#157 The Stranger Thing

trainer that will come to me. It was a demand, Yes it was, And someone goes, shouldn't it say recommend a personal a good personal trainer who will come to me? And I said, yes, that's true, but whatever, I'm not training my brain. Yeah, we know that. Um one bound um so uh okay. The percentage of that is you actually looking for a personal trainer because you can't find

one via Google? And what percentage of that is you wanting to get a little bit of a freebie from someone who free no free Why can't you just ask why don't she just well, Brenna recommend that she would do it, because I think that there's an old fashioned way of like, hey, who's the best in town? There is an old fashioned It's true. Yeah, Brenna said she might be your personal trainer. She said she would do it, but I think she would be greed at it. She

really would be. But I just think, like I only like being told what to do so much, you know what I mean, a personal trainer, you're just Brenna. You could be like, no, I don't want to do that and you but a personal trainer, you're gonna Sometimes I try to impress strangers more than my you know, my girlfriend or my best friends. Totally, it's sompathetic. I don't know why that brain is like that. I do it

all the time. I think why. Today I went to the lounge in our building, and um, I started working as soon as one other person was in there. It just and it wasn't like I was trying to impress them. It just and I was doing some work in the lobby of my hotel the other day and there was a chance to sit in this chair like behind this woman or at this table where this woman was next to me working, and it just makes me work harder. If I'm alone in a gym, not gonna do is

impressive of the job. If I'm on a treadmill in front of some like fit people, that's going to be a good workout. There's a reason why classes exist, I guess, but yeah, I don't know why. But it's like I think it's competitiveness. I think you both have a competitiveness in you. I know, But why wouldn't I want to impress the person I want to actually really impress the

most because you know that they are fooled by you. Yes, they're not gonna be fooled by you, or you know they know the real you, so you know you're because we project so much because we know how we feel about strangers and how much we like and fill in the blanks of what they're presenting, and like, oh my god, their life must be she I look at a girl with like multiple necklaces, which yes I wear multiple necklaces now,

but I go, her life must be so organized. She must have like a cute house that's clean and like she cleans it herself. And she has like different soaps that she loves the sense of, and like she shops for them, especially yeah, candles and sense and it's like her special sense. And she like knows what flowers she likes and like about things, like knows what she likes. Whereas I'm just I don't need to do that now.

I was just writing a sample chapter of my book and attempting to and I was talking about some hotel I was staying at, and I was like, I I picked this hotel because you know, a production company was putting me up in l A. And I never stayed there as a guest in l A. Where I got to pick the hotel where they're like anywhere you want to say, well, And I was like, instead of googling it or doing research, I just went with the hotel that I knew. A rich friend of mine who has

good taste and like dresses cool. Didn't even ask him. But it goes to this thing of my life. But you knew that I would rather in some aspects of my life trust someone who I project coolness onto than what I actually like. Now, Like like music, I know what I like, Uh, movies TV. I know what I like. UM, clothing, I'm somewhere in between. I will sometimes wear things that I don't like because they just I know that they're cool. You know, my whole life, this is who I am.

I was a skateboarder. I like rage against the Machine. You were okay, they were okay, but I got in That was my You know, we've both kind of been that way of being and comedy and TV, like I knew that I had good taste in those aspects. I'm trying. Yeah, But when it comes to fashion, home to core cars, uh, sense sense is the one that I will never reach a place, not never, but I don't. I don't trust what I think smells good in terms of perfume. I

just that is something. For some reason, I will just blindly trust someone who looks clean and pretty like whatever they wear, because without smelling it, do you feel like you don't use? Like even before a COVID, I'm stained. I innately don't. I'm a stained person. That's how I'm gross. And so I don't know what good. I don't know what clean and neat and crisp and beautiful smell like.

Because yeah, with food, even though I love food, But if I'm out at a restaurant, I'll go to my friend, who, like I assume knows food or knows wine, I'll just be like, what is that? Because I don't even I can't even wrap my brain around. I would not do that for because I know what I like and I feel like I have a Yeah, but for me, like pretty much smart, it sounds like, because you were, You're doing it out of I want to experience new things. I'm doing it out of I don't trust what I

like because I do like certain smells. I love the orange uh Myers cleaning scent. It's Guardinia. I fucking love it. Start I've I've bought perfumes before that. I go, you know what, Nikki, you like this, get it? And then I show it to my friends who are like clean and beautiful people that are just like naturally, and they're like right, and I'm just like, I shall never wear it again. I can't. I will abandon something I like in terms of when it comes to aesthetics and smells, instantly,

you ask your boyfriend. Um My, the guy I'm seeing hates any scent. Yeah, but he only has sixty percent of his smell back so from having COVID so and I think he's in writing a little bit because why not. But because let me just tell you. When I had a U T, I things were not great one morning and I smelled myself and I was like, what the fuck you know what it smells. I'm just gonna be honest here. When I had I had a U T, I let as I disclosed the other day and it's

it's totally gone. I'm still taking antibiotics, but it's gone, and I don't have like I my pussy will smell sometimes just like from no, no, no, don't do that. It'll just you know, you have like a can you have a vagina out there, or a girlfriend has a vagina. Some days it's just gonna like smell because you haven't washed in a while, and it's like, you know, you're in just must sweat, just you know, like the way a shirt would smell if you wore it all day.

It's like it's not like but then there's this one kind of smell that I've only smelled before, um in the bathroom. It's serious. When we used to work there, some days I would walk in and there would be a fog of just almost a ghost of a bacterial infect it would be. It was it smelled like a fish market. It was so thick and putrid. It felt like I was in you know that it would be like a cartoon smell, you know that you could see.

And some days you would just walk into a stall and be like that poor woman, she obviously has bevy bacterial vaginosis, like there's a bacterial thing going on, and she doesn't know because she's smelling it constantly, or she does know. But I smelled that smell on myself unintentionally one morning after after the first night of feeling like I was coming down with something, I slept on it, but like I didn't know what to do. I slept with a towel between my legscause my vagina was just

like weeping all night. It was just like tearing up. And in the morning I felt fine, Like I was just in bed, like laying there and I felt fine, and I'm, you know, smooching my man and like get a little amorous, and then we start hooking up. I'm in the mood for it, and oh my god, I was like horrified at how bad I smelled like. And

I was like, oh my god, something's wrong. And I if he had his sixty percent of his smell back, he would have stopped what he was doing, only because I could smell it from where I was and he was not like he was closer to it. He wasn't going down on me, but he was closer to it. If he didn't have any reaction, which I saw, like we're close enough that he'd be like, babe, what's going you know, like it was at that point I was

about to say something. I put a pillow over my face because I couldn't enjoy what was happening yourself, because you think, and that's why I think he has us. I thought there's old time that you were talking about that he was lying about. Have I said he had more than sixty? No, no, I think he is less. So you think your put smells so bad? A guy with I don't know seven percent could have that thing. Absolutely No, I think he's probably down to ten percent.

But whatever it was, it didn't cut through because didn't he just didn't tell me. Maybe it would not have been able to stay hard of yours got him to sixty, like it opened up his monster. Oh yeah, it's like smelling like like I could wake someone up. It was so bad. So what did you do? Did you stop to any girls out there that have had smelling pussies? It happened to me. I'm a clean person, and it happened to me. It wasn't my fault. It was just maybe this is a business. There was that wrong girl.

She made two under grand selling arts. I know you got to sell bev. No one wants that farts. Guys really good off. I'm sure there's one guy who's fetishizes, like, you know, back to your own infections and vaginas. But yeah, what what so what did you do? Did you you stopped the ship? You said we finished? I put a pillow over my head. It was feeling good. It didn't

feel bad. It was just there was the smell of something bad that later came back, because for whatever reason, the infection would like heat up at night and really hurt at night, but in the morning, I didn't feel it at all. I just smelled the aftermath, and I was like Jesus Christ. And then I realized, that's the smell I smell in the bathroom sometimes when I go in after a woman and she's long gone. I mean she was there weeks ago, and it's you can still

smell it, and you go, what happened to her? And now I know it's just she has a U T I I've experience ain't working as a fishmonger, I experienced a similar feel. A fish had a Yeah the fish and burned my dick. No, I I would smell like it. I would yeah, dude, and you just it's very embarrassing, you know it. You try to pretend that no one else knows it, but everyone knows it, and you know it's like bad breath. I don't know. I don't know what you do in your pussy, what you gotta Yeah, yeah,

I would. I would. They think there should be a little Listery pack strips for your pussy because it's wet enough down there, spy, that's a good idea. No, you just don't have sex when you have a U T I. I I didn't know I had a U t I at that point. I just thought it was a little dinghy the night before, and then I, oh my god, it would start foaming. I never thought I would be able to admit that my vagina sank ever good for I'm really proud of myself, right, But I don't even

think I would have done it three months ago. I'm not kidding you, because it's so humiliating to be something. But I realized in that moment, much like I realized a lot of things that I feel such shame for. I didn't want it to smell. It's not so it's not inherently who I am. I just had a lot of fucking sex. Before that, I got a U t I, which is a common thing, and one of the side effects is that you have a smelly pussy. I washed it as soon as I could. It wasn't like I

was like, oh, you know, I'll just wing it. I knew he had COVID knows, so he wasn't smelling it or else. I would have stopped things. If I would have seen any kind of grimace on his face, or like the hairs on his beard start to singe off, I would have stop things. COVID knows, so I ye,

we can keep going because he ha COVID. It is There's something wonderful about having a guy that has no sense of smell, yeah, or anything, because now I can wear perfumes and stuff because he used to hate that stuff, and now I'm like, oh, I can kind of flicking off a blind guy. It's great. Yeah, yeah, Or telling the deaf guy go fund yourself behind his back, it's a it's a it's like a guy and some taste smelling off a blind guy is so funny. I've never

even thought of that. Um, what's it like living with your lady? How it's been less than a week. Yeah, we're still on the stage of just getting Amazon boxes, and it's like we haven't even had time to just like living in more of a cardboard box than most homeless people right now based on how many boxes are in your Yeah, honestly, and I gotta tell you it feels good. I don't know. I think it's my future, to be honest. But you know, you just break down

fucking boxes. That's all our lives are. Maybe people that live in houses don't have to break down the box. Maybe they could just put it out there. You know, you think you just stack boxes in the street and then who breaks it down for you? The garbage Tom Petty break down? Go ahead? No wait? So yes, Well I've been breaking down boxes in this house forever and you've done some of them for me. It's it's fucking hell. Hell, I don't know why it's it's the first three. It's great.

It's like you rip them and you feel you got to do it with a knife. You got that makes it so much easier, dude, Oh no, you wouldn't. You just slice down the middle and then it's so much easier. God. Yeah, I think there's probably a YouTube video that will instruct go down the side of the middle, slice it, and then rip the sides because they come off easier when you have a you want to see a d D. Look at how I rip boxes. I know. I bet it's the same way you a straw. Yeah, it's ugly.

It it just makes messes everywhere. The little pieces fly off and then you spend time getting a little pieces each one. Yeah that's a mess. But anyways, so other than that, I mean, I fucking love it, dude. I feel so at ease with her, and um, I don't know, there's like there really is no percentage of me, and mean, like I can't believe I'm doing It's just not there. And it's weird that it's not there to me, but

it's not. And I'm I'm really like I love her coming home and like watching we're watching the o C again, which I've seen, Like she like mocking the fashions and stuff because she was just a baby when that stuff was going on, so she yeah, she was an embryo, but I mean, like it was just so normal to us. But is there anything that she's observing in it as someone who was it child's up? Actually, I think, and you know, I always Seth was so cute. I always thought I was a Seth because I'm Jew in a

Christian town. He's funny, and I remember I told my buddy Casey, I go, you know, I was watching it again a couple of years ago, and I was like, I'm such like a Seth. He's like, you're fucking the debt. You're you're older than the debt. Your eyebrows for Yeah, if anything, I might be to Grandpa, like like I was like literally like attributing myself still to Seth, and I'm just like he's like, dude, what the funk are

you talking about? And I still want to be Kelly Kobowski or yeah back then though, like you could watch it back then and still relate to yourself now. Yeah, I mean I think that they still There was something else I was watching recently where I was like I or you know, even Sex in the City, like old episodes, I still look at them as like adults and even though they're younger than yeah, yeah, it's like I'm older than Lebron James. And maybe because he's tall, maybe taller

people seem older. That could be. No, but you know what, I don't know what it is like, because you always thought of basketball stars, which you were kids. Yeah, I think it's just yeah, it's so weird when you how that doesn't change though, how I can still I still watch Sex in the City and they seem like old ladies to me, and I mean now they are, but like this, the original one. Did you watch any of

the new ones? I saw half of the first season or first I'm sorry, first episode when she started doing a podcast thing. It made me take myself for doing podcasts. That's how bad I know. Also the other co host, I mean, Bobby Lee, great, whatever did that other woman in it? She just came off and nit that elevator where she's like, you better, she's kid. So it made me want to smoke pot. Though she's just like smoking pot in that elevator. I was like, God, that looks

so good. Um, let's take a short break and we'll come back with all right, let's get to the news for the first time this week. Let's do it. I mean, it's been a while. I hope you had all the swells out there. It's been about a couple of weeks. It's went today, folks, it is Wednesday. All right, let's play it now. You're first. Okay, a scorn woman stuff dead fish through her exits mail slot daily as revenge in the hopes that he will want her back. She

calls it my toxic trait. So there's there's a TikTok trend right now of people putting up their toxic traits. There's a lot on TikTok of people doing like horrible ship, knowing that it will get views, and they'll be like, do for to talk, do for to talk? Beat an old man or whatever, you know, whatever it is to just get one viral video. Like I don't know how many people have gone to jail to get a viral video,

but it's probably been a lot. So this girl every day puts a dead fish and she filled herself doing it, and it's called my toxic trait. And everyone's like, oh, you're so quirky. Oh this is so funny. Does he see this yet? Has he responded to her? As he reached out to her. I didn't investigate that hard, but it has over two million views. I mean, what have you done out of spite that? Yeah, it's a good question.

I'm too lazy to be spiteful. Well, that's not ever going to get a guy back, Like I feel like it's such a hard place to be and when you get rejected and you want someone back, because the only way to really get them back is to act like you don't care. There's nothing you can do, and doing nothing is so fucking hard. And you know, buy a fish every morning. You know, you know what they say, she's doing it for the talk. She's not doing it

to get this guy back there. That's life Like life right now is for the internet, not for the person that you're It's a stranger, it's a stranger thing. And celebrity. Yeah, I'm trying to think of anything. I mean, I've been terrible to people that have hurt me before, and I like,

I really regret some of the things I it. I mean, I I you know, Zach Sherwin was on our show Mr Napkins, who he doesn't go by that day anymore, but he the guy I dated, and he wrote a rap song about me that hurt my feelings after we broke up. And I mean, I didn't you know what I mean, Covid knows what I saved you there that would have Oh my god, I did. I did date a guy once who had no sense of smell. Yeah, And when we hooked up for the first time because

it was like a long distance thing. And then we met up in a city and um that we were both visiting, and we got to the hotel and he took a ship and didn't know how bad it smelled, and I was like really turned off by the smell, but I still hooked up with him. But he I just knew that he didn't smell it, but he I feel like you would be extra vigilant if you didn't know.

I think that you how loud this ship hit the water, like other things would pick up on the fact, so paranoid about smelling because you have no sense of smell that you would, you know. But he didn't get. I mean that was just a thing. Um No, So I've done I've done things too. I know. I wanted to make him feel really bad for what he I just wanted to make him hurt as much as he had hurt me. And these were all every time I've done that, it's been a guy that I pretty much have, you know,

said oh, they're never gonna like me again. I might as well just I mean, it sounds cheesy, but like the person you're hurting over and over again, is it yourself because you're letting You're not letting it go. So every day it's like and you still like them because love and hate are the same thing. It's just like the opposite. Yeah, I mean the idea that this girl goes and buys a fish every morning instead of moving us.

If you don't care when someone doesn't care about you and just moves on, that's the most painful thing you can do to someone. I love the idea of this guy like making fish with his eggs every like, thank wow, free fish. He think he did a subscription service, but he forgot no no cardboard either that I have to like every morning. Have you ever done anything spiteful? No, I'm gonna ask you next, so you're on deck. I think I've done things in the moment, like in college

in jealous rate. Have you ever said my biggest fear is just someone saying something super mean to me after a rejection. That's why you know I've said this before. It's why I never liked to criticize anyone, because I feel like they can just come back at me and say the meanest thing. No, I've never been in a relationship where like if I'm ending it, like I don't want to add to that obviously, but in react, So there was a time like I don't want you anywhere.

You're fat, like that kind of thing that guys do sometimes. Well, she had a close guy friend who I could have swore they were fucking and I got drunk and I knew that he was over there, and I went over there like in a jealous drunk rage in college, pounding on the door like that whole look, Oh, I fought a guy in a bar over her and literally over her. This is one of the guys who was grinding with Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, she was grinding with the guy. I was hammered. I was actually Tom Takara who had

that story. But I love that you also had a girlfriend who was grinding with guys and you just had to watch And I just confused your sort like yeah, but that's the thing that girls just did to make guys jealous. She was grinding, be like what I'm dancing. Yeah, I'm just just we're just dancing, Like yeah, so they're grinding and I go up in a jealous rage. We're

not dating, We're like in a break or whatever. But we just hooked up maybe the night before, and I went up and I I go, stop dancing with her, like I like turned into Batman, but just fatman because I drank too much whiskey and I was like, fat man, I fucking my body's fallen apart. So I go to him. I go, I start crinding on the other side of him. He's just like like whispering in his ear like you, oh my god. Every morning I'd show up at his fraternity and I grabbed her and go like get out

of the way or were you literally? Like literally, So that's what I did. This is a true story. I go up and I go, let go for you're done grinding with her? And he's looking at me like who Like there's no context here. I just went up, you know, I like floated in a loud bar. He just probably hears he probably this, So so I go, let go over, stop grinding, and I go, you have to count to three to three? No, no, no, you have wait so the count of three. You have the county to count.

It is so funny to say to someone, I bet you didn't say that. It's you have to the count of three. Got the two and he just didn't know what. So I go like this, I swear to god, I go one. I started counting with my hands. I go to what songs playing? Yeah? Yeah, So I go one, two, three, and I just attack him like like I have to do this, Like I can't believe he didn't drunk. You you remember this, so you weren't that drunk. I was fucked up. I don't get black out drunk, right, I do.

For some reason, I remember this. Um, I don't know why, maybe just whatever. So I start fighting him right and he lifts me. He picks my shirt over my head, so I'm just punching. I can't see him, but I somehow make out his face and like with my shirt over my head, and I hit him and I go to swing again, and I'm just like punching air. I'm like, what the hell, I take the shirt off. He's on the ground like I nailed him pretty down. Yeah. So

then uh, she's still grinding him. No no, no, no no. And then so then the lights came on in the bar, so now everyone or is it closing time? No, it's just like the music stops, lights on. I'm thrown out, like like literally like picked up by like three bouncers, like a battering round. I'm outside being like, dude, blue fucker, and I'm punching. Um. I started punching like a fence. Always such a cool look, like punching inanimate object when

you're angry, just punching a fence. And then never has that once looked cool then called They're probably like a thousand times at night being like what did you do in the morning? I mean, did you ever see the no no no fallout from Did you guys get back together? Maybe a year later, I don't know, maybe a month later, but she was big on like if I like you said, like when I stopped fighting, Like I remember, we went to like Acapulco for my senior spring break and I

got in the best shape of my life. I was like doing me. I didn't talk to her once in Acapulco, made out with like two girls, like it was just like completely like the revenge body. And then I literally

got back to New Orleans. She comes over that night, we have sex, and then I'm like crying outside her place that night, like she got me like that, like yeah, you got sober from it, you got did everything I could do knuckling it and then the second you I mean, that's and but you know, that's probably why I was single for another twenty years because I didn't want any of them. I didn't want to punch a fence. I'm not gonna punching fence guy, you know what I mean?

Did a chain link? Wouldn't punched a hole through it? Really? Yeah, Wilson got hit in that neighbor hurt. Oh my god, we finally saw what he looked like. Well, i mean, his face was bloodied, but it was he was scared again to hear Oh my god. But yeah, but that's what I'm saying, Like I'm spieful in the moment, but I feel like you've been spiteful little Yeah, that's why.

That's way. I think we were just talking about how like someone could fear, um like getting involved with a girl because they might hurt her and then what could happen? And I was like, well that doesn't like why do you get scared of hurting me or whatever it could be? And it's like, oh, hey, you should be I could.

I'm I'm not easy, I'm just smart and and yeah, but the thing is, I definitely think that was me, Like when I if someone doesn't like me, go before, if you didn't like me, I would try to convince you that you should like me. Yeah, it's just it's not the who I am anymore to operate that way, like out of spite. I'm not saying like I don't want to say never, but it's just I don't know when guys don't like me. Now, I'm just like, you're dumb, like, how could you? How could you not? Um? Noah, when

when have you been spiteful? And what did you do? All right? So the all right, the story that I can think of that I think I can share is, um, I guess I was being spiteful because I was locked into this relationship where we were break up and get back together, and I was like, I'm going to do something where he will never take me back. So, um, we had broken off, burn it down, I was. So I went to the village and I got my nipples pierced by a guy who looked like Slash from Guns

and Roses. You got your nipples pierced, hence to bruising. Wait, oh yeah, no, I finally got what you wanted. Yeah, you have to them with his teeth. Oh my god, I don't have them anymore alone? Or did you bring a friend? I took my best friend Rob with me. Okay, Oh yeah, I know him, and um, I was just like, are they still pierced? I have no idea. I don't have them anymore. I took them off like end of twenties,

Like all through my twenties, I went with them. So wait, so you get your nipples piers and then you go back to Okay, so how does this burn it down? Because he didn't like piercings and stuff like that, so I was like, he will never think I'm attractive again. We'll never get back together. Oh wow? Did you ever hook up with him? After that him realized he didn't really care about the nipples being pierced? Did we hook up? Um?

I don't think. I don't think so. I think it's something that I did to keep me from going back more than him. Couldn't have been though, because I've done this before. So with Chris, who I've broken up with a lot, he's the one that doesn't like sense. He doesn't like candles, he doesn't like perfumes. Um when we I never like got to put candles in my apartment because he just didn't never like liked that smell. And

so when we broke up, we still remain friends. And he came over to pick up my dog once and like it was the week and there was candles everywhere and it was me. I was, Yeah, it was my version of like this thing I finally get to do that I've always wanted to do. Fuck you, I'm gonna like it was. It was a fun you, but it was also like it was also like I know, you knew if this guy really loved you, the nipple thing wouldn't be a deal breaker. You know, you were burning

into the ground. You were trying to be yourself finally. Yeah, you know, like you're trying to the biggest version of yourself to go like an emancipation, like finally I can be myself. And I I think that I know this isn't gonna make you hate me forever, but it's just going to show you that I was trying to be good for you. And then I was trying my best. I was I was keeping a part of myself locked

away because I wanted to keep you. And so you'll see now that like you kept me down, like and that's almost that um And now I would just like, I have candles because it's like it's my place and if he wants to come over, I'll blow them out out of courtesy. But he's got COVID no, so I don't have to worry about it. And they smell like dirty vadge. But wait, so I should do a Gwyneth Paltrow candles. You know she has one that smells like vagina might smell like, yeah, just put a fish in

that mail slot of yours. My god, it's so do you think though that how? Because I don't think the answer is to get rid of your candles if you're dating someone that hates candles. So it is because if he doesn't, he didn't like it really bothered him the second like it's something that it actually you know, it's like if umers right and this guy goes, well, I I don't. I don't really prefer pier seems like I

think it's kind of dirty. That's that's that's not a like that's not a sensory thing that causes you to get a headache sensory. If he sees it and he's turned off, I guess I don't know. I mean, what's the answer, do you do that. Well, you have candles, but you blow them out when he comes over. You have nipple rings, but you don't know. You just say listen, sorry, that's what I'm saying. So then I think you keep the or maybe you find a candle that he maybe

it smells like a sports jersey of his favorite hockey player. Yeah, I don't know. I think that I don't know what the answer is. And I think a lot of girls get because guys are always like, don't get your boobs done, don't get your lips done, because they think you're trying to be hotter to get a hotter guy. That's what guys really do think. Don't do this thing, don't. Honest though, I don't think. It's just that I think for me like because you know whatever, I love you and I

don't want you to change your face. It's perfect the way it is. But that's the honest truth. Like you already. It's not that I'm scared of the other guy. It's that you've already like so, but like I get also like doing it for you and it's not about me at all. But you know, how often do people get haircuts and dye their hair and do I got you know, I got invisile line because I was going to a breakup.

I was just like, you just want to change something about yourself, and I wonder what that is because I've I've cut my hair, which makes it look worse in my opinion, I've dyed my hair, which makes it look worse in my opinion. It wasn't things to make me look hotder, to be like you're going to rue the day. It's like almost it's almost like when one just like doing something that will make them go, yeah, it's interesting.

I don't know why we do that. So it's like we either get revenge body and we actually but then that hurts you in other ways too, because you know, maybe you're just so focused on getting ads that you think it will be the cure to your happiness. But or we you know, it's like either you you hit the bottle or you hit the gym, like it's a negative full throttle my mom she liked the bottle, or you go full throttle. It's all connected. Can we do

one more news story before we get to break Yeah? Okay, um, I kind of like this one. Kim Kardashian has seemingly unfollowed I loved this one. I was dying to talk about this. Holy sh it. So Pete and Pete and Miley do New Year's Eve together, um, and fallon together. It's okay. So they did a lot of things together,

so funny, good chemistry, good comedic energy. And then something happened where then Pete obviously reconnects with Kim Kardashian after doing New Year's Eve with Miley, and Kim unfollows Miley, which is hilarious that people pay that close attention, but of course they do. Um. So what this means is is that Miley either disparaged him in some way or tried to fuck Pete. But I'm guessing it's the first, this one, like she maybe there's something she did it

wasn't cool to the story. It's in the story. We know what she did before. They're special. Oh sorry, go ahead, No, no, no, you you deliver it. You're the news person. No no, I'm just reading the note Jane to Dante danting dainting. So Cyrus seemingly put the moves on Davidson while promoting the events, serenading him on the tonight show. That should have been me. Yeah, well that was all joke. She was seen looking out of his apartment. Oh maybe that

she just in Cyrus was spotted heading to David's. She went all the way to the Staten Island condo. I mean, that's tough to get back following fallon or the appearance of the tonight show. Okay, well they still have to work on bits, so they might have been going over stuff. That's true too. I think I think that's what we're saying it's about, is her jealousy. But I think it's because Miley and Pete aren't cool either, and we can't really track if he's following her and if they had

a falling out. But I'm guessing something happened between them, and Kim is just being um supportive of that, Like I think Miley and Pete clashed in some way and that Pete told and Pete's done with Miley and so out of kid is like, yeah, suck her. That is my thought processing. I love how we make it though about like she doesn't she thinks she's trying. I would keep I would never if I was jealous of a girl trying to suck my boyfriend, I would keep following her.

I wouldn't if I unfollowed her. That means I'm threatened by you. You have a reason to um No, I wouldn't even I would do probably mut her because she can't tell on her. But I feel I do not well. First of all, if I know my sense that someone wanted to suck my boyfriend, which I believe me happens a lot because I've seen it, I would be very turned on. I would be like, good someone Miley Cyrus wants to fund my boyfriend. I would not be threatened by it at all, because he would go be with

her if he wanted to be with her. But I could see Kim being threatened. Miley is an amazing performer, she doesn't have any kids, she's never she has been. To let him go, you're gonna lose him if if he is going to be, if he's gonna go with her, you're going to lose him anyway. Let him go and Kim you want to sis. I don't think she's I don't think Kim is. No. I think but there are just that she can't do right. But I think the way I interpreted it was that Kim was like, I'm

not going to pay you any mind. You did not exist to me, and it was like, unfollowed her, that's paying her mind. Yeah, that's the thing. It's like, it's just such a it's it's a it's like we're saying before, it's the opposite of it's she's thinking about her, she's pay she is paying her mind by even thinking to

follow her. Um. Yeah, I just this whole thing of like if some if a girl there's this There was a girl that I noticed really throwing it at the guy I'm dating, and I said to him, like this girl, like she it's clear, and it's crystal fucking clear to me, and I was there was a tinge of me being like, um, like annoyed that she knows that he has a girl, he's seeing someone, and she knows it's me, and yet

she still went on to flirt with him. There's a little bit of like that's disrespectful, like that you're cool with him fucking other girls. I don't think she did, but if she did, that there's a different thing. But um no, But like when he would mention me around her, she would never say anything. The conversation would drop off. You know what I'm saying. She wouldn't acknowledge it. Now do you do you think though if she was but

you said Miley Cyrus, you wouldn't care. There's no part of you that's like competitive, of like, oh, this person more famous, this person more successful, to this person is

prettier than I don't want him. If I feel like I'm superior to the woman, then it doesn't bother me as smart No, um, because there are women that are more talented than me that have liked my guy and I just of course there's like, oh gosh, she's better at this stuff, but then I just go she better hang and she but you know there's more to that. If I'm gonna and he should feel the same way anyone who dates me, I'm gonna be I have a chance at some pretty hot, talented people because of the

profession I'm in. And if every single one of them I go, oh, I get a crush on every one of them and they're threatened my relationship, then no one should be with me, because that's gonna happen all the time. You have to trust the person that even though the person is more talented than you, or hotter than you, skinnier, sex more sexy, that they have integrity and that you can always give the old three to one, you know, make them counter. I go, you need to count to three, one, two.

It's punching fence time. Okay, let's take a break and come back with why do I care? Oh my god, it's Thursday. I know. Time has fun. We also missed my all Right, we're back. It's time for sports moment. Here's Andrew's weekly sports moment. Here we go. What is it? All right? Antonio Brown? Do you know who he is? I've heard his name. So he's a wide receiver in the NFL. He uh, he got he was at it. He was the literally top three receiver in the NFL. Unbelievable.

Then I'll pretend like I know what a receiver is. Wide receiver. They catch bass on the side because they're what YE like, So wide equals on the side, so they're farther away from the quarterback. Are they usually bigger men like wider as well? No, they're usually skinnier. Okay, wide receiver, got it? And the tight end is wider than the wide receiver, and where the tight ends tight and they're tight on the end, but on the end of the line, the wide receiver is not on the line.

So anyhow, so he got this is why do I care? Yeah, so Antonio Brown, I'll just get to it. Says that he apparently his coach, apparently his coach pressured him to play with a severe ankle injury, and accuses the Bucks of an ongoing cover up to see their doctors. So this is what happened this past weekend. He's in the game. He also lied about getting a COVID vaccine, and he was suspended for three games. And he has a history of being in trouble. So it's a lot of like

the Boy that Cried Wolf. So now he's saying that he was on the sideline he has an ankle injury. The coach goes up to him, we want you in the game. He goes, I can't my ankle. He goes, stop being a pussy. We need you in the game. Footage of this, I mean, aren't they always being filmed on the sidelines. Can't we read some lips. We haven't seen footage of this. It might come out. Apparently there's text apparently of him telling that the coach knows that

he has a shitty ankle. Okay, yeah, I wouldn't believe that any time any of the best players are injured in any way, they get a hangnail the coach. Right, you would think, yeah, and then but a lot of times it's like put a shot in and then shut the funk up, Like there's still that when I was on Dancing with the Stars, fucking numb it up and go out there and let's win this. So let's get

kicked off first. So he goes, I'm not going He goes, okay, Well, now Antonio Brown is claiming that he caught him right there. Now he's already dealing with them. Cut him like you're off the team, you're fired. So Antonio Brown stands up, goes out on the field, takes out it takes off all his clothes, his jersey, his shoulder past shirt, yes he shirts. Is everyone going what is happening? Yes, everyone's

going fucking nuts. Security thinks he's a streaker. They didn't even like it together because a couple of them didn't see that he's taking off all of his clothes. He's not naked but top off and he's jogging around. So now everyone's like, well, your ankles fine enough to do this dance, but it's obviously a different thing. Cutting and trying cutting from someone from the game or the team from the from the team, like you kicked off my team. Yeah, so he was claiming he was fired before he quit.

You can fire someone on the sidelines, Well you could tell them, yeah, I guess, okay, is it's only a coach to fire someone. No, it could be Uh the coach makes the final owner probably have a little bit of a saying it too, for sure. But at that point, so now everyone's going at first, well, he has a lot of like mental disease. So a lot of people are saying like, oh, he has CT and they're jumping to all these conclusions like oh, he's such a piece of ship. And then other people are like, wow, he's

finally someone standing up. Did his fucking patriarchy of like, shut the funk up and play. We're paying you a lot of money. We don't care. Huh. I don't think you understand what patriarchy he thinks. It's the football team, the Patriots under the arch over in St. Louis. Patriarchy is about men. So you can't have a patriarchy within a male dominated like a solely male industry, you know what I mean, Because they would they would be able to talk about the patriarchy. But a man can't say,

there's this is maybe like a hierarchy elitist's good. There you go. Good. So anyways, now people are questioning now this guy also, there's a lot he's been accused of sexual assault. He's he's a rapper on the side. Dare I know that's that's the why excuse the sexual assault? He raps, Okay, no, but like he has a lot of off field, like he had a lot of office. Where where does the story end? So the story ends

with do we believe? Well, here's a question, right if someone has repeated behavior that's apparently negative and they're lying, and it's it is like the boy that cries wolf, because then it's like, okay, so he's lied about all this ship. He's fucked up so many times. Let's go to the X ray, go to the X right. Let's see, let's see the X right of his ankle. Let's see what's going on. I guess, yeah, I guess he has to show He's like, yeah, he has to show his

ankle and show show the receipt. Yeah, yeah, because I feel like, but don't used to go out of people? How would you get cut for having a bad ankle, or yeah, for lying saying it's hurt more than enough. Whoever cut him had enough of this guy's bullshit. Yes, and he didn't want him on the team in the first place. Tom Brady vouch for him. Well, that's that's what happens when you're a liar. You don't get trusted when you actually need help potentially, and that's the fallout

from being a liar. But this is what they do. They go, oh, we feel so bad for I hope we're here for They spin it to him seem like he's crazy. Then it was crazy. That's what I'm saying. Everything that you could ever say about someone is because of something going on in their brain that they did not choose to happen. So this is back to the

Sam Harrison of no free will. When someone shoots up, uh, it doesn't mass shooting, and they go to the autopsy and they see their brain and it's riddled with CT, you go, that's because he had CT. That wasn't his fault. Or if someone murders the people and they're declared insane, it's not their fault. They don't you know, they're not eligible for the death penalty. But literally anything you do is because something is going on in your brain that

you don't know. Annoying that that they get to then spin him as a liar and oh, we feel bad

for him, and I hope he gets help. It's a way for for them to not be responsible the hierarchy, for them to go, oh, we didn't fire him, he's making shipped up whatever, Like well, they should have empathy for this monochical liar because I mean that it's he even people that are so bad like they just he can't help that he's a liar and that he grew up with parents in a brain in a situation that made him into this person that has to continually lie

and manipulate like the other. Like they won the super Bowl last year. He was fine then, you know, he was in he was in line then, and now that he only has four touchdowns, he has a decent like season going on, they're already winning without him, Like then they go, okay, so now now you have issues. Last season, you have issues, and also do you keep them playing football to protect him, you know, from himself? You know what I mean? Like because without this like sense of

like passion and direction. Is he gonna go and fucking be really nuts? You know what I mean? Like, I don't know, it's oh, you keep them playing football to protect him? Yeah, No, I don't think they care about that. They're not like mitigating potential losses on the outside for other like let's keep him away from hurting his partners by having him go to practice more, And they don't care about that. No, no, no, Um, let's get to fan t Rex. I'm gonna have you counted three. I'm

so excited to hear from you guys. What do we have today? No? Uh, all right, here's uh, we'll kick things off with a message from Stevie. Hi, Nikki Andrew and no, uh, my name is Stevie And I've been wanting to call into the podcast almost every time there's something that you guys say that resonates with me, or

advice that I really take to heart. But finally, what's instigating my voicemail today is a mispronunciation that I had I drive around a lot for work and was pulling into a neighborhood and checking in with the gate attendant there and gave the street name Paul Mela and was driving through the neighborhood after they let me in and I saw the names on the streets were like Katherine Street and Jackie Street, and I realized it was Pamela Street, not Pamela. So that made me kind of feel pretty dumb.

I hope you guys appreciate that. So anyways, I love you guys, and jack Er turkey ja. I bet it was a Thanksgiving around. Thanksgiving is when you love that Pomela. You know what, though, I don't hate it. I don't hate it. First of all, I kind of like how that sounds. Also, why are all the streets named after like first names. That's kind of weird. Yeah, that was weird. You don't want to live on that street. No, No one wants to live in that development. No, Court, I

know one guy in Court. Court's a good name. I kind of like it. What about Stevie for a girl? Yes, it's so good. It's such a cool. It's like Sheila. It's like an eighties like cool badass chick wearing shoulder plaids in her blazer. I don't mind Pamela. I think what was it Pamela? Pamela. She called it Pamela like pomesan. Yeah, Instead of streets. She said Saint because she thought it was St. Louis. Um, when you write St. Louis, Oh, is this the question you had? Where Louis is very annoying?

And when you put in the airplane thing on Southwest, they go, you don't have apostrophes doesn't up or you can't have a punctuation, So the st like period. Sometimes you just gotta write sty. Sometimes you st that's bullshit, sucks. Maybe because of St. Croix. There are the other Saints. I mean, I'm just saying, like, is that why? I don't know. I don't know any but how do I write it? How do you write it? Yeah? St you call our our streets. I'm not gonna say we're our street.

But you constantly mispronounced that, and it's just the way it is. It's like my buddy has the last name l E m b O, and I say limbo l e m b o, l e mbo, So it's lembo, right, Lembo lembo, but you say limbo yeah like l I yeah, I just consistently do it well. At first I just that was so it's similar to our What about in

New York Houston Street? You gotta say Houston. At first, you say Houston, Yeah, you definitely say yeah, and then it just becomes Houston and you just never There's one neighborhood in l A, though, that I can constantly cannot pronounce, right, Why did they do that? To be like like, I think it's only named after someone where their last name was pronounced Houston. I think it's to be bougie and not be We have a problem because I don't know

how how people pronounce Lebanon, Lebanon, Steve Stevie Lebanon. Alright, now, what's the next one? All right, here's one. He didn't leave a name. But want some advice, Nicky Noan Andrew, I love the podcast. I used to watch your Serious XM and podcast, So fan Um, I've recently decided that I want to cut back on how much I drink, specifically um, not drinking during the week. Um. And so I read the first third of Alan cardbook that you recommended, But if I'm honest, it just didn't really do a

whole lot for me. I feel like I didn't really get when he was getting at and he just kind of talked in circles and please don't be mad. At me for saying that, because I know it's helped you and a lot of people. So I was just interested in hearing if you had any other resources or suggestions that had helped you. Also, what helped Um, Andrew and

uh Noah kind of get their drinking under control? Um. I really liked how you talked about how it isn't liquid courage because if it wasn't, fireman and police officers would be drinking it to go and do their job, but they don't. So that was really helpful and powerful. So thank you for that. And I love the podcast and I'm gonna keep listening and I hope you get this voicemail. Yes, Um, do you have any think for him? Because I know you didn't read the Alan Card book?

What what has helped you? What I saw the cover? Um, I think like the cover read a third read out. UM, So I think that it depends how much he's drinking during the week. I think a lot of people justify like, oh, it's just like I think that's probably he's probably drinking enough to feel sick in the morning, because otherwise it wouldn't be a problem. Well that's the thing, like just because you're not being sick in the morning, it still

can be a sickness. I guess is I guess that's the advice i'd give him, like maybe it's not impeding on his life other than the fact that he just wants to stop, you know. So I don't know. I think like you just gotta What I would do is I would write down what are the pros and what are the cons and literally right down, like what what am I getting out of this? Because that's what the Alan Carr book is about, is about anything you think

you're getting out of it, he proves it wrong. So I would have liked to hear what this guy has to say, why why he likes it? Because obviously that the thing about it makes you current, like it gives you social skills that you don't you normally lack and have encouraged that resonated because it doesn't give you courage.

It just makes you stupider. Um. I think that something that I wouldn't that is not in that book, that I would advise that's helped me for the other things I've quit without that book is um, when you do it, like, don't say you're not gonna drink, Like, don't make these things of like I'm not drinking Monday through Thursday or Sunday through Thursday, Like, don't have these black and white things.

Just play it by ear. And when you want to have a drink during the week and you're feeling this like already like guilt bubbling up of like I shouldn't be doing this, don't just do it. Just do what you want right now. Just truly do what you want and be like I need this, I want this, I need it. I'm not hurting anyone, Like I'm not choosing to do this because I want to hurt myself or anyone else. I clearly need this right now, and fucking

just enjoy it and do what you want without any guilt. Um. That to me, I think is the true first step of cutting back, because the shame around drinking and the shame you feel when you when you have that first drink and then you go, well, if I had one,

I already broke the seal. Let's fucking go wild. If you just are like I just want I just want it, and I just don't like for me the same way, I just like kept trying to like make all these rules for myself, and every time I would break one, I would feel so bad that I would just smoke all the pot and I would feel terrible. But when I first started just being like I just want it and that's okay, Like I'm not a bad person because I want to smoke a little weed right now, Like

I'm not doing it. This isn't because I want to like hurt anyone or even myself. I just you just take the shame out of it, take this. Just do it because you want to do it. And I swear to God, when you start getting in the habit because you're not obviously ready to quit right now to the guy that was calling in, and that's fine, like you fucking need it still, and it will fall away when it's ready to if you take the shame out of needing it now, because there's nothing wrong with needing it

right now. The other thing, too, is you know, when I was drinking, there would be times where I'd get so fucked up on the weekends. Like it sounds like he's a weekend warrior too, because he's like, I'm not going to stop drinking on the weekends that you would want to drink on maybe a Monday or Tuesday, just a little bit just to kind of soothe that, you know what I mean. So, like your problem during the week could be stemmed from what you're doing on the weekend.

So maybe if you could control the weekend a little bit, maybe it saving it all up for the weekend, because like, well that's the other thing. So just drink whatever the funk you want. That's what I would tell this guy, Like it will go away when it's ready to you're not ready to let it go, and that is so okay, Like it's not time for you yet, and you'll know

when it is. And I know that you even want to, like you know, stiffing around it and being what is this and and reading the book and like being interested. You're obviously it's eventually going to be there for you,

but it isn't. Now. I wish that someone would have given me that advice with pot, because I've just spent years hating myself over using it when I knew I wanted to quit, instead of just sucking enjoying the fact that I was doing it because I was just I wasn't ready, and it fell away as soon as I let go of the shame of doing it. I swear to God, it didn't take long for me to just go just laugh at yourself and go, I guess I need this, and let yourself have it, because there's no

point in doing it if you're not going to enjoy it. Yeah, I didn't quit drinking. You know, a lot of people are like, what's your rock bottom? I didn't quit after fucking having fifty shots and doing count making a guy count the three. For some people, the bottom is the moment where you done. I'm just saying. But for me, what happened was like you said, it wasn't really that big of a deal. I didn't feel a ton of shame around drinking. I was just tired of it. I

just why I wasn't giving it anything. I wait, after having literally a half of a Tallboy Corps light, that was the last time I ever drank, because I was just like, what am I doing? Why am I I'm tired? I'm more tired. I'm just like, it's just like it'll really do anything for me. Really, I'm not going out, I'm not working like raging like it. It might be

easy to it's it will be easy for you. It will be easier than you think to quit when you're actually ready to do it, and that's not you know when I quit by eating this sort of behavior, It was not easy. It was a struggle, and it was never like so they're talking, But the thing is I was ready to do it. I just knew I was ready, and I knew I didn't have an option. This guy that's called in, you seem like you're not at a point where you're like, I'm out of options. You didn't

hit like a gross bottom. You don't seem like you're tired of it yet because you want to try to still, like do it on the weekend. Just don't do any rules for yourself for now, Like for now, dude, truly enjoy it and with no judgment of yourself, because I have no judgment of you wanting to drink during the week don't don't make rules for yourself, no rules. That is, I want you to try that out and get back

to me and see what happens. And it truly, because there's no point in drinking if you're not going to enjoy it. Like, just stop this. If you're doing something right now that you feel bad about, overeating, smoking pot, you know, whatever you're doing that you know you shouldn't. Just enjoy it, because there's gonna be a time where you don't do it and you're gonna miss it. So just enjoy it right now. Why why lumps shame onto it? And here's the thing I still miss. It's not like

it goes away either. Like I think a lot of people think, oh, you quit, and it's like you you did it. You're It's like I still have the same exact thoughts. I still fucking sometimes when I just get fucking hammered on the weekend and like I could just do it. You know, you have so much, like so much behind you to prove that that's not going to bring. But that's also another thing that I hate about sobriety.

Sometimes it's like keep drinking because that's their shame behind that, And that's like another thing of like, well that's what I'm saying. If you wanted to drink something, I would not If you told me I drank last night, I would literally go okay, so what. And I would still let you say that you were sober and that you had ears. I wouldn't give you a ship because the second you start being feeling bad about something is the

second you're going to use it all the more. Let's get the final thoughts and uh, what's our what's our last fan trax? Okay, last fan trax is from Cora. Hey, Nikki, I was listening to your podcast late last night while I couldn't sleep, and I heard you guys talking about men's vulnerability when they're horny, and it reminded me of this guy talked to for a while. I was drunk one night with friends and wanted to prove this very thing, so I decided to text him and lightly flirted with him.

This turned into an easy way to get attention from a guy without actually having to see him or hook up with him. I told him multiple times that I took up with him, which even prompted him to come to my parents house and wait outside for thirty minutes, as I told him I didn't want to sneak out

of my house. Oh my god. We talked for almost two years, and the only reason it ended was when I started dating my current boyfriend we're calling That experience reminded me of that weird female sense of empowerment and control. I'm so sad I missed your Denver show, especially considering it was your special taping. But I hope to see you whenever you come back to Colorado. I love you in your podcast and you are by far the best dating show host and you added so much needed intelligent

humor to the show. I hope you all are doing well, and thank you for the sense of friendship you've created with your fans. I love y'all. It's so sweet. That's I've done that so many times of where I just like, I don't know if it's about the it's not about the control, which I like that she was like in

control there. Sometimes it's for me where I've gotten a guy to like be like I'll go go there and then they show up and you're like, oh, I don't I'm not like my vagina might be weird or like I I just I'm too nervous to hook up or whatever, like I just make a lie and I'm like I can't because my dog is sick or whatever. You just but it's about just wanting to get the attention of like someone would and like sometimes I just want to keep it. I want I want to keep intimacy away.

I just want to keep it on text. And do you think that's leading someone on? Like is that is that something negative with that to lead someone on, even if maybe they're getting off on being led on. I feel like that. I feel like this guy did not he was not invited to go over to her house because I feel like she probably he probably just showed up, which then that's not on her, but if she were like come over, and then you know what if she if she did that knowing she was going to turn

him down. Yeah, that kind of sucks. But I've done it where I'm like, yeah, I want to do it, and then it's like you're like, no, oh my god. I Like, that's always my biggest fears, that I'm gonna start hooking up with someone and I'll think I'm into it, and then in the middle of it, I'll stop wanting it, and then I'll keep doing it out of like feelings bad.

But there's also something to it where it's like she, you know, she obviously writes well, like there's got to be like a feeling of like like dopamine of like getting this person to do just from my words, you know what I mean. I mean, that's kind of sexy, you know what I mean? This guy wait thirty minutes. Because I used to write like emotions, and it's so

scary that. You know what's so scary is when you get a guy, so like there are times where with my the guy I'm seeing now, I will and I probably talked about this before, I will not want him to finish because I won't want to lose that energy that I have cultivated from him being horny. And I know as soon as he comes it is like interested

in me in that way will be faded. Like when we were in Hawaii, Like we were hooked up one night before we went to dinner and I was like, dude, I don't want you to finish because I wanted him to be like all over me at dinner like I wanted that like, but then he started sucking. I just never get to see just like fucking imaginement. He started sucking want of the fish because you know, um, no, I is there? No? What do you relate to that?

Like knowing that when guys come, they're just not going to be as like hands all over you and I It's almost like Christmas, Like I never want Christmas to end. I never want the good, the anticipation to end. There is something I don't know, That's what I think. Um, Cora was getting at like she just enjoyed the guy having the hots for her, but she didn't want to really reciprocate, and it was on him to just stock

because it will go away. Yeah, I just feel bad for that guy a little bit because I do think like then it's like the next time someone like I don't know, it's gonna hinder him though from like having tried, you can learn from that, and you know, I mean, yeah, it's it's tricky though, because I have trusted used by guys coming and then being disinterested in me and not just you know, not touching me all over at dinner, but like truly being like I don't want to be

with you anymore, because all of this was based me saying I wanted to be with you, was all based on the fact I wanted to fuck you, and now I got to and it's just like I don't like you anymore, and I just go what There is something about like that first texting to that's like the sexteine and like before you have sex, it is so fucking hot, and then but even like the month of like we're gonna period is just so like if I wrote a sex to Brenna right now. She'd be like, are you

something happened? Are you? Is this for someone else? Because this is not our vibe. Our vibe you did you like fucking put the boxes away? Oh that's so cute, you know, Like, but but maybe I should spice it up like that again now, but maybe tell her. Well, today I was going through Instagram alright, just pulled it up and there was a video of Chris on his morning show that came up, and I was just like and I was like, oh my god, that guy is so fucking hot. Like my first thing was like, who

the fuck is that? And I wrote to him. I was like, it is such a nice surprise to be like my mouth went was a gape at how hot this guy was, and then I realized he's the guy that I'm seeing, Like it was such a good feeling that.

And there's been times where I've told him like I've seen pictures of him just like that where or I'll see like him at a store where we've like kind of moved up and he'll try on a shirt and so he'll be and I'll go like, WHOA, that guy's hot, or I see him on Instagram or whatever, and I go,

it makes me go, like who's that guy? And I go, I want you just to know though, like if I do have that response to a guy like I'm not gonna like attempt to like hook up with that person, I like I had to assuage his fears of like me not trying to fuck him. He was like, I appreciate you saying that because a little part of me is like, why is she getting so turned off by think other people? Yesterday? Because I went to Brenna's work, I got a facial and you came out of the

place and that you saw her. She was working here, She's like behind the desk and like, oh my god, I want to like I want to fund this reception. It's like and like she was like going through like the list of like could I have to fill out some forms? She's like fill out these fours. I'm like I was, I was like, is there a I literally said,

is there a janitor? Close? Because like I was so fucking turned on yesterday, Like it was you got sometimes got to see your partner outside of like your daily ship, Like you gotta like it's a big reflection in a mirror. What was that? What Andrew just said is a big point that is stare Perel makes to see your partner in like other world. Oh my god, I have been another job loving Perel's podcast. Where should We Begin? I've listened to it so much. It is just couple of

couples and couples couples counseling sessions. And the one that I listened to yesterday that I really recommend is like, um, let me just look at it so people can check it out, because it was so I want to know what people think about this girl. I don't mean to be mean, but that was the name of the episode. I don't mean to be mean, but and um, I mean, all of them are so good, but they're they're not a couple she's been seeing for a long time. It's

one off deal. She doesn't see them again. It's just one session and it's it's and in this session she kind of loses her cool and she gets sucked into their relationship and starts kind of like acting like the girl she starts. At one point, she realizes like she's yelling at the girl for being dismissive of the guy and bossing him around, and she goes in that moment she's like, you know, commentating on her therapy, and she's like, in this moment, I realized what I was telling her

not to do, I was doing directly to her. Sometimes as a therapist, you think you are getting through to them, Like it's interesting to hear a therapist talk about being a therapist. It's like a movie when they have direct her. She's so good it, um, you gotta check it out. So it's where should we begin? S there perel e s t E R perel And that's uh. I don't mean to be mean, but is the episode? So um, we'll see you tomorrow on the Monday on the show don't be cut out there? And Jack, Oh, that one

is good. There's two. I should have saved the other second one. No, Jack, be quick doesn't work on its own, or will it on Monday