Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/ Episode 52 - What happens when your relationship is built on trust, power exchange, and pushing limits together? In this episode, I sit down with Lucas and Hazel of Ripped Digital to talk about what it really takes to live and create on the more extreme side of BDSM. From navigating risk and safety in hardcore play to building a 24/7 power exchange dynamic, Lucas and Hazel s...
Oct 03, 2025•54 min•Ep. 52
Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/ Episode 51 - Ever wondered what really goes down on a Temptation Cruise? Think clothing-optional pool decks, wild theme nights, and the kind of freedom you definitely don’t get on a regular vacation. In this episode, I sit down with Mario Cruz, the Cruise Director who knows all the secrets, to share why these couples-only trips keep selling out. From first-timers finding the...
Sep 24, 2025•24 min•Ep. 51
Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/ Episode 50 - Back on The Kink Consultant, Larah Sky shares what really goes down when you’re running chastity challenges like Sexless September and Locktober. From easy-mode orgasm schedules to full denial, she breaks down why men keep signing up for chastity plans and what keeps them coming back for more. We also get into the chaos of OnlyFans rules, the viral TikToks that ...
Sep 17, 2025•36 min•Ep. 50
Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/ Episode 49 - What makes something a kink, and what makes it a fetish? And can you find your life partner when you either? In this episode, I sit down in person with content creator and professional dom, Miz Darling to explore the deep, messy, and meaningful world of fetish. From spanking and feet, to nylons and cuckolding, we unpack what makes a fetish different from a kink,...
Sep 10, 2025•30 min•Ep. 49
Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/ Episode 48 - If you’ve been on more first dates than you can count and you’re still single, chances are you’re making dating mistakes you didn’t even know about. In this episode, I sit down with Lana Ricco, host of the Dating Makeover show and podcast, to dig into the biggest dating mistakes that are quietly keeping people single. From chasing the wrong type of partner, to i...
Sep 03, 2025•34 min•Ep. 48
This episode was recorded weeks before Koby passed. We’re sharing it with love and gratitude, in memory of him. It’s a chance to hear his voice, his story, and his spirit one more time. Episode 47 - In this episode, I get to talk to Koby Falks, adult performer, OnlyFans star, and live sex show headliner, to talk about what it’s like building a career that spans continents, from Australia to the UK and beyond. We get into the realities of performing live on stage, navigating the gay vs. straight ...
Aug 28, 2025•39 min•Ep. 47
Episode 46 - What does your dream girl look like? In this episode, I get to talk with Pepper Kat about how she went from the newsroom to sex work, and why her background in TV and film now fuels her career in storytelling-driven erotica. We dive into the rise of breeding kink (and how Elon Musk weirdly influenced it), the reality of phone sex and camming, and the wildest requests Pepper’s ever gotten. She shares what it’s like to balance business and pleasure, the double lives that people lead t...
Aug 20, 2025•37 min•Ep. 46
Episode 45 - Your butt cheeks also need some TLC… In this episode, I’m joined by Flora, a fellow spanko and skincare enthusiast, to talk about keeping your most spanked asset healthy. From preventing scars and managing hyperpigmentation to speeding up bruise recovery and avoiding leather butt, Flora shares the routines, products, and doctor-approved tips that every impact bottom should know. We break down the best ways to protect your skin before a weekend of play, what to do immediately after a...
Aug 13, 2025•47 min•Ep. 45
Episode 44 -Think you could handle working in a professional dungeon? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m back with Mistress Verna for Part 2 of our behind-the-scenes look at life as retired dominatrixes. We’re digging into how this work helped us explore and define our sexuality, the boundaries we had to build to stay safe, and the trust it took to thrive in a job built on power exchange. We swap stories about some of our most unforgettable clients, what we learned about ourselves throu...
Aug 06, 2025•43 min•Ep. 44
Episode 43 - What really goes on behind the velvet curtain of a New York City dungeon? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I catch up with my longtime friend and former dungeon-mate Mistress Verna to spill the tea on our years working as professional dominatrixes in one of the city's most infamous kink spaces. We get into everything they don't show you in the movies — the hazing rituals, the gossip, the client mind games, the surprise police visits, and the unspoken rules that ran the place....
Jul 30, 2025•42 min•Ep. 44
Episode 42 -Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with people we trust? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by Tess and Kels, co-founders of Squirm and co-hosts of the Porn Nerds podcast, to explore how we can make sex ed not just informative but also sexy, playful, and actually useful. We dive into their journey from coworkers to creative collaborators, their mission to destigmatize conversations about porn and desire, and how they built Squirm as a space where adult sex ed m...
Jul 23, 2025•41 min•Ep. 42
Episode 41 -What actually allows us to feel safe in relationships? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by Aubrey Aust, a Master’s student at NYU researching relational safety, who explores themes of attachment styles, somatics, and kink to examine the systems and sensations that shape how we connect with others. We talk about how BDSM dynamics bring power, vulnerability, and consent to the surface in ways that most relationships suppress. Aubrey shares why kink can serve as a rela...
Jul 16, 2025•34 min•Ep. 41
Episode 40 -Ever wondered what it’s like to be the face and body on the cover of your favorite romance novel? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with real-life couple Jose and Andrea (aka Mama) to talk about what it’s like to build a modeling career out of smut, how kink became part of their dynamic, and the power of being seen, desired, and fully expressed. We dive into how Mama helped launch Jose’s modeling and acting career, what it means to embody fantasy for an audience whil...
Jul 09, 2025•44 min•Ep. 40
What happens when a professional dom and pleasure coach sits down to unpack the psychology of kink, power, and pleasure? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I’m joined by the brilliant Sir Marvelous, a pro dom, educator, and content creator who's on a mission to make BDSM more accessible, intentional, and deeply satisfying. From his early journey with sex toys to his current work guiding individuals and couples through personalized kinky experiences, this conversation is full of both fire a...
Jul 02, 2025•39 min•Ep. 39
My favorite kink singer-songwriter needs our help. Deore, the incredible artist behind the Brat EP, is back and this time, she’s gearing up to release a full-length concept album called Tantrums . But in true brat fashion, she’s doing it her way: no label, no safety net, and fully trusting her kinky, ride-or-die community to bring it to life. In this episode of The Kink Consultant , we talk about what it means to quit your job, follow your creative calling, and make music that actually reflects ...
Jun 25, 2025•42 min•Ep. 38
What happens when a self-proclaimed vanilla romance lover brings a spicy book to The Kink Consultant for a breakdown? In this episode, I’m joined by Brenda (my Bizdom) and Tish (my podcast editor and first-time guest) as we kick off the official Kink Consultant Book Club with a deep dive into The Deep End by Ali Hazelwood, plus a quick update on my own dating life. I share my take on the book through the lens of a kink consultant and why the story felt a little too close to home. Because while w...
Jun 20, 2025•37 min•Ep. 37
Is it possible to find a partner that matches your freak? In Part 2 of my conversation with Kai and Sarah, we dig into what it really looks like to build a relationship around a shared spanking fetish, emotional compatibility, and a power exchange dynamic that works in real life, not just in fantasy. We explore how their connection evolved from long-distance play partners to a deeply aligned partnership, the structure behind their domestic discipline, and the rituals and rules that support their...
Jun 18, 2025•50 min•Ep. 36
What happens when two people spend years suppressing a core part of themselves only to realize that denying their identity comes at too high a cost? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Kai and Sarah for Part 1 of a powerful two-part series exploring how their shared spanking fetish shaped their personal growth, relationships, and ultimately, their path to each other. We talk about what it was like to try to “make it work” in partnerships that didn’t share their kink, the emot...
Jun 11, 2025•44 min•Ep. 35
What’s the deal with chastity and why are so many people obsessed with it? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I welcome back Larah Sky for her second appearance, and trust me, she delivers. Lara gets candid about the psychology behind chastity, why some men crave the cage, and what it really means to hold power in a dynamic built on denial. We dive deep into virtual chastity, trust vs. control, emotional responsibility, and the growing appeal of long-term denial. Lara also shares how her e...
Jun 04, 2025•32 min
What actually happens when you walk away from a BDSM dynamic that no longer works, and end up with someone who still can’t meet your needs, even after you’ve communicated them clearly, more than once? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I sit down with Brenda (aka my BizDom) to share an honest and frustrating update on my dating life. I talk about why I chose to leave a partner who understood my kinks but lacked consistency, and how I entered a new connection with someone who seemed open to...
May 30, 2025•31 min
In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m back with Candace and Derek for Part 2 of our conversation, and trust me, it’s even juicier than the first. From pegging to big dick fantasies to how swinging became part of their love story. This is a real, vulnerable, and hilarious look into intimacy, growth, and letting go of shame. We dive deep into how religious upbringing impacted Candace’s early sexuality, and how swinging became the unlikely key to her self-love and confidence. They open up abo...
May 28, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 32
What actually happens when a long-term monogamous couple decides to explore the world of sex parties and kink for the very first time? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I sit down with married couple Derek and Candace, who share exactly what went down during their very first hotwife party weekend in Vegas. We talk about navigating consent, comfort, and connection in group play spaces, what makes or breaks a sex party vibe, and how Derek and Candace transitioned from a deeply monogamous ma...
May 21, 2025•37 min
What happens when a sex educator builds a half-million-strong following by telling the unfiltered truth about kink, consent, and community? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I sit down with the unapologetically brilliant Moxie Rose who is a TikTok creator and in-house educator at Shop Quinky. We get into what it means to lead with authenticity, hold ethical boundaries as an educator, and show up in kink spaces without shame. Moxie shares her journey from private in-person educator to publ...
May 14, 2025•39 min
Ep 29 - How to Talk Dirty with Confidence: Expert Tips from Luna Matas What really holds people back from talking dirty in bed? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Luna Matas who is a Sex and Pleasure Educator, to break down why dirty talk is so hard for so many of us, and how to stop overthinking and start connecting. We explore Luna’s unique approach to helping people get out of their heads and into their bodies using fantasy, narration, and even some kink-inspired techniqu...
May 07, 2025•31 min•Ep. 29
What happens when a couple decides to put the real parts of their relationship online—the good, the bad, and the brutally honest? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I sit down with Ben and Jas, the wildly relatable couple behind one of Instagram’s most candid and inspiring sex-positive platforms. From viral videos to deep conversations about intimacy, communication, and kink exploration, Ben and Jas are showing the world what real connection actually looks like. We dive into how their jour...
Apr 30, 2025•48 min•Ep. 28
What if erotic storytelling could teach you more about intimacy than a sex-ed class ever did? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I’m joined by one of my favorite creators, Nik—also known as The Forge Bear—whose voice is as powerful as his presence. Nik takes us behind the scenes of his work as an audio erotica creator on Quinn and shares how he uses storytelling to explore sexual self-discovery, kink dynamics, and authentic connection. We dive deep into kink education, consent, communicati...
Apr 23, 2025•31 min•Ep. 27
What if the parts of you you’ve been told to suppress are actually your most authentic self? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I sit down with Dove from @littlespaces.co to explore what it really means to be a little—from discovering the dynamic through romance novels to navigating shame, connection, and kink identity. Whether you’re new to the world of caregiver/little dynamics or curious about exploring it on your own, Dove’s story offers a rare blend of vulnerability and wisdom. We get...
Apr 16, 2025•42 min•Ep. 26
In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I’m joined by the brilliant Emma Xin Velicky, founder of Saturday Box —a company designing immersive kink and roleplay experience kits for couples. Emma opens up about her personal evolution from a conservative, sex-negative upbringing to writing romance and co-creating a business that makes intimacy playful, safe, and accessible. We talk about how Saturday Box blends kink with storytelling, bringing fantasies to life through curated scenes that range fro...
Apr 11, 2025•53 min•Ep. 25
Porn is reshaping how we view intimacy, and Make Love Not Porn is leading the charge. In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I sit down with Saniyyah Lateef, a curator for MLNP, to discuss how the platform is redefining adult content by showcasing real-world sex —authentic, unscripted, and deeply connected. We dive into how MLNP challenges mainstream porn stereotypes, promotes sex-positive representation, and ensures every submission prioritizes consent and authenticity. Saniyyah shares what i...
Apr 02, 2025•41 min•Ep. 24
What do thirst traps, TikTok bans, and Daddy Dom dynamics have in common? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I sit down with Dilly from @TheLifeofDillyy to talk about his journey from pec-popping TikToker to full-time content creator with a kinky twist. We get into the sensual (and hilarious) evolution of his online presence—and how stepping into his dominant energy opened the door to deeper connection, both on and offline. We explore what it means to be a “pleasure dom,” the unexpected em...
Mar 26, 2025•42 min•Ep. 23
