What happens when one partner is kinky and the other is strictly vanilla? Is it possible to find common ground, or are you setting yourself up for long-term frustration? In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I break down exactly how to navigate this mismatch—starting with how to open up the conversation, get clear on your needs, and avoid making your partner feel like they’re not enough. We’ll talk about the biggest mistakes people make when introducing kink, how to approach the conversation ...
Mar 20, 2025•21 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Most people think a Dom/sub relationship is all about power and control—but the reality is, it lives and dies by communication . A strong D/s dynamic isn’t about one person calling all the shots while the other blindly obeys. It’s about negotiation, trust, and making sure both partners’ needs are met. So how do you create a dynamic that actually works? And more importantly, how do you avoid the common pitfalls that can turn power exchange into something unhealthy? In this episode of The Kink Con...
Mar 12, 2025•14 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Finding your kink community can be a game-changer, but where do you even start? Finding the right community is about more than just showing up; it’s about knowing where to look, how to vet spaces, and making connections that actually feel good. In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m breaking down exactly how to find local munches, BDSM events, and online communities without wasting time in the wrong places. I’ll walk you through using FetLife the right way, recognizing red flags at events, ...
Mar 05, 2025•17 min•Season 1Ep. 20
In this episode, I sit down with CJ from No Shame with CJ to dive into the complexities of kink, non-monogamy, and redefining relationship norms. As a fellow sex and relationship coach, CJ brings a unique perspective on what it means to explore ethical non-monogamy and how the language we use around relationships shapes our experiences. We unpack the differences between polyamory and non-monogamy, the challenges of navigating jealousy, and how to build relationship dynamics that actually work fo...
Feb 19, 2025•46 min•Ep. 19
In this episode, I catch up with my biz dom, Brenda, for a deep dive into my latest dating escapades—from navigating kinky dating apps to almost getting stood up on a very public date. We talk about my upcoming spanking party, the struggles of meeting compatible partners, and why chemistry is everything (even when someone seems perfect on the app). Plus, I also share a deeply personal story about an unexpected loss and how it shifted my perspective on relationships, connection, and the role of f...
Feb 14, 2025•25 min•Ep. 18
In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I sit down with my former personal trainer and newly single friend, Zach Moore, as he navigates dating after nearly 15 years in a relationship. From exploring kink on dating apps to discovering his dominant side, Zach shares his experiences with Field, primal play, DDLG dynamics, and learning the ropes (literally) of BDSM. We dive into what it’s like to date with intention, how he’s balancing casual connections with self-discovery, and why understanding a...
Feb 12, 2025•46 min•Ep. 17
In this episode of The Kink Consultant , I’m joined by the incredible Rayanna Jamison, USA Today bestselling author, co-founder of GTB Publishing, and organizer of the thriving Dirty Daddies community. We dive deep into her journey as an author, the growth of the Dirty Daddies Party Room, and the exciting plans for the upcoming "Dirty Daddies Do Vegas" convention. Rayanna shares insights into the evolution of the kink and romance genres, her transition from author to publisher, and how she's bui...
Jan 29, 2025•34 min•Ep. 16
In this episode, I sit down with my mother, Angela, to explore her journey from growing up in 1960s Ireland to becoming an open-minded, supportive parent. She shares how her traditional upbringing shaped her worldview and how moving to England in her 20s introduced her to a more progressive perspective on sex, relationships, and individuality. We dive into the unique dynamics of our mother-daughter relationship, including how her openness and humor allowed me to embrace my kink identity and conf...
Jan 23, 2025•39 min•Season 1Ep. 15
In this episode, I sit down with musician and kinky creator Deore to explore the fascinating intersection of music and kink. Known for her bratty sub energy and vulnerable, thought-provoking lyrics, Deore shares how music has become a powerful outlet for self-expression, healing, and connection within the kink community. We dive into her creative journey, including how her hit song “Humor Me” reshaped her relationship with her Dom and sparked deeper conversations about vulnerability and shame. S...
Jan 16, 2025•43 min•Ep. 14
Once again, I’m joined by my Business Manager and close friend, Brenda, as we dive into a whirlwind week of my dating life. From navigating an unexpected age gap with a mysterious man, to rediscovering the thrill of a first kiss on a mini-golf date, I’m sharing it all. We also dive deep into the emotional complexities of intimacy, including how a spontaneous connection stirred up unexpected feelings about a past relationship. Plus, we explore the challenges of balancing power dynamics, trust, an...
Dec 19, 2024•27 min•Ep. 13
In this episode, I sit down with my Business Manager and friend, Brenda, to unpack my dating life—and trust me, there’s plenty to talk about! We dive into my adventures navigating the modern dating world, from the hilarious chaos of my first date at a Target Starbucks, to the highs and lows of finding meaningful connections today. We also explore the nuances of kinky dating, offer advice for those stepping into it, and tackle some fantastic listener questions. From the best dating apps, subtle w...
Dec 11, 2024•27 min•Season 1Ep. 12
In this episode, I had an absolute blast chatting with the amazing Pup Locrian. We dove into all things puppy play, its rich history and how it's different from the furry community. Pup Locrian shared some super cool insights on what it means to be a puppy, the gear involved, and even the physical workout it can be! We laughed about treats and toys, and talked about how to find your local puppy community. We also touched on the joys of puppy conventions and competitions. Whether you're a curious...
Nov 28, 2024•48 min•Season 1Ep. 11
This week, I’m thrilled to have a candid and insightful conversation with my dear friend, Catherine Drysdale, a dedicated sex and relationship coach whose passion shines through every aspect of her work. We explore Catherine's unique journey to becoming a coach, the impactful sex education and workshops she offers, and the challenges she bravely navigates as a voice in the sex-positive space.We dive into the hurdles she faces with social media censorship, as well as her innovative methods like g...
Nov 20, 2024•32 min•Season 1Ep. 10
In this episode, I’m sitting down with the fierce and fabulous Larah Sky where we dive deep into her journey from viral videos to becoming a trusted voice in the kink community. And trust me, you don’t want to miss her unfiltered takes on boundaries, fantasies, and embracing kink with confidence. Lara breaks down how she uses humor and creativity to handle internet trolls, and yes—we talk all about those infamous spit videos that have captivated audiences! We also explore the nuances of Locktobe...
Nov 01, 2024•45 min•Season 1Ep. 9
In this episode, I'm sitting down with the incredible Brad Jones, the mastermind behind my all-time favorite dating app, Meet Kinksters! We dive into how Meet Kinksters is revolutionizing the dating scene by merging sexual and romantic compatibility and explore Brad's passionate commitment to help people form genuine, fulfilling relationships. Trust me, you don't want to miss Brad's innovative insights and the inspiring origin story of this groundbreaking app! We get real about the pitfalls of m...
Oct 16, 2024•50 min•Season 1Ep. 8
In this episode, I get to dive into the fascinating world of Jana Wimer and Robert Bullwinkel, the creative minds behind the spectacular theater production 'Abandon.' Join us as we explore the show's conception, its deep ties to the controversial Marquis de Sade, and the immersive experience it offers. They also insights into the challenges and rewards of bringing such a daring project to life, including the complexities of promoting a kink-centric show and the incredible support from the kink c...
Oct 12, 2024•28 min•Season 1Ep. 7
I’m beyond excited to have Pieter and Paul, the brilliant minds behind the groundbreaking BDSM dating app, BeeDee. We'll dive deep into how the app uses your BDSM test results to algorithmically connect you with compatible kinksters. We'll explore their unique approach to creating genuine and meaningful connections within the BDSM community, and how they overcame challenges to bring this revolutionary app to life. You'll also get an insider's look at the incredible features that set BeeDee apart...
Oct 09, 2024•46 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Buckle up for a wild ride as I sit down with Veronica and Jim, the power couple of the Las Vegas kink scene. Veronica and Jim spill the beans on their whirlwind romance, from a fast-tracked military marriage to discovering their kinky sides. Ever wondered what it's like to go from a vanilla relationship to throwing legendary BDSM parties? They dish the dirt on everything - the excitement, the mistakes, and the oh-so-important rules of the BDSM road. Join in as they recount side-splitting tales o...
Oct 02, 2024•1 hr 20 min•Season 1Ep. 5
In this episode, I’m joined by AGoodSpankin as we dive into one of the most common yet misunderstood fetishes—spanking. AGS shares his personal journey, from discovering his love for spanking at a young age to becoming a SpankTube content creator. We discuss how he uses his platform and podcast to help others embrace their kinks more openly. You’ll also hear some wild stories—from being mistaken as gay because of his love for spanking, to dealing with a creepy stalker, and even paying $75 to wat...
Sep 18, 2024•54 min•Season 1Ep. 4
In this episode, I answer your burning questions from the first two episodes! From balancing finances with my dominatrix career to navigating dungeon dynamics, I spill the details on rates, tips, and the unwritten rules of conduct. I also share some valuable lessons that are pretty useful even outside the dungeon like how to negotiate, set boundaries, and truly connect with people on an intimate level. If you’re curious about all of these, then be sure to tune in as I take you behind-the-scenes....
Sep 12, 2024•13 min•Season 1Ep. 3
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how I went from a Wall Street Journal desk job to stepping into a dominatrix role I never saw coming. I’ll take you through the nerve-wracking moments of my first day in a Garment District dungeon, where I faced unexpected client requests and discovered a side of myself I didn’t know existed. I’ll also share the adrenaline-pumping experiences that made this the most exhilarating job of my life—and why I couldn’t wait for the next session. Tune in ...
Sep 06, 2024•18 min•Season 1Ep. 2
Welcome to the first episode of The Kink Consultant! I’m excited to take you on a journey into the world of kink, BDSM, and sex positivity. In this episode, I share my story—starting with a childhood fascination with spanking that grew into a passion for kink. At 24, while working in finance by day, I answered a Craigslist ad for dominatrixes by night, and it changed my life. Balancing my Wall Street career with my secret life as a dominatrix was thrilling, but when both worlds collided, I had t...
Sep 04, 2024•14 min•Season 1Ep. 1
