. But this morning it was just such a good reminder for me. So we deal with she saw normal on
every day in different ways and in different intensities. You know, things like you want peace and quiet because you're trying to work or study, but the neighbor's dog is barking NonStop. Or your room looks like a floor robe because your partner's clothes are just thrown on there, and so you start to feel resentful, or you're injured and you can't exercise it, you can't play the game, so you start feeling depressed about that, or you feel anxious and you
wish you felt calm already. And it's that gap between reality and our desire for something, and it's uncomfortable. And the more we struggle with reality, the wider that gap gets.
But it's not something to fight, it's something to notice because the more we can acknowledge both the reality and our ideas of how we want things to be equally and not focusing on one more than the other, and that's our internal experience and our external circumstances, the more space we have to be able to respond with clarity rather than react with emotion. So this week, if you find yourself irritated or anxious or disappointed or just fed up,
just take a little pause. Ask yourself, is this a moment of she saw no mujon am i caught up in this tension between what is and what I wish was happening, and can I hold space for both and still move forward with intention. So I hope you got value from that. I certainly get value from this from she saw no mujon. This is just increasing our self awareness of the nature of our humanness. So I am wishing you all a very calm and clear headed week. I hope people don't get too annoying in the traffic,
and I will see you next Monday. See yea