On today's episode I chat with Mary Kruger, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute and one of the developers of the Level Two Addiction training. Mary shares her own story of finding IFS and her personal experience of the healing power of its integration with the 12 step model. We talk SO MUCH about Shame. We talk about the 12 steps as a Spiritual Path and working with parts who have difficulties with 12 step programs. We talk about addiction as 'disease' and where this idea comes from. Disease i...
May 21, 2021•51 min•Season 2Ep. 93
On todays episode I chat with Kim Daniels, Level 2 IFS Therapist. Kim is a Clinical Psychologist, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and Emotional Eating Coach who's on a mission: to create an army of women who never deny themselves the food they love, who treat themselves with the compassion and respect they deserve, and who value themselves and their bodies. And who never. Diet. Again. Doesn't that sound A- MA- ZING?! I so enjoyed our chat about all things Intuitive Eating and IFS. We check...
May 14, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 92
On todays episode, I chat with Nic Wildes about 'Is Gender a Part?' Nic spoke on this topic at the 2018 IFS Annual Conference and that is where we met -also when I decided my next step was to start a podcast :) Nic Wildes, LMHC (Pronouns: they/them/theirs) is a White queer nonbinary Certified IFS therapist based in the Boston area. They are in private practice and are co-director of SAYFTEE, a group practice devoted to working with LGBTQI+ people and their loved ones. Nic is especially passionat...
May 07, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 91
On todays episode I chat with Spencer Thompson, a Level 2 IFS Practitioner. He practices what he calls 'Self-Leadership Coaching,' emphasizing how IFS and Self-Leadership can impact us daily. He is passionate about group dynamics and creating unique container spaces that invite people into situations to practice and share in Self-leadership with others. He also loves helping people communicate for their parts and listen for the parts of others. We talk about 'What is NVC' and walk through OFNR (...
Apr 30, 2021•57 min•Season 2Ep. 90
On today's episode I talk with Molly Lacroix, a certified Level 3 IFS therapist, about her new book, "Restoring Relationship: Transforming Fear into Love Through Connection." I love this title so much I keep repeating it throughout the show... Outline: 1. Reasons she wrote the book 2. Her introduction and journey with IFS 3. IFS and Christian Spirituality 4. Outline of the book: - Judging, legalism and over reliance on cognitive parts - Why are we so vulnerable? (development and attachment) - Th...
Apr 23, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 89
On today's episode I chat with Heidi Armstrong- IFS Informed super warrior, super star, and all around one of the most resilient human beings I have ever met. Her story is tragic and hopeful and inspiring. Here is a brief outline of the show: Her story and lessons learned along the way (0-30 minutes) Recipes for Success (30 minutes on- ) Steps people can do now (So practical) For therapists and supports of injured athletes ------ Check out more of Heidi's story and her offerings here: https://in...
Apr 16, 2021•57 min•Season 2Ep. 88
On today's episode I chat with Lois Ehrmann, a Level 3 IFS therapist and frequent staff member for Susan McConnell's Somatic IFS trainings. Lois is a grandmother extraordinaire; I want to drop the boy off at her house for a week. Or, drop off all my exhausted, overwhelmed parenting parts. Lois has integrated IFS and Attachment therapy with families struggling with trauma. She developed a narrative method to teach parents and children the concepts of IFS which has empowered children to use the me...
Apr 02, 2021•54 min•Season 2Ep. 87
On today's episode I chat with Gale West, MA, MFA. Gale is the author of the IFS- and Akashic Records-inspired bestselling book, Money Come Dance With Me . A certified IFS practitioner, she has 30 years of experience in IFS, has presented at numerous conferences and was in a consult group with Dick for 15 years. The first training was in her apartment in 1996. A former psychotherapist in private practice, for the past ten years Gale has been providing individual and group coaching to conscious e...
Mar 26, 2021•59 min•Season 2Ep. 86
On today's episode I chat with Diana Richards, registered dietitian, Anusara yoga teacher, and who is certified in IFS. Diana offers workshops, consultation groups, and Intuitive Eating groups. She is a frequent staffer at IFS trainings and partnered with Jeanne Catanzaro in the IFS Continuity Program about Self Led eating and using IFS to heal food and body concerns. On this episode we talk about: - Diana's own personal story - "It is not about the food at all." - A parts driven approach - Impa...
Mar 19, 2021•59 min•Season 2Ep. 85
On today's podcast I chat with Seth Kopald, IFS Practitioner. This is Seth's second appearance on the podcast! He has a PhD in organizational leadership and has a long history in education. He is Level 3 trained in IFS and is well known for his presence on the IFS and Parenting and Arts Facebook pages. He also stars in the IFS Parenting webinar videos put out by the Foundation for Self Leadership. On this podcast, we wanted to talk about Spirituality and Self. Of course, we talk about SO MANY th...
Mar 12, 2021•59 min•Season 2Ep. 84
On today's episode, I chat with Loch Kelly, an IFS trained psychotherapist, a well known meditation and awakening leader, author of 2 incredible books, and all around super amazing, warm and friendly person. Loch's approach to accessing Self is different then Dick's, and Loch suggests asking the F's, which we normally ask of parts, to one's Self. Loch teaches us to ask: Who is aware and Who is the one asking? Loch explains and then leads us in a meditation around, "What is here when there is no ...
Mar 05, 2021•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 83
Here is a copy of a meditation from the longer full episode with Loch. For more of Loch's offerings check out: https://lochkelly.org/ Enjoy!
Mar 04, 2021•8 min•Season 2Ep. 82
On today's episode, I chat with Dr. Daphne Fatter, certified IFS therapist and a licensed psychologist in private practice in Dallas, Texas. She teaches workshops on white racial socialization for therapists, in addition to teaching on trauma treatment for TZK seminars. She is a trained facilitator by Challenging Racism to lead conversations on race and racism. This is the last episode in the Heirloom Summit Series, and I'm excited to this with Daphne who walks through the Six Stage White Racial...
Feb 19, 2021•53 min•Season 2Ep. 81
On today's episode, I chat with Ty Cutner, an IFS Informed Relationship and Image Coach who has a passion for working with men. Ty will be hosting two panels with the Heirloom Summit. You may know Ty from a Demo he did with Dick which is on the Continuity Program in the IFS Diversity and Inclusion workshop. Link to the Demo HERE! If that link does not work try this one :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Al7jnW-Z08w&feature=youtu.be I just want to note how HUGE it is that Dick (and Sara Oberg...
Feb 12, 2021•59 min•Season 2Ep. 80
On today's episode, I talk with Francesca Maxime', an IFS informed powerhouse! Her passion is contagious and my hope is that you will take one of the MANY resources and challenges she gives to 'accept your assignment' while giving ALL of your parts (including your racist parts) compassion and care. One of my favorite quotes: "We are all breathing carbon monoxide which is racism and think we are breathing oxygen... it does sicken over time." Check out her website here: https://www.maximeclarity.c...
Feb 05, 2021•48 min•Season 2Ep. 79
On today's episode I connect with Dr. Virginia Seewaldt. Virginia and I talk about (in order): - Living in NYC and coping with Covid - Her experience with IFS and her passion for racial justice - Whiteness as the 'norm' - Pantsuit Nation Facebook Story and 'centering the voices of color' - Listening and learning about our own Prejudices - White Fragility - Whiteness and Privilege - Worry about 'saying it wrong' is still centering 'me' - What we do from here and having compassion for all of our p...
Jan 29, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Season 2Ep. 78
On today's episode, I chat with Steve Spitzer and Glenn Williams. Steve, Emeritus Professor of Sociology at Suffolk University in Boston, has taught, researched, and written on crime, justice and social control for three decades. He is Level 2 IFS trained and has presented his use of the IFS model inside prisons at multiple IFS annual conferences and has written articles in the IFS newsletter, The Outlook. In 2002, he founded the Jericho Circle Project, a non-profit organization that seeks to 'b...
Jan 22, 2021•56 min•Season 2Ep. 77
On today's episode, I chat with Dr. Frank Anderson, a superstar in the IFS and Trauma world. You may know him as a lead trainer at the IFS Institute, by his PESI workshops, or as the co-author of the IFS Skills Training Manual. He is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, and I assumed we would talk about meds and neurotransmitters. I was wrong. Frank is personal, engaging, and hilarious. He shares a lot of his own story and is vulnerable and real. I decided to leave in our entire conversation (ins...
Jan 15, 2021•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 76
On today's episode I chat with Heidi Lindeman, a level 3 trained IFS therapist who is passionate about helping others transform their relationship with suicidal parts. Heidi shares her own incredible story of suffering with suicidal thoughts, obsessions, and images for years and the healing transformation she made when she began to listen to these parts and relate to them differently. Heidi's website is here Heidi's YouTube channel is here To register for the Heirloom Summit on Feb 24-26 and get...
Jan 08, 2021•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 75
On today's episode I chat with Jay Earley, a popular IFS teacher who authored the book, "Self Therapy" and who leads ongoing IFS courses and groups. Our chat can be broken up into 3 sections- 1. His story, and similarities and differences between what he teaches and what Dick teaches. He shares his take on unblending and inner critics. He shares his 'GPS of the mind' program. He states, "I am not competing with IFS." 2. Capacity Development- What are the 'capacities of Self' to be developed and ...
Dec 18, 2020•54 min•Season 2Ep. 73
On today's episode, I chat with Dorothea Hrossowyc and Ingrid Helander. Ingrid and Dorothea along with Tyler Haaren, Joya Lonsdale, Julia Sullivan, and Paula Shulman led a workshop on "Healing Racism From the Inside Out, Unburdening our Parts around Race and Racism", at the 2016 IFS Annual Conference, and were a part of the plenary session, along with Tyler, Joya and Donna Dellal-Ferme at the 2017 IFS Annual Conference titled Self-Led Activism. Releasing Your Inner Change Agent. I encourage you ...
Dec 11, 2020•1 hr 15 min•Season 2Ep. 72
On today's episode, I chat with Joan Ryan, an internationally recognized Enneagram expert and Leadership coach. Fortunately for our community, Joan is also Level One Trained in IFS. I have been looking for someone to talk to me about IFS and the Enneagram and was beyond thrilled when I found Joan. Joan is a type 9 and I am a type 3 so we talk about these types a lot. We also talk a bit about type 8s. Whether you are new to the enneagram or not, I think you will find our conversation interesting ...
Dec 04, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Season 2Ep. 71
On today's episode I talk with Jenna Riemersma, author of the book, "Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy." Jenna states, "IFS helps deliver what my faith tradition promises." I love the concept of the "Spiritualizing part" who uses God language but has a feeling of moving away and not moving towards. We talk about Self being the God image inside us all, and the idea of thinking about sin as the burden of trauma. Jenna talks abou...
Nov 20, 2020•54 min•Season 2Ep. 70
On today's episode I share my experiences with my own system on a tough day. You will hear from my parts who like to be dramatic and exaggerate. You will hear from the parts who respond to this with eye rolling and twitching. And, you will hear how sometimes just sitting in the middle of a sidewalk is the best choice. You will hear my dog's squeaky toy in the background over and over again. You don't want to miss this ;) Enjoy!
Nov 13, 2020•20 min•Season 2Ep. 69
On today's episode I speak with lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Susan McConnell. Susan recently published a new book on Somatic IFS and it may be my new favorite IFS book. Here is an outline (all of the times are 'ish') Check in- Meditation- 11-16:00 Reconnecting Mind and Body, what disconnects us? - 25:00 Importance of Embodying Self- 33:00 Witnessing through the Body- 38:00 Body Systems- 43:00 The Elements- 55:00 At the end of each podcast I ask guests if there is anything else they want ...
Nov 06, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 68
Here is a little gift! A meditation pulled from the full Somatic IFS episode which will be released in a few days. Enjoy!
Nov 04, 2020•9 min•Season 2Ep. 67
On today's episode I chat with IFS Practitioner Milena Worsham as she shares her incredible story of growing up biracial in Texas. Milena is a master story teller and I was drawn in from the beginning. I had this sensation of leaning in close as she spoke. She states, "I grew up believing I was white.... This is a protection for the family... White is a protection. It is safe." The first half of the episode is her and her family's story. The second half is about her connection to feminism and th...
Oct 30, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 66
On today's episode I chat with Paul Neustadt, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Paul has such a warm, engaging teaching style and I just loved our conversation. Paul's answer to the last question, "What would you do instead?" may be my new life goal or at least a daily intention. Here is a bit of an outline: 1. Create our own inner circle - when you have a hard time accessing compassion (or Self) 2. Impacts of individualism (our culture) on our parts 3. Tapping into our own inner wisdom 4. ...
Oct 23, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 65
On today's episode I chat with Laura Schmidt who bravely shares her story of a "life changing event" with openness and vulnerability. It is heartbreaking and inspiring. It is a story of acceptance and hope, of yielding and the need for patience. There are many parallels between the lessons she learned over the past decade and many of our own struggles with the Covid Pandemic. Put your pens down on this one and notice your parts- your sensations, your feelings, and your thoughts. Notice and be wi...
Oct 16, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 64
On today's episode, I chat with Derek Scott about "What is IFS?" Do you want the people in your life to know what this 'IFS thing' is all about? Well, here you go! I am THRILLED to give this to you, and hope it is a gift you give to your friends, family, co-workers, and strangers on the street. Derek teaches with humor and wisdom and warmth. I interrupt a lot so that is fun. We also talk about how perfectionism, need to try harder, need to get it right, need to never make a mistake, etc. parts m...
Oct 09, 2020•41 min•Season 2Ep. 63
