The One That Got A Gay

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Have you ever found yourself in hot water ‘playing it straight’? Ever fallen in love with a gay person without realising it? Hear the other side of the story on The One That A Got A Gay as we explore the lives of gay, lesbian and other LGBTQ+ people who spent years ‘playing straight’ only to turn their lives upside down by coming out later in life. Statistics show the average age at which people come out is now 17. TOTGAG explores why there are so many people of that generation still coming out well in to their 20s, 30s and sometimes even later and how having to play straight has influenced them and the people around them.Each week, Emily and Alex delve in to a different person’s coming out story to understand the impact of being LGBTQ+ in a straight world and what they’ve learnt from years of being in the closet. Expect laughs, sobs and some great/terrible advice from our co-hosts and some compelling stories from our brave and wonderful guests.

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#10 - Lord Ivar Mountbatten: I just buried it.

Fix up, look sharp listeners, we have (extended) royalty in the house! 👑 This week we are joined by the charming and wonderfully candid Lord Ivar Mountbatten, first cousin once removed to Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh and third cousin one removed to Her Majesty The Queen. 💂🏻‍♂️ As the only openly-gay member of the extended royal family, Ivar shares an entirely unique perspective on what it is like to be gay in 21st century Britain. From Gordonstoun (posh!) to Bridwell Park (his country est...

Dec 13, 2021•34 min•Season 1Ep. 1

#9 - Phil: This is my truth, I'll own it.

Another week, another perspective. This episode we are joined by pâtissier extraordinaire Phil Khoury, Pastry Chef at Harrods. Phil grew up in Sydney, Australia as one of four kids born to Lebanese-Australian parents. He talks us through the tough task of telling (or not telling...) his Arab family, his decision to keep his sexuality private and shares his advice on how other people of Middle Eastern heritage can tackle coming out. ✨If you're reading this, you are just millimetres from the subsc...

Dec 05, 2021•36 min•Season 1Ep. 9

#8 - Bec & Adam (Part 2): Bi-now, gay later

Quite a cliff-hanger, ey? The wait for part 2 of Bec & Adam’s story is well worth the wait! In this episode they tell us more about THOSE revelations and how they navigated the rocky post-coming out road as a couple and as individuals. Again, a huge thank you to Bec and Adam for sharing this story with the world through our podcast. The One That Got A Gay explores the lives of gay, lesbian and other LGBTQ+ people who spent many years living straight lives all the while knowing that’s not nec...

Nov 29, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 8

#7 - Bec & Adam (Part 1): Bi-now, gay later

We don’t think you’re ready for the story of Bec and Adam, two self-confessed nerds, parents to two children and the scripters of one of the craziest love stories we’re yet to come across. Thank you, thank you to Bec and Adam for letting us tell their story. We hope you enjoy it listening to it as much as we enjoyed recording it. The One That Got A Gay explores the lives of gay, lesbian and other LGBTQ+ people who spent many years living straight lives all the while knowing that’s not necessaril...

Nov 22, 2021•39 min•Season 1Ep. 7

#6 - Emily Update: How much do you lose of yourself to protect other people?

Disclaimer: this is a bit of a sweary one… If you’re reading this you are literally millimetres away from the rate and subscribe buttons and therefore just millimetres away from our enduring happiness. Please hit those little buttons! Emily returns to the hot seat to update us on her how her life has changed since we recorded her episode (confession: we actually recorded that 8 months ago!). We talk family, siblings, new jobs, new haircuts, new girlfriends and much more! T he One That Got A Gay ...

Nov 15, 2021•23 min•Season 1Ep. 6

#5 - James: Oh my god, they know my secret.

Professional nosebleed faker and ABC News Foreign Correspondent James Longman joins us this week, live from his bed in Delhi! James talks to us about his upbringing, the effect going to a Catholic boarding school had on his ability to accept his sexuality and how being gay positively influences his work and life today. DISCLAIMER: This episode features some ugly crying noises. 😭 The One That Got A Gay explores the lives of gay, lesbian and other LGBTQ+ people who spent many years living straigh...

Nov 07, 2021•47 min•Season 1Ep. 5

#4 - Nicky: I was in complete denial.

It is BEYOND a pleasure to invite Nicky to TOTGAG this week. A travel expert ✈️, photographer 📸 and ex-lawyer 👨🏼‍💼, Nicky talks us through his experience of coming out as a Jewish man, why it took him until he was 30 to reveal his sexuality and - of course! - some ridiculous dating stories. 😆🙉 The One That Got A Gay explores the lives of gay, lesbian and other LGBTQ+ people who spent many years living straight lives all the while knowing that’s not necessarily who they truly were. A resour...

Oct 31, 2021•58 min•Season 1Ep. 4

#3 - Charlie: It all makes sense now.

In a first for TOTGAG, this week we open the podcast up to an outside guest! We are delighted to welcome media personality and fitness expert Charlie King to the podcast. Charlie talks us through his experience of coming out in the public eye, how he almost didn’t make it to THAT interview and how his mental health and sexuality are closely interlinked. The One That Got A Gay explores the lives of gay, lesbian and other LGBTQ+ people who spent many years living straight lives all the while knowi...

Oct 25, 2021•55 min•Season 1Ep. 3

#2 - Emily: I have a confession.

Emily shares her deeply personal coming out story, revealing how a recent intense attraction ignited a lifelong journey of self-discovery after years of suppressing her sexuality due to self-esteem issues. She candidly discusses navigating dating apps, the mixed reactions from friends and family, and the unique challenges of coming out later in life when others have a 'formed view' of you. The episode concludes with Emily's empowering advice and a humorous anecdote, highlighting the complex and freeing experience of embracing one's true identity.

Oct 17, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 2

#1 - Alex: Have you told your family you’re gay yet?

In this first episode of our new podcast, co-host Alex tells us about his journey to coming out as gay at 26, why it took him until his mid-twenties to do so, how his life has changed since, and the best and worst reactions he has experienced. He also shares some words of advice for any listeners struggling to come to terms with their own sexuality. The One That Got A Gay explores the lives of gay, lesbian and other LGBTQ+ people who spent many years living straight lives all the while knowing t...

Oct 10, 2021•42 min•Season 1Ep. 1

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