Your Texting Habits Can Uncover Your Attachment Style

What kind of text? Or are you it's a jewell show.

Are you one of those people who have to text your significant other all day giving updates on everything you're doing, and expect them to give you updates on everything they're doing throughout the day. Are you one of those people who your significant other texts you in the morning says I love you, and you respond thanks, but I'm busy right now.

I'll respond with you a chance to reply.

Or are you one of those people whose text message style is like wall We've known each other for ten minutes, said, time to send her a pick of mister Thrabsworth. Well, researchers have figured out what your texting habits say about your attachment style. So we'll tell you what your texting habits say about you right after this picture this it's

Do they hate you? Have they found someone else?

Are they cheating on you?

It is annoying, So you drive down to their work and show up and bust into the meeting and scream at them for not texting you back.

It's totally rational behavior, right.

Well, researchers did a new study and they found that how people text can say everything about your attachment style. Now, what does your texting style say about your attachment style? If you don't know about attachment styles, it's pretty self explanatory. It's how you attach to people, like in relationships and things like that.

I thought it was like your love languages, but I realized last night that's not.

Yeah, that's not the same. It's different.

So people who need a lot of texting validation, like you need to be constantly texting with someone, or like I said, a second ago, you text someone and then a minute goes by and you're like, wait a second, everything's messed up. You may have an anxious, preoccupied attachment style. People with anxious preoccupied attachment style tend of fear abandonment, which often stems from inconsistent or unpredictable caregiving from their parents when they were kids.

Yeah, it's me.

Well it's been me for a long time. That's how I attach to people. It's very terrible. And I tell them that in the beginning too, how I was dating. He's like, what's your attachment style? Is like, I gotta tell you. I know I'm anxious, so I'm going to ask in advance if you just make sure you text back in a reasonable amount. I don't. I feel like it's helped me heal though, because I don't feel as anxious anymore.

But that's exciting.

It says that this bills over into their texting behavior and expectations. They put a lot of emphasis on texting. The more texting correspondence they have, the more secure they're going to feel about the relationship.

Oh, it's usually how.

You leave the text though, So it's not just like constantly text me and be like, Hi, I'm thinking about you. But if I ask you a question and you're taking six hours to respond, I'm losing my mind.

What if they're just busy, it doesn't matter.

You're still losing your mind because you don't know and you're playing out every other scenario It's not logical or awesome. It's just what happens to your nervous system when it starts.

To whack out. That sucks. And then I'm like, give me a shot. Oh my gosh, I can't handle it. A shot me not. I told you I'm better now.

Attachment styles are so weird to me because I feel like I'm we haven't got here yet, but the disorganized one.

So I need you to text me a lot, but I'm not going to text you. What. Yeah, that's pretty frustrating. I'm not going to text you a lot, but you need me to text you a lot. Yeah, well that's annoying. Okay.

Somebody texted in at it said, I'm the kind of person who texts four one oh six one every morning hoping you will read it because it's the highlight of my entire day.

So there you go. So what kind of text here are you?

Researchers just did a study to find out how your what your texting style says about your attachment style. People who text only when necessary may have a dismissive, avoidant attachment style. People with this kind of attachment style tend to avoid emotional connection and vulnerability.

Often entirely. Okay, cool, so red flag, how is that me? I don't know, you're more voice memo. Yeah, that's what I am.

When they're in a relationship, they can tend to seem aloof and unreachable, all of which usually stems from having their emotional needs invalidated as children.

Yeah no, that is Victoria.

Well dang, that also you though, because okay, so that doesn't have anything to know.

I don't text necessary.

You need to be there to text me when I've decided it's time to text. Oh god, and even if you tell me you're going to be busy, I'm like.

It doesn't matter. I'm not right now. Yeah, so where's my text?

So in the past, to be successful, I've tried to be busy at the same time as that person.

How sweet of you. Yeah, I'm a kind person, says.

If this person's in a relationship with someone who tends to text a lot, they're likely to feel overwhelmed and smothered by a flurry of messages.

I've never been in a.

Relationship, but man, after I've been on like a few dates with someone, I'll get so many messages Like I called me and I was confused. Why he wanted to talk to me, and my friend was like, Victoria, he just wants to yeah, And I was like so confused by the thought that this man just wants to talk to me on the phone.

Victoria gets annoyed by people on dating apps once they say like after after they say hi, it's like.

Hi, Hi, how are you? Oh my god?

Back look man, when I'm working, I'm working, Okay.

I only feel that way when I don't want the text messages from that person. Specifically, I'm like, you don't want you in my inbox, So you're picky.

Yeah.

People who go back and force between extremes may have a fearful avoidant or disorganized attachment style. Those with fearful avoidant or what is sometimes called disorganized attachment want nothing more than emotional intimacy, but it also scares them to death.

That's mine, and it's one of the most difficult to deal with. Goes a long way.

Yeah, I have a disorganized attachmental if things are good, I have a secure attachment style. But if things get bad, I have a disorganized attachment style, and that really throws things for a loop.

Well, it's because he was disorganized. Basically all of them except for the good one. Yeah. Yeah, everything. One second you're super needy. One second you're like.

Back home bothering me. Well, you were texting me all day asking to hang out. Yeah, but I didn't want to actually do it. That was when I was texting you. Go away for a second. You be careful.

You're gonna get somebody that rolls up at your house. And that's exactly what especially if it's an anxious attachment person.

You all are.

People with this attachment style often into childhood trauma, neglect, or abuse.

Yeah, yeah, makes sense.

People who text consistently and communicating a timely manner may have a secure attachment style.

That congratulations. I tried for that one day in my life.

But I tell you I've experienced I mean, I've been disorganized in many relationships because they were not good. And I can tell you have also experienced a secure one. And it's way cooler. Can do stuff. If somebody's not texting back, you're like, oh, they're busy so much, that's fine. Yeah, I wouldn't trust it, but it does get weird. Oh at first, it's like, oh yeah, that's how I get. At first, you're like, is this cool? This can't be No, this is this is actually really good.

It takes a while at us.

My favorites are having this conversation like it's normal, and then when people.

Are like, why are you single? Now, it's another double phone frame Morning on the twenties.

Hello.

Hello, this is Trevor.

Trevor.

Oh sorry, hello, my name is Trevor and I'm calling from Thank. I was looking for Shana because there's apparently a problem with your internet service provider problem. Okay, well, I'm so sorry. Okay, Okay, go ahead. I know there's some problem with something maybe your internet is down or something.

No, my internet is not down, and that has nothing to do with the bank.

Okay.

No, I'm locked out of all of my accounts and I need.

Someone to help me get that startled.

Okay, I'm sorry.

You're locked out of your house right now, like we don't do that at the bed.

Oh oh my god.

No, I'm walk out of my accounts.

Like all of my banking accounts.

Are working.

Okay, Well, one issue might be because we don't have keys for the accounts like passwords.

My passwords.

Oh you mean like online yes, okay, so you're locked out of your accounts and then you're not able.

To open them up.

That is that's correct?

Okay. Problem one second?

My name is Trevor, I know, okay, and I'm gonna put you on a brief Holday, okay, one second, please hold, Okay, I'm I might. I might kill my ex. Not the best idea his new friends. Next, I'm not on hold?

I did you? Are you doing anything?

That was the song killed bill By says oh that I was singing right there because I don't.

Care what the okay?

So can you just help me?

Yes, I just need to put you on a brief hold. My name is Trevor.

Okay.

At first, I was afraid. I was on Trevor so.

Many nights thinking about how you're.

Not placing me on hold.

I can hear you singing.

Okay, So I'm gonna full transparency mode. Since I'm new, I'm still trying to learn how to work the phone system, so I'm looking for how to get you into the hold cue. But I figured, like, since you know we have hold music, I would just perform it for you.

You have to, you don't have to, that's okay.

I'd rather you.

Just focus on getting answers to my issue than saying I really don't need.

You singing well, but like we have hold music, and that's part.

Of like the thing that I don't need hold music.

I don't like music. I don't like music.

Okakay, okay, please hold today. I don't feel like doing it. I just I don't. I don't stop say okay, well.

Were in touch with someone who can better assist me, who can assist me in general?

You are not helping okay, So in order to do that, I have to place you on hold. But I don't know how to do that. So I think we're kind of stuck here.

Transfer don't hold, transfer me to someone you want me.

Just walk down the hall that I can't because I have a heads up, but I was like.

A cord on it.

I don't know how to do that yet, and I feel like like now I'm kind of scared because.

I don't know what do you know how to do well? I do know how to like juggle.

Twever regarding this job, what do you know how.

To do well? I could tell you it's a prank call.

I don't.

This is actually double from the Jubil Show doing a phone brank on you and your boyfriend set you up.

Stop. He said, you've been having an issue with the bank and he wanted to mess with you. I'm going to kill Oh my god, I thought I was helping you out. Great, that was actually.

Your voice, Like that's actually you.

Yeah, well, yes, it's part of me.

Yes, please keep your day job.

Wake up every morning with double phone Franks, It's time, Fernina's what's trending.

So Justin Baldoni has a new website dedicated to the him and Blake Lively case nuts. But I've been trying to find the website it I can't find the actual website. There's all these articles that are talking about the website, but I can't find the actual website to look at it.

But I know they're trying to get taken down. So maybe they did, but.

I'm sure because I don't know how long this is going to last anyway. So if you don't know, Justin Baldoni and Blake Lively got this big war against each other going on because of their time they spent filming the movie.

It ends with us.

So Justin says that on the top of the website it says lawsuit info and then there's two links allegedly on the website, which is basically giving you all the information of what has happened, a full timeline of the relevant like of the relevance of the case, and one that's the amended complaint filed by Justin so you can keep up with everything, and they're going to continue to update it as long as it's allowed to be up there.

According to his.

Lawyer, I think they got it taken down because it literally says the site cannot be reached.

Yeah, okay, I see. I'm surprised they would even allow it.

That doesn't look good for Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds really, like all the stuff that I've been seeing and hearing, it seems kind of like they were bullying him in a way.

I do want to give Baldoni credit. The website link was the lawsuit dot info.

Oh that's what it was, I said, But I find that that's great. That's really fantastic and easy to find. But it's gone.

So Ryan and Blake are trying to have the lawsuit dismissed too. Yeah, all that stuff coming out because I do think that that there's a lot more to the story, but.

I don't think it's going to get dismissed with everything how it's been playing out.

I don't think it's going to do.

I mean, it's like, how long are we going to go with all this build up though, because the actual court dators we reported last week isn't until next year, So this is just going to keep going and going.

Like an election.

But also it's like Blake and Ryan being quiet for a reason while Justin's like just outwardly trying to defend himself. You know, they're sitting back and getting ready to play offense again. I don't know, man, but this website, like you're putting out a website, it's coming to more like it's does her public.

Opinion at this point, Like, Oh, that's what he's trying to say.

Yeah, doesn't mean I think he wants the details to get out there, because if you look at the details of the story, there's a lot of stuff that look bad for Ryan Reynolds and Blake also, But he probably wants to because him compared to them, he's not a powerhouse like the are, like Ryan Renolds is one of the biggest celebrities out there and very rich.

Yeah, you know, the consequences for Blake and Ryan are minimal. Right, The consequences for Justin are massive, right.

I wouldn't say they were minimal at this point.

I feel like what it's doing, like, I think she's already gotten turned down for multiple things.

Yeah, but I mean they'll still work like they can destroy this dude's whole career, right.

Yeah, right, I think so. So well, we'll see. We've got plenty of time to watch it roll out. In other news, this is really interesting. If you have a million dollars, there's a matchmaking services that promise a matchmaking What a matchmaking service that promises to find your soulmate.

In one year? How cute.

I'm super triggered by matchmaking services because I've had terrible experience, but this one's kind of interesting. So it's an LA based service called the Three Day Rule, and they're trending right now because of what they offer. Not only are they promising to give you your lover, they're saying that they've got a dedicated recruiter to fly all around the country to visit visit different bars and gyms and concerts, any space you can imagine, to try to seek this person out.

Homie, save your money, go on the Bachelor, let me tell you.

Yeah, but they do offer a bit of free advice that's kind of legit, and that is to dress up on your next flight. Most of us like to wear sweats and be super comfy when we go on flights. But apparently the airport is a hotspot, not just for you to find your person, but for these recruiters out there that might find you. For somebody who paid the million dollars to find their match, and you could be a match. So go to the airport at all cute and stuff and see what happen.

I don't know if I want to be their match. I mean they spent a million bucks on that. I mean, you're terrible with money, kards, are my soulmate? Are not? They spent a million dollars on this? No? Also just that, well, I go buy like a cheap plight. It's in the airport for a few Just a.

Quick reality check, less than two percent of people in the United States have a million dollars. Okay, okay, so again with the standards. Okay, you're not gonna go find a multimillionaire. That's only that's less than two percent of the entire United States.

But you could be their sole me.

You're not.

Your soul works at McDonald's. Deal with it, a happy life.

Okay, No they don't, and thank you.

They came back and said, your soulmate works at McDonald's. You know we found them. They are drafted worker at McDonald's. I think you're confused to return to centers. I'm no respect, but like I'm tired. I don't want to like sacrifice my sleep for just anything.

So what Nina's saying is, if somebody who paid a million dollars for a matchmaker, then they find you, you better be worth that million bucks.

Yeah, yeah, whatever, I'm glad to have my own standards.

It's time to catch a cheater.

Only on the.

Jubile Show, Eric is on the phone today for to catch a cheater. He's been with his girlfriend Amy for a year, but now he thinks something might be going on so we'll see if we can help him out.

Eric.

Sorry, you're going through man, But what's up? Why do you think Amy's cheating on you?

Hey?

Oh man, I don't even know where to start. I guess I'll just say that like being with Amy, it's been one of the best years of my life.

Like, she really just helped me turn things around.

I was at an extremely low point. My career was pretty much at a dead end, and when I met.

Her, she just completely lifted me up. She helped me get on my feet.

Help me focus on what I love and I can never repay her for that. But a month ago, things just started to change. So I'll practice by saying like, I don't want to sound like a stereotypical Joe's boyfriend, but I just couldn't help. But wonder She gets these random text messages late at night, Okay, nine, ten eleven at night, and when I asked her about it, she says it's a work thing.

Most of the texts are from someone named Kurt Okay.

I've never met a Kurt. She's never mentioned a Kurt Okay, And when I asked her about it, she gets super defensive. She snaps at me and just says, oh, it's a work so.

You can see who's texting her. Yeah, she's not hiding it.

From you, No, I mean I know that Kurt is texting her.

Whose kurt Is?

Got it? Have you asked her who Kurt is?

She just shuts me down.

Okay, that's a little shutting down.

Late night work, I mean, late night work text excuses are always kind of uncomfortable because realistically, nobody's really talking about work at nine pm?

Is that new like late work texts?

It's been happening for like about a month.

Now, Okay, so yeah, it is like, is she a career type person, you know, who would be working at nine o'clock a night? Or is it just like completely out of character?

No, it's not out of character. She works at night.

Okay, Okay, she was working at home.

I was over at her place.

She got up to use the bathroom and this team's message popped up on her phone from Kurt okay, and it said, you know you want some more of yesterday, don't you?

Oh?

Oh yeah, you shouldn't be writing those types of things on teams.

Yeah, I mean that's definitely that doesn't sound like work to me.

Was she celebrating anything at work, Like does she come home telling you anything good happened?

No?

And I didn't say anything about that because I didn't want to start an argument with her.

But I mean, that's you know, you want some more of yesterday? Don't you like? What am I supposed to think about that?

Yeah? And define you didn't ask her about that?

No, I just I didn't want it to get out of hand.

Okay. So, other than those messages, which are obviously big red flags, is there anything else that she's doing or happening in your relationship that feels off?

Honestly? No, I don't know.

For me, I feel like that would be enough to like wonder what that meant and if exactly.

Okay, So I was thinking that you guys could call her.

There's this cookie spot that we went to on our first state that we always go to now, and I think that it would work because she's a rewards member there and they send her special deals on free cookies and stuff like that.

Okay, Okay, all right, cool, So we'll call, We'll play a song, come back, and then call and pretend to be from the cookie place and say that she's in the gift of cookies, buddy, and see if she puts your name on the card or sends them to you or to somebody else. Okay, okay, all right, play a song, come back and get your to Catch cheeter next. If you're just joining us for today's to Catch a Cheater. Eric is on the phone and he thinks that his

Yeah, so I've been seeing Amy for about a year and about a month ago, she's been getting these tax late at night from this guy named Kurt that she claims she works with, and just something seems suspicious about it.

Well, and one of the texts was asking what was that? What did he say? Again? In the team's message.

He said, you know you want some more of yesterday, don't you?

That seems strange?

So I figured you could call her from the cookie spot that we go to.

She's an awards member there and they send her mules on pretty cookies and stuff.

All right, cool?

And you told us what the name of the place is. So are you ready for us to give her a call?

Yes?

Okay, man, here we go.

Hey, this is Corbyn calling from Cookies. I was looking for our Rewards Card member named any Hi. Hey, Amy, how are you doing? Apologize for calling your phone like this, but I am I'm not trying to tell you anything.

I have some exciting news. Congratulations here this month's big winner.

Oh fine, thank you?

Yeah.

I love you guys.

Well, we love our customers and I know we send you some offers and stuff like that sometimes. But we're doing a new thing where we choose one of our Rewards Card members each month that gets a baker's dozen of our cookies delivered to.

Anybody that they want. I'm good.

Well we'll start with the name first time was in the name. It comes with a card too, so we'll do name card and then you give me the address. So first and the last name of the person you'd like to send them to.

First will be great, Okay, it's Kurt k u Rtie and the last name.

Is Okay, Kurt, got it? And would you like to put anything you know, like a in the card to Kurt?

Yeah? Okay?

Can you write, you gave me some sugar. Now I'm giving you some sugar. You're the best.

You gave me sugar. Now I'm giving you sugar. Great, well, Amy. At this point, I just need to let you know this is not cookies at all. This is actually a radio show. It's the Jewbil Show. My name is Jubel.

Yeah.

Hi, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

We we do a segment on our show called to Catch a Cheater where if you think your significant other might be messing around, you see who they send something to and what they put on the card. And your boyfriend Eric is actually on the phone and he was listening.

Eric, I mean, what is that supposed to mean? Oh my god, tell me right now? Are you Are you kidding me? No, I'm not kidding. No, Okay, you gave me some sugar. Now I'm giving you some sugar. Yes, this is this is insane. I'm glad that I did. You're clearly cheating on me. I'm Eric, I am not seating.

Oh what kind of are you getting?

I cannot believe you have me on a radio show right now. Why don't you just ask me like this is a combination we should have at home.

No, I'm asking you right now, what does you gave me some sugar?

Now?

I'm giving you some sugar.

Bean, Eric, I'm not heating. There's no reason why I should be on a radio Stow right now. Like, explain to me how that's not cheating. Okay, I just don't believe.

I just don't believe you any I saw the text from Kurt, you know that, right, the text you've been getting at night, Yeah, for more teams message that you got. You know you want some more of yesterday, don't you. I saw that, Amy, Oh my god.

What was that? Sugar? Amy?

Okay, I cannot believe it. Okay.

Kurt is a new manager for my team at work. Okay, the other day he brought in donuts. That's what the team's message was about. And that's what the sugar comments on the card means. It's just it's just me being funny, Like.

You cannot send that on teams.

Okay, Okay, I know, okay, Okay, I know that I'm I am being flirty with him, and I know that that's not okay, and I feel horrible about it. But like I've really really Eric, you know how badly I want to get this promotion. I'm just trying to getting good with them and buddy, buddy girl, I do feel bad about being flirting, but like I am not feeding.

Okay, so you're just flirting with your new boss a promotion and he's obviously flirting with you, Eric, I'm sorry.

No, you don't have to I get it. What, Amy, I believe you. I know that you're telling me the truth. I know how much you want the promotion and the way that you helped me when I was at a low point with my job, the way that you shared me on and you got me back on my feet.

Did you also flirt with your boss to get a promotion?

No? But I trust you, Amy.

But what Amy?

What if your boss comes to you and is like, hey, let's go out for drinks and then starts putting the moves on you, Like, how far are you going to get this promotion?

I know how important it is to her.

You would be okay with that. Yeah, Okay, it's going to go.

I'm not going to go on a date with him. He knows about he knows about Eric.

Okay, Okay, but Eric, you're co signing it. You're good with her flirting with her boss to get a promotion.

And you believe Yes, yeah I do, I do. It would be good for us. It means more money for us vacation. It's just a little flirting, all right.

Cool? Well, Eric, congratulations you found out that Amy is not cheating. Amy.

Maybe just disclose your flirt flirting before Yeah, yeah, I don't know what do you call it?

Just beforehand? I don't know, yeah, something like that.

Yeah, I know. I'm sorry.

I don't say anything about it, and I don't feel great about it, but I do think that it could really help us that I got this promotion. You know, we want to go on trips and I've been off for this commotion forever. And I'm sorry that I was flirting and I didn't say anything.

Okay, cool, Eric's okay, Yeah, yeah I am. Thank you guys. Yeah, yeah, Eric, Amy, I love you.

I love you too, and you know that I would never cheat on youse.

Please please please talk that. I know that I know that you know. Anything beyond second base is cheating.

Okay, go get that promotion. Well you're clear now, Amy, don't pass that second base.

The jewel shows to catch a cheater.

You know what's weird about your quizes Katie, is that all the work is right and just the answers are wrong. I know that having a boyfriend may seem like the most important thing in the world right now, but you don't have to dumb yourself down to get guys to like you.

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Over to the scoreboard and see how you guys did with our scoreboard. Producer bread so not right? Victoria got four correct, got six correct?

I was doing so good correct, amazing? Loses to another family. Isla, did you study seriously or you just know these things? Isla? Her phone may have dropped out. I'm not sure.

Way, Isla, Congratulations, you got Kendrick Lamar tickets.

Let's get the answers now with Nina. Grand Canyon is located in Arizona. Dang it, that's what I meant.

Hieroglyphics is the ancient Egyptian writing system that you symbols. Movie Dick is the famous novel that begins with the line call me Ishmael, I'm sorry. Does everyone read that book? And I haven't. Athena was the Greek goddess of wisdom. The term for a group of wolves is a pack, and the leaning Tower Pisa is in Pisa, Italy.

On are the ones that I miss?

You miss Grand Canyon, and you miss movie Dick, Grand Canyon.

Admit that one I should have gotten? Maybe, Dick.

I'm not mad at that I did good, but Isla really had to just come and show up.

It's really impressive.

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Pasha is on the phone today for a first date follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Jordan. So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.

For first Tasha, how long has it been since you heard from Jordan.

It's been nine days oally.

Okay, good amount of time.

Yeah, so have you been trying to get a hold of him? How have you felt during that time?

Oh?

Man, haven't you been so nervous? Like I actually did reach out to him two days ago and he didn't respond.

Okay, Well, let's talk about your date, like what could have gone wrong? How was it?

I thought it was great, you know, like it was a classic get to know you sing coffee in a bookstore and you know with it, we just like kept hanging out and we watched some people watching, you know, like by the park and he's really funny, low key you know. Okay, Yeah, and we had this moment where he brushed my hair back while we were sitting on the bench, and well things got a little romantic after that.

Oh that's cool. That is cool. So you felt like he was vibing you.

Too, Yeah, and his voice is so dreamy for I don't know. I'm just like so into him, and I don't get it. I thought he was into me too.

Okay, well, why do you think he's ghosting you?

I can't really think of anything.

I just feel like maybe he found me too talkative, or he didn't like my jokes, you know, Like I mean I made this like one political joke, but like it wasn't even a joke that I made up, you know, I just like google jokes to talk about on dates.

And.

So you went political, Like I'm not even a political person, Like I don't care about politics, you know, but maybe he found what I said offensive. Yeah.

I mean usually they say talking about politics on a first date is a bad thing a joke, but you google jokes before you.

Go on dates, and that's the thing, you don't know. I mean, I've never done it before, but I think that's kind of cool. Actually, I'm about to start.

So you go to dates with like a list of pre approved or pre googled jokes to use, Yeah, that's cool.

I think that.

Like, Actually, if I were to go on a date with you, I think that was dope. If you if you told me that you googled the things, I'd be like, that's awesome, that's effort, right, Yeah.

Yeah, I mean I didn't tell him. I mean, you don't tell the person you're on a date with that you google jokes or something that's like months into the relationship. Then you then you tell them.

Right when they're like she had all these jokes but now she doesn't, You're like, yeah, it's because I've been googling them. But yeah, how was this mood after the political joke?

Then?

What did it change after that?

No? I mean I mean he laughed, you know, but I don't know if it was like an awkward laugh.

Did you guys change the subject after that?

Yeah?

I mean honestly, the conversation just kept flowing naturally, like and then we just liked made fun of people walking by and and and I don't know, I just I didn't really think anything bad happened. So that's why I'm just very confused. You know, he gave me a little kiss on the cheek and and that was good.

Well, so how did it?

How did you guys leave it? Did you plan on seeing each other again? Or was it just like, oh, this was fun things?

Yeah? Yeah, I mean I was like, okay, well I'll see you, you know, soon hopefully, and then that's kind of like how we ended it. And then, like you know, these days go by and I'm just like replaying the date in my head over and over again, and I'm like, wait, what did I do? Like, I don't get it. I thought we were good. I wasn't being weird or anything when I texted him two days ago, like I just you know, sent him a playful text, and you know he didn't respond, so it's like, what's up.

Okay, Well, we'll try to figure it out for you.

Then we'll play a song come back, and then call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you, and maybe get you another date if you still want one?

All right? Yeah? I want one?

All right?

Okay, we'll play a song come back, and call him and get your first day follow up next if you're just joining.

Us for today's First Day follow up.

Tasha is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jordan's. So we're gonna call him in just a second and see if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.

You still want one, right, Tasha?

Oh?

Yeah, and maybe.

Get her another day or she wants one, which she said she does. But first, Tasha, let's get a recap of your date real quick before we call him.

Oh yeah, it was such a beautiful date.

You know.

We went to a bookstore and a coffee shop and then we like sat at the park and people watched and it was it was literally like a movie, like a romantic comedy movie, and I was the star and he was a hero.

The only reason you can think of that he might be ghosting you is because you made a political joke on your date.

Yeah, but I don't care about politics.

All right, Well, are you ready for us to call him?

Yeah?

Okay, here we go. I'm asking to Jordan please, uh hey, Jordan, how are you. My name is Jebel and I'm calling from a radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.

Hi.

I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and I'm Victoria.

Wait. Is this a prank?

No, it's not. We're calling you today for a different reason though. It's not a prank. Okay.

So we do a segment on our show it's called the first Day follow Up. That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them. That person can ask us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you from someone that you've been out with but aren't calling back.

Oh wait, Tasha.

Yes, yeah, she emailed us. Yeah, and she told us about your days. She said she really liked you, but she's confused because it's been nine days and you have responded to her.

I mean, she was great.

The date was actually a lot of fun, and she made me laugh a lot. She's actually really funny.

Do you mind telling us why you're not talking to her though?

It's the glitter.

She had a lot of glitter on her face, like like a lot of it, you know, And I don't know. It's just by the time we were done, it was all over me, and it was over my clothes and my car and I could never.

Get it off.

And I know, I know that sounds crazy, but I'm serious. It's just I kept finding glitter on myself for days. It was like I was dating a disco ball.

Sodow.

I don't know.

She's worn her hair, I guess her face. I think it was on her hands, hands, on her hands, I don't know.

It was everywhere.

I mean, I guess it was like I wore it all day then of a clean streak.

Okay, wait, you ghosted me because of glitter?

Heyasha, she's actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

Oh my, this is embarrassing. Hi, Sasha.

Look, it's nothing personal. I swear.

I really did have a great day and you were very pretty and hilarious.

But I'm thinking about messes and it just stressed me out and I can't have glitter all over me, like I took a bath.

It's called sparkle, Jordan, and some of us like to shine.

Oh okay, okay, it's fine, but I don't like this sparkle and.

I kind of think that's like a little kid things too.

Wow. No, okay, sparkle life, you know. And I'm girl, and I don't think there's anything wrong with him. And I mean, you've minded strip clubs before, so I'm sure you had your you know, load of.

I knew what I was for and what's actually I don't really go to strip clubs like that because of this reason.

I'm the work Sparklesn't mean that is what it is.

I mean, what's so bad about it? Like it just makes you life a little bit more shiny. I mean, I'll hope you clean it off.

It's impossible to clean up. I'm sorry. Well, the date was great, but I just it was like it was ending up in my food because it was all over my head and my hair and.

Oh my god, if there was last Jordan, would you be down with that? Jordan? Would you like another day with Tasha? Will pay for it?

If Tasha was willing to cut back on the glitter a little bit, if.

There's no glittering?

Well, yeah, I mean, yeah, it was a good date.

Yeah, I'm not sure about that because I am a sparkly girl and I don't know if I even want to live a life without glitter.

Wow, Okay, stand on your girl.

Okay, Well, I mean maybe we pick like somewhere less glitter frimly, like a pool.

I feel like that would be worse, Jordan. Honestly, you're swimming in it then.

I mean I already was.

Just embrace it.

I mean, I'm not even sure anymore, Jordan, because I thought we had something special. And I can't believe you ghosted me because I sparkle and I don't even know. I don't even think.

I want another date with you.

I don't want you dimming my light.

Okay, Okay, So does that a.

No, then, Tasha, you don't want another date with Jordan?

Uh no, I will pass.

Okay.

Well, at least you know now why he's ghosting you and that he's probably not a good fit for you.

Yeah, I'm very disappointed about this, Jordan.

Hey, I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I'm sure there's a lot of guys who would love to have your sparkle all over them.

Yeah. There is. And his name is Nate and I'm going on a day with him actually tonight.

So whatever. Okay. Jewell's First Day follow up.

I was the only one that thinks that that song kind of sounds like if someone's been talking to someone in a fly flies in their mouth and they're talking like, sorry about that.

I guess now that you say that THEE Show.

And hey, mama, crazy that you and I would be in the same coffee line at the same time, Am I right?

Yeah?

That rain outside is pretty crazy. You probably don't know this, but the reason it's raining is because of the moisture in the air, clouds hold water vapor, and then the air can't hold it anymore, and that falls as rain. It's a pretty basic concepts.

Man's playing guys playing me picking up somebody speaking of learning new things. Wou'd say, you come over to my place later and I teach you what heaven feels like. Where you going? You ain't got your coffee yet. I haven't heard that one.

Some people might not be able to spot red flags in that conversation, And that's why there's a trend of people sharing the top first date red flags that you should never ignore. We'll go over them next so you can be prepared for the wonderful, wild world of dating.

Coming up right after this.

If you've ever dipped your toes in the dating pool, then you've probably had them gnawed off by one of the many weird piranhas that are. That's why you should have never entered the shark infested waters of dating without aqua socks. Yeah, and I know that because there's a trend going viral of people sharing the first date red flags that you should never ignore. Who over those? Also text in form one O six one if you have any of yours. Man's plaining, Yeah, they say one you

I actually do need to know because a lot of times I'll literally explain something to someone and they will accuse me of man's planning because I am in phasing.

Confusing actually sometimes for guys, because you're just explaining a thing.

But I don't know the difference. Like one time.

There have been times where I've been explaining something, even something where somebody asked me and then I was accused of man's plaining.

But I was like, but you asked me to explain it to you. It's usually tone. Tone.

It's usually tone like if it's kind of more of a condescending like I know everything type of a thing and you know nothing, let me tell.

You how the world works. That's very much a man's playing. It's unsolicited. I'm sure that's man's That would also be a man.

Yeah, that makes sense.

To me, Like if it's just you're explaining something and nobody asked you to explain, Yeah, I knowing regardless of your gender.

Confused because Brad does that a lot, but I can never tell if he just does it not.

Because he's man's plaining. It's yeah, it's like I'll be like, you will call it.

The person who said Man's plain said they went on a date with a guy and she told him that she wanted to be a criminal prosecutor, and then he continued to lecture her about prosecution and defense law, and I guess was in direct about he wanted.

To try to look smart and cool and be like, look, this should turn you on.

Another red flag.

They say you should never ignore on a first date being rude to service industry staff.

Yeah, I think we all agree on that.

Yeah, I think that that does say a lot about a person thinking the difference between complaining if something's actually bad, send it back, right, sure, also send it back and then should be fine. You don't have to throw a fit about it. If they keep getting it wrong, then you can be upset. Right, But it's also how you treat people when you're upset too, because you can still be respectful and be like, I hate you so much, but you don't have to say that.

There's also no reason to be telling somebody that you hate them while you're out on a date. Us you run into somebody that you truly do hate inside voice, you know, like your brain. Also, not the service fault that your food's messed up. They were bringing it to you.

Well, it could be their fault. They could have entered it wrong.

Oh well, okay, that's true.

Another first day red flag you should never ignore says if your date orders your food for you and doesn't ask what you want.

I've never had that happen me neither. You've never had a guy order for you, Well, I've had them order for me, but not without my permission. I've never ordered for anybody, like if I feels too weird. But if somebody looked at you and was like, you know this place, or how about you?

You do it?

Take me on in a food adventure, like yeah, yeah, well I think of ordering for someone like I'll have this and she'll have whatever.

Right, it seems like so controlling to the.

Very Yeah, Like, even if you're in a relationship and you know what they're going to order, I can't imagine somebody doing that. Maybe my coffee, like that's fine, or maybe like my cocktail also that's fine, But my I might not be in the mood for my usual.

She doesn't know what she's in the mood for.

What you.

Heard that? Another first day red flag.

They say you should never ignore going to a bar with someone who just drinks the entire time.

Maybe they're nervous, yeah, or maybe they're bored. Ah, they're in a bar. What are you doing a bar? You drink? Yeah? Yeah? Maybe she don't get drunk. I don't your first date at a bar? Okay? This is this is the reverse.

This is the reverse of that. Like, I find it super red flaggy. If you go on a day at a bar or anywhere, right, you choose to have drinks and like you're ready to have your second or third, and they'll stick with one. Like what are you masking right now? Are you afraid of how you're going to act?

Are you not? Okay?

Like I need to push your limits to see if I can deal with you obviously.

Why are you not getting hammered right now? Why are you? Why am I taking a shot alone?

It's pushing someone into a drunken stupor on the red flags, you're gonna be able to drive after.

The state nor is along with you? No, One'm not going back to your place. You can responsibly. It's a house that you own yourself, all right, What is the deal.

Right now?

It's signed for NINAS was trending.

So Travis kelce is cashing out big time leading up to the big game. And it's not why I shouldn't say cashing out. He's throwing out cash and this time it's not at Taylor Swift.

Did you guys know that he got.

Into an altercation or he was taunting somebody at the game last weekend who I don't know. I totally missed that one of the Bills players during the game in the first quarter. It was so there was some type of incident that went down where he was like taunting one of the players, Damar Hamlin, after he crossed the goal line for a touchdown. And so because he did that, Travis Kelcey just got fined eleven thousand dollars. Eleven two

You can get fined eleven thousand dollars. Someone finds you right now, he's not You got.

A touchdown and you're dumb that's a good taunt or not, but you could over that.

It's just shocking to me that a meathead football player would act in this way.

It really is I just I just can't. This is a shocking well it's competitive.

Well they do and then also involved Patrick Mahomes, like this player was like in Patrick Mahomes's business, So you know, Travis gets really protective of as Patty I was a coworker.

Yeah, this is homie Mahmie.

You can also get fined for excessive celebration, which is terrible. I'm like they used to be able to dance around your dances when they would score, and now you can't.

Do all that. You know, you can't score and walk away.

No, I mean you can kind of like shimmy a little at me, but you better shimmy and.

Get back to get back on the sideline there.

But you get excited, Like if I scored a touchdown, I'd be excited. Yeah, Like they can't actually do one, but like if I did, I'd be like, I want to celebrate.

Back in the day, on the Cincinnati Bengals, they had this dude, Ikey Woods, and there was the Ichy shuffle when he scored a touchdown, like the whole team would get together and basically do a jazz dance. That's amazing. It was amazing. It would take thirty minutes, but nobody cares. They're just like, this is amazing. It's like show tunes in the NFL altogether.

Well now they're just like you can barely smile, but then get back over there. Well, we'll see what they show up with the big game on Sunday. Maybe they'll just squeeze another one in. So there's a massage parlor in South Asia. Did not come out right?

Who's got a new massage technique that is now trending. It is called the fire. It's called fire Dragon therapy. So they set their client on fire. The client is on the table. They have an alcohol soaked towel that goes on their back and they light it on fire.

And so then they turn the lights off.

So if you need to get like a shot of yourself on fire, they help you get that moment that you can post on social if you survive. You do survive, I guess the whole part of it is to balance the body's temperature and alleviate pain and muscles and joint so they're not leaving you on fire for very long. Then they put the fire out, but the fire is also supposed to help reduce stress in your box.

It's a bad idea. If I try this on my own.

Well, I will say Gibil does have two fire extinguishers so himself.

No, he said on his own, And I think that he means literally, there's no one else in the home, and I think that's dangerous and I would not do that.

How much his face lit up though when I said the fire jack.

Do thatermanship, Yeah you could.

Could you have just used the heated blanket to do the same thing, Yeah, it could have, but why not include fire exactly?

Make it entertaining.

Please don't do that at home. I guess you need to make sure that that's said there. And lastly, there's a new trend in aesthetics. It is the face BBL. We usually know bbls for the boutet, but now these are bbls for the face. Yes, that's what it is. But now there's a doctor that has made the face BBL popular, which is basically just moving fat in your face around, sculpting your face with your own face.

Fat, Wait, with your own face.

So you're not using INJECTI like, you're not putting in probably jugim or something.

I mean, if you want to get your face sculpt that's probably good to do it with your own stuff.

I would think so too. But what if you don't have like a lot, and you're trying to get volume and they take it from your butt, I don't know, and put it in your face. That would be interesting, but it's still your own fat. So I just wish people it's interesting. Did the cosmetic surgery stuff in this way? Realize how obvious it is. You're trying to look younger a lot of times, and the reality is you don't

That's it. Oh that's all. That's it, only fifteen thousands.

All I got to do is wait fifteen thousand years and then I can have fifteen thousand dollars that I can spend on this.

Is it permanent?

Yeah, I believe so. Fat transfer I believe so. And if you lose weight then I guess the fat would still be treated the same way.

But then if you're losing weight, it would go down wind up getting that procedure.

It's just realize you're beautiful and you don't need any of this nonsense.

Oh okay, that's just trending doubles. Dirty little secret. Hello, Hello, hey you have a dirty little secret. Oh god, yeah, well I got.

Oh okay, my ex boyfriend doesn't know this. The day before our first day, we have been friends for a really long time, and we had flirted like on and off for like five years, but it never went anywhere. Well, I didn't think it would really turn into anything, so obviously I wasn't try to come right away. The day of our first date, I actually got picked up from another guy's house at like six o'clock that morning.

I was going to cancel our first.

Date, and then I didn't.

But yeah, I ended up sleeping with a guy like six o'clock that morning before our first date, and.

That same guy texted me on the date.

It was like wow, I could really.

Why like in front of him, and I like immediately like shut my phone off and like turned it down.

I was so embarrassed.

That is a wild thing to text someone though, I'm sorry, what sir?

Not even a high Hello? Yeah, like for real, like, hey, would I would like to see you again?

It was like I could really use something.

I was like, what, so did you go or what?

Oh?

No, absolutely not okay.

I actually was like terrified that he gave me something and like immediately went and got tested.

I didn't have anything, but I was definitely like, oh my god, no, I was terrified. That's my biggest fear.

Yeah, I bet. Well, I'm glad you don't. I'm glad your boyfriend didn't find out about that. Just sounds like you guys are happyfriend.

Yeah, ex boyfriend? Sorry, you should tell him now? How about those apples? No?

I mean it's it was a very happy relationship and it ended like on very good terms, like I wish I'm the best, so don't but yeah, okay, no, don't got it.

Thank you for telling me he comes back. Well, thank you for your dirty little secret.

Thank you.

Yeah, I have a good day. It's funny. Hello, Hey, you have a dirty little secret.

Yes I do, I got it, okay. So basically, I'm a horse girl. I have six horses. One of them is my heart horse, which I call my soulmate basically. And my mom makes donuts. She's a baker basically, And the thing is, I hate them, and I really hate those donuts and so dry, and the way she fries them. I don't know what to say. So she gives me donuts and I give them to my horse, and my horse she loves them so much. And I love to

So oh.

Likes them.

I love them so much.

It's so cute. The horse eating a doughnut is cute. Thank you, secret, of course, thank you.

What's your dirty little secret?