On today's episode I chat with Patricia Rich about Self Led Sexuality. Patricia is a certified IFS Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. She brings her expertise, her vulnerability, and her warmth to teach us about this new model based on IFS. I had to get a few of my parts to settle down before this episode. I speak for some of them at the beginning, like my giggling Middle School part and my 'Don't say too much personal stuff!' part. Patricia and I spend the first 30 min...
Oct 02, 2020•1 hr 13 min•Season 2Ep. 62
On today's episode, Leslie Petruk, Assistant Trainer with the IFS Institute and I get real and honest about parenting. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT- I'm thrilled to have her on the show! I don't know anyone who is not struggling in this area right now and am just so thankful to Leslie for sharing her Self and her wisdom. I hope you walk away feeling hopeful and empowered. Let me know what your parenting intention is at The One Inside Facebook page or @IFSTammy on Instagram. I share mine in the i...
Sep 25, 2020•54 min•Season 2Ep. 61
Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute is returning to the podcast to talk about one of her other passions, marriage (See episode 33 for our first chat about Legacy Burdens). Here is a bit of an outline of the show: 1. Gratitude towards partner (esp during Covid) 2. Appreciation of partner (again, Covid) 3. Complications in 2nd marriages and blended families 4. Adult children dealing with intense feelings of loss and avoidance parts (We pause to deal with my parts who are ...
Sep 18, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 60
Welcome back! Here we are - season 2. On today's episode, I chat with Leon Silvers, founder of Drag Therapy and STAR of Drag Heals (well, he is the star of epi 2, season 2). I'm curious how your parts reacted to the title of this episode. I imagine some of your parts are like, 'What is that?' And some are like, 'Oh, gosh.' And some are like, 'How fun!' I hope you can be with all those parts, those voices inside, and listen to this episode. I promise it is FULL of creativity and energy and fun. I...
Sep 11, 2020•57 min•Season 2Ep. 59
On today's episode, I talk with Tom Holmes. He and his wife, Lauri wrote the book, "Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life." Sharon Eckstein created incredible illustrations which are in the book and the Inner Active cards. The book and the Parts Work Inner Active cards are some of my favorite IFS tools. I can't express how much I love- and use- the parts cards! Tom has been around the IFS community for a long time- Dick mentions him in the epi we did last fall. Tom tells us his jou...
Aug 14, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 58
On today's episode, the final for honoring minority mental health month, I talk with Nydia Guity, an IFS therapist, podcaster, writer, and natural hair enthusiast. I had no idea ("but didn't I?," says a part) the 'emotional baggage that comes with hair,' whatever your race, culture, or background. Nydia shares her story- her parents are originally from Honduras and celebrate the Garifuna culture, she grew up in NYC speaking Spanish as her first language, went to college in Vermont, and currently...
Jul 31, 2020•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 57
On today's episode I speak with Radhalisa Zarzuela and Deran Young. Radha and Deran met at a level one IFS training in Harlem, NY. Radha shares her story with us which is touching and courageous. I felt inspired by her and think you will too. We talk about 'rules' which may come from our cultures and the legacy burdens we carry. We talk about "code switching" as a person of color. We talk about the impact of domestic violence and the power of coming out of this with "trauma residue" and with a s...
Jul 24, 2020•57 min•Ep. 56
On today's episode I speak with Requina and Deran who share their different stories and life experiences. Requina is the friend Deran mentions in our first podcast so I am excited she was able to join today. Requina Barnes, LICSW specializes in relationships, attachment and trauma. Through her Boston, MA private practice, she works primarily with men, women, and couples of color. Requina is a member of the Foundation for Self Leadership Board of Directors. And she is the VP of the BTR Board of D...
Jul 17, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 55
On today's episode, I speak with Deran Young, President and CEO of Black Therapists Rock and the IFS Institute's Online Ambassador. We met to record this at the beginning of May. We were still feeling the isolation and challenge of Covid-19 and George Floyd was still alive. We had no idea what was to come. I'm thrilled and honored to give you the first of four episodes devoted to Minority Mental Health Awareness. Today is some of Deran's story- why she created BTR, her experience as a military p...
Jul 10, 2020•59 min•Ep. 54
Dr. Ed Yeats and I chat about IFS, Shamanism, and Tibetan Buddhism. Weaved into our conversation from beginning to end is attunement and synchronicity. We attune to our parts, to one another, to nature, to our own spiritual journey. Synchronicity is an interesting and fascinating part of our journey. This is a long one so here is a bit of an outline: 1. Tuning in, like to stations of a radio 2. "I'm still an oak tree." 3. From spiritual seeker to finder: American Shamanism, Soul Retrieval, and S...
Jun 26, 2020•1 hr 26 min•Ep. 53
I'm soooo excited about this episode where I chat with Dr. Angela Huebner, a triple threat therapist, writer, speaker. She is very smart and very warm, two attributes I greatly admire. We talk about the 'why' behind all the weird questions we ask in IFS. My only regret is I didn't ask her more about this! We shift over to talk about Lifeforce Yoga and 'breathing to shift emotion' at about the 40 minute mark. As I was editing this I was like, "Oh no! That is it, I want more!" Angela calls our abi...
Jun 19, 2020•51 min•Ep. 52
On today's episode, I chat with Shelly Johnson, author of the fantastic book, "The Parts Inside of Me." Shelly and I spend about half the episode talking about the power of Self and half walking through her book. Shelly shares her powerful story in between. Shelly begins her book with these two meaningful quotes: "If you love what's in your way, they will transform." - Dick Schwartz "I believe that there is a divine spark in every human being, although it may be buried deeply."- Michi Rose One o...
Jun 12, 2020•56 min•Ep. 51
On today's episode- the 50th! episode - I get to chat with Anne Hallward founder and host of Safe Space Radio. Anne is passionate about helping others who have suffered the "repetition of traumatic silence." Not only have they experienced a horrible trauma, they have to be silent about it for fear of backlash. Silence following a trauma perpetuates shame and blame. Anne refers to this as the "wounding of silence." She shares her 7 step process which increases the possibility of having an exiled ...
Jun 05, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 50
On today's episode, Marilyn and I chat about AM-IFS. Marilyn has held workshops for several years at the IFS annual conference and in her hometown of Sudbury, Massachusetts. AM-IFS is based on the work of Janet Adler and Mary Stark Whitehouse which Marilyn has integrated with IFS. It is like a moving meditation where you connect with parts and feel witnessed by another. One goal of AM is to help people "extend their aliveness by exploring their feelings and their experience of feeling themselves...
May 29, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 49
On today's episode, Jennifer Farley and I chat about how the body can help us connect to parts and Self. We also talk about Shamanism and its connection to IFS. I found this conversation fascinating and I cannot wait to have Jenn on again! Here are a few of the highlights: - Use of movement as a psychological treatment intervention. - How you move and hold yourself reflects how you feel about yourself, how you relate to others, and how you experience the world. - You can get to know parts of you...
May 22, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 48
On today's episode, I talk with Dr. Nancy Morgan and Travis Shubeck. Nancy is the Director of LifeMoves Behavioral Health and Training Programs, a California agency dedicated to breaking the cycle of homelessness. Nancy introduced IFS into the training curriculum during the 2015-2016 year. Travis Shubeck is one of the trainees and students who chose to complete his practicum at LifeMoves. Travis is working on an IFS manual for case managers who work with the homeless population. Travis states IF...
May 15, 2020•52 min•Ep. 47
On this special episode, I chat with Leslie Petruck for a quick chat about her upcoming workshop which is for ALL parents- knowledge of IFS not necessary! Spread the word to the parents you know because … yeah .... it. is. hard. Here is what you can expect over the 4 weeks: 1. Intentional vs Reactive Parenting- How to be more 'Self' led 2. Befriending all of your parts and your child's parts 3. The 5 P's of Parenting 4. Connection- increases confidence and cooperation (yes, please!) Sign up here...
May 09, 2020•21 min•Ep. 46
On today's episode, I chat with Rebecca Ching who is certified in The Daring Way and IFS. I thought about calling this episode IFS meets Brene' Brown as Rebecca brings us her expertise in both. Obviously, we talk about shame and trauma and vulnerability. How could we not!? Rebecca introduces us to the unburdened leader who is 'trauma informed', compassionate, and resilient. And this leader leads from the 8C's of Self leadership (curiosity, calm, confident, clear minded, etc). We touch on the enn...
May 08, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 45
In todays episode, Derek Scott and I discuss his Grief Corp initiative and how complicated grief and mourning is for those who have lost a loved one due to Covid-19. We talk in detail about what makes the grief process so complex right now by talking about our own reactions to all that is happening. Grief Corp groups are 6 weeks bereavement groups run by volunteers. Derek has done an incredible job setting up a structure for this for his community in Canada. If you are interesting in doing somet...
May 05, 2020•38 min•Ep. 44
In this solo episode, I share my reactions and realizations while watching the grief portion of the IFS Institute's webinar released this past week. My hope is your parts will resonate with mine, and you will slow down and be with your reactions (ie, parts) as we walk through the stages of grief together. To watch the entire Grief and Polarization webinar: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=blDmCGAIt7E&t=23s Register for Dick's workshop on Spirituality MAY 5: https://ifsca.ca/workshops/ Check o...
May 01, 2020•16 min•Ep. 43
In today's episode, I talk with Chris Burris, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Chris and I talk specifically about the current 'stressor' of Covid-19 and our fears around it. Chris states we can recognize our normal cast of (Internal) characters, system's constellation, patterns of parts during this pandemic. And, this feels a bit comforting to me to know that what I am feeling and doing is quite typical during times of stress. Even though this current stress is anything but typical or nor...
Apr 24, 2020•49 min•Ep. 42
Today's episode is a 'take two' of one we recorded in February on the initiative sponsored by the IFS Institute to take IFS into the schools. We decided to re-visit this convo given the current situation with Covid-19 and all schools shifting to remote learning. The result is this incredibly inspirational episode about the power of Self during this time of uncertainty and stress. We start with a meditation because I was blended with doing/busy/hyper parts and needed to land in my body and into t...
Apr 17, 2020•55 min•Ep. 41
In an effort to offer "simple and bite sized" help, call it a hug from my Self to your Self, I put together a small portion of an episode with Joanna and I. The full episode will be published at the same time. It is a gift to your overloaded and stressed parts. It is a quicker check in, a way to get reconnected to your center, to your Self. I encourage you to share with your non IFS informed friends. Much Love- Tammy
Apr 17, 2020•21 min•Ep. 40
Happy 1st Birthday to The One Inside! On this quick solo episode, I check in to offer Thanks to all the guests who said "Yes!" and to all the listeners who shared the podcast with clients, friends, family, and peers. I read from my new fav book, "Soul Talk" and remind us all of this calming essence inside available to us all, at all times. Even in times of pandemic. Put a candle in something and blow it out with me! So much love and gratitude- Tammy
Apr 14, 2020•14 min•Ep. 39
On today's episode, I chat with Chris Sullivan who has a strong passion for spreading the message of IFS through what he knows best, business. One of the things I love about this episode is the idea that the gifts of IFS and the qualities of Self (the 8 Cs) is getting out of the therapy room and into business, HR, and sales meetings. Chris uses the 8 C radar chart (we talk about in a previous episode with Julia S) to invite his team to do a 'you turn', to start their day with asking themselves, ...
Apr 10, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 38
Mike Elkin is sorta famous. Well, I think he is. Mike is a lead trainer for the IFS Institute and, before meeting him and then working with him as a program assistant, I had heard him quoted time and again from other students and his fellow trainers. So, I was thrilled to meet him and more thrilled how we hit it off. I adore him as I think you'll be able to tell. Mike is all over the place, as you'll be able to tell, which is good for us because we get to cover many topics and get lots of 'Mike-...
Apr 02, 2020•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 37
On today's episode I speak with Karen Locke, author of "Self Compassion Day by Day: Daily Reflections with Internal Family Systems." Even though this episode was recorded in late February, it is pertinent for our times as we are just beginning to feel the impact of COVID-19. Having a daily practice of checking in with our parts has become more and more important. I'm feeling a greater need to listen to the parts who feel disrupted, overwhelmed, afraid, and numb and letting them feel Self with th...
Mar 27, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 36
Julia S. and I planned to meet to talk about IFS and Addiction but that is not what happened. A lot of our plans are getting changed these days and it is causing a lot of our parts to react. Two days before our recorded podcast, Julia's County was ordered to 'Shelter in Place' due to the Coronavirus. This morning as I am writing this, two days after our meeting, all of California is now following the same order. It sounds like this epi is doom and gloom but it is not! Julia offers us hope and la...
Mar 20, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 35
Derek Scott and I decided to meet to talk about how we can support our community during difficult time. IFS brings many gifts to our bodies, minds, emotions, and to the world. Self leadership supports our parts feelings of helplessness and uncertainty, and then we can support the people we come in contact with in our families, our neighbors, our co-workers and clients. By the way, an hour after we finished recording this my son's school sent a lovely, heartfelt emailing cancelling classes. I sta...
Mar 14, 2020•22 min•Ep. 34
On today's episode I speak with Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute about legacy burdens. Legacy burdens are the feelings, beliefs, perspectives, ways of being in the world, etc. which are passed on from generation to generation. A part of me doesn't want to tell you all we talk about because it is so powerful I want you just to listen. Another part of me who, probably like you, is picky about what I spend time listening to and will read this little blurb in a podcast e...
Mar 12, 2020•54 min•Ep. 33
