People are sometimes a total mess. What do we do with the mess? So often we try to change the mess, hide the mess, avoid the mess, or simply make the mess go away. But what if you loved the mess? Loved the mess in others. Loved the mess in yourself.
It is so easy to want to manage other people. We think we know better than they do about what they need to be doing and how they need to be doing it but when we spend all our time worrying about them we forget to take a look at ourselves. Where can we let go of controlling other people and start simply managing ourselves.
We live in a world of social media, where it seems that everyone's life is picture-perfect except ours. But is that even true? What if we could see the good and bad in our own life as well as recognize that everyone else got some good and some bad too? This is the power of telling the whole truth. Seeing that lives are not edited photos. They are sometimes a struggle and sometimes a joy.
How often do you hear others say or hear yourself say: "I don't get paid enough"? It's a pretty common sentiment with the way we compare our wages to others’ wages and the way that we generally view how we are paid. When we think we are paid for our time, it's pretty easy to believe we don't get paid enough but would you think the same thing if you thought you were paid for the value you added or the result you created?
Resentment. Most of us have felt it at one time or another. Is resentment good or bad? As with most "negative" emotions, resentment can provide some very important information to us. When we understand that information, then we can make the necessary changes. Whether we use resentment as a catalyst for change or an indicator it can help us to make the necessary adjustments to have the life we truly want.
Who are you becoming? Who will you be in the future? When you have overcome your current challenge who will you be? Our future selves can be a wealth of knowledge for us. Simply becoming familiar with the person we want to become actually helps us become that person.
What future do you want? We spend so much time dreaming up futures that are our worst nightmare or a fantasy but what if we just decide the future we wanted and decide we could create it. Listen this week to learn how just a bit of planning and some small steps can get you the future you want.
Have you ever felt like the stories from your past are like a fish story? They just get bigger every time they are told. The stories from our past don't have to be like that. We have so much more power in deciding what we think of the past then we often think we have.
How do you think about your past self? The person you were yesterday, last week or a year ago. Are you accepting and loving or judgmental and harsh or indifferent and apathetic? These thoughts about ourselves can affect our current actions. Listen for three thoughts that can help you love, accept, and grow from your past self.
There is power in looking back and seeing what has gone right, gone wrong and making a plan for what to change in the future. The simple process of a post mortem can provide so much valuable information!
How do you describe ice cream? Does it make you want it more or does it make you want something else? The way we describe things creates motivation and desire or creates other emotions which lead us to take different actions. What actions do you want to take?
Rules - you love them and you hate them. Have you ever caught yourself using information as a rule, when it wasn't a rule at all. Let's explore the difference between rules and tools and how we can use coaching to our advantage.
What do you want? It's a pretty interesting question. Now how often do you ask for what you want? The skill of asking for what you want is essential in getting what you want.
Ruts. We have all been in them but are they a good thing or a bad thing? Let's explore why our brains may love the stability of a good rut and where that rut is serving our greatest good and creating excellent results as well as where it might be time to step out and try something new.
In this episode we dig into one of the fundamental concepts of mind management. What creates your feelings and who is responsible for them.
Certainty can lead us to accomplish great thing but it can also make us miss out on some of the greatest ideas. Is your certainty serving you? The idea for this episode was inspired by the West-Central Forage Association's Leveling Up Leadership Workshop in January 2022. If you have the time check out the replay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQA6HBHQG2k&t=6037s
Have you ever noticed that professionals see so many more details so much faster than any beginner? For the professional they know the time and the training that has gone into developing that skill yet the beginner just wants it to come easy. What would you like to develop the eye of the professional in?
Change is hard or is it really? We all face change on a regular basis. What are some ways we could face change and truly discover how it is all happening for us.
Are you ever amazed a how some athletes can bounce back from penalties and plays gone wrong to make some of the most spectacular plays of their lives? Do you wish that you could develop you ability to adapt to set backs and change? Listen to this episode for a few ideas on how to keep your head in the game.
Let's take a deeper dive into the emotion of regret. Does regret help us or serve us in our lives? Or does it keep us suck? Yet so often we look at our lives and feel regret. Why do we live in regret instead of making the changes we want to have a different life?
This isn't your typical rearview mirror episode.... you know the one where we look back! This how the struggle of fixing a rearview mirror can be used as a guide to looking at your thoughts and uncovering emotions.
A Gratitude Practice - the simplest way to see what you really have in life. Give it a try. Just a few minutes a day might change your life forever.
Let's explore a couple of quick practices for exploring and questioning the stories our brains make up. We can just look at the facts of the stories or utilize The Work of Byron Katie to question and look for evidence of where the our stories just might not be true.
We are all story tellers! Do you know what type of stories you tell? Join me on this episode to explore how we tell stories to help us make sense of the world we live in and how important those stories really are.
