#150 A Group Project

that's a lot. But it's not like the whole time. It's not working out three hours. I just want to make that clear. I'm not like a meathead. Yeah, it's like working together, trying new things, stuff like that. Yeah, okay, team, that makes me feel better. But that's fun. You've got friends, you have friends there? Yeah, Oh that's nice. Andrew Colin is here hotel room across the hall from me. What's up, dude? What's up? What's up over there? In eighteen twelve, I'm

in eighteen fifteen. What's up? Right across the halls? Right across the halls? How did you sleep last night? I slept actually really good. Um. I went to bed early, like ten o'clock, woke up at one am. It was okay. Tried to get a psychiatrist this morning in St. Louis. Um, oh yeah, I got a call mine too. He didn't one to phone. They go, we're not going to be available till December two till seven. I am like, I

looked at my phone. I go, is it thewond It's not even let you know, Yeah, they're just you know, you know, I listened to the same message I gave you. It's my it's my psychic right. The phone's not even hondo. Yeah. They never answer. You just leave messages. I mean, okay, so I guess that's did you have to listen to the whole thing of Like, if you're requesting a stimulant, please note that you cannot get it refilled on the

same day. It's like the longest message ever ever ever to just go, hey can I get these stimulants filled today? And they're like, we just told you that it's smart because it depresses you. So then you want to go more. Um. Yeah, the longer the message you have to listen to, they probably lose more people then and get less people leaving messages. Do you know that I have no voicemail, Like, there's no outgoing voicemail. You can't leave me a voice message.

It is the best thing that's ever happened in my life. I switched phones. What did my phone go? Caput? A guest September Matt Green. My um brother in law is a tech whiz. You know, his brother works at Apple and develops this ship. He knows everything about phones and stuff. And I go, I brought it over the other day and I go, hey, I haven't had voice voicemail. It just when I call, it goes, you need to like enter your password and I put it and it's just

he couldn't hack it. He goes, you just can't have smail. You have to maybe go to you know, a T and T. I'm not going to do that. But the thing is, guess what hasn't caused me hasn't My world is still going. You has been able to leave a fucking message for me, and there is no problem in my life. You know, you think that if there's people can't get in touch with you, there would be some catastrophe if someone can't leave a voice message, But just text me, bro. The only people that tell you your

voicemails down? Is your parents? Hey, I'm going to leave a message. I wanted to tell you to call me back. And it's like, I see you on the call waiting to call whatever I know to call you back. I see it. Do you say leave a message at the beep? Do you still say the beep? Do I say the do you? What's your word? Is yours? Like? Hey, it's Andrew. I don't even know at this point. Yeah, is your voice message full? Is your mailbox fall? A lot of times it is? Yeah, because you have to delete it

out twice. Yeah, I try to get mine to fill up so that I can't get anymore. But you know what a full voice like when people are like, in a professional sense, when people are calling you and trying to leave a message and you know your mailbox is full, you're not a reliable person to work with because you're not like it just for me, it goes, Oh, this person is very disorganized and not getting to things in their life. Even though that's not true. You know who

cares about voice mails? It's just it's almost like a messy room. I agree, but I think it could also be looked at it is like they're highly in demand and they can't even keep up, so we gotta get them. Maybe I don't know. Maybe all I know is I called this psychiatrist. The one didn't work, one or three didn't except new patients. And then the last one was a fax machine. And that was what did mind say? It just never answered and just I couldn't even leave

a message on yours. Dude, you can, I'll get you in, I'll get you through, all right. Well I called, like I've left messages for like three others. I'm trying. Yeah, but anyhow, you gotta get that. Well, Butron, that's what you're trying to get, right. I just gotta come Nick, I gotta come back. I mean, you know, just because you're on Zoloft. How many mg are you on? Yeah? That's it's amazing what fifty has done for your life. I don't I don't think I have known anyone that

has benefited more. And I would say that with so much love, like you, really you you lucked out. You know, it takes people so long to find the right kind of cocktail, and fifty mgs for you. You're just a happy guy like you rarely get you, rarely chew on your fingers not much anymore. You I just don't see you have that much anxiety anymore, and you just always seem really happy. I do get sad still, I get sad.

I don't, but I think I get sad for the right reasons, not sad because I have horrible panic attacks, like and I'm afraid of life. What do you do when you're sad? Um? I try to just like be in it and not try to like like a panic attack. I I not to like stop being sad. I just let it go through. And usually a lot of times it's in the morning and I'll just sit in bed for next year, like ten minutes and it usually goes away,

and then after a shower it's gone. Will you go on your phone to kind of or do you just lay there sad? Usually? What's the sadness? I don't know. I just like you feel depressed. Yeah, it's hard to explain it. I guess, like you said, thoughts of like what am I doing with my life? What's the point of everything? Like those kind of thought kind of a little bit. Yeah, like I was a little depressed about

like we did. Um, I don't know. For the cameras, the stuff yesterday, and it's like, yeah, you did a thing yesterday, you know, when we traveled so much that first day, like I don't feel creative or as witty as I want or whatever. And I was like, was I too mean? Like, you know, was I led to like certain answers I didn't want to get, you know what I mean? And like it felt like a deposition that I was like, wait, what did I say? And it's just I don't know, it'll it'll air eventually and

then we'll have that talk. Then God only knows what you said. Jesus Christ. You know you're worried that it wasn't that bad. It really wasn't. And I just like, no, I don't think. I think you are being hard on yourself. You say so much though, that's the problem with those things. So it's like, what did I say? You know, you just you and and you're tired at the end, and you're just like, I don't know, I'm well, but you know, but no, I think I think I was good. I

think it was good. You're having a little bit of anxiety, like kind of sadness about that, yeah, just because like I just I don't know if like I was in good enough mood yesterday. You know, the line between funny and mean can be just a smile away. Sometimes you don't put that little smile on it. It can be taken the wrong way totally. And it's like writing an l O L after a text. Yeah yeah, it's like go fund yourself, bitch, l O L. Yes, yeah, I

have that too. I always have of that kind of hangover after where I go, I could have been better, you know, like that that regret of I could have been better, And then you start going, it's not you know, why didn't they work in my schedule? So I had a day to collect myself, like I would have been better if it was a day later, and like and you start pointing fingers of like but I I want to like, it's it's not my fault that I was bad.

I get it's and it's like it's not even it's not your fault, like you're just you know, that's the way the schedule works. And honestly, um, you couldn't have done any differently yesterday. It was like that was the way it was supposed to be. And uh and in the end, like whatever you did on that thing, even if it was the most important thing of your life.

And I'm just talking about in general. Like I was editing my special last night and I'm just like in the middle of it, and I go, most people aren't even going to get this fucking far, you know, like like you know, like most people, I mean they should.

It's really good, but oh no, yeah, I didn't mean like in your career, like in the in the special, I was halfway through it, and I go, I could really just you know, have a video of Andrew on a version table putting peanut butter Oliver himself singing this Girl's on Fire, and just it could cut to that, and I would wonder how many people would even notice, because you know, comedy specials are hard to maintain your

focus the entire time. UM. But I was thinking, you know what, I was having kind of existential thoughts of like I'm gonna be dead someday, this me staying up, and I was just like wired at two a um, like still you know, I keep making these notes. You

should see my notes. It's just I've never it looks like, I've never felt like I was studying for a final for like, it was just so much work that it reminds me of college, of just like staying up late and doing all this writing and like just getting it done. And I was feeling very productive. But at some point there were diminishing returns and I was supposed to get it the whole thing done tonight or last night, and I did not. I only got halfway through it. There's

so much work to be done on it. Um. And I was like, if this isn't submitted in time, does the does anything really happen? What are the consequences? Am I going to go to prison? I am I'm going to Is my family going to be murdered? Like? The stakes are not as high as I make them out to be all the time? You know, yeah, yeah, I know,

But I guess, like I don't know. It's weird because I think it's a double edged sword in the sense like you making the stakes high will make you work harder or make it better somehow because you have more to lose kind of thing. I don't know. It's just like I pulled a real Louis c k on this one, Like I yesterday, I went into the edit. I feel so bad. I um and I you know, jerk off

joke here, but uh um, But I went in. So there's a couple of things I've learned in my life that it's good to ask for help, to know when you can't do things. You can't do everything, especially as a stand up you just try to do you try to do everything yourself. I'm someone who if I got

in you know, were you like this got you? Guys, if you got into a group project in high school, middle school where it's like three people are all working on this thing and you've got to like work for a week, a week or weeks on it and then present it did what role did you take in that? In that? I mean, I already know you were the Joe kissy of the group. That was the guy that I just go, you sit back, let me do this job. I tried to be the glue. Wow, that's why we

work together. We're all I mean, honestly, this is a group project and we need you keep it fun. Andrew Noah is the person that's like keeping like putting the caps back on the markers, putting them back in the like, keeping them organized, like keeping us on schedule, making sure things get turned into the right time. And I'm like, can I just like do it all? Can I just write it all. Can I be the one that colors it in? And that's that's That's always what I wanted

to do. And I think that, you know, uh, misbusive. My therapist she used to tell me, like, you need to ask for help for things, because I remember being like, I gotta get the set together for this thing, and I have to go shopping for this dress. That was the same time she goes, you're not a beauty. It doesn't matter what you wear. People aren't looking at you. You're not a beauty. Accept it. And I was just like, you can't say that to me. It matters. And then

I was free after that a little bit. But um, she also was like, you need to ask for help because I remember one time call I went into her. It was the first session I ever went into with her, and I just go, you know, today, my issue is that I need to get a mattress. I need a mattress and I cannot decide on one. I am just stuck. I go to the store, I lay on them, I tossed around. I cannot There's just too many choices and

so I'm just sticking with my shitty one. And she was and I was like, and I called my mom. She goes, why did you call your Why did you call your mom? I don't know. She's like a good consumer, like she knows what's good where to go. And she goes, is she sleeping on the mattress? And I go no. She's like, then why do why do you need her input? And I was like, it's a good fucking I'll never

forget that. She goes, stop calling your mom for things that you do that you that she's not a part of um, because I used to always call my mom about everything, every little thing, and and I just if you relate to this at all, where you just keep calling someone waiting to get the thing that you're looking for, which is validation that you're doing it right, um, sympathy, uh, empathy, whatever it is. My mom gives me the things that

I when I call her. Now I know what to call her for because I know what my mom is capable of giving me. But I used to call her for things that I used to be like, Mom, I ruined my computer and she'd be like, nicky, why would you be drinking a cup of water? Next year brand new computer? Oh? And it would just be like someone else to dig the knife in a little bit harder.

It was like someone else to to punish me the way that I wanted to be punished, And it was like that was the best thing I ever got from misbusive was when I spilled water on my brand new computer and I want I was so you know, I didn't have a lot of money at the time, and even if I did, it was a two thou dollar computer and I poured water all over it. It It shorted out, and I'm just like, I can't have nice things. It was just so validating that I, you know, it's been

a while that I've stained you know, the band. And I remember walking to the stand that night across you know, I lived in Chelsea on the west side. I walked over the east side across town. I want by a dog and I was just like, I want that dog to fucking bite me, like I just wanted. It's it's the same thing that when people cut themselves, like you just want to be punished for the thing you know about yourself you want to feel, you want to see an injury that as bad as how you feel. I

can't explain it, but I really do. I have that kind of self harmy thing and self harmy hammer. And I remember telling my therapist that and she said and that this helped me so much and it helps me all the time in life. She goes, isn't the punishment that you lost your computer? Isn't that? Isn't that the crime? Like that's it? And that's how I kind of feel about when people like you know, kill someone in a car accident and they're like, you need to go to jail.

It's like, don't you think the punishment of murdering someone and is good enough? Is a punishment enough to need to do more? And it's like that's where I kind of and you can relate to that to anything in your life that you want to punish yourself for, especially if it's something that you're already suffering. It's like, that's the punishment. Stop it, little, be nice to yourself now because you poor thing, you just lost your computer. Be nice.

Does any of this reson It does? But the murder thing lost me a little bit, just in the sense because I know we always get back to this. Yeah, I just think smpathically like you might go so from computer being broken to the most extreme thing possible, And I think you skip a bunch of steps in between.

I'm talking about a texting and driving situation, even impaired driving situation, one in which, by the way, everyone listening, that's going no, my brother was killed or might The fucking is tragic as fun, But we've all been distracted driving, no one has can mistakes happen, and I don't think that person should have to go to jail forever. My point is, My point is it would be different if you crash your car and the punishment is you wrecked

your car, and it's just your car. But once you kill another, say like if I killed someone accidentally because I was being careless. But do you see the difference the analogy with the car. But I'm taking it all the way. I'm taking it all the way and saying that I actually believe this, and I could be wrong, and this could lose us listeners because people go, I give up, but Nikki, But I I'm not being I'm not diminishing life or saying that that person has a

right to be careless when drive. Just keep driving texting, Like, how many times, on a smaller scale have you learned a lesson from making a grave mistake? And how many times have you been lucky enough to not when you've been distracted driving to not have plowed into any that was crossing a street, Like, this is the thing. It

could happen to any of us. And I know there's some circumstances where it's like someone blasted drunk drive, you know, totally radically, but like there are times where people are texting and driving or whatever and people just go walk her away forever. And it's like, I I understand being angry, But if I was texting and driving, which I do not do well, Um, if I was looking at my phone looking at a ways you know, we all look

at our phone for directions. Don't act like you're better than me, Like, yeah, we're all have three computers on our laps in the the car has a computer that you look at Like what are we talking about? Like you know what I mean, like the car sometimes it doesn't connect. Well, maybe you're looking at that, That's what I'm saying. Yes, So, if if that happened, I think having to live with the fact that I did that is so is is punishment enough? Like I'm not gonna

just go oh oh I got off. Let me just go to fucking coals and go on a shoppings right, Like I don't I don't know why. That was my day after I get let off from you know, involuntary manslaughter. But like I'm going to suffer the rest of my life, like it's having the weight of having taken someone's life by your negligence is brutal and in ways, I guess I would want to go to jail because just like the dog biting, I would want to be punished in a way that made me feel like I was paying

for what I've done. But I don't think it's right. I mean, I don't think you should go for life, but I think, you know, several years could work, okay, but several is not a lot. Seven that was I didn't even get that call back. It's good, dude, Let's go to break. We'll come back with the news. Hey, Andrew, let's get to the news. Your first, your first, Yeah, it's Tuesday, folks, you know what that means. It is Tuesday. I hope you're having all the swells out there except

for you. Larry, Oh my first kiss. Yeah, that's who I'm coming after, Larry Nasser. Oh my god, that was a lot of girls. First, kiss, let's be on eight million they got, which is fucking awesome. Wait what yeah they got? I think the lawsuits over they got three the settlement three eighty million dollars, which that's a lot of divided between how many divided between how many lawyers? Yeah? Many girls? I don't know. I don't know. That's a

good question though. I mean three eighty when you divide it and then taxes and then lawyers, yea each girl in that way? Um, And I'm sure someone's like, well, maybe he accidentally did it, Nickie, Why don't you forgive him? That's difference when he didn't and fingering Nikki, Sorry, that was the time. No, I was. I was responding my own thing. I wasn't doing your Let's let's get to it.

People on social media can see people on social media are outraged over a video of teacher scrambling to scoop dollar bills at at a hockey rank for the Dash for Cash event aimed to raise money for school supplies. Oh okay, did you see this video? No, they have teachers on their knees throwing dollar bills in front of people cheering them on, like they're like like rats, trying to get cheese just so they could pay for supplies

for their school. It looked the money was donated in South Dakota business see you mortgage direct was meant to that was donated. It was meant to go towards to the teachers classrooms or schools. Each of the teachers got hundreds of dollars, ranging between sundred sixteen. Critics on social media called the contest cruel and dystopian. Yeah, it almost squid gaming. They pointed out lack of funding and pitting

teachers against each other. Yeah. A fifth grade teacher who participated said, I think it's really cool when the community offers an opportunity like this for things. A lot of times uh that educators a lot of times pay out a pocket for you know, it's there's a there's a fun game element though, just scrambling for cash. And I know that it looks sad because it's like this is

just stuff that should be provided. Um, they used to do it on game shows all the time, Yes, but I guess those people were spending it on a jet ski though for their career. You know, little mats to put on the floor for the reading nook. I mean it is wild that teachers have to come out of pocket for school supplies. I mean, I don't know why anyone's a teacher. Thank fucking God for teachers, but man, it's that is a really rough I mean, I do

know why people are teachers. They fucking care about kids and it's rewarding. Um, and get their summers are summers off, but it's pays so it doesn't pay enough, and it is uh, you know, I think thankless. And parents are fucking terrible. Now they all think they're child's just the most special thing. And now teachers are getting in trouble

for giving out homework. You know, it used to be like you would get in trouble for not doing your homework and the teacher would called a parent about like, hey, they aren't doing their work. Now the parent calls the teacher and says, you're giving too much homework? In what world? I mean, I would have loved for that scenario to be happening back in the day. But it was like teachers used to be respected and like they know what's

better than the parent. It's just yeah, I guess they're like, you know, I read that quote by the woman and she participated in it, so it's like, why are we listening to anyone except for the people that participated that did it, Like yeah, I I always find that interesting. It kind of it's like, um, I saw a video of like cultural appropriation, like this guy was dressed and like as a mariachi band and people are like, how

could you do that? Like how could you dress? And a marriachi band was like, we love it, thank you for promoting us. I appreciate it, Like thank you for like not thinking we're invisible, you know, And it's just I don't know, it's just interesting. It's like people taking up for other people. And it's like you might think this is you know when people ever say about girls on Instagram, you know, posing slightly slutty or whatever, and it's like it's so sad. She's so sad. It's so bad,

Like girl, you don't have to do that. It's like that's that's what you're putting on it don't get to her. Or porn, like I watched porn sometimes and I go, oh, this girl, I just want to give her a hug. And it's like, you don't know what Nikki sha up. She might be like liking this and um, and people could say that about me, you know, Oh you don't need to do this NIGGI and talk about these things. It's like, but you're not me, Just back off you. When do you stick up for someone? When do you go?

Are you okay when they asked for it? I guess, But what if she's a what if someone's being held

against their will? Or what if someone is you know, not able to actually stand up for themselves, Like you see a lot of times they're just people that have been come from abusive families where they didn't learn how to you know, have autonomy and boundaries, and you see them being trampled on or being you know, rude to a Starbucks employee being yelled at, or or maybe a customer being you know, and then you take it upon yourself to like defend them. When is that okay? And

when is that like? You don't know? Well, I guess, like you know, earlier you were like teachers, I don't know how you do it. But then I guess there are some teachers that are like, you're right, Nikki, like this job fucking is thankless and sucks, And then I couldn't do it, and I require constant validation of we appreciate you and you are great and this is you know, and I'm not saying I couldn't do it. I hate when people go I could never live in New York,

I could never get on stage. I'm like, yes you could if he if he had my brain and life, it would be very easy for you. Um, so I could be a teacher. UM. And I don't mean to go like talk down to teachers in any way. I was just like, I just I'm really grateful for teachers like I just I know that it's even the ones that love it and would never want to do anything else and are going to stick it through no matter what.

I know that it sucks and that you don't get the appreciation that you deserve, and maybe you don't want it, you know, maybe you don't need that. I was talking to Kirsten at UM Breakfast today about I'm not good at like thanking people sincerely in person. It's just very uncomfortable for me to be like I appreciate you and

looking someone in the eye and doing it. I'm much better at like sharing my sentimental feelings in a letter or like an email or a text like so they can have it and process it on their own, much like the fan threax. Like I love when people give me letters at the show because I just even a birthday card, I'm like, can I just open this later? Or a gift on my birthday? I'm always like, can I not open it in front of you? It's too much. I just don't want. I don't know what that says

about me. But maybe you don't want to see the reaction because it won't live up to what you want. Maybe no, it's not that, like I, I just it's too many feelings for me. It's too emotional, and I'm just very uncomfortable with that much sincerity. I'm not good at making sincere speeches eulogically. I just I buckle Um and Kirs and I were talking about how you know

I was. I was kind of getting defensive, so I was there was someone in my life who was like, you know, we don't really hear thank you from you a lot for this thing, and I'm like, but I thank you with like my I show it in other ways and they're like, yeah, like you know, money and buying you things and things like that, and uh, the guy I'm dating was like, you know, sometimes people, even if you're paying them well or well enough. You know they're not doing it for the money. If they wanted money,

they would go do something else. They're doing it because they have pride and what they're doing and they like that they're helping your life and that they're bringing their like a part of a thing. And there. They do it because they want the accolades, they want the they have so it that that does matter. That is currency

to them. And you need to stop stop avoiding your feelings and how grateful you are for these people by throwing money at them, which is obviously nice to do and people would probably prefer that over thank you, but why not do both? So I'm trying to force myself to be more grateful, which I can't. I mean, now I should go into like you guys at the end of the year, I just want to say to you and Noah, like you're gonna get a card for being said. I can't do it right here, but like I'm just

not good with that. Are you guys doing relate to that? I guess it depends if there's gonna be a bonus in there. Great but gratefully saying right am I? Yeah? No, I have a lot of trouble with that obviously, Like I it's so hard for me to be sincere, Like I remember when I would try to, like I wrote that one horrendous movie, and I remember someone that read it there, like can you like make the like the scene where he's saying he loves this woman or he's

happy for them, like for her. I don't know what that was. We just heard a deep um can you make it like more sincere and whatever? And I I couldn't. I I don't know what those words are, like I can't do it. I don't know the vocabulary for it because I didn't hear it as a kid, like I just didn't. My parents weren't that way. That wasn't how we communicated. We communicated through money, like or like things like.

That's how I knew my dad liked me because you know, I got a car when I was sixteen, not because he sat me down and he explained, you know why I'm great or something like that. You know. Yeah, I got a lot of that as a kid from my dad, and I think it made me deeply and comfortable to hear how great it was because I didn't believe it and I just thought they were just saying it. He ended it with, Babe, you know yeah, I mean I always loved a weird taste in my mouth, especially after

we made out. But why did these cigars that day? It was let's get off this. What then are we talking? Let's get it all right? Yeah, it's it's it's hard for me to be sincere, but when I do it, it feels really good, and I'm really good at it when I write letters, and I can write, but I'm I'm very uncomfortable in person doing it. And um. But

what I was wondering with Brenna, does she um? Because I know you cut everything with jokes, like the most sincere, saddest moments, you will still sometimes I have to be like if I'm like if it maybe it's not a sentimental, like emotional moment, but it's something I'm like frustrated about or like want to stay in the I need to express my anger about something to you, not at you.

Let's say it's a thing in my life. And sometimes we'll just go I'll go like and I don't know, I'm just feeling like so full of and I go, don't make a come joke right now? Like, you know, like I have to even say that to you, like don't I go, don't make the joke about that. I'll say a turn a turn of phrase that I'm like, oh, he's gonna make that joke, and I'll predict it and go, don't just please don't make that joke. I can't handle

a joke right now. I just want to stay in this does Brenna ever, I want you to be more like because we go, baby baby, I'll miss you. I miss you And that's almost like which it's saying what you really feel, but it's making it and I do I do miss you baby? Um, and uh, you know, I think I know you well enough where like I

know when not to make that kind of joke. I think like even before you tell me not to make the joke, I know our relationship well enough where like and then with Brenna, yeah, there's times where like I don't know if like we've gotten in like arguments over it, but it's like, can you just like I'm not that

open with her. I don't you know, I know, I like it would seem like I'd be that way, but like I I tend to avoid serious conversation at all costs because because I'm afraid of what I'll be asked and and that or not like like asked to do or whatever. And then I'll feel like, well, I'm my actions are showing all this. Why do I need to verbalize it? Or like, am I going to be asked to do something that I don't think is reasonable? So I avoid it because I'm a raid in you're afraid

of the answer you don't want. We talked about this, like a lot of times You're like, I don't ask you the thing because I'm scared you're gonna say no. And I'm like, but no is an answer that is acceptable, So you need to be okay with that. And that's that's the thing, and and and that's what I do. You know, we're talking about it yesterday, like things you're scared of. You have to consider the worst case scenario

and be like, Okay, can I handle that? Like that is an appropriate thing to happen in this circumstance It could happen? Is that is that? Because? Is do I have to take that personally? It's so funny. I was just talking to um Chris about this the other day about how there is no way like there are maybe zero people I can think of where if you told them a criticism like let's just say, uh, you know someone's always late or something, or um, you know, someone

sitting too close to you or like a friend. I don't think there's anyone that you can confront about something a criticism and they won't have a knee jerk defensive reaction. First. Is there any way to present something of like so that they don't go but but oh, but but it's because of this, Like every no one likes to be criticized, even if it's something that is not a you know, moral judgment on that you're just like, hey, this is

my thing. It's nothing to do with you. I just appreciate, you know, a heads up if you're going to be late. According to therapists, the way to do that is by seeing that I feel statement mm hmm. When you do this, it makes me feel X Y and Z, I think, I think when But isn't it like people can't make you feel something? Isn't that a therapything? Like then you're

blaming them for your feelings. I think the best um, as long as you say you you it's like you're when you do this action i've it makes me feel uncomfortable. Is there a way that it's Sometimes people's actions do make you feel a way, like this whole thing of like they can't make you feel that way. Sometimes people unintentionally do make you feel a way, and that's okay, But you can't get their bad person. I mean, I guess you could get mad, but it's harder to get

mad at someone for a way that they feel. Not in my family don't feel that way. Why do you feel that way? I think that? Uh, or I feel I feel that, I think um that I feel no. I think when it's like I get I have trouble with critiques when I feel like the person you can say no, but it's not just you. It's like anyone in my life, but it's mostly you. I feel no. But like if if they're doing something similar, maybe it's

not that thing to be critiqued. And I find it hypocritical and and I think a way though to do that be like, look, I suck at leaving my bag out per se on the outside in the living room. That being said, you know, I get forgetful sometimes too. In regards to the dryer sheet thing. Whatever can you clear that out. I know. I'm forgetful too. I do it too, and then I'd be like yeah, dude, fucking yeah of course, as opposed to like you gotta take this out. Then I'm like, fuck you, you leave your

bag out, like you know what I mean? And I think that I like how you change the thing in the beginning so that it's you didn't accuse me of the thing that you're that was very that was very shifty of what you just did. But then it all came to truth at the end. Um, No, that's what. But that's where I get annoyed. It's like, just it's not a two way street just because I don't like this.

These are different things, like it's not always an eye for an eye, and yes, there's different ways of saying like you need to do this, Like there could be like, hey, next time you do this, do you mind doing this? I don't need to. I don't think anyone, let alone myself, needs to always give a caveat of like I do this too, and here's a way that I do it.

Like I know I'm not perfect. We're allowed to have criticisms of others to to, you know, compliment the boundaries we want for ourselves without having to there's always gonna be hypocrisy. Like, for example, I don't mind if the guy am dating Fox other women. I just don't care. It's not a thing. It doesn't make me jealous. It's my weird thing. I know though, that they don't feel just because they get to do it does not mean

I get to do it. I'm not allowing them to do that because I'm like, oh, that means I can do it. It's it's it's not a two way street. It's it's I like it. I have my own preferences and they have their own purpoces. So when it comes to dryer sheets and leaving bags out, I leave bags out. You don't put the dryers, you don't empty the dryers. Right, those can independently. I'm not saying the dryer thing in

a world where I am perfect. It's just one thing that I specifically, in that moment, think about, and it doesn't need the caveat of like, but you do this, It can still just be does does that? Yeah? I just but the whole thing of like, it's not a two way street that comes up the eye for an eye two way street thing when you go. It's not a two way street. I could do it. That doesn't mean you, but you can do it. You can yell at me about the bag and I don't have to go,

but you leave the dryer sheet. It can just be like, I like a tidy spot and you've never brought up the bag before. It's so obnoxious when you inadvertently do things you've never won because I don't do it. I don't. I don't because I don't have anything. You could just say, hey, Nikki, I like a tidy space. Do you mind putting your stuff away? And I would be able to handle that instead of you passive aggressively bringing it up on here. It's not so annoying passive aggressive putting it into a

scenario scenario that is a hypothetical. That's the definition. Is the difference. I don't care that you leave the bag out. I'm using as an example. I never care. I really don't. Oh well, okay, then that's different. That's the difference. Like, but that's what I'm saying. It's not if you don't care. I do care about the dryer sheet. It's the thing I care about. I'm different than you. You don't care

about the bag. That doesn't mean that they're not they're not the same then, And I'm not saying that if you even if you did care about the bag, it's not the you're allowed to have that, uh, independent of the dryer sheep conversation. You know, we're every time that

you can get criticized. This is what you know, the left and right do well you did this, No, well you did this, and it's like no one's ever fucking accountable then, because you could always go, well, you're not perfect, and it's like, okay, well then let's all just fucking ruin the world and never have to face, you know, take accountability for the things that we're doing. And it's like that I'm I'm saying this as someone who makes mistakes all the time and is does have those knee

jerk reactions of being like will you do this? And I'm even saying to myself, you don't have a right to throw it back in their face of like but you, but you're saying you don't believe you have the right to tell the person that they're fucking up. Well, that person that you told me, But I don't think it should come from a place of like I'm defending myself. It should come independently of that. In a different scenario like that, you can't make the rule and then it

just abides for you. Do you understand that like you can't. I'm not saying it abides for me. I'm saying that you can bring up the bag. Let's say the bag thing ticks you off, you could bring that up. But it doesn't need to be like, well, the dryer sheet. I don't know why you're complaining about the driver a ste you leave your bag out all the time. That is not the way to handle an argument. The way to handle it is go, oh, you know what, I

do need to be better about this. And while we're at it, like I guess, since we're in this like kind of conversation, a thing that's been annoying me is that you leave your bag out. It's not the same as but you do this. It's not a defensiveness. It's a separate thing that oh, this reminds me of this, but it's it's not defending. Do you understand the initial of the dryer sheet of how you come at the person, That's how they're going to react to you. So when

you say I don't need to give the caveat. I don't need to go well, I do this. I don't need to be you'll tell me I said that it's not nice to go do this dryer sheet. I said, hey, next time you're doing the dryer sheet, that would be the way I presented is not good. Sometimes it's like a response, So then you're gonna get a knee jerk response back. That's the whole point. So it's like like the initial knee jerk response. If it's if it's comes from kindness and a way of out of love, then

you're gonna get love back. But if it comes out a way of like spiteful and like I'm I don't you shouldn't do this, and you talk down to the person, then you're gonna get a shitty reaction. That's all. It's not a big deal. I just you know, it is what it is. But I think we got somewhere on that. Do you guys want to go to the next news story? What is the next go ahead? And do you want to do it? A study shows that most people have

napped on the job. Nappers seem the better quality of life actually, but non nappers were likely to make more money all right, well this this is interesting. The ideal nap time is twenty to thirty minutes to feel more creative. Respondents felt that at ten to twenty nap, twenty minute nap was Plenty of nappers had also received promotions in the last year, compared to thirty of non nappers. Americans say they regularly they're regularly sleep deprived, possibly explaining the

need for an afternoon nap to get through the day. Um, yeah, this makes sense, you know, but I don't think the amount of money you make for not you're gonna die before you get to spend it. Because if you don't know, I'm trying to prioritize sleep so much more because it really it is the number one thing to look your best. I mean I'm doing it out of vanity more than like I would extend my life doesn't matter. I just

look like shit if I haven't slept. Wait, when do you think they're like, let's say someone has a nine to five job. Do we make a little nap room, Like what do we do we haven't sleep? At the devil? I absolutely I did that in my office. Um, when I had not safe, I would say, Um, if anyone wants to nap at some point. Please take that. I think that's great. I just I think that's great. Naps are, but some people just can't nap. And I and I don't like that whole I can't nap. It's like I

just think that people don't try. They just go no, I'm different. And it's like, you need to do a white noise machine, you need to do a sleep mask, you need to do earplugs whatever you what version of that. You need dark you need a cold dark room, and you need to just try. And it's it's maybe not going to work the first time. That's you know, through, but eventually you should figure out. If you're someone that

does not get enough sleep, you gotta get that. Yeah, there's something like, um, the hustle aspect, the toughness of like I sleep four hours and night and then I worked eight hours. It still is in the like the dialogue of so many people. It's so funny. Last night I had that little kind of last night, I almost pulled an. I was I could have pulled an all night or to get that thing done, and I was like, no, no,

I'm not doing that anymore. Like I have a due date for this and I am late on the due date, and people are going to be annoyed. But my health for the rest of the month is dependent on me sleeping tonight and getting at least five hours instead of two. I mean, I would be in It's just it's not cool to not get sleep anymore. Stop being that is the kissed thing. Well, and it's killed to be like I didn't sleep in Spain. Spain so hard. In Spain they literally have a siesta, like that's like part of

their life. Now. Granted they stay up very late, they eat dinner very late, like that's just they're like culture. But they have a siesta, Like did they do it? And they they're fine there. You know all the countries that have like four day work weeks, they're fine there. And I know that people out there, like I can't fit eight hours of sleep, Nick, just not not in my schedule. You deserve you are You deserve eight hours

of sleep. It is God given right you you figure out, you got to figure out a way to get it. You're gonna die soon, You're gonna get cancer soon. You're sooner than the rest of people that that sleep better. Like when you don't get good sleep, it just you know, listening to that Sam Harris podcast that he did with that sleep guy. They were talking about, you know, all these people who are famous for like only needing five hours of sleep or less a night, Winston Churchill Um.

I think it was Margaret Thatcher. They're going through the list of these like famous people that don't need a lot of sleep. They all died from early on set Alzheimer's, Ronald Reagan, They're all, it's it destroys you on the back end. You and you're not It's just it's it's almost like not eating should be that kids. It's like,

that's why I don't want to know. I know. I think like that's like the number one thing is like your kid wakes up at six, not to mention crying throughout the night like so those I think if you're a new parent, for the first two years, your your company should give you an hour of naptime in between. Well, I think people should consider that before they have kids. Who doesn't Who doesn't know that you're going to lose

sleep with kids. If sleep is something you prioritize in your life, don't have kids until you can get the help that you need so that that kid that you can get the right sleep. I would never have a child unless I could fit in snaps. I would never

do it because that's how important. But I really really the first thing if I I would rather go, Like if I see a week of work for myself and there's no sleep involved, I start panicking a lot, uh much more than if it's like, oh I have to you know, go bungee jumping or like something that would be uncomfortable for me. The thing I dread more than

anything is lack of sleep. So I just when parents complain about, oh, I'm not sleeping, I'm just like, this isn't the twenties where or the fifties even where you just had to have kids and there's no options for you. You chose this, don't do it until until you can afford to. Yeah, but then that's like people couldn't do it then or more well then then you just I mean, well then maybe it's more important to you to have kids than to sleep, and you can still complain about it.

I don't mind that. But the people that act like no, but I feel like companies like confused, I think, but I think of companies like you know, like companies like I feel like Facebook and Google. You talk to people who like go through their things, I guarantee they have rests like nap rooms for the end, like where you get to play ping pong and then sleep for an hour and then you got to like work. We're too caffeinated, though,

that's the others. Yeah, that's true, because your body wants sleep and then we take you know, all these stimulants, caffeine. It it makes it so you can't nap even though your body is crying out for it. Your brain won't shut down because we're just constantly pumping ourselves with caffeine. I mean, we're so fucked. And I know I'm going to get hate for the kid thing, but I just, uh, I I feel the same way about parents that I

feel about teachers. Like I I couldn't do it because it's it's too much work and I just don't think i'd get enough sleep. And maybe people don't prioritize that as much as me, or they prioritize having kids is more important than that. So I don't mean to make you mad. I'm just saying I don't really and I do have sympathy for you when you're when parents are sleepless. I it's I've tried to buy my sister a fucking

night nurse. I there's everyone in my All I want for the people I love and care about, including you guys, the busties listening is that you get good sleep. If I could give you any gift, it would be the gift of rest. But when someone goes, when someone has kids and keeps having kids and they are tired and they look like shit, I'm like, this is not a new concept. Mothers have been around forever complaining about the sleeplessness.

It has been portrayed in media for generations like this is this is not a new Don't be surprised when being a mother is fucking hard as fuck and no one forced you to do it, except if you live in Texas. But I feel, you know, even though let me just say, I'll play devil's advocate for myself. I remember Andrew being like, you know, on my day off, I don't want to go get your groceries. And I said, well, I didn't know this day of work. He goes, you

choose to work, and I go. I didn't know that day was going to be me with all my jobs lining up on one day, like if you're mother out there and you're like, well, I can't. I couldn't have predicted that my son was going to need to go to hockey practice in the morning, that my sister, my daughter was gonna go to dance, and that I was

gonna have no space. You can't predict that far ahead. Sure, I believe that, but and you still have a right to complain that you're tired, and as did I, because there are sometimes that life, even though you can see it coming and you think you know what's gonna happen, it can throw you a curveball. Or I didn't know my child was going to be special needs, and that's

a whole another thing. But um, I I still you know, with my career, when my career special needs, sometimes I I do want like I'm just poor me, but I go, I chose this, No one asked me to do this. It is true, But that doesn't mean I can't ask for help. And that's that's you should still ask for help if your mother is out there, you deserve it and I just can't. And I don't notice I didn't say fathers, because let's be honest, being a father would

be pretty fucking cush. I told Curston this morning, I was like, if anything ever happens to your husband, um, I'll I'll like have a baby with you and I'll just be the father. And she was like really, And I was like, do you wanna? Do you wanna? We're gonna have something to take care of him. But I would love to be a dad. Just go make money and then you know, hang out with that, like be a fun dad, but like not have to do all

the child rearing. And that's the way. That's the only way I'm going to be able to have kids, because that's I know, that's that's the only way I'll be the best parents possible. Right. Well, in some relationships that role is reversed, where the woman goes out and works and the father stays mostly at home to and and becomes bitter and hates the wife, not vice versa. The

other day I was telling the person I'm dating. They were talking about finances and stuff, and I go, you know, if we ever got married, Like I go, not even me, but like if you married a woman that made a lot of money, you wouldn't have to necessarily work, you know. And I've heard what if I wanted to buy a ten dollar bike for like just for fun with your money, and I go, but if we were married, it wouldn't be my money, it would be ours, and you could

buy that ten thousand dollar bike. I would have to be okay with that. Like, and then I said, you know, your sister is married to a guy. If she wanted to spend you know, ten tho dollars, which is, you know, for their income, a big gift, but like a thing they can afford on something frivolous, a car that she doesn't need, or a you know, a procedure she just really cared about. No one would go. But that's his money. Everyone go. But she she raises the kids and everything.

She deserves it. But men, for some reason just go, no, I've got to earn it myself. And I'm like, no, Well, I've heard support heard countless women say that if the guy doesn't make as much money as her or isn't a hard worker, like isn't a certain like type of way of earning money, that they lose attraction to them.

Like that's been something that's been said many times. And you can like that man is not well that that woman requires that and okay, but I I'm a long time like, I really do think and I've heard it before, so it's not like I'm just like making it up, like yeah, no, no, no, It's it's true. Women do like me. They want to be financially taken care of. That matters to them. But not all of them. Though not all of them. Yeah, I want a man who's going to make make sure the fridges stocked and make

sure the apartment is clean. Not doing it himself, but like hiring the right people, making their time, folding up boxes, entering the dryer sheet, putting my bags away. Like that's that's how I will feel horny for a guy. I really would acts of service. Let's take a quick break and come back with why do I care? Andrew? What

do I care? Why do I care? In her latest interview with Howard Stern, Billie Eilish reveals she started watching porn at eleven, watched a lot of it, and that it negatively impact acted her for for first sexual experience. She caused porn a disgrace and is angry that porn is loved. I can't wait to hear this interview. Have you listened yet? I have? I tried to listen to it. I've only heard bits and pieces. I think it's really distroyed my brain. And I feel incredibly devastated that I

was exposed to so much porn. The first few times I, you know, had sex, I was not saying no to things that were not good. It was because I thought that what I was supposed to be attracted to was that. So I'm so angry though, so she said, I'm angry that porn is so loved, and I'm so angry at myself for thinking that it was okay. The way that vagina is looking for porn is fucking crazy. No vaginas looked like that. Women's bodies don't look like that. We

don't come like that. UM, I love it. You know, She's right. I think that porn is really bad for for for young people and and and older people too. I mean, I'm absolutely addicted to porn, and um, it has changed the way I perceived my own body, the way I enjoy sex. I love porn. I don't want to give it up. It's not something that I feel like is ruining my life or my sexual life. UM. I feel like, actually porn is my sexual life. Sometimes for a lot of my life when I don't have

a partner. Um, I'm really grateful for it, but I do acknowledge that it ruins lives all the time, and um a lot more than they wants talking about. Some I'm glad Billy brought this up. Yeah, it's uh. I guess when you're younger and you watch porn and then you're like, oh, I guess my first time, I'm just gonna be bent over doggy and like spit on and it's like, well, that's what it is, as opposed to like a loving like connection where you're like really like,

you know, connecting with the person. You know. Porn is all about disconnection. A lot of times guys think they don't even I think. I think they're eyes that think that they don't mimic things they see in porn. They think they're different than the guys that spitting girls mouth and yank their hair, like slap them and stuff. You hear about like guys mimicking porn, and they go, I'm not like that. You all are? You all do stuff

that you see in porn. It's just you can't help it, but it happens, and it class you know, Like I live my life based on rom coms, you know, like I I view everything through lens of like a fucking romantic comedy written by Nora Ephron, and that's fucked up my perception of romance. And you know, fairy Tales and Disney movies also have Really I was watching with Special last night, I have so many references to rom coms and Disney movies, and I realized it's made so much

of it's it's it's made me. I just love the Yeah, I love like the crush and the drama around and then the most when the crushes revealed. And then like I used to role play with my ex boyfriend, like we have a crush on each other and we've never told each other, and we're sharing a bed because there's a storm at this conference that we're at and they didn't have enough hotel rooms and we have to share a bed and we both always liked each other. He goes, do you have a crush on someone in your life

right now that you want to do this? And I was like, um no, I just want to do this, and it was like he was so dead on it was I was so busted. And then you asked him to be a house over time, over ten years, and then you come back to the small town and the house you dreamed of this build for you, and then you here's the problem though. You get together and then the credits roll. There's no you never see I don't know what happens next after that. For me, I have

to start the movie over again. There's no when you get the guy, there's no I don't know what happens next. There's no. There's no examples of that, you know, even Ross and Rachel. Okay, well you he cheats on you, and then you get mad at him, and then you take him back, and then you get mad at him again. It's just this constant. My life needs to look like an episode, you know, a season of Friends. Yeah you don't. You don't. Can't have happiness. No, it cannot sustain because

what who would want to watch them? A lot of those shows, like all the rawness and the sadness gets taken out with like he cheated on me, and then you think like that's how life is. And then you watch like the show, uh, that marriage show that was just on, and then you're like, Okay, that's that seems a little at least a little bit more and all

those two real. Then people are like it's too real, it's too much like like you know what I mean, Like shows are either like in your face, like crushing, or they're like I have to say though the friends I don't. I don't know if you're familiar with When

um Ross cheated on Rachel. They were on a break, okay, and he he went out and he slept with this woman and she found out about it because Gunther told her, because Gunther was in love with her, and the whole thing was like, we were on a break and she's like, we weren't on a like we were, but that didn't mean you should god fuck another girl. And he he thought that she was done with him, and so he

got drunk and slept with this girl. And you know, I remember being in like seventh grade watching that, being like that fucking whore who took Ross from Rachel, Like I was the girl instead of Ross, so stupid. I was like her dumb, spiky blonde hair, she's not even cute, and she like I just had so much And I hated Emily. I hated anyone that was between Ross and Rachel. And the thing is like they did explore how hurtful

that was. There was some really good scenes where he's just like, Rache, please, and she's just like, I can't, why would you do this to me? And it's really was sad and gripping, and um man, those scenes are good. My favorite scene ever though for two people getting together. I've watched it a million times, I've legit weren't to me, is when Jim tells Pam that he likes that he's in love with her. She's like, there, it's after the casino night and that Michael company. It's a it's a

casino night. And then you know, you know Jennet or Pam is dating that Roy guy at this they're engaged, so Roy. They're they're going outside and uh, she's gonna get a right home from Jim because she's gonna stay later, and she's saying good by to Roy. Roy like drives off and he's like, hey watch my lady tonight, Jim,

and Jim's like take care. And then they're walking and you can just tell the Gym's just like he's just needs to say it, and she's like, He's like, I need to talk to you about something, and she's like about me taking more of your money because I can do that. Like she's like keeping it light, like the casino night, she's like about me like and he just goes, I'm in love with you and she's just like what. And it's just such a good scene and he's like,

I just I just needed you to know. And she's like, Jim, no, like I value your friendship, and he goes, don't do that. Don't do that, don't say that, and she's like so much and he's like, don't do that. I don't want that. I don't want that, and she's like I can't and he's like, okay, well, I just needed you to know. And he's like so mad. He's like mad but sad.

Then he walks away and then it cuts to the scene back of the casino party, and then it goes to the scene in the office and you just see her silhouette in the office and it's dark and she's calling your mom and she's like, I don't know, mom, he just said it, and you can hear her mom, Like you don't hear her mom. But she's like, do you love him too? And she's like I don't know. I think I do. And then you just see Jim walk in and he like, here's a conversation and he

just goes up to her and kisses her. It's so fucking good. Does anyone else out there and the other best he's watched these scenes and if you I think I've asked for these before, but you send me more of them. Someone send me the pride and Prejudice ones that you've got mail ending. I wanted it to be you. I want to did you so badly? Okay, let's get to the red. Also, what mattress do you think best?

I love that you called her mom. Yeah, that's such a I would totally do that, but I was like, I don't want to hear my mom would have no interesting This is your reddit dom Uh. This is uh something I saved from the subreddit anti natalism, which is people who don't want to have kids anti natalism. And this is a tweet that someone shared from a guy named they love kJ They with two wise little kids talking about when I grow up, little kids talking about quote,

when I grow up, man, it's seventy in December. You ain't growing up. L m a O. I'm gonna share that on my story later. It's like it's so true. China is gonna take over the world is literally crumbling. Russia has finally knowledge that climate change is a crisis. Like Russia is even like, yeah, this is bad. Um it's not looking good. Um uh. This is an adorable thing from made Me smile that I'm gonna play. It's just a guy on TikTok interviewing kids and his account

is called like Recess Underscore Therapy. And there's this little kid. I wanted to show him to you, okay, And that's the guy interviewing him. And he's just like a little kid. He's so cute. He's probably like a six years old, six or seven, and he's talking about his favorite animal. And I just want to play this. If you could talk to clari dragons, what do you think you'd say to them? I love you? What do you think they'd say to you? I think Do you think they'd say

I love you back? Oh? Yeah, baby? What would you do if you went to Pannizia? I'll just ride in all the commoter dragons? But I know that commoter dragets eat people. What they eat what a special animal eats people? Are you afraid of him? Yeah, not at all. Definitely not. They could eat people, which is so special. Do you want to see an animal in people? Actually? Definitely? Why because it's like I've never seen an animal eat Yeah, though they might eat me, I still love them. They're

the best basically, right right basically? Isn't that so cute? He's kind of leading him to be like a kid because you do hear did you hear them? Go? You don't even you still like them if they eat a people, That's what the interviewer said. He goes, yeah, it's still like them if they ate a person. He's like stopped talking to me, like, yeah, I know exactly. I'm talking about someone getting destroyed by a dragon. I know what I'm saying. Yeah, the kid is like they're trying to

make okay. And then this is maybe the keyest they I've ever seen. I say this the their night. This is from made me smile as well, the subreddit this is It says she likes to balance farm birds on her head and it is a probably two or it's probably three and a half year old girl that just likes to put chickens on her head. And it sounds not cute, but I swear to you you've gotta go watch this. It's on made me smile, and you can find it with She likes to balance farm, animals on

her farm, birds on her head. They'll show you a little bit of this. Ah h, that is really cute. I know this is bad for audio, but we can cut it. Okay, it's just her balancing. Look at this outfit that she's wearing. Look how cool she looks. I just love a little girl who don't give a fucking has parents that dressed them like super cool m and I don't even know how that turned into like a talent that she likes. It's so cute. Um. Okay, this

is from the subreddit science. As many as half of all drinkers underestimate how drunk they were, judging themselves still safe to drive despite having exceeded the legal driving limit, in new research published today. Okay, so what does that tell you? When you get drunk, the part of your brain that goes, I'm too drunk to drive gets drunk.

So you people always go, I'm just gonna have a couple. Well, the person that only is going to have a couple gets drunk, and that person is no longer steering the ship. So as many as half of all drinkers underestimate how drunk they were. How is their research from to tell you our research? How's that research from today? Didn't we all know that? I mean I would have guessed probably that would have just as a good remind I've already had like nine drinks over like seven hours, Like I'm fine,

Like what is wrong with you? Like, don't my car it's not a car. I'm on top of it. Oh my god, I just suck the exhaust. You know. It's like I love that was the best thing about um,

not drinking was never being drunk. When I'm like never being if I get pulled over, the calmness is so much more because you know you would have you would feel like you're fine, maybe drunk the night before and in the morning, even like it could be in your system still you would just still have like guilt constantly, like maybe I smell like it or something like when you have that freedom of not having that or even with pot too, when I quit pot, like just not

worrying at the airport, not worrying about literally never having to work when you go and I used to party and like maybe I would like do two bumps of cocaine Mexico, and then you get on the plane and you see a drug dog and you're like, I, I have a lot of coke in my even though like I didn't buy it. I didn't even like barely even snorted it. And I'm like, I have seven kilos in my bag, and it's yeah, just that peace of mind.

I was just to say when I quit drinking, like I used to always be scared that I would repeat myself. I would tell stories when I was drunk, and then people the next day would go, you said that to us last night, what were you black out? And be so embarrassing. So I started just not telling stories ever when I was sober, because I just didn't want to

that reaction. And and I remember what a relief it was when I had some sobriety and under my belt from drinking and people would go, you know, oh, we met before, and I go, oh, I don't remember, and they go when did we meet and they're like, oh, it was December of twenty twelve, and I go, oh, well I was sober. Then you that's your fault. You're not interesting, And it's like it's not my fault anymore

that I don't remember you. I used to always just have or I didn't remember a story or a fact, like, and it's never your fault, like even if you are using your memory. I'm just like, my dad gets so mad at my mom because her memories kind of you know, going a little bit more because she's an aging woman. It just happens to everyone, and he gets mad at her, and I go, do you think she wants to forget?

This sucks? Don't make fun of her, don't get mad, just you know, be gentle with people who can't remember. But I always used to have so much regret. Let's get to the final thought. Okay, this is from the subreddit. Damn, that's interesting and it says, uh crazy to think that George Jetson will be conceived this weekend and this was two weeks ago. But it says George Jetson on his Wikipedia his birthday is August and so that means that he was his parents had sex two weeks ago. Is

that funny? Like that wait, he was like, it's been like in the world of the Jetsons, George Jetson was conceived and and you know they have flying little ships and they have right now I'm just trying to think, Like, you know, there was a flying car I saw on TikTok where it's a car and then the wings come out from it. Mm hmmm. Are people gonna fly like these cars? Like? Is that going to be a thing? You think? Like, do you really think that there's gonna

be flying like like a person? There could be. I think we would have that. I think that's what we'll head to if there's all these restrictions for drones, for flying drones, so there's no way they're going to put super highways that we can manage it. I think it would be a thing. Okay, this is from TikTok Cringe and this says, um, this is a girl who's walking around. This is just like things on TikTok that makes you cringe. And this is a girl that doesn't wear shoes ever anywhere.

It's so gross, even to public restrooms. Dude, she's just going everywhere with no shoes. I don't even know how she gets in half these places, because I would I would feel so weird walking around bareft if I had to go, you know, on the hallway to get some to the ice machine at a hotel with that I get, I get I feel weird crunchy mom, but I have

yet to step in anything sharp. I know that one day I inevitably will step in glass and it will hurt, yes, but not as bad as the severe foot pain wearing feet prisons has caused me to life that I have been given to the fullest. Are we not wearing feet prisons? We would experience the world mostly through our feet. Wearing shoes is like wearing a blindfold or noise canceling headphones. Think about everything you're missing out on when you wear shoes,

especially right after it rains. I choose not to wear shoes for the same reason I choose not to have epidurals or take taile at all. They one is disconnected from our mind, body, soul, and the earth so that they can sell us products. If you think this video is weird, I would like to ask you a question, who are you living for yourself or to appease advertisers and make other people more comfortable? Thoughts? Whoa thoughts? She

didn't have me until that last part. I know, I know that it sounded like Noah to me that last part. When I watched it initially, I was like Okay. I was like, she was calling shoes feet prisons, and I was just like, bitch, you need him to check yourself from glass instead. Honestly, we have callouses that do that. That's why we grow callouses is to have like soles of our feet. Yeah, I mean I agree with her

because my feet are mangled from shoes. Shoes cause bunyan. Yeah, but if you live you live in St. Louis in the winter, you need you need shoot, Like shoes came out of necessity. They didn't come because like, okay, what's that you live in a beach, don't wear That's fine. People wear flip flops, which is essentially almost barefoot. I mean,

people don't wear shoes. Like not wearing deodorant. People are like, but your feet are gonna sink, and it's like, but I don't wear deodorant, so I don't stink because deodorant causes the stink. She was caused the stink, you know, yes, but feet don't stink if you're not putting them in socks with moisture and mold. Noah, Well, I was going to say that last part about connecting to the earth and stuff. That's the part I really like, and it's

the reason why I enjoy camping. Yeah, the noise canceling headphones, the other things she's talking like, yeah, you know that's because you want to wear one so you don't get that girl bright. Yeah. Yeah, So because you don't want to have to keep that kind of person in your life. I don't want to be around there. What you don't have an epidermal or whatever several? All right, well, yeah, it's something to think about. I think that it's it is good to go barefoot into connect with the earth.

And maybe you're right, that is why, like nature is so important. But if you're in a farming and stuff, if you're at an out out back and your shoe list, it's it seems like a selfish decision. But if we all didn't wear shoes, it wouldn't seem that weird. No, But I mean, if you're on a flight and you're sitting next to a guy and his feet are out, it's just it's a lot. It's gross because we are used to seeing shoes and we're not used to seeing feet.

But that's the only reason it's gross. And I get the same with pubic hair or hair on a woman's legs like it's all based on marketing. So she kind of has a point. Fuck, I wanted to make fun of her, but with until I think I'm in an enclosed space with you and I'm inside a shoe next to you, you know what I mean? Like, oh my god, can I play one more? Noah? Okay, yes, and then wrap it up. This girl is so this is so amazing. She's like hot till like there's something about her that

her confidence is just so sexy. She's not wearing bra Is this from TikTok Crene? So sometimes TikTok Crine just has good things and I don't understand why, but this one is fucking great. It makes great points. No. Wait, so she's she's eating chick. That's cool. So against warm No, you're pro life, pro life? No, obviously support gun control. No, speak out against police brutality no, m okay okay. So you foster and adopt children? No? You know those over

four kids in the foster cure system in America? Right now? Right? Good, let's see you support mandatory print to leave for new parents. No, how about government programs to help fund those kids you wanted to be born? No, she's not really pro life, then are you? I mean, at best your pro fetus. That is, if you don't support IBF Oh you do, great, So then you're just pro controlling women's bodies and people

with uterus. Is you're not pro life because you see a young girl gets pregnant and you shame her, and then she has that kid that you wanted her to have and use government assistance like food stamps and wick and what do you do. You shame her and then those kids, unfortunately, usually grow up in poverty and or abuse of homes and have their own set of issues, mental health issues, drug abuse issues in and out of the prison system. You also don't want to reform, and

what do you do? You shame them? How about if they're born gay or trans do you support their rights? Then no, you shame them. You're not really pro life, then what's up? You don't do any of those things. You're just against abortion. Okay, I get that. So obviously you support things like better sex education in schools. I mean, this girl just dismand anything you could say that goes like, but no, I she just tears it apart. She's amazing.

Her name is I'm gonna go to the end so you can find it and watch the rest of it. It's Nicole Caitlin k A T E L y n N one. Nicole Caitlin makes me want I don't know why. It's so crunchy and she's so cool. She's just like, do you no like she? It's like it's hot to go. There's something very erotic about it at the a SMR. Al Right, guys, probably gay, have the great Wednesday. We won't be here tomorrow, Um Thursday, we will be back. I can't wait for that one. And don't be cut and Jacks