In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how the process of conflict as it unfolds as a condition of anxiety and often a want for expediency with one or both parties. Brook and Michelle discuss how using Mind Mapping and the exploration of all aspects of the situation, (although it may take more time) and by using a coach to help get through the weeds can actually be the faster more complete way of staying out of future conflict. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The...
Apr 21, 2023•42 min•Ep. 237
In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the Blind Spots that arise from having unrealistic expectations about the other parents reactions to a given situation. These unrealistic expectations often can be expose early, prior to making critical mistakes if there is a sense making process put in place, one that uses past experiences that have been had with that parent that we have either forgotten or dismiss because we want a different outcome. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichelle...
Apr 07, 2023•41 min•Ep. 235
In this episode Brook and Tony take another dive into the concepts and traps of belief systems and how they lock us into conflict and are in fact the center of how conflict comes into manifestation. Understanding our own beliefs, where they originated and doing sense making is core to finding our way out of conflict. Also making space for the other persons beliefs, whether or not it makes sense is equally important to finding solutions. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •...
Mar 31, 2023•49 min•Ep. 234
In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the conflict mind trap the parents find themselves in when they try to look at the parenting conflicts through the lens of Fairness. The differing perspective and the cognitive dissonance of one or both of the parents involved in the conflict creates an arena of conflict because neither one of the parents sees the situation the same. I therefore becomes important to step back and evaluate what is truly important for the child and having as a part of the...
Mar 24, 2023•58 min•Ep. 233
In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the need for seasonal preparedness in getting ready for the challenges that come with Spring and Summer travel, not having things in place with a good parenting plan and having a plan in place when things go wrong. Also getting ready to get the kids in place for the next school year because if court is needed you best get started now. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •f...
Mar 10, 2023•57 min•Ep. 231
In this episode Brook and Tony discuss how children often use Emotional Blackmail and put their parents in areas of discomfort to get what the want. This is especially prevalent during parental discourse and conflict. The parent doesn't want to make the child feel uncomfortable during times of change and allow for things they might not normally. This can lead to the Child's sense of Entitlement and the development of strong narcissistic traits later in life. How parents get comfortable with the ...
Mar 03, 2023•47 min•Ep. 230
In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the behaviors and signs that come along with the Covert Narcissists defensive presentations. This is an extensive and interesting discussion that deserves listening to multiple times. As always this information is meant to help our listeners identify behaviors so as not to get caught in the engagement with them and not for the listener you go into judgment but a greater understanding. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily valu...
Feb 24, 2023•38 min•Ep. 229
In this episode Brook has special author Sara Olsher to discuss the importance for parents to have special language to speak with their children about hard subject. When children are caught in the middle of High Conflict parents they need a parent to be able to speak to them in a way that helps them navigate the unconscious behaviors of a parent that has narcissist or borderline tendencies in order to help them settle there nervous systems. For more information you can find Sara's website https:...
Feb 17, 2023•1 hr 43 min•Ep. 228
In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the initial conditions that create the beliefs and Pseudo-solutions that develop in narcissism and borderline personalities and the codependent behaviors that entangle the high conflict triangle. For more information about our services Please visit our web page at www.highconflict.net You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •fr...
Feb 10, 2023•43 min•Ep. 227
If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the notion of finding the prospective of replacing gratitude and wonderment from victimization and what is being done to me, in order to get the ball rolling forward toward growth and agency for the future. By doing this one moves toward being the captain of their ow...
Feb 03, 2023•48 min•Ep. 226
If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the importance of connecting with you children and creating strong connections and secure attachment. When children experience parents that are narcissistic in nature they need a parent that can meet them and have a settled environment The process that Brook and Tony...
Jan 20, 2023•51 min•Ep. 224
In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how one parents push and their high and unreasonable exceptions cause great levels of anxiety and long term conditioning for the child. Often Narcissistic personalities have unfinished personal business an overlay on the children to become what they were unable achieve on their own. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free...
Jan 13, 2023•6 min•Ep. 223
If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Tony talk about the crazy making chaos that comes from dealing with narcissistic personalities and how to navigate the fallout that comes with the out of control behavior that shows up. Co-Parenting with these narcissistic and high conflict personalities and the chaos they create...
Jan 06, 2023•10 min•Ep. 222
If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and his guest Patrice Courteau LMFT discuss the various aspects of why a child becomes distant from a parent. Where it ofter starts, progresses and how to navigate the tricky journey if you are the parent on the end of not seeing your children as much as you would like. You can conta...
Dec 30, 2022•13 min•Ep. 221
In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how some parents are in revenge mode and use the children as weapons both consciously and unconsciously. Brook and Michelle help the listeners identify some of these patterns so they can change them and further get the children out of the middle of the conflict. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating ...
Dec 16, 2022•1 min•Ep. 219
If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how the disengagement process brings up strong emotions of anxiety, fear and confusion and how to begin to be with the process. They give examples of differing situation that can help understand what disengaging means and how to find solutions you might not other...
Dec 09, 2022•12 min•Ep. 218
In this episode Brook welcomes special guest Cynthia Kane, author of the book Communicate Like.A Buddhist. Brook and Cynthia discuss the principles of Mindfulness and Self Awareness as the pathway to reduce conflict both internally and externally as well as a pathway to better relationships. To contact Cynthia you can email her @ cynthia@intentionalcommunicationinstitute.com and her website is intentionalcommunicationinstitute.com If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to conti...
Dec 02, 2022•54 min•Ep. 217
In this episode Brook has special guest Attorney John Varley to discuss bankruptcy before, during or after divorce as a tool to regain financial stability and to help move forward toward a less stressful future. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate Here Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emai...
Nov 25, 2022•44 min•Ep. 216
In this episode Brook and Charlie discuss how the recurring patterns and habits of conflict tend to reappear for both you and your Ex. during times of stress, even though you think they have disappeared. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate Here Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •excl...
Nov 18, 2022•50 min•Ep. 215
In this Episode Brook and Michelle discuss how to help children understand and navigate boundaried parenting plans (Parallel Parenting Plan) with schedules they may not like and how to continue to maintain a healthy and attached relationship with them. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate Here Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership!...
Nov 04, 2022•52 min•Ep. 213
In this episode Brook and Michelle have a conversation about the importance of staying aware of when important events and occur and boundaries crossed that you are able to take the proper action in a timely manner so you don't loose an important window that could enhances or change the course or overall outcome of your case. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your po...
Oct 28, 2022•34 min
In this episode Brook and Tony talk about the need to start thinking about how to re-readjust to the changing world of Covid-19 as we begin to open up and relook at how our parenting and parenting plan are working and not working. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-pack...
Mar 12, 2021•42 min•Ep. 129
In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the extra strains that Covid 19 put on families involved in High Conflict during the holidays and some solutions to help navigate them. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasse...
Nov 20, 2020•41 min•Ep. 113
In this episode Brook and Charlie bring in a guest Step Mom to have a conversation of the perils of being a Step Mom and a look at the different perspectives of being a Step Mom. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free mastercl...
Oct 02, 2020•52 min•Ep. 106
In this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the Parallel Parenting model and discuss the importance of changing the narrative so people understand that Parallel Parenting IS Co-Parenting and is the prefered model when there is moderate to high conflict. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access ...
Sep 25, 2020•51 min•Ep. 105
In this episode Brook and Tony talk about the added intensity and division that the Covid 19 has brought to the families in high conflict as well as the other added events taking place in the world that are eroding the fabric of our nervous systems and our ability to cope with even the easier challenges we face every day. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podca...
Sep 18, 2020•56 min•Ep. 104
In this episode Brook and Charlie discuss just how easy it is to go astray and get lost in the deep woods of high conflict when you haven't put together a good team at the earliest possible time and if after getting lost having the proper help will help you find your way out. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone"...
Aug 07, 2020•43 min•Ep. 98
In this episode Brook and Tony discuss how the current circumstances of the Covid virus are magnifying everything. Our fear, our clinging to our belief systems, our anger and grief. And giving some perspective on how to manage and navigate this extremely difficult time. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. If you are finding these podcast of value an...
Jun 05, 2020•59 min•Ep. 90
In this episode Brook and Tony discuss how the current circumstances of the Covid virus are magnifying everything. Our fear, our clinging to our belief systems, our anger and grief. And giving some perspective on how to manage and navigate this extremely difficult time. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membe...
May 29, 2020•38 min•Ep. 89
n this episode Brook and Charlie discuss how Fear and Freeze keep us stuck and from moving forward with the opportunities presented us and how we can monitor the freeze and begin to melt into movement and agency. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusi...
May 22, 2020•35 min•Ep. 88
