In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, celebrates the milestone of 100K downloads on the podcast with her son Chris Stockwell! A few weeks back, I hit 100,000 downloads and that means people have been interested in, and listened to, what I have to say on The Intimate Marriage podcast 100,000 times! For me, it's such an incredible celebration. It's a celebration that belongs for me because I created this podcast and it's my vision. It's also a celebration that ...
Mar 29, 2023•46 min
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, chats with Kaylee and Justin Poulet about keeping the romance in your marriage alive through intention and using Love Languages. In addition to his knowledge and ambition, I recognized Justin's incredibly intentional support for his wife as a real asset to his marriage. For context, we met in Arizona at a conference, and there was a massive snow storm back in his hometown. This made the situation back home somewhat diffic...
Mar 22, 2023•44 min
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, discusses how you can navigate the incredibly difficult landscape when either you, or your partner, suffers through the loss, or terminal illness, of a parent. This is not a fun topic, but it is an extremely important one that eventually comes up, at some point, in most marriages. After all, real intimacy is not only about the sexy and fun moments–it is also about supporting a loved one through all aspects of life, and an...
Mar 15, 2023•35 min
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, chats with the co-founders of the Cotier Brand, Marx and Amber Succés, about the success in their marriage while building a thriving business together. Marx and Amber Succés have a very appropriate last name! This growth-oriented couple has seen success romantically in their marriage, as wonderful parents, and as Co-Founders of the Cotier Brand–a lifestyle brand in which the two create unique and modern party supplies and...
Mar 08, 2023•39 min
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD chats with her husband, Rodd Stockwell, to reflect on their last year of marriage. This conversation has become a wonderful tradition as part of our anniversary celebration, and we share what we’ve loved about the past year, what’s challenged us, and what we’re looking forward to. We believe that sharing this provides an invitation for others to learn from our experiences. This year in particular has been an interesting on...
Mar 01, 2023•21 min
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, chats with Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver about expanding intimacy in your relationship[p through practicing tantra and tantric exercises. If you’re not familiar with tantra, this conversation will be a great introduction for you, as this isn’t about tantric sex but more so the mind-body connection and meditation practice within the realm of intimacy. It’s about both your sexual center and your love center. As...
Feb 22, 2023•47 min
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, host Alexandra Stockwell, MD discusses the ways you can connect with your partner if frequent business trips keep you apart. This can be difficult on both sides – for the person who’s at home (oftentimes managing the day-to-day household and kids on their own) and also for the person traveling–who’s focused on their work project and being present in their job. This episode will offer you useful advice that both you and your partner can use before...
Feb 15, 2023•28 min
A recent coaching call with clients has inspired this episode. The woman in the couple is extremely committed to her personal growth through an extensive morning routine including meditation, journaling, and self-care every day. While not opposed digging into growth, her husband is a very ambitious entrepreneur who, after a hard day at work, desires to hang out with his wife in a lighter manner by focusing on the laughter, and fun moments the majority of the time. This creates an ongoing tension...
Feb 08, 2023•19 min
In this episode, I discuss a LinkedIn post by Marc Randolph, Co-Founder of Netflix, concerning how he chooses to prioritizes his marriage even while maintaining a wildly successful career. This post recently came up in my feed and it thrilled me to read about such a successful man, founder of numerous extremely robust companies, because he feels most proud of achieving his success while staying married to the same woman and being present as a father. To him, this is THE DEFINITION OF SUCCESS. Wh...
Feb 01, 2023•20 min
Don't you sometimes wish you had a Date Night Planner? It would definitely come in handy. There are particular occasions in life that require a lot of thought and planning. If prom night is coming up, you know you want to figure out ahead of time what you’ll be wearing. If it’s your wedding day, you’ve likely spent months setting your intentions for the day—what you’ll wear, where it will be, the flow of the day, the experience throughout the day, both for yourself and your guests. These are exa...
Jan 25, 2023•16 min
If you were ever interested in getting your partner to change in some way, and wondered how to make that change happen, you are not the only one! In fact, “How do I get my partner to change?” is a question that I’m asked very frequently, with exasperation and concern. In this week’s episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast I’ll share my answer with you. Here’s a spoiler: the secret I’m about to share has nothing to do with actually making your partner change, although it will still get you what ...
Jan 18, 2023•18 min
Dr. Corey and Pam Allan co-host the wonderful, informative, fun podcast called Sexy Marriage Radio, which he started 11 years ago! Their marriage and partnership exemplify many of the concepts I teach. I especially enjoy that they’ve come to it through very different training and life experiences than I have had–which makes our conversation all the more dynamic. In this episode you’ll hear Dr. Corey and Pam discuss: Dr. Corey’s inspiration for starting a podcast 11 years ago (which was way ahead...
Jan 11, 2023•37 min
Identifying and expressing your desires is one of the most important aspects of real intimacy. However, I frequently see couples struggle with this–both with knowing what they want and also being able to say it to one another. Some people have no idea where to begin in order to figure out what they desire. Others know exactly what they want but don’t know how to say it clearly, or they find it prohibitively uncomfortable to do so. And then some people don’t know what they want nor how to say it....
Jan 04, 2023•17 min
Maraya and Michael Brown met and he proposed on the first date! Now about a decade later, they talk about the amazing evolution of their relationship–it’s truly a beautiful love story with delicious twists and turns. Maraya is a women’s health and empowerment expert who midwife’s game changing women through the important moments of life. Her husband, Michael, used to work full time and now is at home, supporting her behind the scenes, believing in her, and gladly watching her soar. In this episo...
Dec 28, 2022•33 min
In this episode you’ll hear me coach Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin, a polyamorous woman with a podcast focused on polyamory, swinging, and all things related. I was scheduled to be a guest on her show, The Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin Podcast, but instead of a typical interview I ended up giving her a coaching session instead! A week before we spoke, Jennifer faced a major challenge in her relationship. She told her partner that she was interested in dating a couple she knows. Her partner is typically ok with ...
Dec 21, 2022•52 min
Today’s podcast episode is different from every episode before because, for the first time ever, I’m interviewing someone about the power of authentic connection who is not currently in a committed relationship. But, I heard Serdar speak on a panel about masculine and feminine polarity teachings, and his views piqued my interest (plus I was captivated by his voice which you’ll soon understand). Then shortly after that, I saw a post he did on how to have meaningful connected sex, and I knew we we...
Dec 14, 2022•38 min
It’s that time of the year again; the holiday season is upon us. But do you actually find it to be the most wonderful time of the year??? The holidays should be a celebration, a day of recreation and togetherness. Yet so many people, especially exhausted mothers, need to recover once the holidays are over. Did you know that January is the month when the most people file for divorce, right after the holidays are over? Let me just say, it doesn’t need to be this way! If you want to create joy for ...
Dec 07, 2022•20 min
In my intimacy coaching business, over the years many women have reached out and expressed interest in working with me, while also sharing a lot of frustration because their husband “wasn’t interested in doing the work.” However, anytime one of those husbands chose to have a short conversation with me, it turned out that he definitely was interested in exploring coaching with me. I found this to be true 100% of the time! It used to confuse me, until I came to understand that people tend to proje...
Nov 30, 2022•19 min
There are many different ways for a couple to connect. For Marilee and Paul Kostadimas, it has always been using travel to enhance intimacy – from the day they met on an archeological dig far from where either one of them lived. Rugged travel, luxury travel, educational travel, service-based travel, leisure travel, historical travel, and many other kinds of travel form the defining backbone of this couple’s beautiful, intimate marriage. They live by the mantra, “meaningful travel is part of a me...
Nov 23, 2022•43 min
It’s the 100th episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and we discuss why intimacy matters! I am elated to be celebrating this beautiful milestone. In honor of the occasion I invited my own coach, Anne Rose Hart, to join me. We talk about intimacy, why it matters, my zone of genius in serving couples, and the need for this type of work in the world. This is a refreshingly unique episode, as I am the one who is interviewed, on my own podcast! It’s such a great way to mark 100 episodes of the sho...
Nov 16, 2022•39 min
Although I don’t typically focus on religious considerations on The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I was thrilled to have a wonderful conversation with devoted, church-going Christians Teresa and Blair Bass. They set out to make a change in the way their fellow Christians view sex and intimacy by opening a Christian sex toy shop where you can purchase sex toys and other supplies, receive instruction and respectful encouragement. Now this is the place where Christians get their sex toys. The Basses s...
Nov 09, 2022•48 min•Ep. 99
Implementing masculine and feminine polarity teachings prohibits the cultivation of uncompromising intimacy, because they place you in a particular role that inhibits the expression who you really are. This is an outdated view on relationships and ultimately undermines the idea that the tension between “masculine” and “feminine” ways of being creates erotic chemistry in a relationship. This usually is understood to mean that having a man embody masculine energy and a woman embody feminine energy...
Nov 02, 2022•25 min•Ep. 98
All aspects of our lives contribute to the health of our relationships, including physical health and well-being. The couple I’m speaking with today with Jared and Joni McDonald. Jared is a health coach I have worked with as a client and has made an enormous difference in my life. Jared and Joni are beautiful examples of a couple who focus on physical well-being in a way that enhances their connection and brings them closer together. In this episode, you’ll hear: The significant event in my life...
Oct 26, 2022•42 min•Ep. 97
Your complaints can become desires. Oftentimes, however, when I talk to couples about challenges in their relationship, no matter the issue, there is one common theme: one of them wants the other to make a change. When the partner stays the same, they inevitably respond with resentment. This is the cycle that happens no matter what the issue is. Whether it’s about sex, parenting, work, or anything else, this is the pattern that plays out. In this episode, you’ll hear detailed examples of 3 real-...
Oct 19, 2022•21 min•Ep. 96
More often than not, couples shy away from the idea of group coaching, they think it will mean sharing intimate details in your marriage with strangers. If you’re feeling this way, you could be missing out on one of the most powerful ways to grow your relationship while thriving in an inspiring community and having a genuinely fun and productive time: compounded growth in your marriage In this episode, you’ll hear: The two most common times when we tend to share intimate details of our relations...
Oct 12, 2022•19 min•Ep. 95
Libido mismatch is a myth. That’s right. In my experience working with hundreds of people on relationships and intimacy, drawing the conclusion that one person has a low libido and the other person has a high libido is an oversimplification of a much larger (and much more solvable) issue. Libido mismatch is an easy assumption to make because it is an accurate description of what seems to be happening at the moment. But, it is not an explanation and it is not the root cause of the issue at hand. ...
Oct 05, 2022•30 min•Ep. 94
Communicating about sex with your partner is essential to turn up the heat in your relationship. If you are you are newly dating or they have been married for forty years communication is key. Talking about sex will also create and maintain a long-lasting, happy marriage–one that includes nourishing, erotic, intimate sensuality. In this episode, you’ll hear: My own early sexual experience with an older man exemplified how I couldn’t communicate and didn’t know what I wanted in the bedroom Why ta...
Sep 28, 2022•25 min•Ep. 93
When thinking about flirting, it’s common to think of initial meetings, picking someone up in a public place, dating, or when getting to know a partner. But flirting is not something that should be restricted to the early stage of a relationship; it should be present through the decades of a long-lasting, intimate marriage! Logan reached out to me on Facebook seeking advice on how to flirt with his wife. He wanted to cultivate genuine connection, playfulness, and spontaneity in his marriage and ...
Sep 21, 2022•25 min•Ep. 92
One of the biggest struggles individuals face within a relationship is the experience of losing one’s own identity. When a couple goes into business together it can become even more prominent, exacerbated by having very little separation from one another throughout the day. Enter Lee and Lee Cordell. This is a couple who have been together for 17 years, and not only do they share a life and career, they also share the same name. But that hasn’t stopped them one bit from maintaining their individ...
Sep 14, 2022•57 min•Ep. 91
What’s the number one biggest concern that people have in the marriage? Boredom in long-lasting relationships. The fear of getting bored spending time with one another, feeling bored with the intimacy in the relationship, or just the overall fear that what was once juicy and dynamic will eventually become stale and flat. It can feel inevitable and unavoidable. Fortunately, that’s simply not true. I share the #1 way to avoid boredom in your relationship! In this episode, you’ll hear: The ultimate...
Sep 07, 2022•27 min•Ep. 90
