All relationships undergo ups and downs and major changes, especially once you’ve been together for decades. Doctors Robyn Tiger and Eric Tiger are no strangers to that, having met early in their radiology careers when they quickly noticed how many parallels their lives had. But when the stress of practicing medicine began impacting her emotional and physical well-being, Robyn’s career took a turn… In this episode, you’ll hear: How Robyn transitioned from her medicine into stress-management coac...
Aug 31, 2022•25 min•Ep. 89
My husband and I had a solid, collaborative, and intimate marriage. Our foundation was strong and we could envision what it would be like to go from good to great, and were on our way there… However, suddenly, things started to feel strange to me. I experienced a disconnect in our marriage but couldn’t see a single reason why this was happening. The cause, however, had nothing to do with a present-day occurrence; it was something from my husband’s past that was creating the disconnect in our mar...
Aug 24, 2022•18 min•Ep. 88
In intimate relationships, we must navigate our differences and often that happens through conflict. But imagine if we allowed these areas of tension to be a source of nourishment and expansion instead? What would become possible for both of you? In today’s episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I invite Marie-Elizabeth Mali and Patrick Price (former clients of mine and relationship experts themselves) for a discussion on how they have navigated their differences with elegance and intention, ...
Aug 17, 2022•45 min•Ep. 87
When I became an entrepreneur, integrating my entrepreneur self and my physician self was complicated. I knew how to be either one, but being both didn’t come naturally—I felt pulled in opposite directions. But I knew I had to figure out how to be both a physician and a coach. And how to be a wife and an entrepreneur. Bringing our whole multi-passionate selves to something is part of creating successful careers and satisfying relationships! In today’s episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I ...
Aug 10, 2022•45 min•Ep. 86
In this episode, Alexandra goes deep into the details of what is meant by “uncompromising intimacy”. She defines compromise and describes the kind of relationship it creates: bland, neutral, comfortable companionship. In contrast, uncompromising intimacy leads to deep emotional connection, dynamic expansion, self-expression, and passion! Listen in for more details and what this actually looks like in practice. For more on the topic be sure to read Alexandra’s bestselling book called “Uncompromis...
Aug 03, 2022•18 min•Ep. 85
What if being selfish is one of the best ways to improve your relationship? In today’s episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I invite Balance & Relationship Advisor, Naketa Ren Thigpen, for a conversation about the best practices to build your relationship which are almost never discussed. Anywhere! Because we dive into what intentional selfishness (yes, it’s a thing!) is all about, why achieving balance in your marriage is essential, and the whys and wherefores of sexological bodywork. ...
Jul 27, 2022•43 min•Ep. 84
After some years of bliss, your relationship is likely to encounter some tough times. Could be due to infertility, financial stress, infidelity, illness, or something else. Regardless of what caused the intense season with your partner, now that it’s over you expect everything to be back to a happy normal. But they aren’t - things just aren’t the same as they were. And you’re left wondering why. If your relationship is still suffering from events that are no longer happening - this episode of th...
Jul 20, 2022•30 min•Ep. 83
Do you desire the next level of deep connection and growth with your partner? I have 3 words for you: surrender, collaboration & play. In today’s episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Marla Mattenson and Julian Colker aka “The Intimacy Experts”, join me to share some beautiful advice & wisdom about these three intimate relationship essentials, and so much more! These love, life & business partners share vulnerably about their beautiful union and what it has taken for them to buil...
Jul 13, 2022•48 min•Ep. 82
Intimacy is a familiar concept, but the word is actually not that well understood. Even though we’re not always clear on what intimacy means in our relationships, we can definitely sense when it’s present - and when it’s not, right? In today’s episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I’m diving into the 3 types of intimacy, so you can identify where to put your attention in order to cultivate deeper intimacy in your marriage and in your life - starting now! Because there is a foundation that ne...
Jul 06, 2022•16 min•Ep. 81
Are you making sure everyone else’s needs and wants are met, but forgetting your own? Feeling disconnected or even hollow inside? Maybe you’re struggling to just identify what exactly you want. If you feel a big yes or a small yes to these questions, I assure you that you are not alone. I also assure you that I can help you reconnect with yourself and your vibrancy. Join me today for a story about my client Michelle. I’ll take you back to when we first met, how she felt in her life and in her ma...
Jun 29, 2022•14 min•Ep. 80
If you’ve been around here for any length of time, you’ve probably heard this from me before - Relationships are the ultimate vehicle for personal growth (it’s so true)! In today’s episode, I invite a couple on the show who exemplifies this concept in a big way. Derick and Dr. Liz Aquirre have been married for 12 years and have built an intentional, pleasure-filled & collaborative marriage that has transformed each of their lives immensely. Join us as we discuss how they have both grown insi...
Jun 22, 2022•52 min•Ep. 79
If you want to experience more connection and intimacy in your marriage, you have to know what you want. But, in a society that is so focused on doing, productivity, and achieving goals - it can be hard to connect to your deeper desires, or even find the time to start discovering & exploring your needs. So what can you do to make more room to connect with yourself, know your desires & feel more closeness with your partner? You can shift your focus from “doing” and prioritize an experienc...
Jun 16, 2022•16 min•Ep. 78
Why do so many marriages fail? I know it can seem like a super complicated question. But whether it’s poor communication, a dissatisfying sex life, not enough money, or a struggle to work together in parenting - marriages fail because of one BIGGER reason. In today’s episode, I’m digging into that reason, the magic formula for building a lasting and intimate marriage, and how you can use it to strengthen your relationship and recommit to more aliveness, vitality & passion with your spouse (a...
Jun 08, 2022•27 min•Ep. 77
Marriage can be rich and juicy after the first decade. And after the second, the third, the fourth…And the FIFTH! Don’t believe me? Get ready to meet Jim & Ruth Sharon, co-creators of a connected & delicious 50+ year marriage. They generously share the beginnings of their love story (which was prompted by an out-of-character moment from Jim!) and the tools and practices they use to sustain their openness to one another to keep the spark of intimacy and eroticism alive in their marriage. ...
Jun 01, 2022•27 min•Ep. 76
This season I’ve gone into depth about the 6 Keys To An Intimate Marriage that I use in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program. If you’re just joining us, I highly recommend you go back to Episode 5 and learn more about the keys. Today, I’m going to talk about 4 couples that have taken my course and used the skills they learned and as a result, their marriages are hotter than ever. They were facing problems like: Lack of sex and intimacy Disconnection from the relationship they used to have Feeli...
May 25, 2022•35 min•Ep. 75
Today I have a special gift for you. My husband Rodd is here to talk about how we keep our relationship intimate and thriving. We’re very busy people and we don’t have a ton of extra time for date nights and romantic getaways, but we do know how to prioritize one another and feed our relationship. We know how to let the erotic energy flow and enjoy our emotional connection. We used to spend too much energy on mundane things, and end up compromising and holding back with each other when it matter...
May 20, 2022•25 min•Ep. 74
When children are young, it’s fascinating to watch their growth and milestones. It’s easy to be excited about watching them learn how to roll over, crawl, talk, walk, and tie their shoes. As we all get older, there’s a sameness about us that isn’t so exciting. The sixth and final Key to an Intimate Marriage is to “Seek Growth”. In your marriage, that means: If you’re doing the same things over and over, it gets boring and unfulfilling no matter how wonderful it was the first time. You need to ch...
May 11, 2022•26 min•Ep. 73
The fifth Key to an Intimate Marriage is “Take Responsibility”. That may be a loaded phrase for some, but hear me out. Very often among educated, successful couples, we have this idea that everything should be split 50/50, fair and equal. You may be familiar with the phrases, “it takes two to tango,” and “we are both in this together.” While those are true in their context, meeting each other halfway isn’t the way to a passionate marriage. The only way all aspects of the marriage will be address...
May 04, 2022•20 min•Ep. 72
During my studies in college, I took many philosophy courses and one constant all the way from Ancient Greece to the present was that all human beings seek happiness. Based on what I had seen in my life so far, I didn’t really believe that was true. Now, after my decades of work with clients and couples, I agree with the wisdom of that assertion. The problem is that most people don’t really know how to get the happiness they seek. In my 6 Keys of an Intimate Marriage, the key of “Choose Happines...
Apr 27, 2022•28 min•Ep. 71
The most common relationship advice all over the world is to compromise. If you want a bland, conflict-free companionship, then yes. If you want the spice and spark of an intimate marriage, you need to make your desires known. DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ As women, we are conditioned to disconnect from our desires. When I came to understand the importance of bringing my feelings into my marriage so all of me can be alive in the dynamic I share wi...
Apr 20, 2022•25 min•Ep. 70
The second key to an intimate marriage is Embrace Honesty. In this episode I won’t be addressing the major dishonesties such as infidelity, hidden bank accounts, et cetera. I’m talking about the small resentments that build up over time, knowing that your relationship is pretty good but things could be a lot better. Whenever you answer “how are you?” with “I’m fine,” and you’re not, it builds a wall between you. By dampening your responses you’re training your partner to be less responsive to yo...
Apr 13, 2022•26 min•Ep. 69
The first key to an intimate marriage is: Cultivate Curiosity. Early in a relationship, it’s easy to be curious about everything from scars, favorite foods, wild stories, spirituality and beyond. Then, as a relationship matures, the curiosity fades and you become more comfortable. You already know how they’ll order their coffee or how they’ll answer a question before you even ask. It’s beautiful to be so familiar and to free your energy to focus on other things. The problem is that when we becom...
Apr 06, 2022•30 min•Ep. 68
If you’re just joining the podcast now, I recommend going back to the beginning of Season 2 to gain some context for what I’m about to cover in this episode. We have an epidemic of conflict-free, passion-free relationships going on right now. My prescription for an intimate marriage evolved out of my medical training, years of experience coaching other couples, my own anecdotal research, and what I have learned in my own marriage. I have codified it all in the 6 Keys to an Intimate Marriage. The...
Mar 30, 2022•23 min•Ep. 67
Compromise is by far the most common relationship advice that’s given. In order to have a happy marriage you have to be good at compromising, right? Wrong! What really happens when you compromise is that you’re holding parts of yourself back from your relationship, and that doesn’t bode well. When you stop compromising and bring your entire self into your relationship, when you learn to accept all parts of one another, you will be able to create solutions that you couldn’t imagine on your own. U...
Mar 23, 2022•23 min•Ep. 66
Do you want to spend more time with your partner, believing it will contribute to you both feeling desire, and feeling desire for one another? Are you feeling numb, disconnected, and lacking the intimacy your marriage once had? Newsflash: going on a fancy vacation, getting new lingerie, getting your hair done, and/or losing a few pounds will NOT fix the problem. Those are short-term, external, temporary adjustments which won’t make a big difference. If you want to revive your connection, it’s ne...
Mar 16, 2022•25 min•Ep. 65
If you’re having trouble in your relationship, it’s probably because you believe one of the prominent lies that are commonly accepted as de facto truth. If you’re not feeling the sexual chemistry you used to feel, very often people will believe they married the wrong person. More likely, you both just haven’t learned how to be with each other through each phase of your relationship. This is a learnable skill! If you’re treating your relationship as something transactional, doing something for yo...
Mar 09, 2022•19 min•Ep. 64
It’s fitting that I’m launching Season 2 on the day of my 26th wedding anniversary. Part of my celebration is to share with you what an intimate marriage really is. My mission is to change the cultural narrative that long-term relationships are where passions go to dwindle off and die. On the contrary, I want the collective world at large to see that in a long lasting relationship, there is the most tender, gratifying, expansive, vulnerable, delicious intimacy available. When I first got married...
Mar 02, 2022•16 min•Ep. 63
I hope you had a really wonderful Valentine’s Day that was special, delicious, and sensual. I hope you were able to use what you learned in Episode 61 to connect with your partner. If it did not go as planned, this episode is for you! A client of mine has a wonderful relationship most of the time, but in February they fight and get on each other’s nerves a lot. They’ve come to dread February because of the pressure to have a “perfect” Valentine’s Day to match their wonderful marriage. If you’re ...
Feb 16, 2022•16 min•Ep. 62
Welcome to Part 2 of our Valentine Bonus Series! In the last episode we talked about setting yourself up for a great day. Now Valentine’s Day is here, and I want to talk about how to really enjoy the day, no matter what happens. Plan time to prep yourself. Not just getting dressed, but really relaxing with a hot bath, some meditation or yoga, or even a strip tease for yourself before the date. Look for opportunities to share with more depth, not just focusing on logistics and kids. The best conv...
Feb 14, 2022•14 min•Ep. 61
Valentine’s Day is often painted as a rosy, beautiful, romantic, fairytale time. Sometimes that’s true, but often it’s much more complicated. Today, I’ll share some ways to set yourself up for a Happy Valentine’s Day. This is not theoretical- it really will help! Spend some time thinking about what Valentine’s Day really means to you. Journal about it if you want. Notice if you are bracing yourself for a disappointing time? Are you fantasizing about a gorgeous romantic evening? Explore all of yo...
Feb 11, 2022•14 min•Ep. 60
