If you’re keen to explore consensual non-monogamy or open up your relationship - this ep is for you! Psychologist and Author Dr Chris Cheers chats to Dee about his own poly identity, how he navigates having a husband and a partner, and shares his advice on how to do non-monogamy ‘ethically.’ SHOW NOTES: ABC iview Compass Episode - Beyond Monogamy Dr Chris Cheers Instagram DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook...
Jul 09, 2025•51 min
Seeing the term ‘ENM’ in dating app bios? Noticing your friends are opening up their relationships? Ethical Non-Monogamy is on the rise in young people, so in this ep we find out from you how it’s going - the good, the bad and the horny. SHOW NOTES: ENM explained: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-04-27/inside-lives-polyamory-ethical-non-monogamy-enm-ethics/105216136 https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/ethical-non-monogamy-open-relationship-polyamory-enm-dating-apps/1362480...
Jul 07, 2025•34 min
A lot more people are adding terms like ‘dom’ or ‘sub’ or ‘switch’ to their dating app bios - so what does it mean? Dee chats to sexologist Lauren French about how to add power play into your love life and how to spot a ‘fake dom’. SHOW NOTES: 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 LifeLine - 13 11 14 More info on powerplay and sex: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/power-dynamics-in-sex-top-bottom-dominant-submissive/11996290 DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent...
Jul 02, 2025•32 min
What does it mean to actually be dominant or submissive in sex? Because you told us heaps of people are abusing their preference to be “dominant”, and you’re ending up physically, sexually and emotionally hurt. We explore dom/sub dynamics, hearing your stories from how it can be the best sex of your life when done right, but traumatic when done wrong. SHOW NOTES: 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 LifeLine - 13 11 14 More info on powerplay and sex: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hoo...
Jun 30, 2025•40 min
Around one in ten women and people with uteruses in the world have endometriosis. And even though it can be one of the most debilitating and painful conditions - there’s still no cure. But now a huge study has found a really interesting link between endo and childhood. We’ll unpack it in this episode with Associate Professor Dr Theresa Larkin. Plus she’ll explain what the symptoms of endo are, the process to diagnosis, treatment and pain management. SHOW NOTES: Endometriosis research Theresa’s r...
Jun 25, 2025•38 min
Everyone’s talking about incels - but what about women who’re struggling to date and have sex? Enter ‘femcels’ – a term that’s got people divided online, with some even saying they don’t exist. We investigate the history of incels, how a new movement of women identify with the term, and what that looks like in your dating lives. SHOW NOTES: The Woman Who Founded “Incel Movement”: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-45284455 From femcels to ‘femcelcore’: Women’s involuntary celibacy and the ...
Jun 24, 2025•35 min
Author and podcaster Jemma Sbeg is behind one of the world’s most popular podcasts - The Psychology Of Your 20s. Always backed with receipts - Jemma chats to Dee about what the research shows when it comes to love, dating and relationships in one of the most turbulent decades of your life. SHOW NOTES: Jemma Sbeg’s Instagram The Psychology Of Your 20s podcast Jemma’s book: Person In Progress DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@...
Jun 18, 2025•49 min
We're off on holidays!! Don't stress, we'll be back with fresh new content soon - but in the meantime go check out the feed for any episodes you haven't heard yet. MISS YOU ALREADY!! xxx DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aborig...
Jun 02, 2025•4 min
You might not realise but financial abuse is a form of domestic and family violence. It can happen in your relationship without you even realising. So in this episode, Dee chats to the CEO of Full Stop Australia Karen Bevan about what economic abuse can actually look like, how to spot the signs early, how to get help. Plus, how podcasters encouraging their partners to stay at home to be 'happier' can be dangerous. SHOW NOTES: Full Stop Australia helpline: 1800 385 578 1800 Respect: 1800 737 732 ...
May 28, 2025•25 min
Is it a recession indicator that no one can afford to date right now? We find out how the cost of living crisis is impacting your love life, how important financial compatibility is for a relationship and whether or not you should merge or keep your money separate. SHOW NOTES: BMO Real Financial Progress Index (2025) - The price of love: How a rising cost of living is affecting dating and relationships Lending Tree Report - 23% of People in Relationships Have Ended One Due to Financial Incompati...
May 27, 2025•40 min
Keen to have a threesome for the first time but duno how to go about it? Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee about all the different ways you can have a threeway. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Isl...
May 21, 2025
From spontaneous hook ups between strangers or friends, to carefully negotiated experiences between partners - there are sooo many ways to have a threesome. We hear how you navigate the power dynamics as couples/singles, what it’s like being a unicorn, exploring your sexuality as a third and negotiating boundaries so everything goes as smooth and sexily as possible MWAH. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook ...
May 20, 2025•46 min
Ever had someone hectically overshare in dating? Maybe about their ex, or their mental health, or their trauma? They might be floodlighting. Dee chats to couples therapist Liz Neal about why people do it, when it can be manipulative, how to handle someone who overshares, and what to do if you’re the floodlighter. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded ...
May 14, 2025•27 min
Ever been on a date where someone trauma dumps their breakups, difficult childhood or mental health struggles all before your entrée arrives? You might’ve been floodlighted. We hear your experiences of oversharing to test the waters, speed up intimacy, or filter out people who can’t ‘handle’ your shit - and whether this kind of radical honesty is actually just manipulative. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Ho...
May 13, 2025•41 min
She’s one of Australia’s most popular adult stars on Tiktok with millions of followers tapped into her life as an OnlyFans content creator and a full service sex worker – in what she calls “a very dangerous industry that I wouldn't recommend to anyone”. We bring your burning questions to Kayla about her clients, her dating life, her mental health and her top sex tips. SHOW NOTES: Listen to Storytime With Kayla Jade here DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup...
May 07, 2025•49 min
We’re going back to basics with pregnancy in this ep with Dr Theresa Larkin - covering how everything works from fertilisation and conception, to infertility and genetics, and how your body brings a baby to life. Because even if you’re NOT trying to get pregnant, it’s super helpful to know what the hell is going on and how to manage your sex life and cycle if you’re having sex with someone with a penis. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email u...
Apr 30, 2025•41 min
It's triple j's award winning and most complained about show – The Hook Up, live from Melbourne International Comedy Festival.
Apr 29, 2025•35 min
If you’re not feeling great mentally, or you want to work through some things, or you’ve just gone through a big life event - you might be thinking about getting some professional help. Starting therapy can feel super overwhelming if you’ve never done it before, so in this ep we chat to clinical psychologist Dr Jarrod White about everything you need to know about going to therapy for the first time. SHOW NOTES: Dr Jarrod White - Beyond Therapy Room The Body Keeps The Score - Bessel Van Der Kolk ...
Apr 23, 2025•34 min
It's triple j's award winning and most complained about show – The Hook Up, live from Melbourne International Comedy Festival.
Apr 22, 2025•32 min
Let’s unpack romantic love!!! why do we fall in love? And why only with certain people over others? Is love at first sight real? Can you stay in love your whole life? What’s happening in the brain and body? Is love an addiction? And can you actually die from a broken heart? Dee chats to the world’s leading romantic love researcher Adam Bode to find out the science of love. SHOW NOTES: Adam Bode's research DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email...
Apr 16, 2025•27 min
We couldn’t get him on for our live show, so we got him in the studio - content creator, stand up comedian and podcaster Will Gibb chats to us about dating with radical honesty, cooked sex dreams and what it’s actually like to get a circumcision as an adult. *NB this chat contains descriptive language about surgery so skip that part if you're squeamish DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcas...
Apr 15, 2025•34 min
Nearly 30% of you told us you’ve ended a relationship because of your own family or your partners. So whether it’s parents being manipulative, controlling or having no boundaries, we get some advice from clinical psychologist Dr Lillian Nejad on how to navigate a meddling family. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri peo...
Apr 09, 2025•36 min
Have you ever dated someone who's family was too involved, or a bit too close? (Anna Paul and Atis???) Whether it’s your own or your partners - we hear how families with no boundaries, cultural/religious differences, and mummy’s boys/daddy’s girls have messed with your love life. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri peo...
Apr 08, 2025•34 min
If you’re looking to read about queer joy, pain, heartbreak, love and hot af sex - A Language Of Limbs is for you. The story follows two lives over three decades as they navigate their queer identities, the beginning of Mardi Gras and the AIDs epidemic. Dee chats to author Dylin Hardcastle about the process of writing their novel, portraying queer sex and the importance of trans joy. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net...
Apr 02, 2025•26 min
Everyone’s talking about Netflix’s new crime drama Adolescence atm. The series is about a teenage boy accused of murdering a female classmate and it’s triggered a huge cultural conversation around toxic masculinity, incels and the gender divide. Ryder Jack from Tomorrow Man joins Dee and Pip to unpack your thoughts on the series and your experiences as guys dating women. SHOW NOTES: Tomorrow Man & Tomorrow Woman: https://www.tomorrowman.com.au/ Research debunking 80/20 theory: https://www.ps...
Apr 01, 2025•48 min
If you’re someone who struggles to talk about sex, or you feel uncomfortable asking for what you want (or don’t want) in the bedroom, this ep is for you! Psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee has some great tips to get you yapping your way into a hotter sex life. SHOW NOTES: Laura Lee Website Resources DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the land...
Mar 26, 2025•27 min
'Good sex' is one of those things where you kinda just know it when you have it. But how do YOU define it? From communication, safety and enthusiasm to compatibility, dirty talk and aftercare - we hear what you reckon makes someone good in bed. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our ...
Mar 25, 2025•35 min
A new groundbreaking study has found that the most common vaginal infection bacterial vaginosis (BV) is actually an STI. This is huge news! Especially if you’re someone who keeps getting BV again and again. In this ep, Dee chats to the two lead researchers behind the study Professor Cat Bradshaw and Dr Lenka Vodstrcil to find out everything we need to know. SHOW NOTES: Professor Cat and Dr Lenka's study BV resources Study on LGBTQ+ couples DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent ...
Mar 19, 2025•31 min
There’s new research saying that women who use dating apps are more likely to get cosmetic procedures. So how are you feeling about getting work done and dating?? We hear from you about whether it’s affecting your body image, your partners, and your experience on the apps. SHOW NOTES: Research on dating apps and cosmetic procedures https://www.unisa.edu.au/media-centre/Releases/2025/swipe-style-surgery-why-dating-apps-are-fuelling-cosmetic-procedures/ SBS - Sasha Kutabah Sarago chats on Eurocent...
Mar 18, 2025•28 min
Recently we did an ep on post nut clarity and 50% of you said you felt shame, disgust or embarrassment after orgasming. So in this ep, sex therapist Aleks Trkulja chats to Dee about why it’s so common and how to work through those feelings. SHOW NOTES: Post Nut Clarity vodcast DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people...
Mar 12, 2025•23 min
