“Who are you to think you have something worthy to offer anyone?” This is perhaps the unspoken yet primary enemy of personal development. We want to be of value to people. We want to help them. We want to take some lessons we’ve learned and lift others up. But the biggest hurdle is our own self doubt. We as humans are far more prone to see our faults than our gifts. Which is why I have a tremendous show for you today. I’ve known Jonathan Milligan for many years and witnessed him help a tremendou...
Nov 30, 2020•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 841
I asked the Ziglar audience, “What are you grateful for, right now. First thought. And why?” We got 50 comments in less than three hours and they quickly fell into some specific categories, with two far outstanding. Tom Ziglar and I start off with the miscellaneous one offs that were really interesting and insightful, as we led up to the two main categories which you’ll hear about 20 minutes into the show. My focus however was this, here are the main things we say we are grateful for. Do our dai...
Nov 25, 2020•57 min•Ep. 840
I’m back with John Bevere to talk about the healthy habits and routines he relies on to support his life. His work. His calling. His new book is titled X: Multiply Your God-Given Potential and this was much the focus of our talk, how John personally strives to multiply his own God-given potential through the day to day goings on of life. If you didn’t catch my talk with John in episode 837, just yesterday on Facebook Eric Michael Cap shared the show and tagged me, his post said about the episode...
Nov 23, 2020•27 min•Ep. 839
You have a product or service that can help someone. You are talking with them about it right now, you know it would benefit them and you know what you have is the best there is. But, they decline. They say no. Zig Ziglar gives us a three and a half minute message at the top of this show with an important reality. They will not change their mind. Hear that. You are not supposed to convince them they are wrong. They made a decision about what you are offering and said no and Zig says it’s hopeles...
Nov 18, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 838
Most everyone had a parent or someone who told them they were special as a child. Someone who told them they were capable of so much. If not, you have undoubtedly read or heard someone claim you have greatness in you. However my experience is, very few of us actually believe it. At least not to a great level. Sure, we may have a knack for some things, but it’s not really that big of a deal. My guest today challenges all of this on the issue. John Bevere’s latest book is titled, X: Multiply Your ...
Nov 16, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 837
What you want is often not what you truly want. It is based on a cultural or even personal expectation but in truth is not a core desire you have for yourself. Many of our goals we take on just because. Just because they are the norm. You are expected to buy a home, have a nice car, live a certain style. Work a certain type of job or start a business. In today’s social media culture we get indoctrinated with the expectations of our culture like never before. So when you audit your goals, are the...
Nov 11, 2020•48 min•Ep. 836
If that sounds elementary as it does when I look at it, I encourage you to really think about it. Do you lead as a spouse, parent, employee, employer or in any capacity? Is this the primary spirit you lead from? Or do you lead from experience, authority, your inherent position and role, seniority, or even simply niceness? You can lead from all these aspects and be leading from or truly providing value to the intended recipient. This is my habits show and I’m back with my guest from episode 833, ...
Nov 09, 2020•33 min•Ep. 835
Did you vote for a presidential candidate? Did you vote in spite of the candidates with focus on policies and platforms? In this show we reveal that you are voting every day in ways far more powerful than your official ballot. The contents for this show came from two strategic questions I asked the Ziglar audience. First I asked, “If your weekly purchases were audited to discern what you truly value, would you be proud of what was found?” Which I then followed with, “If you had to choose, what p...
Nov 04, 2020•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 834
Corporate America’s number one product is you. Your attention is today’s most viable commodity. They can’t get it if you don’t offer it, but the temptation is possibly the most enticing and addictive draw of any drug ever invented. The antidote? Purpose. The consequence of going with the flow? Purpose. Author and speaker Kary Oberbrunner brings us a message from his book and platform, Unhackable, showcasing we are all being hacked and the result is us losing our ideas, dreams, and our very purpo...
Nov 02, 2020•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 833
You attempt to sell yourself everyday. To your spouse, your kids, your coworkers or employees, your boss or investors, and for some of you, to an actual customer. What is your process? When do you actually ask for the sale, or do you? I play a four minute clip from Zig Ziglar that is pure sales training. And of course I asked the Ziglar audience a question, “How or when do you ask people to buy your product or service?” and got many responses. Tom Ziglar and I definitely talk business and profes...
Oct 28, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 832
We are all paid for what we produce, to varying degrees. But with a full time writer it is very tangible and acute. Renowned fiction author Charles Martin was my guest in episode 829 and his livelihood is 100% connected to his thoughts, ideas, and creativity and what he can get from his brain, out his fingers and typed onto a screen. In this Habits episode we walk through how he manages himself, his time and his energy to get the required output from himself. He shares some health issues he’s de...
Oct 26, 2020•38 min•Ep. 831
Should you keep your goals and aspirations secret? Should you share them with anyone? Everyone? In this episode I play a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he gives us two types of goals and who we will be best served to share them with, and why. Then I posted this question to the Ziglar audience, “Do you share your goals and aspirations with anyone? Why and why not? And if you do, who?” Loads of responses that of course ranged from “everybody” to “nobody” and why. This is an important issue,...
Oct 21, 2020•55 min•Ep. 830
A masterful weaver of provocative stories that will move you. You will experience excitement, anticipation, inspiration and you’ll likely cry. And get angry. He’s had readers send hate mail when his stories took a drastic turn and they didn’t stick to read the redemption. Charles Martin has written 14 fiction books, two non-fiction books and has one turned into a major motion picture, “The Mountain Between Us” and another is in the works for a movie. His story of going from full time insurance a...
Oct 19, 2020•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 829
In the world of personal development, self-help, inspiration, and motivation, the point is to have BHAGs, right? “Big, Hairy, Audacious Goals!” Then why would Zig Ziglar, the king of BHAGs himself talk about negativity in goals and cite that often people are unrealistic? How can that be? It’s a very important question as we balance belief in and not limiting oneself, with some valid questions we need to consider. In this show you’ll hear a three and a half minute message from Zig Ziglar on the i...
Oct 14, 2020•56 min•Ep. 828
Some people struggle with having ambition in the world and being devoted to God, yet Deborah Smith Pegues holds these both with peace and joy. In episode 825 we heard Deborah’s profound story of having every right to be a victim and be minimized, but instead she went from a difficult upbringing and being a southern maid to being VP of a Fortune 500 Company. This is my Habits show and we get to hear first hand the habits, routines and values that give Deborah such a rich and vibrant life and succ...
Oct 12, 2020•28 min•Ep. 827
First doesn’t mean most, but it is a relevant sequence. Here is a simple and easy analogy that you will get, but it will be an effort to truly...get. Before a busy week of caring for your family and running them around everywhere, you fill up your car with gas. I bet you don’t drive until you run out and end up stranded with your family, right? And you don’t get out and push and have one of the kids steer for a few days, right. You get gas before you are empty, possibly every week or more. You a...
Oct 07, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 826
“Everything works together for my good; I’m never a victim.” Deborah Smith Pegues had every reason to be a victim but ultimately didn’t see the value in it. She was poor, underprivileged, black, she’d been molested, yet figured out how to get an education and went from southern maid to Fortune 500 V.P. and then on to become an international speaker and award winning author of 17 books including her book, 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue which has sold over one million copies worldwide. But don’t ex...
Oct 05, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 825
We often talk about the things we would do if we had more time. In this episode we kick off with a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar about the power of focusing in on one goal because we can’t address every goal all the time. From this message I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “If you were given time to double your focus on improving one area of your life or progressing toward any one specific goal...where would it be?” Great conversation reading through the comments with Tom Ziglar. Many...
Sep 30, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 824
Andy Andrews cites George Washington Carver saying he was up before birds and would promptly go outside and get his marching orders for the day. Andy prescribes to this as well as he shares some of his most valued routines here in my Habits show. If you didn’t hear episode 819 where I talked with Andy about his new book, Just Jones, please...go listen to it. You’ll hear some of his personal story of both parents dying while he was a child, ending up living under a pier and ultimately being befri...
Sep 28, 2020•53 min•Ep. 823
We buy what we buy for the benefit it gives us, in the form of fulfilling a desire or solving a problem. Sometimes we aren’t even aware of why we buy what we do, but there is almost always a specific reason. The exercise of this show is to get us thinking about benefits from the products and services we buy, so as to help us better conceptualize how we need to showcase the products and services we offer. Even if you are an employee, you are paid for a result, not simply to take up space. Are you...
Sep 23, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 822
How do you get a mentor? What does a good mentor look like? That’s how we kick off this show. I’m with Mark Timm. Mark is a seriously successful businessman who can I just say...has done very well. But he wanted to do better, in business, and as a dad. So he got a mentor. Not just any mentor mind you, but Kevin Harrington, the original shark on the blockbuster Shark Tank TV show. Inventor of the infomercial and if you’ve ever heard, “Wait, there’s more,” that’s from Kevin. The two met through th...
Sep 21, 2020•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 821
You have a product or service to provide. You love for people to experience it. But alas, you also need income from the time and money you spend developing and delivering your product or service. Which means, not just sales, but the ultimate setting of a price and asking to be paid. This is not a fun aspect for many. In fact, it’s often a place of severe dread with multiple negative feelings attached to it. This show is for you and it’s packed with paradigm shifting perspective changers you can ...
Sep 16, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 820
Wonderful movies and stories of our time are made from people who achieved something which seemed impossible, either for themselves or for anyone at all. The best stories are the ones which are actually true. History is littered with such feats. How about you? Have you done something you or others once thought was impossible? Or do you dream of achieving something you feel is impossible and unreasonable for you? This show is for you. Andy Andrews is my guest. Andy is author of more than 25 books...
Sep 14, 2020•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 819
How many of you are incredible with helping clients, but it’s other areas of your business where you struggle? I asked the Ziglar audience just that, “COACHES/CONSULTANTS/COUNSELORS - What area of your business is the greatest challenge for you?” Tom Ziglar and I read through the comments and gave counsel primarily to the business of coaching, consulting and counseling. Ziglar is in the business of helping grow these kinds of businesses, it’s what Tom Ziglar specializes in with his Choose To Win...
Sep 09, 2020•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 818
Let me clarify the title of this episode, that it’s from a place of peace and abundance. It’s not from an exasperated place of “Well, what more can I do?!” But it’s brought to us from a place of care and love, and to use that word again, abundance. Wouldn’t you like to be at a place of wholeness and gratitude where you can readily and eagerly ask, “What more can I do?” John O’Leary is not just back for my Habits show, this is in many ways a Part Two from our initial conversation in episode 815 w...
Sep 07, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 817
Don’t you wish you could remember important quotes and inspiration and scripture as well as you remember songs on the radio decades ago? In moments of importance when I’d like to pull up wisdom from the ages I’m often at a loss, but ask me to recite lyrics and melodies from the 1980s top 40 and I’m remarkable. Music sticks in our minds and goes in through an open door to our emotions. To our memory. So I have a special show for you. Tom Ziglar brings us Roy Smoothe. Roy is a branding expert who ...
Sep 02, 2020•58 min•Ep. 816
This show was just convicting for me. When did I leave childlike qualities of questioning the so-called norm and just trying things without worrying what anyone thought? And how have I shortchanged myself in the process? In studying the most successful people of our time John O’Leary cites five key, childlike traits they embody. Traits most of us have left behind. John O’Leary is one of the world’s premier inspirational people. Why? Because his story is just ridiculous and his perspective is inf...
Aug 31, 2020•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 815
You have a goal you are working towards. If it has any true value there will be challenges on the way and adjustments will be necessary. Or when things don't go as planned you’ll ultimately throw in the towel. It sounds elementary but it gets to the heart of all our pursuits. I start this episode off with a two and a half minute message from Zig Ziglar where he drives this point home in the way only he can, then I asked Ziglar listeners this question, "What goal did you achieve even though you h...
Aug 26, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 814
I’m back with Dr Saundra Dalton Smith who in episode #811 led us in eight key areas we need rest, in order to be at our best. This is my Habits show and no surprise Saundra is very clear and specific in her habits and routines, with rest in multiple areas being paramount. One of her morning routines I really admire is asking herself how she wants her life to affect others, today . I also took advantage of Saundra being a practicing doctor to ask what habits she finds herself recommending mpost t...
Aug 24, 2020•39 min•Ep. 813
Goals so big they scare you part 2! In episode 810 Tom Ziglar and I responded to comments to the question, “Who has a big goal? Maybe bigger than you honestly feel capable of? Maybe big enough you are not even comfortable sharing publicly?” Since we received feedback from listeners about how great the show was and we had so many more comments we didn’t get to, we decided to continue on. Some highlights, Nicole's parents' home was lost to fire in January and her big goal is to save up $20k to giv...
Aug 19, 2020•49 min•Ep. 812
