In this conversation, Monique Koven and Dr. Aimie Apigian discuss the topic of overwhelm and how it relates to trauma and our nervous system. They explore the concept of overwhelm as a trauma response and the ways in which our body tries to protect us from it. They also discuss the role of parts work in addressing overwhelm and how to work with the protector parts that prevent us from accessing the younger, overwhelmed parts. Aimie emphasizes the importance of collaboration and building trust wi...
Sep 20, 2024•35 min•Season 5Ep. 3
In this second conversation, Host Monique Koven and psychologist and author Dr. Lindsay Gibson discuss emotional immaturity and its impact on relationships. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, such as egocentrism and poor empathy, and how it can manifest in various relationships. They also discuss the continuum of emotional maturity and the role of hope in dealing with emotionally immature individuals. Dr. Gibson offers insights into the experiences of those raised by emoti...
Aug 30, 2024•46 min
You cannot to heal from Trauma until you gently learn to become friends with your nervous system. May survivors have adapted to trauma by shutting down or disconnecting from their feelings and sensations.This makes sense when you live in a dangerous and threatening environment. However the patterns of disconnection remain long after the trauma is over. Welcome to a brand new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. In this first healing trauma conversation, host Monique Koven and Trauma expert Deb ...
Aug 14, 2024•30 min•Season 5Ep. 1
This is the final episode of the *faith edition* of the Healing Trauma Podcast. We do plan to be back with a new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. For those of you who support the HTP podcast, content will continue to be shared through your Spotify subscription feed. You are also invited to join me in an upcoming Zoom call so I can have the chance to meet you. The details and zoom link will be found in the in the next podcast episode. I look forward to meeting you! In this episode of the Hea...
Jun 19, 2024•44 min
This healing conversation delves into the author's book, 'It Wasn't Roaring, It Was Weeping,' and explores themes of family, trauma and transformation. Lisa Jo shares her emotional response to the book and engages in a deep discussion about her personal journey and the impact of generational trauma. The conversation offers insights into the complexity of parent-child relationships, and the potential for healing and transformation. Takeaways The power of forgiveness and its impact on personal hea...
May 31, 2024•28 min
In this conversation, Monique Koven and Alison Cook discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing our emotions rather than brushing them aside or numbing them. They explore the concept of naming our emotions as a way to bring order and relief to our inner world. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and curiosity when it comes to our emotions, and the importance of pausing and reflecting before taking action. The conversation also touches on the healing journey of trauma survivors ...
May 20, 2024•31 min
With Mother's Day approaching I'm re-releasing a special episode with psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz. In this episode, Monique Koven and Dr. Arielle Schwartz discuss the complexities of Mother's Day and the impact it can have on individuals with trauma. They explore the range of emotions that can arise, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and attending to the sacred wounds of the past. They also discuss the role of...
May 09, 2024•28 min
This episode is a recent recording from psychologist Dr. Alison Cook's podcast "The Best Of You' where I was a guest. Taken from her podcast description 'Today’s episode is just so special and so deeply personal. If you’ve experienced trauma, please listen. If you love someone, please listen. Trauma touches so many lives, and it’s so often misunderstood. In today’s episode, Monique Koven, host of The Healing Trauma podcast, shares part of her story There is absolute gold in this episode for ever...
Apr 22, 2024•38 min
In this trauma healing conversation, I am joined with Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, authors of the book, You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. This conversation is so unique as you will hear from both sides of the Trauma healing journey. Tricia shares from her perspective of feeling stuck in overwhelm & PTSD, and how she was able to slowly move through with the gentle support and guidance of her skill...
Apr 09, 2024•55 min
It was an absolute pleasure to be joined by psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and therapist Cathy Loerzel for an incredible conversation about the journey of healing Trauma. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel are the authors of the book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling.They are also the founders of The Allender Center. Dr. Dan Allender has pioneered a unique therapy centered around his innovative theory and training in transforming betrayal, ambivalence, and powerlessness...
Mar 25, 2024•48 min
On Today's healing conversation you are going to get compassionate validation as well as some understanding around the impact of childhood trauma on the body and the brain. I am joined once again with my friend, Dr. Mark McNear. Mark is a survivor and a therapist that shares openly about the healing journey. I loved our conversation and think you will too. Mark shares his personal journey to help others in theirs in his book, Finding My Words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma...
Mar 10, 2024•35 min
I am delighted and to be able to share this conversation with therapist, podcast host, author and psychiatrist Dr. Curt Thompson. We talked about healing, safety and connection and the formation of embodied hope. Curt's website: https://curtthompsonmd.com/ *Reset Your Nervous System Free 7 Day Conference link: https://xz684.isrefer.com/go/RYNSSC/monique Find a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Buy Me...
Feb 06, 2024•51 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Tamara McClintock Greenberg, Psy.D., M.S., a beloved returning guest joins me on the podcast today. She is the author of six books including The Complex PTSD Coping Skills Workbook & Treating Complex Trauma.Tamara is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Francisco, CA, where she specializes in treating adults with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma, and those who are coping with medical illness, either as a patient or affected family member. She also has extensive ...
Oct 20, 2023•23 min
We are joined again with therapist Dr. Mark McNear to discuss what spiritual bypassing is and how important it is to understand the whole person. Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words.Dr. Mark McNear's website:https://markmcnear.com/"Finding My Words" book:https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor... Meet ...
Sep 28, 2023•28 min
Trigger warning: Childhood sexual abuse. On today's episode I am joined with Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words.To learn more or to purchase Dr. Marks book, head to the link below:Get his book here: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor... Mark's website:https://markmcnear.comThis episode was spons...
Aug 29, 2023•37 min
On today's episode I am joined with Michelle Mays. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle looks at betrayal through the lens of attach...
Aug 16, 2023•42 min
*Trigger warning: Talk of Sexual abuse On today's episode I sat down with Amy Nordhues, author and survivor of both childhood sexual abuse and sexual abuse as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. Her story is detailed in her book “Prayed Upon, Breaking Free From Therapist Abuse.”During our conversation Amy touches on some of the following:The inner workings of the abuse process of adult victims -How past childhood trauma can make an adult vulnerable to predators -Understanding ...
Jul 25, 2023•42 min
I am still in vacation mode and have taken a little break from recording and sharing, however I was inspired to record a short video after I shared a post over on IG which says "Feeling Safe is Essential To Healing." I realized a little video may be helpful to elaborate just a tiny bit. Should be back to recording sometime in August. Support the show Buy Me A Coffee The Foundational Journey to Change Your Biology – 6-week online course guided and designed by Dr. Aimie as a journey into your nerv...
Jul 10, 2023•8 min
Today I am sharing an episode to watch or listen to. Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins us on the podcast to discuss “Emotionally Immature Parents”. Dr. Gibson has been a psychologist for over thirty years, working in both public and private practice. In the past, she has served as an adjunct assistant professor in Clinical Psychology, teaching doctoral students clinical theory and psychotherapeutic techniques.Dr. Gibson is the author of four books: Who You Were Meant to Be, Adult Children of Emotionally ...
May 19, 2023•52 min
I had the absolute honor and pleasure of talking with author,counsellor, educator, activist and childhood sexual abuse survivor Rosie McMahan. I decided to share this one via video (available through spotify platform & youtube). Rosie is the author of Fortunate Daughter: A Memoir of Reconciliation. Rosie and her family were one of the first families to work with renowned Trauma expert and psychiatrist Dr. Judith Herman and therapist Emily Schatzow in the 1970's. Dr. Judith Herman understood ...
May 06, 2023•46 min
On today's episode I welcome back psychologist and author Dr. Tamara McClintock Greenberg. The complexities of caregiving through illness, aging and the end of life issues is extremely challenging when there is a history of trauma/abuse/neglect by a parent in the family. This is a huge topic and one we will only cover very briefly. Dr. Greenberg offers ideas to help you think things through when it comes to determining your capacity & involvement. Dr. Greenberg's books : https://www.tamara-g...
Apr 28, 2023•31 min
In this episode I’m releasing an episode from 2021 with author, teacher, speaker and researcher Dr. Kristin Neff. In our conversation, Kristin explains what self- compassion is and how we can balance having both tender and fierce Self-Compassion on our journey of healing from Trauma. You can connect with Kristin www.selfcompassion. Thank you to our sponsor Dr Tamara Mc Clintock Greenberg. https://www.tamara-greenberg.com/ https://a.co/d/0OBIAkF Support the show Buy Me A Coffee Find a list of my ...
Apr 21, 2023•27 min
On today’s episode podcast I am releasing one of the past most listened to episode. Podcast host Monique Koven is talking to trauma expert Kathy Steele about Trauma-Related Dissociation. Kathy Steel is a psychotherapist, consultant, trainer and author. She has co authored numerous books including Coping With Trauma- related Dissociation: Skills For Training Patients and Therapists & Treating Trauma - Related Dissociation. https://www.Kathy-steele.com www.isst-d.org Thank you to sponsor Tynda...
Apr 11, 2023•35 min
Emma Stevens is back with us to talk about her second memoir “ A Fire Is Coming.” She is a U.S. domestic adoptee from birth and has survived layers of trauma that have put her on multiple journeys. Her traumas were born from first being relinquished, and then becoming an adoptee to abusive parents. Her developmental trauma increased her vulnerability to fall prey to an exploitative therapist. She has great courage to share and hopes to inform & educate others. You can get her book here. http...
Mar 31, 2023•31 min
On today's episode I had the joy of welcoming back trauma therapist and author Aundi Kolber. Our conversation focused around her brand new book, Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing . Connect with Aundi Kolber at www.aundikolber.com Thank you Tyndale House Publishers for sponsoring this episode. To meet with Monique :https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com Support the show Buy Me a Coffee Find a list of my rec...
Mar 24, 2023•53 min
Today I’m joined with clinical psychologist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Dr. Susana Kugeares. We talked about somatic experiencing and how trauma patterns develop in the body and why when you are working with trauma and the body it’s important to go slowly with awareness as opposed to wanting to rush through the healing work. You can find Dr. Kugeares on Psychology Today and LinkedIn.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/susana-kugeares-austin-tx/862681 https://www.linkedin.com/...
Mar 14, 2023•51 min
Today's guest is Dr. Tamara McClintock Greenberg. She is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Francisco and a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California. She is also an author and her latest book is The Complex PTSD Coping Skills Workbook: An Evidence-Based Approach to Manage Fear and Anger, Build Confidence, and Reclaim Your Identity. During the episode, Tamara talks about the importance of having present day coping skills to manage some of the common symptom...
Mar 03, 2023•32 min
This episode is a rerelease recorded two years ago with best selling author, speaker and psychotherapist Dr. Tina Payne Bryson. We chat about attachment science and ways that parents can start to reflect and make sense of their own attachment history. Thank you to our sponsor Tyndale House Publishers Company. Dr. Daniel G. Amen newest book Change Your Brain Everyday is available for preorder www.tyndale.com/p/change-your-brain-every-day/9781496454577 Dr. Tina Bryson https://www.tinabryson.com Su...
Feb 24, 2023•52 min
l am joined with Dr. Maureen Gallagher, psychologist, Somatic Experiencing faculty member, and Inner Relationship Focusing Trainer. Maureen was my teacher at S.E and I’m asking her lots of questions to support you in your understanding of what is happening in your body and mind as it relates to trauma. Maureen's work, visit: https://embodyingpsychotherapy.com / Thank you to our sponsor Tyndale House Publishers Company. Dr. Daniel G. Amen newest book Change Your Brain Everyday is available for pr...
Feb 03, 2023•50 min
Trigger Warning: The following episode contains conversations touching on suicide of a partner. On today's episode I am joined with Alexandra Wyman. Alexandra is an Amazon best-selling author of The Suicide Club: What To Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death, a guide to navigate the grief process after loss by suicide. Alexandra was plunged into grief and shock when her husband died by suicide. The sudden loss of the love of her life left her reeling with so many unanswered questions. One of th...
Jan 13, 2023•32 min