Have you ever finished and had a massive realisation about your life, a partner, your sexuality? Maybe you find energy, peace and creativity? Or do you get hit with a wave of shame, disgust, and anxiety? We find out what happens when you cum to your senses and experience post nut clarity. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurun...
Mar 11, 2025•34 min
In our last ep we spoke about game playing in dating - things like playing hard to get, posting thirst traps, not double texting, withholding sex for the 5th date etc. 86% of you said you don’t do it, but what does the research show? And is ‘game playing’ as problematic as you said? Dee chats to psychology and relationship researcher Dr Beatrice Alba to find out. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an...
Mar 05, 2025•31 min
From never double texting and taking days to respond back, to giving mixed signals and posting thirst traps just to get a reaction - we hear how you feel about “doing the dance”, and if playing hard to get is a necessity in dating, or if it’s just toxic. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. W...
Mar 04, 2025•35 min
Mardi Gras celebrations kick off in Australia this weekend - so whether it’s the parade, hooking up at after-parties, or finding your people - here’s everything you need to know about the LGBTQIA+ protest/celebration with author and psychologist Dr Chris Cheers. SHOW NOTES: Sydney Mardi Gras details DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands o...
Feb 27, 2025•30 min
Have you ever set your friends up on a date? 89% of you would rather meet people this way than use dating apps, but there are some rules you gotta know before you play matchmaker. We hear your stories, advice and tips for setting up mates. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respe...
Feb 25, 2025•30 min
In our last ep , we spoke about how young people are the most politically divided generation ever. So why are guys turning to the right and becoming more traditional? And if progressive feminist women are choosing to be single is that even a bad thing? In this episode, Dee unpacks what's going on for men with Clinical Psych Dr Zac Seidler. SHOW NOTES: Last year's ep with Zac: How To Date In The Current Gender Violence Crisis DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejtheh...
Feb 20, 2025•39 min
Research shows that women are getting more progressive and men are becoming more conservative - so how is this growing political divide affecting your love life? We hear your experiences of right-wing dudes wokefishing on dates, and your takes on how the algorithm is making you want to quit dating altogether - and if going boy sober is a bad thing. SHOW NOTES: Research on gender divide in politics: https://www.afr.com/politics/federal/australia-s-gender-divide-why-young-men-and-women-are-pulling...
Feb 18, 2025•45 min
A lot of people think if you argue in your relationship it means something is wrong, but relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton says it’s actually a good thing - it just depends on how you fight. In this ep Dee Salmin gets all the advice from Lucille on how to deal with conflict with your partner in a healthy way. SHOW NOTES: Lucille's Instagram Lucille's book All In Gottman Institute research on conflict DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehoo...
Feb 12, 2025•32 min
‘Micro cheating’ is the new trend online, and everyone’s got a hot take on what it looks like. So what do you consider ‘micro cheating’? And is it worth ending a relationship over? DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal a...
Feb 11, 2025•27 min
A lot of the time if we’re struggling in our love lives, whether that’s attracting the wrong people, or ending up in bad relationships, we usually blame the other person/people. But sometimes it has a lot to do with ourselves. In this episode relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton chats to Dee about the ways we can unpack our bad dating habits and create the safe and healthy love we deserve. SHOW NOTES: Lucille Shackleton Instagram: @lucille.shackleton DM us your thoughts, ques...
Feb 05, 2025•31 min
From moaning names and describing your hottest fantasies, we ask you what you think about dirty talk - what you love about it, what you hate about it, and how you reckon you can level up your vernacular in and out of the bedroom. SHOW NOTES: Articles on audio erotica: https://www.allure.com/story/sensual-auralism-dirty-talk https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/58354/1/why-so-many-women-are-turning-to-audio-erotica-frolicme-dipsea Dirty talk research: https://bigthink.com/the-present...
Feb 04, 2025•33 min
We’re back and we have a LOT to discuss - from debriefing our debauchery to hearing all about your summer secrets. ALSO!!! Pls pls pls fill out our survey!! We want your feedback on the pod - what you’re loving, what you want to hear more of and what we can do to make it better. It only takes a few minutes and you can find it here —> SURVEY DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produc...
Jan 28, 2025•20 min
A lot of you told us that you think you either have sexual chemistry with someone from the beginning or you don’t. So if you’re dating/sleeping with someone and you feel like the spark just isn’t there, is it worth sticking around? Sex coach Georgia Grace has A LOT to tell you. Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you. cs, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on t...
Jan 22, 2025•22 min
Comedian Morgan Jay comes through the Hook Up studios to give us the sweet sweet sounds of autotune. Dee and Pip get the goss on his tour, dms, dirty talk and his open relationship. Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you. cs, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and pre...
Jan 20, 2025•28 min
Content creator Evelyn Miller was born with complete uterus didelphys, a medical condition which means she has two vaginas. She has to use two tampons, can have two babies from two different guys at the same time and can have double the fun in her sex life. We chat to her about what her vulva looks like, how sex feels and what it's been like being an Only Fans creator with her husband. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au ...
Jan 15, 2025•29 min
Tradwives are women who believe in traditional gender roles - they’re full time homemakers, living to serve their husbands and children. Now they’re going viral on tiktok, alongside their aesthetic carefree cottagecore lives. We deep dive into the world of tradwives with author, content creator and kinky historian Esme Louise James to find out whether this trend is a dangerous fantasy that no one can live up to. Find out more about Let's Get Explicit here. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics,...
Jan 13, 2025•33 min
Loneliness, trust issues, cheating, and casual hook ups with colleagues - these are just a few of your experiences dating FIFO workers. For this episode, Dave Marchese from the Hack podcast brings us your stories. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and pre...
Jan 08, 2025•13 min
We catch up with the world’s biggest porn stars Angela White and she answers your questions about the adult industry, how to give good head, feminism in porn and whether bigger is better. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal ...
Jan 06, 2025•39 min
Feel like your sex life is kinda meh? Sex and relationship professor Dr Tara is here to help! With 2 million followers, you’ve probably seen her in your TikTok feed, with her snappy sex tips. In this ep, she jumps on with Dee to give advice on how to build your sexual confidence. Notes: @luvbites.co (TikTok) https://www.luvbites.co/ DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. I...
Jan 01, 2025•31 min
Going boy/girl sober, dating with ADHD, talking about tradwives and being brat - we wrap all the sex, dating and relationship trends you went through this year, plus some make some 2025 predictions of our own. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present...
Dec 30, 2024•30 min
It’s hard to know when a relationship has run it’s course - so when there’s nothing really wrong or really right, how can you trust your gut on what to do? We get some advice from psychologist and couples therapist Elizabeth Neale. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders ...
Dec 25, 2024•28 min
From waffle stomping and ewok kinks, to reusing a housemate’s sex toy and having a SWAT team investigate your nudes - we round up the most cooked secrets spilled by you this year. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal an...
Dec 23, 2024•18 min
What does the research show when it comes to relationships with big age gaps? How likely are they to be successful? And when is an age gap problematic? Professor of Psychology from Deakin University Gery Karantzas weighs in on the age gap debate in dating. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation....
Dec 18, 2024•21 min
Bimini’s legacy started on season 2 of UK Drag Race, throwing them into the limelight to figure out fame, their sexuality and how to express their punk and politics through drag. We caught up with the dancing DJing vegan diva to chat about their journey with being non-binary, believing the universe has a plan and rant about queer trauma on screen. SHOW NOTES: Bimini’s tiktok Bimini’s new song - Take It All DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or emai...
Dec 16, 2024•38 min
Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us! Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one. Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were a...
Dec 11, 2024•38 min
How to deal with sexual harassment in the dms? Well comedian and podcaster Chloe Maddren decided to make money off of it. We chat to her about how she got back at trolls with her OnlyFans and hear her hot take on how sex positivity may have gone too far. Content warning: this episode discusses sexual assault, trauma, and sexual harassment. SHOW NOTES: Chloe Maddren Instagram DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The H...
Dec 10, 2024•37 min
We ask TikTok famous therapist Jeff Guenther what he really thinks about the therapy boom on social media - plus he answers your dating questions, from settling for the slow burn to how to listen to your partner, not react. SHOW NOTES: TherapyJeff on tiktok DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation...
Dec 04, 2024•35 min
Ever fantasised about someone else other than your partner? Did you feel guilty about it? From replaying hot memories with your ex, to exploring your sexuality - we hear who/what you’re thinking about and whether you reckon it’s a red flag in a relationship. SHOW NOTES: ABC article on fantasising DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of t...
Dec 02, 2024•29 min
Almost one quarter of people aged 18 to 24 feel anxious or embarrassed about the way their vulva looks. But Ellie Sedgwick is on a mission to change that. She’s spent the past seven years photographing over 500 different vulvas - celebrating vulva diversity, challenging unrealistic beauty standards and encouraging people to feel more comfortable in their skin. SHOW NOTES: Comfortable In My Skin Labiaplasty research DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on I...
Nov 27, 2024•31 min
Is age just a number? Or does it get icky if the gap is too big? We hear from you about your experience dating older / younger - from the positives like having better sex to the challenges like navigating different life stages and realising when the power dynamic is off. SHOW NOTES: (If the ep brought up anything for you) Lifeline: 13 11 14 Dee’s article on age gaps in relationships Deakin University study - Does age difference in relationships matter? Study on men being attracted to women in th...
Nov 25, 2024•35 min
