To The Friend That Always Wants To Bring Their Partner…
There's always a friend who wants to bring their partner to everything, but what are the rules around when it's ok and when it's crossing the line?
Apr 23, 2024•23 min
The Hook Up
The Hook Up is about love, sex and relationships. We answer your questions, learn things together, cry over heartbreak and normalise shit. Every Tuesday Dee and Pip debate your dating dilemmas and hear your cooked stories. Every Thursday it's the sex ed you never had — we call on an expert to go deep and find answers with Dee.
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Episodes
Why You Need To Practise Post-Sex Aftercare
‘Aftercare’ has become a bit of a buzzword the past few years, but sexologist Lauren French is here to tell you why practising post-sex aftercare is just as important as foreplay.
Apr 18, 2024•22 min
Is Having Break Up Sex A Good Or Bad Idea?
Is break up sex healing or harmful? Will you get closure or just make it harder to move on? We hear your hot takes and find out why it was the hottest sex of your life.
Apr 16, 2024•21 min
What Is A Banjo String? And What To Do If It Snaps
If you tear, break or snap your penile frenulum (aka the banjo string) it can be a big painful bloody mess, so here’s everything you need to know with triple j’s Dave Woodhead and sex coach Cam Fraser. (And yes we will be chatting about blood and pain and breaking your penis in this ep so if you get queasy you’ve been warned).
Apr 11, 2024•23 min
Heartbreak High's Will McDonald & James Majoos On Intimacy, Dating Apps And Furries
Term 2 has begun for the horny SLTS of Heartbreak High, so we catch up with our favourite couple from the show - Ca$h and Darren - aka Will McDonald and James Majoos.
Apr 10, 2024•13 min
What Are The Rules For Housemates' Partners Staying Over?
If your roomie’s partner is over every night, eating your food, hogging the shower and never contributing financially or to the general house ~vibes~, you might need to set some boundaries. You tell us your rules to keep the peace, plus we hear your horror stories from when a partner overstays their welcome.
Apr 09, 2024•20 min
How To Have Better Sex With Dr Tara
Feel like your sex life is kinda meh? Sex and relationship professor Dr Tara is here to help! With 2 million followers, you’ve probably seen her in your TikTok feed, with her snappy sex tips. In this ep, she jumps on with Dee to give advice on how to build your sexual confidence.
Apr 04, 2024•31 min
Sharing Passcodes And Going Through Your Partner’s Phone
If you don’t know each other’s passcodes does that mean there’s trust issues? We hear your hot takes about privacy and going through your partner’s phone.
Apr 02, 2024•24 min
How To Heal From A Breakup With Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa
Dee catches up with neuroscientist and host of the Do You Fucking Mind podcast Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa to get all the expert advice on how to heal after a breakup and build your self-love and confidence up again.
Mar 27, 2024•56 min
Do You Have To Love Yourself Before You Love Somebody Else?
We all know RuPaul’s classic line ‘if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?’ – but how true is it really? Or is self-love something that can grow through being in a relationship and loving someone else?
Mar 26, 2024•26 min
Here’s Why You Might Cry Or Laugh After Sex
You told us that you cry, laugh, get the zoomies, sneeze and get blocked ears, or itchy noses when you orgasm. So in this ep we chat to sexologist Lauren French and Dr Theresa Larkin about why it might be happening to you.
Mar 21, 2024•23 min
When You Cry, Laugh Or Get The Zoomies After Sex
You’ve heard of post nut clarity, but what about post nut reactions? We hear your weird and wonderful reactions post orgasm, from crying and laughing, to blocked ears, hyperactivity, sleepiness and cravings.
Mar 18, 2024•26 min
Are Dating Apps Designed To Be Addictive?
A class action lawsuit has been filed in the US which claims dating apps are created to make people addicted and keep using them. Dee chats to Clinical Psych and researcher from UTS Anastasia Hronis about how dating apps can keep us hooked.
Mar 13, 2024•15 min
Can You Be Friends With Someone You’re Attracted To?
If someone has a crush on their friend, is the friendship actually platonic? Or does it completely change the dynamic? In this ep, we debate attraction, crushes, feelings in friendships and when it blurs the line.
Mar 11, 2024•25 min
Angela White On Deep Throating, Crying After Sex And Feminism In Porn
We catch up with the world’s biggest porn stars Angela White and she answers your questions about the adult industry, how to give good head, feminism in porn and whether bigger is better.
Mar 07, 2024•38 min
The Psychology Behind Paypigs And Findom
In our last ep we met some findoms, and a paypig, but what actually makes someone get off on giving money and gifts for no sexual favours in return? Dee chats to psychologist Dr Sarah Ashton about why someone might be into financial domination.
Mar 05, 2024•13 min
The World Of Paypigs And Findom
A paypig is someone who gets off on giving you gifts, cash, paying your bills - but they don’t want any physical sexual favours in return. Sounds too good to be true right? We find out how findomming works and what’s in it for the pigs.
Mar 05, 2024•25 min
Louis Hanson on Mardis Gras, Coming Out & GayTMs
We live, laugh, love comedian, presenter, and writer Louis Hanson. As your 2024 Mardi Gras host - he’s got your pride survival guide for your gay christmas.
Feb 29, 2024•27 min
How To Deal If You're Attracted To Red Flags
You told us about how you've self sabotaged your way out of healthy, secure relationships with green flags - but how can you stop this pattern from ruining a good thing? Psychologist and author Chris Cheers joins Dee to chat about why we get addicted to red flags and how you can rewire your brain.
Feb 28, 2024•24 min
When Dating Green Flags Freak You Out
If you've been in a toxic relationship or you only date red flags, do you find it hard when someone healthy, secure and safe comes along? You tell us your experience of what it's like dating from problematic to perfect, from feeling boredom, picking fights to self sabotage.
Feb 27, 2024•26 min
Hannah Ferguson On Why You Should Group Date
She’s the founder and CEO of Cheek Media, author of Bite Back, and podcast host of Big Small Talk - Hannah Ferguson put the ultimate group date to the test, and says it was the best date she’s ever been on. So here’s how she pulled it off and why she thinks group dates are going to make dating apps fun again.
Feb 21, 2024•25 min
The Struggle Of Having Sex When You Live With Your Parents
If you’re living with your parents (maybe you’re studying, or for cultural reasons, or just coz cost of living is fkd) you might be struggling to have any kind of sex life. We hear your horror stories of getting caught, getting creative and getting off.
Feb 20, 2024•24 min
How To Navigate Shitty Timing
We yappa yappered about timing, but now it’s time to hear from an actual expert. Dee chats to couples therapist Megan Kozak about how much timing actually matters in relationships, and how to deal if you’re going through a break up because of it.
Feb 15, 2024•27 min
Does Timing Matter In Relationships?
Have you ever met someone who ticks all the boxes, you have great chemistry, you could honestly see a future with them… but the timing isn’t right? Like maybe they’re about to move overseas for work/study, maybe they’re not over their ex - or sometimes it’s just a case of “I need time to work on myself”. So how much does timing really matter? - and is it something you can overcome if you actually wanna be with someone.
Feb 13, 2024•26 min
How To Do Anal (If You've Never Done It Before)
If you wanna start using your backdoor in the bedroom but don't know where to start, we got chu. Sex coach Georgia Grace and founder of sexual wellness brand NORMAL Lucy Wark chat to us about all the basics of butt play.
Feb 08, 2024•28 min
Are We Living In A Low Effort Dating Era?
83% of you reckon we live in a low effort dating culture. Where people never put in effort and everyone just bails or ghosts each other. So are Australians just lazy or have dating apps made everyone burnt out? Also is it actually a bad thing? Should you expect so much effort at the start of getting to know someone? Dee and Pip hear your hot takes and chat it out.
Feb 06, 2024•28 min
The Imperfects On Learning How To Be Vulnerable
It’s finally happened, The Imperfects are on The Hook Up <3 If you don’t know - The Imperfects are a hugely popular podcast where some of the most well-known guests jump on to share their insecurities and all the ways they feel imperfect. Comedian Ryan Shelton and Josh Van Cuylenburg chat to Dee and Pip about the power of vulnerability and what they’ve learnt from hearing so many people’s incredible stories.
Jan 29, 2024•45 min
More Kinky History With Esme Louise James
She’s one of our favourite brains in the whole wide world - historian, writer and TikTokker Esme Louise James is back with some more kinky history for you.
Jan 22, 2024•33 min
Unpacking Internet Culture and Dating With Vulga Drawings
We chat to author and cartoonist Lily O’Farrell – you might know her as Vulga Drawings on Instagram, and she’s just released a podcast about how internet culture is shaping dating, sex, pleasure and the patriarchy.
Jan 15, 2024•48 min
Dylan Buckley On Embracing Your Authentic Self
Dylan Buckley is an ex AFL player now turned podcaster - who you’d probs know from Dyl & Friends - a podcast where (mainly AFL players) are open, vulnerable and share their stories. Dee chat’s to him about masculinity, social pressure, his AFL career, vulnerability, being an emotional guy, embracing your insecurities, and the importance of male role models.
Jan 08, 2024•26 min
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