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The Hook Up

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The Hook Up is about love, sex and relationships. We answer your questions, learn things together, cry over heartbreak and normalise shit. Every Tuesday Dee and Pip debate your dating dilemmas and hear your cooked stories. Every Thursday it's the sex ed you never had — we call on an expert to go deep and find answers with Dee.
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Episodes

What Actually Works For Pussy Taste And Smell

There’s a lot of wild claims on TikTok saying how to look after your vulva, like using sprays, wipes, douches, tablets, and juices. But is it all just bullshit? we chat to GP Dr Michael (@drmichaelsays) and gynocologist Dr Charlotte Elder on what actually works.

Aug 08, 202426 min

Morgan Jay On Dirty Talk, Open Relationships And His DMs

Comedian Morgan Jay comes through the Hook Up studios to give us the sweet sweet sounds of autotune. Dee and Pip get the goss on his tour, dms, dirty talk and his open relationship. Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you.

Aug 06, 202431 min

Why People Cheat

Are there some types of people who are more likely to cheat than others? Or does cheating happen because something’s missing in the relationship? We chat to couples therapists and researchers about why cheating happens.

Aug 01, 202431 min

What It’s Like To Be The Side Piece

We hear a lot about being cheated on but what's it like to be the other person? We hear from the sneaky links who were blindsided, and the people in years-long affairs on why they stick around, and whether they feel guilty or not.

Jul 30, 202428 min

How To Support Your Partner With Depression

Dating someone who's struggling with their mental health can take a massive toll on your relationship. So in this ep, we find out the signs your partner is dealing with depression, how to talk about it and the best ways to support them. If you or your partner need help: Lifeline on 13 11 14 Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 Relationships Australia 1300 364 277

Jul 24, 202425 min

Should Your Partner Be Your Best Friend?

Is your partner your best friend, your only ride or die, and closest confidante? Some of you reckon if they're not, you're really missing out (and you're wasting your time). But should partners have separate roles to besties, and is it dangerous to make one person be absolutely everything to you?

Jul 23, 202422 min

Can You Create Sexual Chemistry If It’s Not There?

A lot of you told us that you think you either have sexual chemistry with someone from the beginning or you don’t. So if you’re dating/sleeping with someone and you feel like the spark just isn’t there, is it worth sticking around? Sex coach Georgia Grace has A LOT to tell you.

Jul 18, 202421 min

What Actually Makes Sexual Chemistry?

Is sexual chemistry a spark you can’t explain? Or pheromones? Banter? Or when you get along with someone intellectually/emotionally? What actually is sexual chemistry???????

Jul 16, 202424 min

Are We Breaking Up With Dating Apps?

We chat to author and academic Lisa Portolan about why everyone is ditching dating apps, sussing out whether there really is a secret ranking system scoring your profile, and if a new world-first code of conduct for dating apps could change them for the better.

Jul 11, 202421 min

The Ultimate Guide To Dating Apps

We chat to seasoned app pro Outback Tom and hear all your tips, tricks, hacks and advice on how to decode dating apps.

Jul 09, 202431 min

What It Means To Be A Top/Bottom/Verse/Side

Sometimes queer guys will label themselves a 'top', 'bottom', 'verse' or 'side' to describe the kinda sex they have, but what do they mean? In this ep we find out plus sex therapist Todd Baratz (@yourdiagnonsense) shares how he thinks these labels can be limiting.

Jul 04, 202423 min

Making Friends As An Adult w/ Two Broke Chicks

Keen to make some new friends, but struggling to know how to do it? In this special ep, we’re joined by soulmate besties and podcaster’s Sal and Al from Two Broke Chicks, who’ve written a whole book about Finding Your People. We get their advice on how to find your new crew and they answer some of your friendship dilemmas. Catch Sal and Al on IG: @twobrokechicks

Jul 02, 202436 min

How To Deal With Bisexual Erasure

We chat to psychologist Chris Cheers on how to navigate bi-erasure, whether it’s internalised or if you’re copping it from all angles

Jun 20, 202428 min

Has Your Bisexuality Been Invalidated?

Why in 2024 are bisexuals still having to prove their existence as a legit sexuality? It’s called bi-erasure, and it’s a super common experience - in this ep we hear your stories.

Jun 18, 202421 min

How Porn Affects Us And Our Sex Lives

Research shows on average people watch porn three years before they have their first sexual experience. So if porn is basically our sex education, how is it impacting the way we have sex? In this ep, Dee chats to educator Daniel Principe and sex researcher Giselle Woodley about the effect of porn, and if there’s a link to gendered violence.

Jun 13, 202436 min

What Is A 'Tradwife'?

We deep dive into the world of tradwives with author, content creator and kinky historian Esme Louise James to find out whether this trend is a dangerous fantasy that no one can live up to.

Jun 11, 202438 min

How To Date In The Current Gender Violence Crisis

You told us you're feeling confused, angry, scared and worried about the current gender violence crisis, so how do you even date right now? We chat to clinical psychologist and men's mental health expert Dr Zac Seidler about the important conversations we need to be having and how to have them. Support numbers: 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732 LIFELINE: 13 11 14

Jun 06, 202430 min

What To Ask On A First Date

Struggling to know what to say on a first date? Whether you’re socially anxious and need some ice breakers, or you want to suss if this person is compatible and on the same page. We’ve put together the ultimate list of your favourite first date questions.

Jun 04, 202423 min

Could Your PMS Actually Be PMDD?

If you feel extreme sadness, anxiety, irritability, breast tenderness and bloating before you get your period, you might have Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). PMDD is a severe form of PMS and it can completely impact your work and relationships. In this episode Dr Theresa Larkin explains PMDD and what to do if you think you might have it.

May 30, 202422 min

What Is The 'Boy/Girl Sober' Movement?

Taking a break from dating, sex and relationships? TikTok's calling it 'boy/girl sober' and it's become a huge trend to delete the apps, reset and go celibate. We find out why you're going sober and some of the benefits.

May 28, 202429 min

What To Do If You Can't Orgasm Without A Vibrator

If you or your partner can only cum using sex toys and you're worried about it, well you shouldn't be. Sexologist Lauren French is here to tell you why, and what to do about it.

May 23, 202416 min

All The Creative Ways You First Learnt To Masturbate

Did you ever experiment when you were first learning to get off? Maybe you used an electric toothbrush, humped a pillow or stuck your dick into an orange. There's a lot of shame around masturbation, so in this ep we're here to normalise your creative nut techniques.

May 21, 202422 min

Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?

Do you think if someone's cheated, they'll cheat again? Or can people change? We hash it out with your hot takes.

May 14, 202425 min

How To Know When You Should Break Up

It’s hard to know when a relationship has run it’s course - so when there’s nothing really wrong or really right, how can you trust your gut on what to do?

May 09, 202427 min

When Should You Know They’re The One?

How many years should you be in a relationship before knowing it’s going to be long term or for life? We get your hot takes on whether it's time wasted if you date without knowing what your future holds - or if time isn’t a good measurement at all.

May 07, 202424 min

Should You Check Your Date's Following List?

When you start seeing someone, do you suss who they’re following on their socials? We debate if lists full of insta baddies is a red flag, or if that's your insecurity talking.

Apr 30, 202429 min

Am I In A Codependent Relationship?

Are you and your partner joined at hip, to the point where you can’t stand to be apart? Maybe you’re in the thick in the honeymoon stage or maybe you’re in a co-dependent relationship.

Apr 25, 202428 min
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