Hi everyone, it's CALLI here for this week's Mojo Monday. So I want to talk today about when we try to do too many things at once and the idea of competing values. So let me explain what I mean. So, most of us have values that really matter to us. They're things that matter to us deep in our heart. They're really really important, you know, things like being a present parent, or maybe it's being a good leader at work, or looking after our health or contributing to the community.
And these are kind of like compass points that guide our lives. So when we're making decisions, these values are our compass that point us in the direction that we want to go towards the person that we want to be. But what can happen is that we have more than one value, so we have two values that we really
care about that come into conflict. So for example, just say you are finishing a big project at work, or maybe it's some big assignment at work, and you want to really nail it because you value excellence and reliability, for example. But at the same time, your teenager has been struggling and they've just asked you if you can hang out with them and do something with them after school, so you value being there for them too. So now
you're caught. So one part if he says, right, I've got to stay focused, I've got to meet this deadline of got to do a good job. And then this other part of you is like, you need to be a good parent, you need to be present with your kids, and right now your teenager needs you. So this is where many of us get stuck. And that was just one example, but you might sound familiar to you in other areas of your life as well. And what can happen is guilt and stress and overthinking can sneak in.
But the reality of life is that values will sometimes compete. And that doesn't mean that you're bad at balancing life. It just means that you're human. So what can we do in this situation. Well, when values compete, we can't honor both of them. We know that, and we certainly can't honor them perfectly in every moment, but we can respond intentionally, and that is key. So choosing the behavior that best fits the context, not one that ticks the
most boxes or makes everyone happy or avoids discomfort. So here are three steps that can really help to really recognize what the value is and name that values that are pulling you. You know, I value doing great work, I value excellence, I value being emotionally available to my family. And then check the context. What's the big picture right now?
What value needs your energy in this moment, not forever, but right now, And then you act in line with that chosen value, and knowing that the guilt is there, but not shining that flashlight of attention on that guilt because you're not portraying the other value. You're just making a conscious choice in this moment. And that's integrity, it's not failure. And here is the beautiful thing is when we live this way, we're not trying to do it at all. We're trying to do what matters with intention,
one choice at a time. So you go into your week, just notice when your values are in different directions. You take a breath and pause and tune into that and really recognize and ask yourself, what is important to me in this moment? Why are these emotions showing up? What matters to me? And then you choose what fits the moment, Because your values don't really need to compete, they just need you to choose. So I hope that's helpful. Have a great week everyone, and I will catch you next week.
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